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whitewave

whitewave

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For my birthday this year, I got to go to the funeral home and view my dead young BIL to see if we could have an open casket. He left behind an adoring wife, two little babies and the rest of us with a giant hole in our hearts.

It was traumatic and obviously devastating.

So DH bought me a CPO Lexus lx 570, said to go ahead and get my sapphire and CBI ring set, and bought these earrings.

I don’t think I will have them until next week.

What do you think?

I LOOOOOVVVVEEEE dangle earrings.
 
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Oh @whitewave, I'm so sorry for your loss. What a tragic situation.

The earrings are beautiful!! :love:
 
Krisking said:
Oh @whitewave, I'm so sorry for your loss. What a tragic situation.

The earrings are beautiful!! :love:
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Yeah, it’s fooking tragic. Really really tragic.

These could be hands down my all time favorite earrings. I can’t wait to see them
 
I’m so sorry for the loss of your BIL. Sending my sincere condolences to you and your family.

The earrings are stunning.
 
Weecam said:
I’m so sorry for the loss of your BIL. Sending my sincere condolences to you and your family.

The earrings are stunning.
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Thanks for the condolences. As I looked at him, all I could think is “how did we get here? We didn’t have to be here.”

Thanks. The only thing I am worried about is the small stud. I don’t have large earring holes in my ears, but you never know. I don’t want my hole to suck that stone in.
 
Gorgeous earrings. Enjoy them
 
I’m so sorry whitewave.

Beautiful earrings. They look amazing.
 
I'm sorry for your loss, whitewave. I what a horrible situation. Your dh and s'il are very fortunate that they can rely on you and that you were willing to take this task upon you.

Those earrings are stunning and I wish you plenty of blingy delight with them!
 
I’m so sorry..We buried my brother on my birthday over twenty years ago. He also committed suicide..as did my other brother at an earlier time... I couldn’t celebrate my birthday for a few years. As sad as it is you have to live and go on. Since then I use my good stuff..my antique and vintage dishes, wear my good jewelry in my pjs and not save anything for later. I tell everyone including friends I love them..I’m happy your hubby told you to get some new sparklies. It was a horrible thing to have to do on your birthday.
I can’t wait to see them all!
 
Mamabean said:
I’m so sorry..We buried my brother on my birthday over twenty years ago. He also committed suicide..as did my other brother at an earlier time... I couldn’t celebrate my birthday for a few years. As sad as it is you have to live and go on. Since then I use my good stuff..my antique and vintage dishes, wear my good jewelry in my pjs and not save anything for later. I tell everyone including friends I love them..I’m happy your hubby told you to get some new sparklies. It was a horrible thing to have to do on your birthday.
I can’t wait to see them all!
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Thank you. I guess I’ll never wrap my head around it. Never would have thought him.... but that seems to be the theme.

I’ll have plenty of pics for the bling I’m sure
 
Hugs whitewave, I’m sorry for your loss.

Those earrings look beautiful. I’d love to see how they look on your ears when they come :)
 
My sincere condolences whitewave. I'm an optimist at heart but damn, life is hard sometimes.

On a frivolous note, the earrings are gorgeous. I love dangles as well.
 
My deepest condolences to you and your family @whitewave, hugs and comfort to you all.

The earrings are gorgeous! Would love to see ear shots when you get them.
 
Sorry for your loss whitewave. I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family.

The earnings are gorgeous! Wear them in good health
 
My thoughts and prayers are with you, @whitewave. Maybe these new items will help remind you of happy times spent with loved ones.
 
Mamabean said:
I’m so sorry..We buried my brother on my birthday over twenty years ago. He also committed suicide..as did my other brother at an earlier time... I couldn’t celebrate my birthday for a few years. As sad as it is you have to live and go on. Since then I use my good stuff..my antique and vintage dishes, wear my good jewelry in my pjs and not save anything for later. I tell everyone including friends I love them..I’m happy your hubby told you to get some new sparklies. It was a horrible thing to have to do on your birthday.
I can’t wait to see them all!
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I forgot to say I’m so sorry you have been through this twice. It’s maddening and mind numbing and awful and surreal. But I have found the survivor community is loving and supportive. I would never have thought we would be in this club.

