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[musey]

Okay, I think I've been spoiled by pricescope.

I've never been much of a forum person, PS has been the exception.

Okay. I know that not everyone out there is a 'smart' or 'observant' person. Yet on PS, you can count on people reading and responding to your entire post--and appropriately, too (most posts you won't have to struggle to make sense of).

On another wedding forum that I had posted on recently (a result of the deadly combo of PS not working on my iPhone and my not having computer access at my most recent job--what am I supposed to do on breaks?!

), people seem to only read and respond to the subject line.

For instance, I recently posted a thread titled "South Pacific Honeymoon?", and explained that we will be flying in to Fiji and looking for resort recommendations from people who had been there. The responses I got were "We're going to Bora Bora and staying at such and such resort and I CAN'T WAIT because I've never been before!" I am very happy that these people are excited for their honeymoons, but, um... weirded out, maybe(?), at how un-helpful their responses are

Bora Bora is not exactly water-taxi distance from Fiji's airport, and I wouldn't call their excitement for their first-time visit an informed recommendation.

I guess this was kind of a ranty post, so I apologize!

I'm being a bit judgmental and pissy about this. But has anyone experienced and been frustrated by this elsewhere? Darn you, PS, for spoiling me!!

 

[LittleRock]

Ummmm yup! It''s like......having to nudge your way into an packed elevator of people that really don''t want to let one more person in. (that''s my opinion anyways about other boards) It''s weird how even on boards you can get a sense of "click-ish-ness" nice word right? Just know you can always come home......

 

[Kaleigh]

Have to say, reading on the bridal forum, many people have complained about other bridal forums. The Knot.com comes to mind. They say local boards are better. I am sorry you didn''t get the answers you were looking for Musey. Hoping you get your questions answered here.

 

[PrettyBlues]

Musey I hear you. I was reading a forum last week and I remarked to my SO that I couldn''t believe how cliquey and b***hy the girls were. Apparently you don''t want to be a newbie and ask a dumb question, they will absolutely tear into you! I left that place pretty quick. Thank goodness for Pricescope

Anyway, I loooove

Fiji and have been twice (though the first time was a backpacker type trip) so I am happy to help you with any questions!

 

[Hera]

Absolutely, I''ve come across this! I once went on a Rottweiler forum and was trying to get some useful information on how to curb my dog''s growling and they accused me of not playing with my dog and an irresponsible pet owner. I had sent my dog to a 3 week in house training facility because she was starting to growl and 3 dog behavior specialists told me to take her to an intensive in home training facility. She still continues to growl so I was turning towards a forum for help. Won''t go there again! So I definitely know what you mean.

 

[diamondfan]

I have never really been on any other forum. I lurked here a while before jumping in. I was nervous the first time I actually hit the submit button since written stuff can really come across in ways you do not intend. I was always worried about being kind in my posts even if I did not concur with someone. From the stuff I have seen cruising some of the different spots on PS, the bridal forums like the Knot can be particularly vicious. I just do not get how some people can be so nasty and rip apart a total stranger or infer stuff from a post that is not what the person meant. I enjoy PS so much for that very reason, that new people can sort of jump right into the mix and it all works well.

 

[lisa1.01fvs1]

Yes!!! I just posted on RESOLVE about infertility (TMI - sorry).

And they were like " you only tried for ___ number of months - I don''t think that qualifies" and
reciting what every woman who''s been trying knows about time frames and whatnot.

Where do they get off?

I think some were pissy b/c I got in the see the repro. endocrinologist way earlier than most.

And this was a specific board for 2ndary infertility which often goes w/o much support since you already conceived and people are saying
leave well enough alone since you already have one.

I responded by citing the stats and that''s that.

Luv my new friends on the family board and the others.

 

[bee*]

Oh gosh, I totally agree with you on that one Musey. Seriously you should read some of the Irish wedding forums. You could ask about something and they reply about something totally different. Plus there are no moderators so there are witch hunts on it trying to get some people off the forum.

 

[Delster]

That is so awful about the TTC thread. Nasty nasty nasteeeee women.

From what I've read on here the Knot is something similar. Such a shame people can't be respectful to one another. That's why I love PS!

 

[Ali]

Please do not post other forum names or usernames here. We want to keep PS a positive and educational atmosphere. Ranting specifically about other forums/users is not conducive to the positive atmosphere we want to maintain.

Thank you for your cooperation.

 

[musey]

Thanks for the reminder, Ali

Thank you for commiserating, everyone. Silly people out there on the internet void!

Bee, that''s exactly what I''m experiencing, too... it''s honestly the weirdest thing!!!

 

[Gypsy]

I have never found a more helpful forum filled with such a large number of wonderful people. And I like forums.

Many wedding forums are just... wow. I post on another of the bridal boards occasionally, and it's pretty good for vendor information and help, but even on there I see some DOOZY posts. Bridezillas from hell complaining about things that I'm just

over... and instead of talking SENSE into the crazies, other nutso's post ENCOURAGING them. And then of course, there are the posts you mentioned where you are asking for advice and you get just RANDOM responses.

