Need some advice.

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Date: 4/28/2006 3:05:21 PM
Author: AmberWaves
Yay for your new apartment!! Where are you moving? Glad you''re feeling better. I wanted to add to this post, but I found it late. I do the same things, Ebree. My fiance travels a lot during the summer, working these beach v-ball tourneys, and he''s around all these hot, toned girls. I was totally worried, and I said, ''Promise you won''t meet someone new?'' Kinda joking, kinda not, and he said, ''Of course not, I have a fiancee at home!'' That made me feel better. Like traveling gal said, it''s not that I don''t trust HIM, it''s THEM I worry about!


Glad everything is better!

We''re moving to Pasadena! I''m so excited. It''s in this cool, old, HUGE victorian house (you know, the kind they paint crazy colors?) and the living room is huge! The ceilings are all about 12'' high, which is good...FI is 6''7''''! We''re so, so, so excited. He took our first bunch of stuff over today, and we''ll be moving little bunches until we have to rent the UHaul. Yay!

 

[AmberWaves]

Oh Emily, that sounds so cool.. Your fiance is 6''7 !?! Holy crap! How tall are you? Mine is 6''2", and I''m only 5.

 

[diamondfan]

I am glad you were able to talk it out and feel better. Sometimes, we build stuff up in our own mind...and if we calmed ourselves and just talked it out, we might see we were worrying for nothing! Good luck in the new place and have fun nesting!!!

 

[Sparkster]

Date: 4/26/2006 9:27:10 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Very true Mara. We have discussed repercussions as well, and we both know that he would lose the wonderful goddess/best thing that ever happened to him.

I couldn''t handle it if he cheated. I know people make mistakes, but I would feel so totally disrespected. More than feeling cherished, I really need to feel respected. Likewise, I think it''s very important for my BF to get those feelings from me. I am not sure I could get over it, and i really think it''s great when people actually manage to make it work after something like that.

So we know cheating is off limits. My boyfriend loves motorcycles, but here in L.A. drivers routinely don''t see them and cause accidents. I know he is a good cyclist, but I don''t trust the other numbskull drivers around him. Basically, that''s the way I feel about cheating...I do trust him, just not the hoochie mamas around him.

And unfortunately, people are fallible.

You say you trust him but not the ''hoochies'' around him. If he was to be unfaithful, it''s because he chose to be unfaithful. If he gets hit by a car (god forbid that should ever happen) it''s not because he chose to - he can''t stop an idiot crashing into him. He can stop a woman kissing him and kissing her back (or worse). There will always be temptations in life - it''s all about whether we give into them or not. One of the biggest relationship killers is lack of trust. If it''s not the cheating that will destroy it, then the lack of trust will.