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School is starting in one week and I''m wondering about the connection between parents and teachers. What do you look for and hope for, regarding your child''s teacher? What would you like to see more of? Is there anything you see your child''s teacher doing that you wish was different? What have you really liked and appreciated?
 
communication, communication, communication. It drives me nuts when I can''t get in touch with a teacher or they don''t respond when you try and get in touch.

I know teachers are super busy and have too many students these days. But I find it helpful for everyone, parent, teacher, and student when teachers establish a way to get in touch so you know if you need to you can.

Email access is great. I rarely use it, but if I do need to get in touch, its a great quick way to. Another method my son''s teacher used last year was there was a space on the homework notebook that you could jot a note to the teacher and have them respond.

Also, I hate it when teachers use candy as rewards. That is my pet peave. I have never said anything to a teacher directly but it drives me crazy when my kids get candy as rewards. Especially when the school makes this big deal out of "healthy eating" and bans parents from sending sugar laden snacks but yet the teachers ignore this.

Good for you for asking :)

What grade do you teach?
 
I teach second grade. I can imagine having a teacher not responding to a message would be annoying. I try to get in touch with parents within a day. Email works best for me just because it''s a little harder to block off time for a phone call, but phone calls have worked. I have to admit though that I never check my voice mail at school. It''s not that I don''t want to -- I just forget. A parent needed to get a hold of me last year and left a message on my school voice mail. I never got the message and she checked in again a few days later when she hadn''t heard from me. I felt so bad -- I''m usually pretty good at returning calls or messages.

The whole candy thing bugs me, but I''ll admit, I like the opportunity to occasionally serve cupcakes or whatever a child brings in for his/her birthday. We have a new wellness policy at school that will be fully implemented this year. I think it''s a great idea but a little leeway occasionally should be allowed, in my opinion. I have to say that I''m often amazed at some of the things some of my kids bring in for a snack or lunch. Hopefully that will change with the wellness policy.

Anyone else? What is most important to you?
 
I have no issues with occasional treats for bdays or whatever. Its the using it for rewards that bugs me. One of my kids favorate rewards in 2nd grade was when the teachers would do group rewards, rewarding the class as a whole with maybe 10 minutes extra recess, or something the whole class could enjoy. Or maybe an extra book read aloud or extra chapter if you in the middle of a chapter book. Or 10 or 15 minutes of time for the kids to play a game or something. Those types of rewards are the best . Something the kids love and look forward too, and encourage good habits.

2nd graders, tough bunch but also a sweet age :) I noticed thats where the read work begins! Reading and math get more intense. My 2 oldest are in 5th and 3rd this year so second grade is very fresh for me.

Good luck!
 
What a great question, Zoe! I don''t even HAVE kids yet, and I already want you to be their teacher...
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Yay! I want Zoe to be my future kids'' teacher tooooo!
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Date: 8/21/2007 9:41:05 AM
Author:zoebartlett
School is starting in one week and I'm wondering about the connection between parents and teachers. What do you look for and hope for, regarding your child's teacher? What would you like to see more of? Is there anything you see your child's teacher doing that you wish was different? What have you really liked and appreciated?
Hmmm, there are a lot of things. What I find most helpful, though, is if a teacher seems to genuinely like and care about my child. All kids have special needs of one kind or another, and the willingness and ability to respect those needs while still being able to help them follow rules and direction is really key. I worked at my son's preschool last year and I noticed that the teachers who could keep good order in the classroom while still being nurturing and approachable to all the kids had the best results. Individually as a parent, I would say that open communication and teamwork between the teacher and me on the best approaches to help my child succeed is extremely key. I have the same discussion with each teacher my kids have and it basically goes like, "My kid has this particular issue -- it's likely to cause XYZ challenge in the classroom and this is what has worked best at home. Please let me know if you are having these or other challenges and how I can support you as a teacher and help my kid in class." We have excellent teachers at the kids' elementary school and they have all been in very good contact via email or in person or by phone. I'm not a particularly defensive parent, though, so I really welcome hearing the challenges as well as the good stuff.

