Posting Again

[that_someone_special]

I''m back. I still don''t want to be on the list again, but I''m back. I took a non-posting break for a while.
I was literally obsessed with becoming engaged. O B S E S S E D.
I was driving everyone crazy. The Bf and I agreed on a date that he would propose by. Well, didn''t happen. I threatened to leave him. Really, I did! Over a stupid ring. That''s when I took a step back, grew the hell up, and stopped being sooo materialistic. He cannot afford the diamond or ring I want right now. And you know what? I''m FINE with that now. I honestly would be fine with a plain band!! I can''t believe I let my emotions get so crazy.

Well good news, we didn''t break up. LOL very good news. I told him I was sorry for putting such awful pressure on him and things got much better. SO much better that we have started looking at rings again--- in his price range! I still LOVE diamonds, LOVE this website and look at rings. But something about becoming so crazy about rings that I was going to break up with him over what---- a few months after my "dead-line" put me in my place.

I am crazy in love with him and would do anything for him-- including not being so bent over getting a specific diamond and a specific setting.

Thought I would shoot out a quick post. Just because I wanted to be engaged by our 2yr anniversary doesn''t mean it will happen-- even if we both wanted it. I look at several friends that are in relationships around that time frame and wonder why those girls aren''t crazy. YOU KNOW WHY? Because instead of getting so hung up about the future, they are spending every day with their BF like it''s the last. The amount of time that we will be BF/GF is so much shorter than husband&wife. So, I''ve learned to step back, chill, and love the time I have with him NOW. NOW NOW NOW.

 

[gwendolyn]

Awww, honey, you just put a big ol'' grin on my face. I''m so glad the two of you have gotten through this and that you''ve got your priorities right. I love it when people appreciate what they have like it could all be gone tomorrow, because I think that''s one of the best ways to not take for granted what wonderful things you have!

 

[ams0124]

style="WIDTH: 96.58%; HEIGHT: 165px">Date: 11/12/2008 4:59:02 AM
Author:that_someone_special


Thought I would shoot out a quick post. Just because I wanted to be engaged by our 2yr anniversary doesn''t mean it will happen-- even if we both wanted it. I look at several friends that are in relationships around that time frame and wonder why those girls aren''t crazy. YOU KNOW WHY? Because instead of getting so hung up about the future, they are spending every day with their BF like it''s the last. The amount of time that we will be BF/GF is so much shorter than husband&wife. So, I''ve learned to step back, chill, and love the time I have with him NOW. NOW NOW NOW.

What an awesome perspective!! I''m so glad you shared your story with us...and that you''ve decided to start posting again.

. I think at this "waiting" period it is easy to loose sight of what''s really important...and every once in a while we all need a swift kick in the a$$.

Anyway I''m so glad that everything worked out for you....and I''m glad that you''ll be coming around again.

 

[i_heart_cushions]

I''m glad you guys didn''t break up over it! And I''m happy that you were able to see the big picture and realize it really is just a ring....but that doesn''t mean you can''t enjoy looking at other people''s rings! So browse all you want here!!! You are in good company, don''t worry. I''m sure we''ve all felt this way. I know I have!! (otherwise, we wouldn''t be on here in the first place!).

I like to explain to my boyfriend that I''m not obsessive with a one track mind - I''m PASSIONATE. There is a difference, I swear.

Welcome back!

 

[ash313]

I, too, have a grin on my face! NOW NOW NOW should be the LIW mantra. It''s sooo important to recognize what we have at the moment, and enjoy our lives moment by moment!

Thanks for updating us! Always good to hear such lovely sentiments!

 

[Bia]

You changed your name! As I said before, glad to see you again!

Date: 11/12/2008 10:41:48 AM
Author: leeNY
I, too, have a grin on my face! NOW NOW NOW should be the LIW mantra. It''s sooo important to recognize what we have at the moment, and enjoy our lives moment by moment!

Thanks for updating us! Always good to hear such lovely sentiments!

I agree! It does feel like NOW NOW NOW should be our mantra.

I''m really glad to hear that you didn''t break it off and that you''re both feeling better about the whole thing. It''s really hard, but you guys already know how I feel. I should learn from you all and try to be patient but...::sigh::

Anyway, keep us posted. (((HUGS))) Let us know when you check out the bling!!!

 

[purselover]

sounds like you had a great revelation!!! welcome back, I look forward to hearing more from you.

 

[that_someone_special]

Date: 11/12/2008 10:55:24 AM
Author: Bia
You changed your name! As I said before, glad to see you again!

Yeah, every time I saw someone shorten it to TSS, I thought of toxic shock syndrome..

 

[that_someone_special]

Thank you for all of your responses-- I was a little scared to check responses- as I''m not entirely proud of the way I treated our relationship for awhile.

And I never really left, just stopped posting. I still checked some posts every week or more-- diamonds are too hard to stay away from!

As a side note, when I talked to my honey today he said he had a dream about what happened when he proposed to me (in his dream). I guess my (barely there patience) paid off-- I back off of the ring idea and he starts thinking about it!

 

[gladyskristen]

So glad to hear that you''ve worked things out and everything''s going well. I have the same shameful past as you, and fortunately, I''m also still with SO. Welcome back, sista!

 

[Dreamgirl]

That is a good way to look at things! Glad to see you back too.