Nick and Jessica Officially Separating

[Scintillating]

What IS creepy is....
While Jessica wore her wedding set on her left hand, she still (to this day) wears the ring her father gave her on her right hand. It's a thin yellow gold band.
He gave it to her to symbolize that he would be "the only man" in her life till she was married.
How is a marriage to survive when the man who you are supposed to go for support, advice, love, everything is still not as important as Daddy?
It seems that no man will ever be good enough.

Scintillating...

 

[bling*diva*]

~~I really hope that they can work things out, and if they can''t, I wish them all the best!!

 

[snuga]

Date: 11/27/2005 1:54:12 PM
Author: Scintillating
What IS creepy is....
While Jessica wore her wedding set on her left hand, she still (to this day) wears the ring her father gave her on her right hand. It''s a thin yellow gold band.
He gave it to her to symbolize that he would be ''the only man'' in her life till she was married.
How is a marriage to survive when the man who you are supposed to go for support, advice, love, everything is still not as important as Daddy?
It seems that no man will ever be good enough.

Scintillating...

Yeah, that''s a whole other story!! It''s one thing to wear it until you get married, like you said, but after you get married, shouldn''t your husband be the "only man" in your life??

 

[bling*diva*]

~~I wondered why she always had that ring on... even when she wasn''t wearing her wedding band...

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I NEVER liked her. Sorry, it seems mean to say, but she just really, really is annoying. I always thought he could do better. It seemed like their marriage was always all about her and her needs. I am not surprised.

 

[JCJD]

Date: 11/27/2005 9:03:35 AM
Author: Prisms
I should add, that I RARELY see fathers making their SONS promise virginity until marriage. What a laugh.

In my circle of friends, sons promise their mothers that they will abstain until marriage, and I am under the impression that it quite common. And as Joe Simpson was a pastor, I''d bet he waited for his wedding night too.

 

[Momoftwo]

Date: 11/27/2005 1:54:12 PM
Author: Scintillating
What IS creepy is....
While Jessica wore her wedding set on her left hand, she still (to this day) wears the ring her father gave her on her right hand. It''s a thin yellow gold band.
He gave it to her to symbolize that he would be ''the only man'' in her life till she was married.
How is a marriage to survive when the man who you are supposed to go for support, advice, love, everything is still not as important as Daddy?
It seems that no man will ever be good enough.

Scintillating...

The gold band is quite common among christian''s to symbolize their purity and that they will wait until marriage. That''s all it is. It''s not creepy at all. It''s symbolic. It has nothing to do with "daddy" being involved in your marriage, just that until you marry, you remain pure. A lot of people do it, both men and women.

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 11/28/2005 6:25:45 AM
Author: Momoftwo

Date: 11/27/2005 1:54:12 PM

Author: Scintillating

What IS creepy is....

While Jessica wore her wedding set on her left hand, she still (to this day) wears the ring her father gave her on her right hand. It''s a thin yellow gold band.

He gave it to her to symbolize that he would be ''the only man'' in her life till she was married.

How is a marriage to survive when the man who you are supposed to go for support, advice, love, everything is still not as important as Daddy?

It seems that no man will ever be good enough.


Scintillating...

The gold band is quite common among christian''s to symbolize their purity and that they will wait until marriage. That''s all it is. It''s not creepy at all. It''s symbolic. It has nothing to do with ''daddy'' being involved in your marriage, just that until you marry, you remain pure. A lot of people do it, both men and women.

Yes, but a lot of people remove them once they are married. My dad gave my sister a purity ring when she was a teenager. She wore it until she became engaged and then replaced it with her wedding set when she married. It now sits in her jewelry box and she would never wear it, it''s symbolism has passed.

 

[Angel7]

I think it''s sad.

I really liked them together.
I''m sure they''ll have no problems moving on and finding new loves. Good luck to them both.

 

[Caribou]

Although I am not surprised by this news it is sad. I was hoping that the rumors were not true.

As far as her dad..I think he is creepy because he made comments about his daughters boobs. I don''t think it''s creepy that she promised to remain a virgin and I believe she made that promise to him before in her mid teens.

People think it''s so weird and think there is something wrong with you when you are say 21 or older and still the big V. I wished I had.....waited.

 

[ForteKitty]

Her father was NOT a pastor. He led some of the youth groups, but was never a pastor of the Church. Someone asked him that question to clarify, and he admmitted that it was an exaggeration, but he was never actually a pastor.

I think the marriage fell apart because her father kept meddling in it. He was creepy in the sense that he kept mentioning his daughter''s breasts every chance he got, as well as commenting that Ashley would be more popular if her breasts were as big as Jessica''s. That is disturbing. How can any man stay married to a girl when her father cannot stop looking at her breasts!

 

[bling*diva*]

~~Nick spilled the beans about their marriage!!! He says that there was never any clear-cut reason why their marriage ended. He says that he was "told" that his marraige was over!! How sad!!! I have to say that even though I don''t know what went on in their lives, I really feel for Nick. He seems like he is really taking this kind of hard, and from what he says, he has to deal with the uncertainty of adultery... check out this link.