HOWEVER, if I begin to hear only bad stuff and get the impression that the teacher does not like my child and that teacher is not open to suggestions, input and doesn't give me anything positive to work with, well, I am my child's advocate. In preschool my older child had a teacher who never said a kind word about him. By the time we had the first conference and she hadn't figured out he was left handed and gave me some seriously off feedback, I knew I needed to find another preschool option for him. Thankfully it was preschool and that was an option. I'm not sure what I would have done if it had been elementary school, but I'm certain I would have intervened.

I think that it's a very positive thing looking ahead and getting input on this. The fact that you care and are concerned with it speaks volumes to me about you as a teacher.
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ETA: I have a 4th grader and a Kindergartner, so my experience is limited, but since you teach 2nd grade hopefully it helps.
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Date: 8/21/2007 11:20:07 AM
Author: amylikesrocks
I have no issues with occasional treats for bdays or whatever. Its the using it for rewards that bugs me. One of my kids favorate rewards in 2nd grade was when the teachers would do group rewards, rewarding the class as a whole with maybe 10 minutes extra recess, or something the whole class could enjoy. Or maybe an extra book read aloud or extra chapter if you in the middle of a chapter book. Or 10 or 15 minutes of time for the kids to play a game or something. Those types of rewards are the best . Something the kids love and look forward too, and encourage good habits.

2nd graders, tough bunch but also a sweet age :) I noticed thats where the read work begins! Reading and math get more intense. My 2 oldest are in 5th and 3rd this year so second grade is very fresh for me.

Good luck!
Me too Amy. I can''t say I never do it, but at one of the kid''s preschools they did it all the time. He came home with candy every day, and he ate more while he was there.

Birthday treats are another story! Birthdays are supposed to have cake, or cupcakes, or something like that. Yummm!
 
Ephemery and Indy, you crack me up! Sure, I''ll be your future kids'' children if you''ll move to my state.
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Lumpkin, thanks for the compliment! I try to get to know the parents and families of my kids, and I appreciate everyone''s feedback. We have a parent survey that goes out at the end of the year, basically asking parents what they thought of their kid''s teacher, school, principal, etc. There are a number of questions that parents answer and then we get the results after the prinicpal looks over the results. I haven''t seen last year''s survey yet, but that must have been what I was thinking about when I posted. I agree with both you and Amy when you said how important it is for there to be open communication.

Amy, I totally agree that for the most part, healthy snacks and lunches should be served the majority of the time. I don''t understand why certain teachers reward their students with food either. Extra recess? Maybe a fun movie relating to something kids are learning in class? Free choice time in the class if everyone has finished his/her work? No problem! Bribing kids with chocolate candies or whatever, not okay.

Here''s another few questions: How do you weigh academics and the socialization aspect of teaching? Do you focus on how well a teacher taught your child certain academic concepts or do you focus on how well a teacher built a classroom community and reinforced and expected respect, compassion, and empathy, etc.?

I find that while yes, of course parents care about the academic aspect of their child''s schooling, at the end of the day, they really want to know that their kids are treating others well and are working hard. Sometimes it seems that in my conferences, much more time is spent on the social part of educating someone and less on the academic skills and concepts.
 
Date: 8/21/2007 8:59:41 PM
Author: zoebartlett
Ephemery and Indy, you crack me up! Sure, I''ll be your future kids'' children if you''ll move to my state.
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Lumpkin, thanks for the compliment! I try to get to know the parents and families of my kids, and I appreciate everyone''s feedback. We have a parent survey that goes out at the end of the year, basically asking parents what they thought of their kid''s teacher, school, principal, etc. There are a number of questions that parents answer and then we get the results after the prinicpal looks over the results. I haven''t seen last year''s survey yet, but that must have been what I was thinking about when I posted. I agree with both you and Amy when you said how important it is for there to be open communication.

