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missy|1432551441|3880934 said:Good morning NIRDIs and Happy Memorial Day Monday!
Sarah, so glad you are doing well and out of those dark days. It's amazing how something so traumatic can seem like it lasts forever and at the same time go so fast. I know that doesn't make sense but you might get what I mean having been through that challenging experience because that's how it was for me. It all went so fast yet each day seemed painstakingly slow at times. As soon as you work out the insert situation you will feel so much more like your old self. But new and improved with hopefully no more pain and able to do activities you couldn't do before the surgery.
Orsi,, I am sorry your friend betrayed you and know that is all them and not you. Difficult times in life can show you who your true friends are and for that reason you can look at this as a gift. Sure, not something you would have ever chosen to go through if you did not have to but one thing that does come out of it that is good is it shows you who is there for you always and who really never was a true friend. (((HUGS))).
I am so glad you got to go away and enjoyed the weekend. About your mom my only advice is know her limitations with respect to being there for you and understand she has her own vulnerabilities and is likely doing the best she can. Know she cannot be how you want her to be (a very hard thing to accept) and just keep your distance when she acts difficult and unpleasant and lean on her only so much as she cannot give you all the support you need. I am so sorry Orsi.
There are many disappointments in life and sometimes it all gets to be too overwhelming but if there is one thing I have learned is that if we give it some time circumstances change for the better or the worse but nothing stays static for long. Always remember one day at a time to get through a bad situation. So if I am having a particularly terrible day/week or even month I realize if I can just hold on for a bit longer the situation might improve. I feel you are almost near the end of the nightmare journey you have been on with your ex. Think how far you have come and soon the end of this chapter will be here and it will be like you are out of a jail cell. Free from this situation and free to move on and start a new chapter so to speak. From one HSP to another big hugs.
Kristie, when we have a lot of guests over that is how I feel-happy when they are there but happy to have the quiet back again and my home in order. However yesterday I didn't feel that way as we only had a few people over and it was perfect. And when they left I was almost sad to see them go LOL. The weather was just perfect and the company great and we all had a wonderful time. And while we were sitting there chatting in the backyard I was thinking I love being here and do I really want to start over. Listening to the waves and smelling the sea air. I want that wherever we go if we relocate. It is rejuvenating and cathartic and peaceful all at the same time if that makes sense.
How was your Sunday? DO you have any special plans today? Is your weather warming up?
Callie, how is your sweet doggie today? I hope you and Jeff have a great day with friends today. Greg and I have a rule that we each have our own bathroom and then a bathroom for guests. Fortunately in each home we have 4 bathrooms so it all works out. And of course the bathrooms in the master bedrooms are mine and Greg uses the one outside the bedroom. Though of course in the middle of the night he uses my bathroom. That is just fine and works well for both of us.
Our contractor told us many couples break up during a renovation OMG and the fact that Greg and I made it through out total gut renovation in 2004 was a testimony to the strength of our relationship. Not so sure about that as we didn't live there during the reno but we did check it out every day and yes we did have some stressful moments like when red paint had been spilled all over our new wood floors by the crew and left there overnight!!! I had checked on the apt that night when I finished work for the day and when I saw that I called Greg up frantic and yelling LOL (not funny at the time) and he had to call our contractor and well it was quite the upsetting experience.
We had many other stressful situations pop up like that during the reno so I can see where it is a good test of the relationship. When we finally renovate the beach kitchen (if we stay here) we will not be living here during the reno but rather stay in Brooklyn till it is complete. No way would we live through a renovation if we had any other choice!
Marcy, good morning and thank you for the extra pictures of your delicious bling! It is interesting we are all on a similar page thought wise about retirement and selling our homes and all that can go wrong. I feel in the end everything will work out but who knows what that means. We all know about the best laid plans LOL but in my heart I feel things eventually do work out. Either that or I am deluding myself but either way it's how I get through it all haha.
I hope you are wearing your new earrings and enjoying the holiday and that your weather is improving with more sun and warmth. What are your Memorial day plans?
Junie, hoping you and your family are having a marvelous holiday at the beach and also hoping the new beach home sale is in progress. Hello and Hugs to you!
Jimmianne, hello and hugs to you and Puff and the rest of the crew as well. How is your weekend going? I know you are busy getting everything all ready for guests next weekend but hope you are also taking time to smell the roses and enjoy the unofficial start of summer. Woohoo! Winter is gone and summer is here.
We had a great weekend and today we hope to do a very long bike ride as we couldn't cycle yesterday due to having our friends over and there was too much prep to do for a morning ride yesterday. Looking forward to a good ride today. Hoping all the NIRDI girls enjoy the holiday and love to you all. Attaching a pic from yesterday. Red was the color of the day.
Missy, just wanted to pop in and say how I love the picture of you and Greg! Almost a year since the accident but look how wonderful you look now! I knew it would be a long haul and it was but it is so good to see you up and about and cycling again! I hope you have a wonderful summer this year full of nothing but blue skies and great cycling!! Lord knows you deserve it!