Pressure via Pricescope

[Smurfysmiles]

well i got engaged and am stillll addicted, im sure after the wedding ill move on over to the family thread teehee

 

[tabu]

My addiction to PS also decreased (a little) when my BF proposed, however, once you leave LIW you become a BIW so you get to discuss all your wedding plans!!! Personally, I''m having a much better time over there but like everyone else said.... your pretty much screwed

I think its a good thing though that she is here, it''s a great place for us girls to discuss our feelings, and you should feel good she''s thinking about spending the rest of her life with you and sharing it

 

[Steel]

I though it was troll-ish too....

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

ahahaa i got a good laugh out of the OP and subsequent posts by the bf. he may be a sh*t disturber but i am sure his gf already knows that! he is funny!

 

[honey22]

Date: 1/7/2009 11:51:42 PM
Author: micromini1428
Honestly,


I want to take interest in her interests - thus the post... Did not know people take this stuff so seriously

. Should have got the hint after the vicious punch to my pudendum.

I don''t think you intentionally meant to upset her, and I don''t see your post as offensive, as I can imagine that you were doing it in good faith.

However, as one of the long-timer LIWs (until recently) I can attest that we all go a bit mad when we are LIWing. Many of us who post in LIW see PS as our little safe haven, where we can be completely honest and open about out feelings, and have a vent or a rant when we want too. I found that before I was engaged, I tried hiding PS from DF and none of my friends knew about my addiction until we were engaged. My DF knows not to read my posts unless there are on Rocky Talky etc, but in LIWs and BWW etc where we post more personal stuff, that''s my place to hang

Also, you might find that the negative comments towards your post may come from PSers who feel this way too. LIW can be a really stressful emotional time for some girls, so understand where your GF is coming from. She is probably feeling a litte embarrassed, humiliated and probably a lot defensive of her little safe haven. I am sure she will come around.

Us ladies do take this stuff seriously, for some it''s a huge thing for them and it''s very serious. All affairs of the heart are serious

Good luck with your gf, or maybe FFI ? Head on over to the boys proposal threads and get some ideas

 

[micromini1428]

Wow,

Lots of responses. Thanks girls. Guess the site will not be a phase for her.

Where can I find out what all these abbreviations stand for (DF, ect)? Also, why am I a troll? I just noticed that my GF (which I will not name, cause that would be embarrassing for her) is on here all the time and I wanted to see what all the hubbub was about.

 

[sammyj]

Date: 1/8/2009 8:57:11 PM
Author: micromini1428
Wow,

Lots of responses. Thanks girls. Guess the site will not be a phase for her.

Where can I find out what all these abbreviations stand for (DF, ect)? Also, why am I a troll? I just noticed that my GF (which I will not name, cause that would be embarrassing for her) is on here all the time and I wanted to see what all the hubbub was about.

You seem like a good guy with good intentions...really.

In my earlier post I said you sounded like DF = DancingFire, a PSer on here who likes to stir the pot and use this emotie

....a lot!!!

Here''s a list of other abbreviations. Have fun here!

 

[PrincessMiaPuff]

haha this is a cute post. definitely not a phase my FI thought it was when we were talking about getting engaged. I then moved over to bride section after that watch out family forum babies here we come!! Seriously buy her a ring so she can start the next phase!

Good Luck!

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Micromini, I have to say that your post gave me and BF a good 10-minute discussion whether you were being offensive or not. Let''s just say you have someone (him) in your corner...

 

[trillionaire]

My SO loves forums, and posts in several. I would hope I wouldn''t get attacked and criticized if I posted on one. I thought the OP was perfectly fine in his post, and not insensitive. JMHO.

Anyways, I think it depends on the person how long they hang around. I hope to disappear off of PS someday, but that because I love the beauty of diamonds, but truly do believe that they are *waste* of money. Sorry, just how I feel, but I am pretty atypical... I want a diamond e-ring... after that, I''ll find a forum for the next thing I am into.

 

[bee*]

I didn''t see anything insensitive in the first post-D calls PS my weird forum and I call his forums the same! To answer the question, I''ve been here over 2.5 years and am still posting away happily! It never ends.

 

[that_someone_special]

If you were my BF i''d be pissed too

 

[CNOS128]

Sorry - why is the topic of the post "Pressure via Pricescope?"