Amy, I totally agree that for the most part, healthy snacks and lunches should be served the majority of the time. I don''t understand why certain teachers reward their students with food either. Extra recess? Maybe a fun movie relating to something kids are learning in class? Free choice time in the class if everyone has finished his/her work? No problem! Bribing kids with chocolate candies or whatever, not okay.

Here''s another few questions: How do you weigh academics and the socialization aspect of teaching? Do you focus on how well a teacher taught your child certain academic concepts or do you focus on how well a teacher built a classroom community and reinforced and expected respect, compassion, and empathy, etc.?

I find that while yes, of course parents care about the academic aspect of their child''s schooling, at the end of the day, they really want to know that their kids are treating others well and are working hard. Sometimes it seems that in my conferences, much more time is spent on the social part of educating someone and less on the academic skills and concepts.
Both, but in the first few grades more socialization, community and empathy. It''s just as important to be able to get along with others (if not more so) than being highly educated. However, they also do need the academics. It starts getting harder by 4th grade and they need to be prepared. By middle school there''s just a huge amount of homework, at least here, and the kids don''t get much help from the teachers by that time. If they don''t have the basics down pat it''s harder for them. In second grade, though, I was definitely more concerned about the kids learning appropriate social interaction and conflict resolution skills. I can help teach them the basic stuff at home -- the socialization with other kids from diverse backgrounds, not so much. Getting the right balance between social skills and academics is touchy, and probably varies a bit between one class''s makeup of students to another''s. If you have a classroom full of already empathetic, easy going kids, academics is probably where to focus more, but if you have a classroom full of kids who behave badly, it''s going to get in the way of them learning their academic subjects until the behavior is managed. Is that a vague enough answer???
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You can tell I''ve been thinking about this a lot myself.
 
Good for you for asking Zoe! I think it says that you are a great teacher because you even bothered to ask!!!

For me, I''ll agree with Amy. Communication is key. For problems that arise or just to tell parents their child is doing well. Involved parents should know whether the student is doing well or not, but, it''s nice to be told. Also, kindness matters!!! In first grade my middle son had a teacher that was as cold as ice and treated the little ones like they were high school kids. She would snap and point at them and I just did not like her condescending nature. He learned a lot that year, the teacher was just better suited for older kids. Also, typos coming home on letters drive me nutso! I''m not sure why...Maybe it''s me, but, when your is spelled you''re on a note home from a 5th grade teacher, it kinda drives me nuts!

I''ve been so happy with most of my kids teachers I really can''t complain.

Good luck with your new school year!
 
To me a good teacher is one that INSPIRES the kids to want to learn. My son just started 5th grade. His 3rd grade teacher was really tough. She demanded a lot. She sent home a lot of homework which was definitely a pain. But she really made my son believe he could do it. She inspired him to do better than he thought he could. Great progress was made in 3rd grade.

The 4th grade teacher last year was a dish rag. She was probably an ok teacher, but she was dull as dirt. Even in the parent-teacher conferences my husband and I felt like we could never get through to her about issues. She didn''t offer any ideas. My son wasn''t very motivated to do well because he didn''t really care what the teacher thought of him. It was a real contrast from 3rd grade. I''m hoping the new 5th grade teacher is like the 3rd grade one. We don''t know yet--haven''t met her.

My biggest pet peeve are home projects that require A. A lot of supplies that I don''t have at home and B. the project sent home due the next day. For example, one year we had to build a sugar cube building. It took us $10 worth of sugar cubes and we had to stay up until midnight to get it done. Several times I have had to rush out to the store to buy poster board, felt etc. It would be really helpful to get those kind of shopping list items at least a week before so I can shop on the weekend....not on a busy school night. I think teachers forget that regular households are not filled with art supplies, especially if your kid doesn''t like art.
 
Island, I think my son had the same 4th grade teacher last year as your child. Dull.

And great point about INSPIRES. Gets kids excited about learning.


My 3rd grader is SO excited about her teacher this year. I keep hearing about her teacher this and her teacher that and I''m thrilled she is so excited.