I honestly think that, apart from out Mods, the fact that we have wives and men, instead of just BRIDES on here keeps people focused and sane. From my own experience I know that I can get very self absorbed and its nice that I KNOW that some of you all will TELL ME when I am, and kick me in the tush for it.

Love PS. Love PS. Love PS.

 

[neatfreak]

I think Pricescope is a very unique place full of mostly thoughtful and intelligent people. Other forums, not so much.

 

[HollyS]

Date: 4/30/2008 1:19:47 PM
Author: Gypsy
I have never found a more helpful forum filled with such a large number of wonderful people. And I like forums.

Many wedding forums are just... wow. I post on another of the bridal boards occasionally, and it's pretty good for vendor information and help, but even on there I see some DOOZY posts. Bridezillas from hell complaining about things that I'm just

over... and instead of talking SENSE into the crazies, other nutso's post ENCOURAGING them. And then of course, there are the posts you mentioned where you are asking for advice and you get just RANDOM responses.

I honestly think that, apart from out Mods, the fact that we have wives and men, instead of just BRIDES on here keeps people focused and sane. From my own experience I know that I can get very self absorbed and its nice that I KNOW that some of you all will TELL ME when I am, and kick me in the tush for it.

Love PS. Love PS. Love PS.

I kinda like kicking a little tush now and then!

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 4/30/2008 8:50:03 AM
Author: Delster
That is so awful about the TTC thread. Nasty nasty nasteeeee women.


From what I''ve read on here the Knot is something similar. Such a shame people can''t be respectful to one another. That''s why I love PS!

I don''t think Lisa is referring to the TTC thread here on PS. It was a different forum. Just wanted to clarify on that. I hope Lisa doesn''t hate us on TTC!!!

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 4/30/2008 1:38:16 PM
Author: HollyS

Date: 4/30/2008 1:19:47 PM
Author: Gypsy
I have never found a more helpful forum filled with such a large number of wonderful people. And I like forums.

Many wedding forums are just... wow. I post on another of the bridal boards occasionally, and it''s pretty good for vendor information and help, but even on there I see some DOOZY posts. Bridezillas from hell complaining about things that I''m just

over... and instead of talking SENSE into the crazies, other nutso''s post ENCOURAGING them. And then of course, there are the posts you mentioned where you are asking for advice and you get just RANDOM responses.

I honestly think that, apart from out Mods, the fact that we have wives and men, instead of just BRIDES on here keeps people focused and sane. From my own experience I know that I can get very self absorbed and its nice that I KNOW that some of you all will TELL ME when I am, and kick me in the tush for it.

Love PS. Love PS. Love PS.

I kinda like kicking a little tush now and then!

Me too!

 

[Pandora II]

I belong to one other forum - but don''t spend much time there now. (I also read a gemmology forum but it''s more educational than chatty).

The other forum was on a topic that required you to have a certain amount of intelligence or else you wouldn''t have made much sense of the discussions going on - which were pretty academic. Most people were experts in their fields and very helpful to the lowly people like me.

It was a very nice and supportive place - and also had good grammar and punctuation (which for me is a must or my eyes go funny!)

I''m sorry people have had nasty experiences in other places.

 

[simplysplendid]

Oh yes, i think pricescope members are the absolutely best. There are other forums which you post a question, they will always respond with "please search and you will find the answer". Well, I do search and I only post a question when I couldn''t find the answer. Many a times, a search can turn out 20 pages (or more) of threads with each thread anywhere from 1 page to 15 pages (or more) long! And a number of threads has titles such as "I just got my little beauty!" or "A wonderful weekend, I just got my holy grail" or "A fruitful trip to Neiman Marcus!" which makes it almost impossible to tell whether the information I need is within the thread! I just don''t understand why if they bother to respond "please do a search", why couldn''t they just let me know the answer to my question?

 

[mimzy]

this certainly isn''t true of ALL other forums, but a lot of the ones i''ve come across (which to be honest is pretty limited) seem to have two types of people

A) the person who has a really high opinion of themself and participates in the forum because it allows them to give their opinion and advice and, well, frankly they like to hear themselves talk and bask in their own genius

or

B)the person who desperately needs an outlet for their inner popular high school girl and uses the forum to channel her. they like the power trip they get from putting others down and even more so if others fall in line with them. they love the clique mentality and enjoy the opportunity to exclude or demean others regardless of the topic at hand.

granted these forums are all mostly girl oriented and it''s just my experience. three cheers for pricescope!

 

[LaurenThePartier]

I agree.

This is one of the most educated and eloquent group of people I have ever found on another forum. I''m on a mostly male oriented forum that was a spinoff from a Honda Acura site, and it''s awful to wade through the crap they spew.

I much prefer my PS posters!

 

[bee*]

Date: 4/30/2008 10:43:47 AM
Author: musey
Thanks for the reminder, Ali

Thank you for commiserating, everyone. Silly people out there on the internet void!


Bee, that''s exactly what I''m experiencing, too... it''s honestly the weirdest thing!!!

