o.k. ladies; are you cheap when it comes to buying your BF or husband a gifts?...

[Dancing Fire]

some time we hear guy''s are cheap when it comes to buying a e-ring for their GF. so.....are you ladies really generous when it comes to buying your bf or hubby a gift?

 

[AChiOAlumna]

I''m usually pretty generous when it comes to my DH. Many years, for the holidays, we agree to stick to a budget (spending no more than "XX" amount of dollars). I can never stick to that budget and always go over!! I can''t control myself....I also buy him random gifts throughout the year even when we don''t have the money at the time...This year, we''re going to Europe for our 10-year anniversary. i''ve told him to decide when we get to Europe that anything he wants, I''ll buy him as an anniversary gift (which he is thrilled about!!!)...

But we do this for each other throughout the year....

 

[sjz]

I try to be generous...but sometimes it can be a challenge. My husband is not a very materialistic person, and I find it difficult sometimes to figure out what to get him on gift giving occasions. He doesn''t need a lot in the way of clothing, since he wears scrubs at work. He is also kind of picky about the way his clothes fit, so it''s not easy to buy him something to wear. The only jewelry he wears are his wedding band, a watch, a gold chain around his neck, and a gold figaro bracelet. All of which I gave him. He never takes them off, but he''s also told me that''s all the jewelry he''d ever wear, so don''t buy him any more...lol. He doesn''t have a lot of hobbies, either so buying him golf clubs, fishing tackle, or anything like that is no good, either. His dresser is pretty full of a variety of different colonges, some of which I gave him, but many that he bought for himself. His only big interest is electronic gadgets, but he buys a lot of stuff for himself, and I don''t know that much about electronics, so I don''t even go there.

The other thing that is hard, at least for me, is that right now he''s the sole breadwinner in the family. So in a way, if I went out and bought him something expensive, it''s like he''s paying for it himself, anyway. So I don''t feel all that generous, if you know what I mean.

We do buy a lot of things "together", as in things for our house, new cars, vacations, concerts, and the like. I also don''t complain if he spends money on frivolous things (especially if those frivoulous things are for me

). That''s my way of being generous, I guess.

 

[Cath]

I feel I am generous with my DH. I always think hard about what gifts he will enjoy and then I make it happen. But I think more than the amount of money I spend, DH always appreciates the amount of thought I put into the gift -- whether it''s a $ gift or a $$$$ gift.

He always says to me, "You give me the perfect presents! How do you do it?" That is the most important thing of all.

 

[MissAva]

I think I am resonable, have I bought him anything over 1000$? No, we are only 22 and it just isnt resonable. However I always get him things I think he would enjoy, things for his palm, an MP3 player....whatever I think he might enjoy. Since he refuses to help it make sit harder but he always seems pleased.

 

[movie zombie]

my husband is a geek and electronics are his thing. he knows way more about what electronics he wants and how best to get them. i''ll never forget him coming through the door one december with a big box

me: what''s in the box, dear?
hubby: your christmas present to me!
me: and what did i get you, dear?
hubby: x-box was just released!
me: and did i do good in getting you this x-box?
hubby: oh, you did very well indeed!

peace, movie zombie

ps i was really happy that he had something he really wanted!

 

[hopefulheidi]

I can't seem to *stop* myself from spoiling my boyfriend. He's such a wonderful guy and he has been so incredibly generous over the last 3.5 years. I know he won't think to spend much of his money on himself, so I always make sure to spend mine on him instead If I'm buying myself some things online, I'll make sure to sneak a thing or two in for him. If I know a book or video game is coming out that he'll enjoy, I'll preorder them so he can be pleasantly surprised when they arrive right after their release. He often says I seem to know what he wants before he does.