Nick: I was told my marriage was over

~P.S. Is anyone looking forward to watching his show (Saturday @ noon on MTV) called "What''s Left of Me?"

 

[DonaBella]

Date: 11/27/2005 9:02:29 AM
Author: Prisms
You''re right. My posts come across as bitter on this topic, because I AM bitter about the sexism/hatred of women perpetuated by organized Western religion....especially with the subject of virginity/purity & women. A grown woman promising her FATHER that she will remain a virgin until married is just another example of the double standards and hatred of female sexuality. Fathers need to recognize their daughters are sexual beings.

Geesh...lighten up, Prisms! You obviously have your snags and issues about virginity. Valuing ones virginity enough to not give it out freely, is choice and it is up to each individual. Just because daughters are sexual beings does not mean to be blatant and act on it whenever...irregardless of age. Of course fathers recognize their daughters as sexual beings, but as women we need to protect that part of ourselves and exercise some self control...

We all have our individual opinions here--yourself included--and it is not up to you or me or anyone else here to coerce another to see things our way as the ONLY way to think...Get a Grip!

 

[DonaBella]

Date: 11/27/2005 9:03:35 AM
Author: Prisms
I should add, that I RARELY see fathers making their SONS promise virginity until marriage. What a laugh.

Oh, and no one "makes" anyone promise anything. My kids want to give their future mates themselves as the sacred gift it is. My sons AND daughters made an active choice on this...there was NO force or coercion. They are smart enough for themselves to know what is best for them....just thought you might need some experienced insight. I have been a parent for 24 1/2 years.

 

[princessv]

Date: 4/19/2006 11:45:40 AM
Author: bling*diva*
~~Nick spilled the beans about their marriage!!! He says that there was never any clear-cut reason why their marriage ended. He says that he was ''told'' that his marraige was over!! How sad!!! I have to say that even though I don''t know what went on in their lives, I really feel for Nick. He seems like he is really taking this kind of hard, and from what he says, he has to deal with the uncertainty of adultery... check out this link.

Nick: I was told my marriage was over

~P.S. Is anyone looking forward to watching his show (Saturday @ noon on MTV) called ''What''s Left of Me?''

Yeah I''m totally going to try and watch that...I hope his new album will sell really well I feel really bad for him after reading what he said..poor guy

 

[DonaBella]

Date: 11/27/2005 10:42:09 AM
Author: Laralooblue
I feel bad for both of them.

While it''s not creepy to maintain that you are saving your virginity until marriage per se, it *is* creepy in the context that the father happens to be Joe Simpson. Some of the things he has publically said about his daughters'' breasts and tush (I''ve cleaned it up) are downright disturbing. You can''t imagine any father saying these things about his daughters.

I feel exactly the same...though I do feel that Nick is better off. There is NO way my father would ever comment on me the way that Joe Simpson has either of his girls. My father has respect for me. My husband has respect for our two girls would never think of such things. I know that because we have discussed this. My DH feels Joe Simpson is somewhat twisted and warped the way he makes such dishonoring statements...

 

[Mara]

Deanna, those posts you''re responding to are REALLY old. I think Prisms left a long time ago.

Bling Diva...actually Jessica wrote about what happened in a recent mag interview...she basically said that when you aren''t sure about something but then you make a choice and there is no ''pull'' towards that other person then you know you did the right thing. So basically she decided she wasn''t sure about it, separated and then realized she wasn''t dying without him and was like okay done. So I could totally see him being blindsided by it because it sounded like she just woke up one day and was like yeah I''m bored.

Which totally is ridiculous because did someone forget to inform her that marriage takes some work? You don''t just go ''oh i don''t feel that pull anymore'' and be like DONE.

Which is why I think he is SO much better off without her. In gossip mags his friends say he is looking for a replacement for her but that she left large shoes to fill. I was like WHAT? Please maybe now he can find someone who he doesn''t have to be a father to and is an actual equal to him.

Doubly rolly eyes for her..

 

[mrssalvo]

amen Mara...Jessica is just YOUNG. I honestly don''t think she has a clue of what marriage is. And the whole getting back together after 911 sends big red flags to me. She wanted to date others way back then. all the girls nights, hitting clubs etc. after she was married indicates immaturity to me. and hello, if Nick''s my hubby, I''d WANT to be with him most of the time, just like I feel about my own hubby. I think Nick is way better off and really deserves a more down to earth gal that is closer to his own midwestern upbringing.

 

[FireGoddess]

Date: 4/19/2006 12:43:27 PM
Author: Mara

Which totally is ridiculous because did someone forget to inform her that marriage takes some work? You don''t just go ''oh i don''t feel that pull anymore'' and be like DONE.

Which is why I think he is SO much better off without her.

Big DITTO. She gets hamster face from me.