Jury is still out on the 5th grade teacher for my son. I think he will be better than last years though.
 
I think it is SO critical for a teacher to leave his or her assumptions at the door and really get to know each child. In one classroom, there are or can be so many different learning styles and needs and personal issues, and I think it can be a disservice to have preconceived notions that might negatively affect how you teach. I was going to be a teacher and did some student teaching in an East L.A. elementary school and the teacher really had already formulated views of the kids...before they even entered her class. I am sure that sometimes these views are not wrong, but it stacks the deck in ways that can be counter productive. Get to know each kid, all the different elements, and be flexible enough to do your best by each child...and while I do not expect everyone to love my kid (even though they are perfect :-))PLEASE do not make it obvious...kids sense and know this stuff even if we think they do not. Be professional, you are entitled to your own thoughts, but do not have a kid feeling terrible because you make it so known in the class.

I also think it is so unfair to our kids to have teachers who are not enthused and inspiring. There are a couple of teachers in my children's school who really should no longer be up in front of a class room full of kids. They are not excited or interested in trying to make the material fresh and fun. I think especially in the younger grades, you can almost teach anything to kids (early algebra, scientific theory etc, stuff that seems higher level) if you break it down and put it on their level, and make it fun to learn.
Of course, mechanics and nuts and bolts stuff is less than thrilling, but still, it can be made much more appetizing if a teacher can figure out a way. If this is done from the get go, it is more likely that kids will love learning for learning's sake and really be happy to be there in that class. I walked into some of these classes over the last few years and the pall in the room, in a class filled with adorable little ones, broke my heart. One teacher looked comatose! And this is a private school who could easily have found some fresh people.

Last, I think teachers and parents need good open lines of communication, and need to be on the same page about the expectations for the year and that child. Not all kids can do all things, so put your ego out of it and be on the same team, since ultimately it should really be about what is best for your kid! I have seen so many parents be in denial and the kid suffers and is miserable...(of course my son loves latin!!! put him in the advanced class or else!)

I studied to be a teacher (k-6) before getting my masters in psych (and spent time in classes from k to high school) and I am mom of three kids, from K to 9th grade, and having been in the schoool system for 10 years...these are the conclusions I have reached!
 
I like the point about candy. I''d never used it before this year, when I found out that most of the other teachers were using it with their remedial level classes as rewards for doing well on practice standardized test questions. So I felt like the kids would find out everyone else got candy, so I had to give it to them too. But I always found that praise worked just as well (and avoided the "pack of wild animals" incident that happened when I found the stale candy in my drawer months later and asked if anyone wanted it). I''ve recently been eating more healthily, so when I attended a party for my elective students I brought fruit as my contribution. I definitely don''t think I''d hand out candy now that I''m eating better.

I''m not a parent, so my perspective is more of a teacher (in high school, not elementary). I was just talking with some teachers last night about how difficult it is when parents ask you what to do with their child. "We''ve called the police on him. We just don''t know what to do. What do you think?" Ummmm . . .
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We get a lot of sob stories about how raising so-and-so is just so hard (this is mostly from the lower-income parents of remedial students).

My friend teaches the AP level of a class for 12th graders. The teacher in the preceding class (juniors) leaves class all the time to call parents of students who are sitting unattended in her classroom. I''ve heard her make at least one call a month (and I''m not in the office that much). It sounds like she is trying to catch the students in lies. "Oh, hi, I was just calling because I was so concerned. Jimmy shared with me how he didn''t have his paper because his dad is in the hospital, and I was just calling to say how sorry I am to hear that" while Jimmy is literally down the hall in the room. I would just tell the student that I was sorry to hear that and to have somebody call their guidance counselor to let the teachers know or to bring me a signed note. I wouldn''t run out of my room to bother a parent whose spouse might really be in the hospital just because I thought the excuse was B.S.