It always seems like I should be responsible and stick to a budget but when it comes to shopping for him it's just impossible. This last Christmas I sensed that he wanted a cordless drill. His friend had gotten a cheap set from home depot that he admired so I started doing some research. I found out that the tools in question were really subpar so I opted for a DeWalt cordless hammerdrill. Of course when I started browsing the DeWalt section online I came across a number of DeWalt cordless KITS and before I knew it I had ordered an 18V XRP 5 piece set for him just because I knew it would knock his socks off!! Most of the time I'm way more excited about giving him his gifts than I am about receiving my own. As a self proclaimed lover-of-presents this a huge deal for me

I just hope he can get as excited about laying all that money out for an engagement ring

 

[MrsFrk]

The things that my husband craves are big, BIG ticket items- speakers, tires, televisions, computers- and he wants specific models/trim levels that I would have to ask him about anyway. The things I buy him are more practical- clothing, books, CDs, small accessories like money clips and cufflinks.

Our finances have been shared since we were 18 years old, at this point there is no "he bought me this" and "I bought him that" .

 

[Mara]

Greg is so not a gift person, he doesn''t like getting gifts, and will never tell you he actually wants anything...but that doesn''t stop me from buying him what I think he needs.

I love buying gifts, especially for him!

 

[tawn]

I bet 75% of everything my husband owns is something that I''ve gotten him! He just doesn''t like to shop and will put off getting things that he wants....so I know what he wants/needs and I just go get it for him. Somehow I think it makes him feel less guilty about spending money...because he just has me do it for him! It works for us! I call and tell him that I''m bringing him presents home! He feels special!

The only thing he''s recently went out and purchased on his own lately is the new PSP~PlayStationPortable~I can''t believe that little sucker plays games and show movies! Although the only one we have found so far is Spiderman! Graphics are completely unreal for a handheld! He''s loving it...

 

[Jennifer5973]

Absolutely not, although men''s gifts, even high-end ones, are usually not as expensive as my jewelry!

 

[ame]

No, I always go over budget. But he really only wants games and computer stuff.

 

[yellowfan]

Movie Zombie is lucky! I like those kind of gifts! No stress and he gets what he really wants and can't complain about what "he" picked out!

 

[diamondlil]

I never was cheap when purchasing gifts for my husband, but after 19 years of marriage I really don''t buy him many gifts anymore. We tend to talk about what we want and then just get it. He''s an electronics nut, and I haven''t a clue, so he does the research, buys it, and we''ll call it a "gift from me."

DiamondLil

 

[fire&ice]

This notion is insane & I can''t believe it has perpetuated itself from the Am I Cheap thread. As many women already noted, no, we aren''t cheap.

Also, I get just as much enjoyment giving as I do the excitement of receiving. And, with myself and with hubby, the monetary amount spent has little to do with how much we enjoy the gift.

 

[jaysonsmom]

There is no way to buy cheap gifts for my geeky-techno-gadget-freak husband. Everything that he likes is at least $300 and I think I tend to spoil him because he ALWAYS gets the top of the line gadget that his heart desires. In fact for his birthday, I just got him a $475 handheld PC that he’s probably going to lose in a week He goes through those things like women go through pantyhose!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 4/26/2005 10:39:18 AM
Author: fire&ice
This notion is insane & I can't believe it has perpetuated itself from the Am I Cheap thread. As many women already noted, no, we aren't cheap.

Also, I get just as much enjoyment giving as I do the excitement of receiving. And, with myself and with hubby, the monetary amount spent has little to do with how much we enjoy the gift.

F&I
this has nothing to do with teh other thread if notice the date posted this was before all the argument that started this morning.

 

[elbardo]

From the other side of the fence, my GF has always been very thoughtful and generous with gifts for me, and rarely spends much on herself, so in searching for a ring, I want her to have something really nice for herself. Now I just need to set my mind on the stone....unfortunately she''s also got tastes that are hard to find!

 

[Jennifer5973]

Date: 4/26/2005 10:39:18 AM
Author: fire&ice
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Also, I get just as much enjoyment giving as I do the excitement of receiving. And, with myself and with hubby, the monetary amount spent has little to do with how much we enjoy the gift.

