Okay.. I need to vent a little bit.. - F-ILs

[MelissaSue]

Thanks girls. I am glad that dress is such a popular choice! I showed it to my sister again today, and while she didn''t seem thrilled about it, she said she''ll wear what ever I want her to wear. It stinks that the sample is a size 6. It was kind of nice because I got an accurate idea of how it fit on me, but for my sister and my best friend, its not even possible for them to get an idea of the fit from that dress. Its an older dress, so I haven''t seen it at any of the other shops I''ve gone to. I may have to check again though.. the one store carried some of the Jordan dresses in like an 18, which would be fantastic, because those are only a little too small for my friend..

 

[Strawdermangrl]

MS= you are NOT BEING A BRAT!!
This is all the stress of the things that go along with the wedding. What you need to do is start to nudge your MIL- call her and say " Hi BLAH BLAH- I know that you have been busy and all but I am wondering if you have that list for me?" and keep at it until she gets it to you. Believe me, planning a wedding is hard enough and without the number you have no where to start. As far as Your FSIL- call her on the phone and explain to her how you feel. Better to get it out now then to let the frustration build and let tension grow- even over something like this- it will just fester. You two are buddies- you can work it out and trust me she will find a way to come in for a weekend to help you shop- Just ask her.

MS- weddings are stressful, emotional times. I don't think people understand or remember what it was like for them if they have planned previously or they don't even get it if they have never been in the actual planning. You will be fine- and you aren't overreacting this is your day and you are trying to get it perfect- put everyone you care about and that is included on the same page= it will let some of the pressure go.

Good luck MS- it will all work out!!


PS- LOVE LOVE LOVE the dresses..... Fantastic choice..

 

[flopkins]

MS-
I like the dress... the train is cute and gives it something unique. Plus, I think it takes care of a lot of the issues w/bras and different sizes...

And I vote no ribbon... I know you really wanted the ribbon, but maybe you could incorporate the ribbon on something else... maybe their accessories, or as an accent on a coordinating shawl or something... ???

I really hope things start improving w/the ILs... I wholeheartedly agree w/Renee - I think you should really try and talk to them and get your feelings out, so it doesn''t build up to true resentment.

 

[MelissaSue]

So I took FI with me today.. and I found another shop with that dress, in a size 10. It was way too big on me, esp. in the bust, but it further convinced me that as long as we order a dress that is not way too small, it''s not that tight. In the 10 it seemed more just like a normal a-line dress. So maybe I will tell my girls (At least the ones that have to worry about the tummy area) to order it a size big, and then we can take it in appropriately (FMIL will probably do the alts, so we don''t have to worry about spending a fortune on that) I honestly think my friend with the huge boobs won''t have to worry, because she''ll have to order so big for her bust, that she won''t have any worries about the waist measurement. My sister might be the only one that would need to order a size bigger. My mom, my sister and I all have big waists and small boobs.. Its not the funnest body type, but it could be worse!

As for the in-law thing, I''m sort of over-it.. Like I said before, I really don''t blame my FSIL, I know she doesn''t get it.. She''s just happy that she''s IN the wedding.. She doesn''t really get that you have to PLAN the wedding (she did want to go cake tasting with us though. lol..)..I dont'' really want her to go out of her way to come shopping with me.. I was just sort of shocked when I found out she was leaving for school 8 hours before she actualy left..

And FMIL means well.. she really does.. She just is a little wacko.. She gets very preoccupied with certain details and forgets about the big things. For instance, the reason for the delay in the guest list is a controversey over TWO people who may or may not get invited, granted they are FI''s grandparents.. but I really think she could give me the list with them on it, and then we could take them off later if neccessary. She claims that its all typed up.. She just hasn''t bothered to get it to me. I''m not really being fair, because they did give me a general #..I think it was 40 guests, if both grandparents were invited.. , so I have a general idea, but I like to put all the names and stuff into the little guest list organizer on weddingchannel.com.. so I can see how much wiggle room I have with work friends, etc.. I can try to figure it out.. buts getting to the point where I''d really like to have names and stuff. FMIL and FFIL are away for the weekend moving all of FSIL''s stuff into her dorm.. so when they come home, I''ll start nagging! Then I have to get on FI to figure out who HE is inviting.

 

[MelissaSue]

Oh yeah.. and I also found This dress today:

Its very plain looking in real life, and the neckline is higher than I''d like it to be. I showed it to FI, and the sample is in brown, and I said "is this ugly?" and he was like.. "Yeah.. its a big brown plain dress." Which it was.. I don''t know.. the sample was a 10, so maybe if it fit a little better, I''d be able to get a nicer idea of how it looked.. so I had the girl write it down so my sister can try it on if I ever get her to go out shopping with me... I think IT would definitely need a ribbon though. Its very boring on its own.

 

[stellamarina]

Hey MelissaSue! I just wanted to tell you that this AfterSix dress you saw in brown is the dress my girls are wearing! And they''re wearing it in the espresso color. You have to have someone try it on to know for sure. It looks very shapeless on the hanger but on the girls it looks so cute and flattering. They all LOVE it and said it''s super comfy and soft to wear. It''s very slimming too - all the girls are totally different body shapes. I let my very fashion-conscious, curvy sister/MOH choose the dress and this is what she liked best. It''s like wedding dresses - you can''t always tell what is right till you put it on.