Not sure how to take this...

[entitledpearl22]

Personally, i would say sit tight and dont tell him she called. My SO's Best Mates wife has done this to me twice, the first time, i talked to him about it, and it turned into a fight on our end. So dont say anything, IF she contacts you again, or more than twice, i would than say something to maybe her. Mayeb say somethign along the lines of "WE ahve discussed our sitation, and thank you for trying to be helpful. But i would not like to know any more information"

Thanks for sharing... I definately have decided NOT to say a word to him about it (ever)!

 

[slg47]

yeah you don't want to get into telling your BF that so and so said this...what if he told his friend in trust? what if he didn't tell his friend anything?

anyway I hope it all works out...it's always nice to be on the same page as your BF about these things. maybe at some point (in a few weeks) you can sit down and talk to him about your feelings/frustrations/expectations/questions/etc

 

[entitledpearl22]

Whooa, I totally see why you're asking your advice. I'm confused for you.

Maybe... you should talk to him? I mean I don't really see any other options unless you do nothing. Both situations could bring some serious hurt though, especially if you're post-epiphany hurting still. Why would she tell you that.. strange. Is she one of your sisters?

Thanks for commenting... luckily she is not one of my sisters ( we call each other Soror, greek for sister). And I thankfully am in much better emotional shape post "ephiphany". It sounds so melodramatic but if you knew us we communicate and are very open with each other in every area so it was just very suprising to find a crack that wide... really made me look at the importance of not running on auto pilot in a relationship even for a moment because you never know what you miss if you are not validating what the other person is thinking, feeling etc.

 

[entitledpearl22]

I wouldn't take relationship "hints" or "secrets" from someone who's not in the relationship. How do you take it? You take it and toss it out with the trash.

Ding ding ding ding ding! We have a winner.

Ignore this girl. She's creating drama where there doesn't need to be any.

Gotta agree with the girls...I would just ignore the info she gave you. You dont know what she heard and she
may have misinterpreted it.

If he is ready then you should know soon enough. Otherwise, he's still not ready.

Ditto. Move on and focus on enjoying *today* with your bf, get your mind out of the future and stay in the present.

I am a person of faith and I mention that only because this is what I pray for help with focusing on daily... I know that I have a wonderful man in my life and I dont want to be like some of the really crazy LIW's out there (none of us of course I want to appreciate and be grateful but that anxiety creeps up when you are least prepared for it!

 

[Dreamer_D]

I wouldn't take relationship "hints" or "secrets" from someone who's not in the relationship. How do you take it? You take it and toss it out with the trash.

Ding ding ding ding ding! We have a winner.

Ignore this girl. She's creating drama where there doesn't need to be any.

Gotta agree with the girls...I would just ignore the info she gave you. You dont know what she heard and she
may have misinterpreted it.

If he is ready then you should know soon enough. Otherwise, he's still not ready.

Ditto. Move on and focus on enjoying *today* with your bf, get your mind out of the future and stay in the present.

I am a person of faith and I mention that only because this is what I pray for help with focusing on daily... I know that I have a wonderful man in my life and I dont want to be like some of the really crazy LIW's out there (none of us of course I want to appreciate and be grateful but that anxiety creeps up when you are least prepared for it!

It is indeed something to think about and work on. The reality is that feelings of anxiety do not just disappear when you get engaged/get married or whatever we hope the magic cure might be! They come from within, from our own doubts and, often, unwarranted insecurities, and ultimately it is up to us to find a "cure".

 

[entitledpearl22]

I dont like it but you are so right about the "cure" and the real source...