I know-it''s so strange....and annoying!

 

[Delster]

Yep I knew that Neatfreak, sorry, was just using the abbreviation! I definitely didn''t mean the TTC thread on here, can definitely see how wonderful and supportive everyone is on there

 

[AGBF]

lisa1.01fvs1 wrote about posting on a site about infertility:

Date: 4/30/2008 12:39:40 AM

Author: lisa1.01fvs1

And they were like ' you only tried for ___ number of months - I don't think that qualifies' and

reciting what every woman who's been trying knows about time frames and whatnot.


Where do they get off?


I think some were pissy b/c I got in the see the repro. endocrinologist way earlier than most.


And this was a specific board for 2ndary infertility which often goes w/o much support since you already conceived and people are saying

leave well enough alone since you already have one.


I responded by citing the stats and that's that.


Luv my new friends on the family board and the others.

Lisa,

I am sorry that you encountered this. Infertility is tough enough without your sisters turning on you! Infertility treatments and adoption both create real sisterhoods...in fact real fraternities in which couples often come together and share their experiences. It should never result in one turning on another. I am sorry something so negative happened to you!

We, here, support each other and I hope that most women struggling to become mothers in most places do the same things!

Big hugs,
Deb

 

[sna77]

the knot is a joke...

For honeymoon planning, or any trip for that matter, go on tripadvisor.com

Its excellent and people are really helpful

Fiji:
http://www.tripadvisor.com/ShowForum-g294331-i883-Fiji.html

 

[musey]

Date: 4/30/2008 8:27:05 PM
Author: sna77
For honeymoon planning, or any trip for that matter, go on tripadvisor.com

Its excellent and people are really helpful

Fiji:

http://www.tripadvisor.com/ShowForum-g294331-i883-Fiji.html

Thanks, sna... that''s exactly what I''ve been doing (see my other thread).

 

[Tacori E-ring]

There are no other forums like PS IMHO! Nothing can compare. I briefly went to theknot.com when I was wedding planning

and a baby forum when I was preggo

NEVER. AGAIN!

 

[lisa1.01fvs1]

Date: 4/30/2008 1:38:36 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 4/30/2008 8:50:03 AM
Author: Delster
That is so awful about the TTC thread. Nasty nasty nasteeeee women.


From what I''ve read on here the Knot is something similar. Such a shame people can''t be respectful to one another. That''s why I love PS!

I don''t think Lisa is referring to the TTC thread here on PS. It was a different forum. Just wanted to clarify on that. I hope Lisa doesn''t hate us on TTC!!!

What??? No way!!! Apologies about my fous pas (sp)

on earlier post but was upset w/ my experience and totally gung ho about PS.

No not referring to TTC/PS at all. I love those women (neatfreak), so open and supportive and some preggers now!

Thanks Deb for the kind words and insight.

Not sure what was up over there.

I keep getting a whiff of click.

 

[hairgirl95]

Yep, the TTC boards on other forums are just insane! I personally only belong to 1 sports forum and then PS. I joined 2 different TTC forums and several things jumped out at me. No matter what you post, everyone ignores what you wrote and just responds with "sending baby dust". The final straw for me was I was posting about my 3rd miscarriage and I had 12 replies with baby dust. I think that ship had sailed by the time I posted.

Everyone on there assumes as soon as they have sex they are pregnant. Several of the gals that were TTC were living at home with their parents, and not married to their boyfriend of 4 months with whom they were trying to have a baby. The majority were very young (less than 21). As for the spelling and grammar, I won''t even go there. When I did try to post, I was called old, (I am 31), and that I should just adopt because they couldn''t imagine being so OLD when having a baby. Thank god for pricescope!!!

 

[lisa1.01fvs1]

Hairgirl - LOL I am so much older than u!

Yeah its like they wait to really respond to the total basket case scenario person (and there are many).

Sorta a weird competition - I did 6 cycle clomid, had 3 m/c, blocked tubes, cancer, etc....

They don''t seem to like a garden variety advanced maternal ager just starting out.

My spelling sucks - I wrote "clique" click - hahahah.

 

[Delster]

Date: 4/30/2008 11:52:14 PM
Author: lisa1.01fvs1

Date: 4/30/2008 1:38:36 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 4/30/2008 8:50:03 AM
Author: Delster
That is so awful about the TTC thread. Nasty nasty nasteeeee women.


From what I''ve read on here the Knot is something similar. Such a shame people can''t be respectful to one another. That''s why I love PS!

I don''t think Lisa is referring to the TTC thread here on PS. It was a different forum. Just wanted to clarify on that. I hope Lisa doesn''t hate us on TTC!!!

What??? No way!!! Apologies about my fous pas (sp)

on earlier post but was upset w/ my experience and totally gung ho about PS.

No not referring to TTC/PS at all. I love those women (neatfreak), so open and supportive and some preggers now!

Thanks Deb for the kind words and insight.

Not sure what was up over there.

I keep getting a whiff of click.

Oh dear, sorry all, it was my fault for using the abbreviation!