My boyfriend and I are both in college and are planning on getting engaged in the relatively near future, so we''ve started talking about rings. He''s set the price limit around $500 or $600. It''s not that I would care if he didn''t buy me a really expensive ring. The thing is, he says that he doesn''t have much money, so he can''t afford an expensive one (meaning anything more expensive than, say, $600...), but he would have some money if he''d stop spending so much money on himself. I''m not one of those girls who thinks that the amount of money spent on the ring shows how much the guy cares, but it shows that he actually cares if he gives up some video games or a ticket to a football game to help pay for a nice ring. He likes to buy anything that looks like a good deal, whether he needs it (or really even wants it) or not. He doesn''t realize how all of that adds up. I confronted him about this issue this morning when he was talking about football tickets, and he told me that it seems like I don''t want him to have a life or be able to do anything until he gets me a ring. That''s not what I''m saying at all. It just seems that a small sacrifice and some sort of effort toward saving up a little money would show that he actually cares. There are some cheap rings out there, and it''s not like I''ll say no if he buys me a $300 ring (even though I might be slightly jealous since my friend just got a $3000 dollar engagement ring from her boyfriend, who knows how to save money), but I just wish he were willing to put a little thought and effort into it. I can''t say that he never puts any effort into our relationship, but he never puts much thought or effort into any one thing. He''s about the least romantic guy ever. I don''t really know what to do. He doesn''t understand why it upsets me that, after he told me he was going to cut back on stuff so he could get me the best ring he could, he wants to buy himself more stuff and tells me I''ll have to settle for a cheap ring. What shall I do?
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