Re: Parents, do you check your teens' email, text, or facebo
I think I overparented too often with my DD's, now 22 and 20. I think giving trust would have been more beneficial than assuming that one or the other would do something stupid without my constant supervision and interrogation. It's a hard habit to break.
With my oldest, she tells me almost anything, but she hid some pretty major things that were personal but not necessarily harmful. With my youngest, she never thought I trusted her, because really I didn't, and she did do some things that were potentially very harmful that we did find out about eventually. The thing(s) she did led to a huge family blowout, and I was so mad I couldn't even talk to her for a couple of weeks. All in all it was a disasterous 6 month period of our lives with her.
We keep the communication lines open, as open as possible. But it has to come naturally and not be forced. Knowing what I know now, I would have loosened up more and been more trusting. Hope that makes some sense.
I think I overparented too often with my DD's, now 22 and 20. I think giving trust would have been more beneficial than assuming that one or the other would do something stupid without my constant supervision and interrogation. It's a hard habit to break.
With my oldest, she tells me almost anything, but she hid some pretty major things that were personal but not necessarily harmful. With my youngest, she never thought I trusted her, because really I didn't, and she did do some things that were potentially very harmful that we did find out about eventually. The thing(s) she did led to a huge family blowout, and I was so mad I couldn't even talk to her for a couple of weeks. All in all it was a disasterous 6 month period of our lives with her.
We keep the communication lines open, as open as possible. But it has to come naturally and not be forced. Knowing what I know now, I would have loosened up more and been more trusting. Hope that makes some sense.