Obsessed?

[Rhea]

Gwen, we''re total thread hi-jackers tonight, aren''t we?! Much like J, DH says no ungrades. Apparently he doesn''t understand the point since it isn''t your actual e-ring. He doesn''t mind other rings but then kindly pointed out that I had one e-ring (sized for right hand) and two w-bands (sized for left hand), none of which can be worn together so I have plenty to rotate out. There''s a chance he''ll come around though, right??? We were 19 and 22 when we got engaged and spent so little on the ring it''s practically falling apart.

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 6/4/2008 6:05:16 PM
Author: Addy
Gwen, we''re total thread hi-jackers tonight, aren''t we?! Much like J, DH says no ungrades. Apparently he doesn''t understand the point since it isn''t your actual e-ring. He doesn''t mind other rings but then kindly pointed out that I had one e-ring (sized for right hand) and two w-bands (sized for left hand), none of which can be worn together so I have plenty to rotate out. There''s a chance he''ll come around though, right??? We were 19 and 22 when we got engaged and spent so little on the ring it''s practically falling apart.

To be fair to J, I don''t want an upgrade either--I''m waaaay too sentimental. So, I hope that he and I can save up to get the Torchiere. If not, it won''t be the end of the world, but since it''ll be for the rest of my life, I would like it to be ''the'' ring. Oh, and maybe that''s the key, that your e-ring is falling apart! Once it does (not that I want it to, mind), maybe he will want to get you a replacement...?

 

[Rhea]

Yeah, I know what you mean. I go back and forth about upgrading. It would have been cool if we could have just bought something nice to begin with but we both wanted it NOW. Hindsight is 20/20 and all that.

 

[ringless]

You know.. i''ve been doing my own thing lately, and haven''t brought up getting engaged at all. Funny thing is my bf keeps telling me about OTHER couples we know who are getting engaged, and my only response is "oh that''s nice, she''s going to be realy happy" lol I am trying so hard to NOT to say "What is your problem, why can''t you propose to ME?" lol
It''s soooo hard when it''s constantly on my mind, but I do know that when the time is right it will happen and I will be SO happy....

 

[appletini]

I was not a bridezilla, but I was totally an LIW-zilla...and looking back at how obessive I was, I can''t believe he still wanted to marry me...that said I totally blame him b/c he brought up marriage and engagement very early in our relationship with timelines (that came and went), but after two years he finally proposed.

However PS fueled my obession b/c there is so much awesome bling, I would change my mind all the time...I used to regularly email him a spreadsheet with the inventory of my favorite whiteflash diamonds and pics of all my favorite rings. After we were married, I saw he had left his email open, and I peeked...he had a folder for engagement rings and had saved every crazy ring related email I had sent him.

So my advice as a founding LIW member, definitely try not to badger him too much about it, because it will probably delay things a bit. Also maintain your independence, spend time with friends, find a new hobby, take cooking classes, join a book club, volunteer at a local hospital or charity, anything to give you a distraction. DH said one of the reasons why he fell in love with me was because he loved my indpendence and that I was my own person, and while we make a great team, its also good to know that I can hold my own.

 

[chocolatefudge]

If you asked my boyfriend he would say that yes I am definitely obsessed! If you ask me I am just excited

It isn''t the ring that I obsess about, I don''t really care about the ring at all (please don''t shoot me!!!) It''s gtting married that I am obsessed with! I really want to be married to my boyfriend and I just think that the feeling of being proposed to would just be so amazing.

My boyfriend has pointed out quite a few times that i am obsessed and need to calm down and I do try, I really do!

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 6/4/2008 6:05:16 PM
Author: Addy
Gwen, we''re total thread hi-jackers tonight, aren''t we?! Much like J, DH says no ungrades. Apparently he doesn''t understand the point since it isn''t your actual e-ring. He doesn''t mind other rings but then kindly pointed out that I had one e-ring (sized for right hand) and two w-bands (sized for left hand), none of which can be worn together so I have plenty to rotate out. There''s a chance he''ll come around though, right??? We were 19 and 22 when we got engaged and spent so little on the ring it''s practically falling apart.

I bought FI a digital SLR camera as an engagement present - he''s already talking about an upgrade! So, what''s sauce for the gander...

That said, I''d never want an upgrade of my e-ring, but a nice big OEC RHR, that''s a different story!

 

[Rhea]

Date: 6/6/2008 5:26:19 AM
Author: Pandora II

Date: 6/4/2008 6:05:16 PM

Author: Addy

Gwen, we''re total thread hi-jackers tonight, aren''t we?! Much like J, DH says no ungrades. Apparently he doesn''t understand the point since it isn''t your actual e-ring. He doesn''t mind other rings but then kindly pointed out that I had one e-ring (sized for right hand) and two w-bands (sized for left hand), none of which can be worn together so I have plenty to rotate out. There''s a chance he''ll come around though, right??? We were 19 and 22 when we got engaged and spent so little on the ring it''s practically falling apart.

I bought FI a digital SLR camera as an engagement present - he''s already talking about an upgrade! So, what''s sauce for the gander...

That said, I''d never want an upgrade of my e-ring, but a nice big OEC RHR, that''s a different story!

Still trying to figure out what might get me there. We have a camera, a nice TV, a laptop, a very nice Desktop, an ipod and very recently a tablet - about half of these things bought as gifts to him.

My e-ring is my RHR...that''s where I made my first mistake. When you have three rings, none can be worn together you''ve already given off all the ring fingers!