Anyway, my friend was saying how she hoped the parents of her now seniors won''t expect her to call all the time about every little thing. "Oh, hi, I was just calling because Jimmy didn''t have his AP homework . . ." I told my friend that I''m sure the parents thought the preceding teacher was more of a nuisance than a help. Imagine if all 7-8 teachers of their children called that often! (BTW, the parents can access their child''s grades at anytime on the internet, so they can find out if Jimmy didn''t do his homework if they''re concerned.)

On Dr. Phil last week (I know, I really need to get back to work and stop watching Dr. Phil) this mom was on the show to get help for her 24 year old daughter who had 4 children ages 0-4 and no job. She was living with mom and step-dad and making them take care of her kids while she slept the day away. Mom said, "I know I''ve enabled her. When there was a problem with friends, I took care of it. When there was a problem with school, I took care of it." That totally reminded me of a parent I had this past year who made an appointment with me, demanded that I change her child''s grade and the way I grade papers, cut me off when I tried to respond (positively and looking to reach a compromise) by saying we''d just have to agree to disagree, and then ran off to the meeting with my principal which she''d prearranged without knowing how I''d respond to her concerns. But she had little clout with the principal because this wasn''t her first child in the school, and she''d fought self-created battles on his behalf until he graduated. The principal just told me her concerns and said, "Yes, we remember her from when [brother] came through here." I''ve taught two of her children and knew another one, and they''re not bad kids; they just know they can get away with anything. One of them put his feet up on my desk in the middle of class!

But on the other end of the spectrum, there''s usually not enough parent involvement. On back to school night, less than 10% of the parents of remedial students come. Maybe 25% of the parents of honors students come. This or an early conference at the beginning of the year starts off the year right -- we can touch base, I can hear concerns or tips, and I can get an email address or cell phone number which generally isn''t listed on the contact info the school provides. This heads off problems like this year when an honors student was doing poorly from the start of the year, and the mom called at the end of the year to complain that she hadn''t heard about it (she''d believed her daughter, whom she told me had starting doing poorly in school three years ago, when she said she "didn''t get" her report cards). I could only say, "I had no way of knowing you weren''t getting her report cards." Mom also told me she was "too busy" to check her daughter''s grades on the internet.
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I try to find that fine line for communication. I believe that sophomores should be learning how to keep up with their work on their own. I shouldn''t have to call the parents of honors students and say, "Jimmy didn''t try hard enough on his essay." But other times, it is necessary . . . a student is clearly lying time and time again why a paper hasn''t been turned in . . . a student is erasing her answers on corrected work and then telling me I graded it wrong (I used my idealscope to catch that one!) . . .

I''ve found that as I''ve become a better teacher, I haven''t had to call about behavior anymore (other than the lying and cheating). That never seemed effective because either the parent didn''t care (no wonder the child was behaving so atrociously) or the parent blamed me for the problem. Now as I''ve learned to show no emotions when they misbehave and to handle myself more authoritatively, I really have seen a decrease in misbehavior. And that''s good because when new teachers call saying that Jimmy threw spitballs at them or whatever, what some parents like to say about that is that it''s just a "personality conflict" (which is code for "You suck as a teacher"). Well, maybe, but this is the real world, where we have bosses we don''t like. We can''t just throw spitballs at them as protest. What does that teach your child? She''s a young teacher who wasn''t expecting 16 year old boys to put their feet up on her desk and so who didn''t react the best way; therefore, it''s ok to disrespect her? (Actually, that was this past year and I did handle it well -- a witty remark and a look that said, "I know you''re not foolish enough to leave those there," maybe with a wink as I turned to carry on my business)

My experience has been that a vast majority of students and parents are good people and we want the same things: a good education for the student. So most students will respond to earnestness and encouragement, and most parents will be open to what you have to say. I assume the converse is true; most teachers want what is best for the child and are doing their best to provide that. Obviously I couldn''t say to the "too busy" parent that she was blaming the teachers for her believing her child''s obviously-transparent lie, so I agreed to be in better touch, and I will always try to accomodate requests.