I know, F&I! I have a BIG surprise for my husband''s b-day (he has no clue) next month but I am about to burst--so far, so good but I am DYING to tell him now!

 

[noobie]

Date: 4/26/2005 9:31:46 PM
Author: Jennifer5973

Date: 4/26/2005 10:39:18 AM

Author: fire&ice

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Also, I get just as much enjoyment giving as I do the excitement of receiving. And, with myself and with hubby, the monetary amount spent has little to do with how much we enjoy the gift.

I know, F&I! I have a BIG surprise for my husband''s b-day (he has no clue) next month but I am about to burst--so far, so good but I am DYING to tell him now!

hey, no fair. You can''t do this without telling us..... don''t worry we won''t tell

 

[Jennifer5973]

Fabulous box seats at a sold-out Yankees vs Red Sox game....

 

[noobie]

Very thoughtful indeed.... Wasn''t a Yankees game your first date?

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 4/26/2005 9:45:50 PM
Author: Jennifer5973
Fabulous box seats at a sold-out Yankees vs Red Sox game....

hey Jenn
i hope it''s a nite game, stadium lights + diamonds

you might blind some of the players on the field.

 

[Jennifer5973]

Date: 4/26/2005 9:55:32 PM
Author: noobie
Very thoughtful indeed.... Wasn''t a Yankees game your first date?

You have an incredible memory, Noobie-yes, a Yankees game was a big part of how we got together.

And no, DF--it''s an afternoon game and anyway, no diamonds in the Bronx!

They''ll be in the bank that day.

 

[Diamonds4Me]

It''s not that I''m cheap. More like he''s so picky. I never know what to get him. His birthday is coming up in June and I''ve been pondering this since February. What do I get him?

I''d love to buy him a watch but he already has a Rolex. So..that''s out!
Does NOT wear jewelry of any kind..yet.
We have a bazillion books so if I bought him a book it would look like an easy out.
I''d love to buy him a classic car BUT I know nothing about cars and if I showed up with one I know it would be all wrong, lol. He''s got about three favorites and there is something about a 427 something..I don''t know. I just remember watching a show once where he loved the car but he kept picking out all the non-original things about the car that I would never be able to figure out.

What to do? What to do?

 

[fire&ice]

Date: 4/26/2005 9:55:32 PM
Author: noobie
Very thoughtful indeed.... Wasn''t a Yankees game your first date?

This is precisely what I mean. I doubt whether Jenn''s husband cares about how much the gift cost. It''s the thought, the effort & sentiment attached. And what fun will you have!! TOGETHER!!

What does cheap mean? Cheap to me is a gift that is cheapened by just going into a store, spotting the first thing that may be expensive & buying it.

Sorry DF, you''re right about the timing. That other thread made me furious - the guy overgeneralizing about women being cheap as FACT. Wow, talk about issues. And, all credence lost as I wasn''t the one who called him not smart. Pretty funny.

I don''t think cheap is a gender based thing at all.

 

[nutty]

I actually wish I WERE cheap when it came to buying gifts for my husband.

I tend to go overboard and sometimes it just makes him feel guilty because I spent more on him than he spent on me. I just love finding the perfect gift for someone regardless of the cost!

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

So then, the old addage "it''s the thought that counts" remains true today.......

cheers--Sharon

 

[fire&ice]

Date: 4/27/2005 11:17:44 AM
Author: canuk-gal
HI:

So then, the old addage ''it''s the thought that counts'' remains true today.......

cheers--Sharon

Yes. The same time I received my anni 3 c - I also received a frame with several pics - one of me the day we became engaged & some other moments together. It was a collage type frame w/ some pic frames left blank. In those, he put the words "to be continued". I treasure both presents the same.

 

[strmrdr]

I would be ticked if my wifey2b bought me a gift that was as much as her e-ring.
I dont like her spending money on me unless its my money and even then Id rather use it to buy her something.