And, I''m not sure if the original post was insensitive, but you can bet that if my boyfriend did something to piss me off to the point of not sitting down to eat with him, and he knew about it, but then did it again 25 seconds later - I''d feel like that was pretty insensitive.
Also, if I were interested in something that I took seriously and my boyfriend wanted to know how long my little "phase" would last, I''d think that was a little condescending. And I wouldn''t like him asking a bunch of strangers rather than speaking to me directly.

But that''s just me.

 

[Amanda.Rx]

I admit, I''m addicted to the site, and my boyfriend rolls his eyes everytime I log on. I expect him to. As far as her not eating with you... that''s something we can''t help you with. I personally don''t think your comment was THAT insensitive. You''re probably curious, and wondering why she spends so much time here.

For some, it''s a phase. For others, it''s not. I think it just depends on what your girlfriend gets out of it. It may be an outlet for her, and she may be able to discuss things on the site that you would get sick of hearing about. It''s nice to have a group of ladies to vent to.

I understand that you''re probably frustrated that she spends a lot of time on here, though. Just know that it can be therapeutic for women.

For me, I honestly doubt I will keep coming back to this site in the future once my career takes off and I start a family of my own. It''s fun for now, since I''m in school and have nobody to look after but myself. I think it would be helpful for wedding planning, too, though. Many of the women here are married and can give out some good tips for wedding planning.

Look at it this way: cheaper than a wedding planner.

 

[Steel]

Date: 1/9/2009 4:07:39 PM
Author: TheBigT
Sorry - why is the topic of the post ''Pressure via Pricescope?''


And, I''m not sure if the original post was insensitive, but you can bet that if my boyfriend did something to piss me off to the point of not sitting down to eat with him, and he knew about it, but then did it again 25 seconds later - I''d feel like that was pretty insensitive.
Also, if I were interested in something that I took seriously and my boyfriend wanted to know how long my little ''phase'' would last, I''d think that was a little condescending. And I wouldn''t like him asking a bunch of strangers rather than speaking to me directly.

But that''s just me.

Big ol'' ditto to highlighted parts...hence the troll comment.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Date: 1/9/2009 4:07:39 PM
Author: TheBigT
Sorry - why is the topic of the post ''Pressure via Pricescope?''


And, I''m not sure if the original post was insensitive, but you can bet that if my boyfriend did something to piss me off to the point of not sitting down to eat with him, and he knew about it, but then did it again 25 seconds later - I''d feel like that was pretty insensitive.
Also, if I were interested in something that I took seriously and my boyfriend wanted to know how long my little ''phase'' would last, I''d think that was a little condescending. And I wouldn''t like him asking a bunch of strangers rather than speaking to me directly.

But that''s just me.

DITTO!

In answer to the question, I''ve been a member since ''04, engaged and married in ''06, took a little time away, and came back on a more regular basis sometime last year. I don''t foresee leaving for any reason unless I just have no time because of work.

Pricescope is a godsend for most men. When I was a LIW, and I know so many others will agree, 90% of the heated discussions I might have picked with my now husband over proposal and marriage timing were diffused thanks to the kindness of the women who have been there, and were going through it with me at the time. Your sensitivity to EVERYTHING goes up when you''re waiting for a proposal, especially if you don''t know it''s coming, and catastrophic things could have happened to my relationship if I didn''t have a place to ask "what''s going on?"

Pricescope doesn''t generate the pressure - it gives your SO a place where she can vent, rant if she needs to, and eliminate you from being a sounding board when you obviously don''t want to hear it.

My DH thanks PS everyday for the diamond knowledge, and the community of support we have here.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Okay, first of all...I think that the OP was totally fine posting/saying what he did (no offense to his girlfriend, of course...)

We all come here to "discuss" our feelings about being engaged, married, just dating...whatever. And just because a man comes onto this site and speaks from his view point about how he''s seeing his gf as being ''obsessed'' ... that doesn''t mean anyone has the right to jump all over him...bottome line, thats his opinion, and he''s expressing it and this is still a forum. And, BTW, I do read a lot of posts on this section of PS that lead me to believe some woman care way more about "getting the ring" than actually "getting the man" or being married. And I find that view point far more disturbing than some guying feeling pressured by his girlfriend getting her facts together.