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Super_Ideal_Rock
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Kristy: I feel similarly ''bout you! I will just say what I think...( btw what new ring is the Leon? Did I miss something?! I know you have a round from your avatar)
While it is very easy for me to say don''t hide your light (or you Leon) under a bushel, I would not love to get that type of reaction. Which is why I never told my sister and just was going to let her take a gander in person while silently daring her to say something snarky. If she did, I would just chalk it up to jealousy and not gloat but be very happy to her face in spite of her behavior. She has since THROWN my ring in my face ("How come you got that bracelet as a gift for your son''s bar mitzvah? Didn''t you JUST get a huge ring? blah blah blah...My husband would run screaming if he thought I was a jewel fiend like you!!!" (he should run screaming for many other reasons!!! I can explain more in another thread but suffice it to say she is consumed with jealousy without copping to it, TOTAL denial)...Now, your best friend, I am not going to pass judgement on her, though I think her reaction is less than kind. Even if I HATED jewels, I would know my friend loved them and I would try to be enthused for her sake. If she truly is not interested and not jealous, than she lacked tact, and I would still not let her ruin my party! (not to say it is easy to deal with). I think, ultimately, if you feel good about having it, you just have to face the sad fact that many people are not going to "get" your obsession. I guess I would ask, do any of those who rol their eyes etc, have any consuming passions of their own? I cannot believe they are all selfless and basic and have nothing that they get excited about...and not that it has to cost a lot, just inspire passion in them. Do you see where I am going? Whether yours is diamonds and theirs is lawn gnomes, it makes not a whit of difference. Whatever makes YOU happy should make anyone who cares about you happy too, whether or not they would want it too! I swear to you I would never turn ann upgrade down or any piece of jewelry that I loved. When I go to bed at night, I know I am a kind and giving person, a great wife, mom, friend...so I don''t want to let some negativity become my reality, and spoil what makes me happy!
Windowshopper: I think your setting is so incredible. If you could put a larger stone in it (I am thinking you want around 5 carats?) I would sooo duplicate it. It is unique and eyecatching. Sort of reminds me of a vintage Cartier...I always admired it here and think you should keep it as your setting. If not, it would be gorgeous with a sapphire or ruby as a rhr...jmho. As to the band, I say upgrade, then get the band later. You may decide you like to wear both, one on each hand, or can wear the band only when you do not wish to wear the e ring. Is that ering an upgrade? I know what you mean about height. I never loved HIGH settings. My stone has weight in the depth so it has to be a bit high. Sadly, I am so used to this ring that it really does not seem so big to me anymore...I love it though, and feel it speaks for itself. I just think your settng is one of the prettiest I have ever seen and would love it with a bigger stone if you do it, that would balance out the side stones you are concerned about!
While it is very easy for me to say don''t hide your light (or you Leon) under a bushel, I would not love to get that type of reaction. Which is why I never told my sister and just was going to let her take a gander in person while silently daring her to say something snarky. If she did, I would just chalk it up to jealousy and not gloat but be very happy to her face in spite of her behavior. She has since THROWN my ring in my face ("How come you got that bracelet as a gift for your son''s bar mitzvah? Didn''t you JUST get a huge ring? blah blah blah...My husband would run screaming if he thought I was a jewel fiend like you!!!" (he should run screaming for many other reasons!!! I can explain more in another thread but suffice it to say she is consumed with jealousy without copping to it, TOTAL denial)...Now, your best friend, I am not going to pass judgement on her, though I think her reaction is less than kind. Even if I HATED jewels, I would know my friend loved them and I would try to be enthused for her sake. If she truly is not interested and not jealous, than she lacked tact, and I would still not let her ruin my party! (not to say it is easy to deal with). I think, ultimately, if you feel good about having it, you just have to face the sad fact that many people are not going to "get" your obsession. I guess I would ask, do any of those who rol their eyes etc, have any consuming passions of their own? I cannot believe they are all selfless and basic and have nothing that they get excited about...and not that it has to cost a lot, just inspire passion in them. Do you see where I am going? Whether yours is diamonds and theirs is lawn gnomes, it makes not a whit of difference. Whatever makes YOU happy should make anyone who cares about you happy too, whether or not they would want it too! I swear to you I would never turn ann upgrade down or any piece of jewelry that I loved. When I go to bed at night, I know I am a kind and giving person, a great wife, mom, friend...so I don''t want to let some negativity become my reality, and spoil what makes me happy!
Windowshopper: I think your setting is so incredible. If you could put a larger stone in it (I am thinking you want around 5 carats?) I would sooo duplicate it. It is unique and eyecatching. Sort of reminds me of a vintage Cartier...I always admired it here and think you should keep it as your setting. If not, it would be gorgeous with a sapphire or ruby as a rhr...jmho. As to the band, I say upgrade, then get the band later. You may decide you like to wear both, one on each hand, or can wear the band only when you do not wish to wear the e ring. Is that ering an upgrade? I know what you mean about height. I never loved HIGH settings. My stone has weight in the depth so it has to be a bit high. Sadly, I am so used to this ring that it really does not seem so big to me anymore...I love it though, and feel it speaks for itself. I just think your settng is one of the prettiest I have ever seen and would love it with a bigger stone if you do it, that would balance out the side stones you are concerned about!