Of course, I''ve known some not-so-good ones too. Teachers at the very start of their career might really, well, suck, and teachers at the end might not care anymore. And that''s a shame because that was those children''s only experience taking that class. I''ll be the first to admit that because of a teacher shortage (and obviously the salaries), my school has been hiring uncertified teachers with no experience in education. Student teaching and knowledge of educational theory is crucial in becoming a teacher, but we''re just hiring people and throwing them in the classroom. I''m mentoring a new teacher fresh out of college who admits she decided to become a teacher over the summer when she didn''t know what else to do. She didn''t study education and has no idea what or how to teach. And that''s not her fault; that''s the system''s fault for hiring people like that. Teachers who haven''t student-taught are more likely to leave the profession, probably partly because they haven''t invested hours and dollars getting their certification and therefore have less to lose if they leave, partly because that indicates that this may be a job "just because" rather than a chosen career, and partly because they were less prepared.

So I feel like I''m supposed to provide what a degree in education would provide entirely with my advice
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, and I''ll probably be doing all of this to help someone who won''t stay in the profession more than a year or two. But again, this is the only year of this class her students will ever have. I don''t want it to be a wash. With science or math or history, you can generally follow a text-book, and the department tends to work at the same speed. In English you decide how much and what type of literature, grammar, vocabulary, and writing to do. We had a teacher leave mid-year and then realized, "Oh whoops, she wasn''t assigning any papers." So when you tell someone with no training to pick some literature and assign some papers and teach some grammar and assign some vocabulary and to figure out how much time each unit should take and how to assess it, all on her own, and very rarely does anyone check to find out what she''s really doing, you can imagine how a 22 year old might not just spontaneously come up with an award-winning curriculum.

So I''m going to do my best to support her. As with most things in life, you usually only hear if you''re doing a bad job. I''m sure she''ll make some stupid mistake and have parents or other teachers complain about her. I''d be the first one to complain if she were somebody unknown to me. It really takes a few years to get past the point where Jimmy throws a spitball at you and you don''t freak out and have the "angry teacher show." You need some experience under your belt so you can think, "Ah, Jimmy, if only you were more creative, like the boy who left a can full of his own urine in my room. Your attempts at sabotage are so banal that I won''t even have to speak to put an end to them," chuckle to yourself, and move on.
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(BTW, the urine was left during another class that met in my room with a horrid new teacher who let students sit in her lap and gave them her cell phone number, but I was the lucky one who found it.)
 
P.S. Sorry if I hijacked a nice thread meant for parents, not for teachers to have strange middle-of-the-night rants. I was experiencing a bit of insomnia at the time, and this thread gave me something to concentrate on.
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Date: 8/22/2007 8:47:49 AM
Author: IslandDreams
To me a good teacher is one that INSPIRES the kids to want to learn. My son just started 5th grade. His 3rd grade teacher was really tough. She demanded a lot. She sent home a lot of homework which was definitely a pain. But she really made my son believe he could do it. She inspired him to do better than he thought he could. Great progress was made in 3rd grade.

The 4th grade teacher last year was a dish rag. She was probably an ok teacher, but she was dull as dirt. Even in the parent-teacher conferences my husband and I felt like we could never get through to her about issues. She didn't offer any ideas. My son wasn't very motivated to do well because he didn't really care what the teacher thought of him. It was a real contrast from 3rd grade. I'm hoping the new 5th grade teacher is like the 3rd grade one. We don't know yet--haven't met her.