I fear coming across as dwelling on me and how it affected me. My SIL is the best sister-in-law I could have asked for— I called her my trophy SIL. Kind, thoughtful, gorgeous, did I say gorgeous, and ADORED him. He was her everything. I can hardly deal with and imagine how she feels. Our grief is painful, exhausting and like a pressure cooker all the time. It must be so much worse for her. She has a 4 week old and is not healing all the way correctly from the delivery. I HATE this for her.

We do bend over backwards trying to remind ourselves that he wasn’t selfish (he was too selfless), that he didn’t want to cause her this pain, that his mind wasn’t working right when this happened, and as she says that he didn’t do this on purpose. I know he didn’t want his kids to grow up without him— heck, to not even remember him.

When I think of the pain he must have been in, the overwhelming anxiety and sadness that he would leave his family—- well, it’s profound. All I feel is his profound saddness. He transferred it to us and I guess we have to carry it for now. It must have been worse for him than we will ever comprehend.

I feel so sorry for him. I wish he had let us in on it. We would have helped.
 
I too was so sorry to hear of this devastating loss. It must seem surreal; we struggle to make sense of things of this nature.

The earrings are gorgeous and I hope they in some way are good salve for your heart. DH is so sweet to try to make this birthday and horrible situation better for you.

Can't wait to see them!!
 
A death in the family is never easy and I’m sorry it was your birthday.
The earrings are gorgeous but are you worried about the weight pulling your holes down? I don’t think I could wear them.
 
I am so sorry Whitwave, and to leave behind a wife with a tiny baby is devastating.
We lost my brother a year ago in May to suicide. On the outside he had a perfect life, beautiful wife, home, job, he was also an accomplished musician. I hate to think of how much he must have been suffering to make the choice to end his life. I miss him every day.
I am so very sorry and sad your family has to go through this. sending prayers and hugs your way.
 
So sorry to hear of your loss. I hope your SIL can start physically healing soon.

The earrings look lovely.
 
Luce said:
I am so sorry Whitwave, and to leave behind a wife with a tiny baby is devastating.
We lost my brother a year ago in May to suicide. On the outside he had a perfect life, beautiful wife, home, job, he was also an accomplished musician. I hate to think of how much he must have been suffering to make the choice to end his life. I miss him every day.
I am so very sorry and sad your family has to go through this. sending prayers and hugs your way.
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I’m sorry Luce...
 
Thank you @whitewave It was a long time ago but I understand the shock and disbelief..You and your hubby will be a huge comfort to your sister in law.
 
I am sorry for your loss. I hope those lovely earrings will provide a welcome distraction.
 
I'm so sorry whitewave. The earrings are beautiful. Anything that helps to lift your spirits.
 
Suicide doesn’t end the pain, it just passes it on to someone else...

I am so sorry for your and your family’s loss. The earrings are beautiful and I hope they bring you some happiness during such sadness.
 
Sending hugs.
But I love your earrings, I had my eye on them too! Very beautiful.
Wear them in good health and of course we will be needing ear shots :appl:
 
Mamabean said:
I’m so sorry..We buried my brother on my birthday over twenty years ago. He also committed suicide..as did my other brother at an earlier time... I couldn’t celebrate my birthday for a few years. As sad as it is you have to live and go on. Since then I use my good stuff..my antique and vintage dishes, wear my good jewelry in my pjs and not save anything for later. I tell everyone including friends I love them..I’m happy your hubby told you to get some new sparklies. It was a horrible thing to have to do on your birthday.
I can’t wait to see them all!
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So sorry for you too Mamabean. I too use my good china, wear my good jewelry with my sweats and most of all tell all family and friends how much I love them. Life is short and precious.
 
My deepest condolences @whitewave. As others have sad, I hope that these new gorgeous earrings will remind you of happier times and cherished memories that never die.
 
I am so very sorry for your loss and pain @whitewave :(sad

They are lovely pieces! As @SimoneDi said so well - I hope they help assuage the Right Now, and I hope that in future they come to remind you of happy times! ::HUGS::
 
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