Post your "push presents"!

[Natylad]

 

[Natylad]

 

[Matthews1127]

I didn't get "push presents". Both of my pregnancies were rocky, and I spent them alone. My first fiancé was present for the birth of our son, and that's pretty much the only nice thing I can say about that. Fiancé #2 was removed from the house when I entered my 3rd month of gestation. My mother was with me during my c-section with my daughter. I raised both of my children by myself, until 4 years ago, when the love of my life entered our lives.
DH has spent the past 4 years working hard to give me, and my children, what he believes we deserve. Though my children are not biologically his, he has accepted them & treated them, equally, as his own (he has 4 children to his ex-wife).
Our first Mother's Day, together, he gave me the most beautiful necklace. I was so touched because no one had ever gone to the trouble, nor made the effort like he did...



What touched me most was that he included ALL of the children in this gift, along with their birthstones, and ours (the heart pendants are his & mine).
This necklace may not be Cartier or Tiffany's, but it came from his heart, and he included the children in its creation (they helped him pick it out for me). It's one of the most special pieces of jewelry I own.

 

[december-fire]

@Matthews1127 ,

Oh my goodness, reading about your necklace ... well, I'm overcome with emotion.

My ex was, shall we say, 'not particularly supportive' during the birth of our children, but that's history.
I have the two most amazing children in the World.
I also have been blessed to have met a wonderful man who treats my children like his own.
I'm so very happy for you and your new family.
I can't imagine a piece of jewellery with more meaning than your beautiful necklace.
Tell that man of yours he's a keeper!

 

[Matthews1127]

@Matthews1127 ,

Oh my goodness, reading about your necklace ... well, I'm overcome with emotion.

My ex was, shall we say, 'not particularly supportive' during the birth of our children, but that's history.
I have the two most amazing children in the World.
I also have been blessed to have met a wonderful man who treats my children like his own.
I'm so very happy for you and your new family.
I can't imagine a piece of jewellery with more meaning than your beautiful necklace.
Tell that man of yours he's a keeper!

@december-fire,
Thank you for your sweet sentiment; it's life experiences that create bonds between people. You & I have quite a bit in common. Good men are great fathers. Special men are great fathers to offspring that are not biologically connected to them. My son has a relationship with his biological, but his bond with my DH is stronger. My daughter has never met her biological, and my DH is the only daddy she has ever known.
Your husband & mine are among the select special men in the world who were born to be "family men". My DH defines himself by three important things: who he is at his job,; as a provider, who he is as a husband, and who he is as a father. I consider myself blessed to be his wife; he truly is my miracle I thought would never come.
Congratulations to you, as well; your hubby is a keeper, too!

 

[december-fire]

@Matthews1127 ,
Yes, being biologically-related to a person is not an indicator of the emotional bond between two people.
Also, not a requirement for there to be a strong, healthy parent-child relationship.

I use the term 'Man in my life', because BF sounds so odd to me given that we're in our 50's.
We're not married and we each have our own home.
That baffles our friends and family.
Maybe and probably someday we'll be married and under the same roof, but what's important and means so much to me is how we view each other; my daughter refers to him as her 'step-dad' and his son as her 'step-brother'. We'll all 'family' regardless of the two homes and no marriage license.

 

[Austina]

I'm so glad you've found your someone special @Matthews1127 and @december-fire, sounds like you've both gone through difficult times and are now living the lives you so deserve.

 

[motownmama]

NICE guys!!!!!!

 

[Matthews1127]

@Matthews1127 ,
Yes, being biologically-related to a person is not an indicator of the emotional bond between two people.
Also, not a requirement for there to be a strong, healthy parent-child relationship.

I use the term 'Man in my life', because BF sounds so odd to me given that we're in our 50's.
We're not married and we each have our own home.
That baffles our friends and family.
Maybe and probably someday we'll be married and under the same roof, but what's important and means so much to me is how we view each other; my daughter refers to him as her 'step-dad' and his son as her 'step-brother'. We'll all 'family' regardless of the two homes and no marriage license.

I agree 100%! There are no rules to how you live your life. Some people are narrow minded & judgmental. If you're happy, and your children have good relationships with the man in your life, that's really all that matters.
I understand what you mean when you say BF just sounds weird; I said the same thing, before DH & I got married. Once you hit a certain age, it's just not appropriate, anymore...at least, not in my world.
Many blessings to you, your children & the man in you life! Just be happy!!!

 

[Matthews1127]

I'm so glad you've found your someone special @Matthews1127 and @december-fire, sounds like you've both gone through difficult times and are now living the lives you so deserve.

Thank you, @Austina!
I can certainly say I've been through a lot of hardship. What hasn't killed me has only made me stronger...and wiser. I am truly blessed to have found the love of my life, and the one man on the planet who can handle me...lol!

 

[luv2sparkle]

Matthews1127, that is the best story! I love your beautiful necklace and the story of it and that your DH took all the time an effort to make it such a wonderful keepsake. What a treasure he is, as well as the necklace. I hope you are blessed for the rest of your life by this man! Sometimes you have to go through a lot of 'stuff ' to fully appreciate the blessings you have. Girl, you have been through some 'stuff '! Thank you for sharing your necklace and the truly special story behind it!