My biggest pet peeve are home projects that require A. A lot of supplies that I don't have at home and B. the project sent home due the next day. For example, one year we had to build a sugar cube building. It took us $10 worth of sugar cubes and we had to stay up until midnight to get it done. Several times I have had to rush out to the store to buy poster board, felt etc. It would be really helpful to get those kind of shopping list items at least a week before so I can shop on the weekend....not on a busy school night. I think teachers forget that regular households are not filled with art supplies, especially if your kid doesn't like art.
I have yet to give my kids an assignment or project (other than regular spelling and math homework) that has to be done at home. I know the older grades do that, so I don't feel the need to. I don't assign reading a certain amount at home but I do encourage kids to read as often as they can, whether it's with their parents, siblings, to their stuffed animals, etc. Our school has a rough homework rule -- about 10 minutes per grade. So for me, it would be assigning homework that should take 20 minutes to complete. I've heard that homework is often given to appease parents who feel that their child should be practicing particular skills at home. I've also heard that homework doesn't REALLY do much to improve learning. I'm not sure what I believe. I give homework primarily so parents know what skills we're working on in class, and also to help develop in my kids the sense of responsiblity and the habit of doing it. Third grade comes quickly and it's often a shock, in terms of projects and assignments. Easing them into it before hand seems to be going okay so far.

I forgot to add that I do think teachers should consider what materials are needed to complete as assignment. It helps to put together a little baggie with the necessary things needed to complete homework, etc., if a family doesn't have them at home.
 
Diamondfan, I get annoyed when I hear fellow teachers label someone as "a SpEd kid" or the like. It drives me crazy! I like talking with the teachers who had my students in the past because it does help to have insight as to what works with particular students who may have difficulty. I don''t really like looking at previous years'' test scores though because I want to see where they are "right now" at the beginning of the year. If I look at May or June''s test scores, that tells me nothing about what a child can do "right now, 3 or 4 months later." A lot an happen in that time. After I see how they do on our second grade standardized tests, then I see where they were in the spring.
 
Phoenix -- don''t worry! Feel free to post whatever you''d like. It''s always interesting to read your thoughts.
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Date: 8/23/2007 1:38:07 PM
Author: zoebartlett
Diamondfan, I get annoyed when I hear fellow teachers label someone as ''a SpEd kid'' or the like. It drives me crazy! I like talking with the teachers who had my students in the past because it does help to have insight as to what works with particular students who may have difficulty. I don''t really like looking at previous years'' test scores though because I want to see where they are ''right now'' at the beginning of the year. If I look at May or June''s test scores, that tells me nothing about what a child can do ''right now, 3 or 4 months later.'' A lot an happen in that time. After I see how they do on our second grade standardized tests, then I see where they were in the spring.

That is why I think it is best to view each kid individually. A lot of teachers specifically wait and meet the kid before formulating an opinion. Past teacher stuff is helpful for sure but it can prejudice you and cause you to behave differently...
 
This is a great thread, Zoe, thanks for starting it!

I''m not a parent, but I''m a high school teacher, so I''m really coming from the other end of the spectrum. It''s funny, though, because the parents all seem to want communication with teachers, and from my POV we have a difficult time getting our students'' parents to take the time to contact us--it seems that a lot of parents lose the drive to communicate with the school by the time their kids reach high school. I''ll be staying at work until 8:30 PM tomorrow night for Open House, and I''d put money down that I won''t have more than ten parents come all night.

Actually, I should amend my statement--the parents who SHOULD be concerned and trying to get in touch with the school seem to be the ones who have lost interest.

I also agree with the no candy-as-a-reward sentiment--our freshmen are ALWAYS asking why they never get candy for being good in class. CANDY?!?! You are in high school--we''re not even allowed to eat in the classrooms! Those froshies are so innocent!

I can share what I want from my colleagues, though:

- Remember that you (teachers) are here to facilitate learning--this is not the "Mrs. Smith" show where you are the main attraction and the students are just here to soak up all of your infinite wisdom. Let them share their ideas! Let them think, for goodness sake! (Don''t forget the root of the word "educate", after all.)

- Students are people. They are good people. They have ideas and opinions and intellect, and the only way to help them discover and cultivate their potential is if you show them a little respect and let them speak! If you hate adolescents, why become a teacher? If you think students should sit silent in their desks and copy down information without reflecting on it all day, what the heck do you think you are teaching them?

- There are two ways to control your class: 1) Use of threats and discipline, and 2) Use of mutual respect for you and for the class itself. Please try to cultivate the latter.

Okay, there''s much more but I have to grade some more papers tonight!

Happy learning!
 
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