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Alright, I am looking for any and all ideas for promise rings. I am open minded, but you all have much more "experience" in looking for/at/etc these type things.

She likes:

Stones: Diamonds, Blue Topaz, Alexandrite
Favorite Stone Shape: Round
Metals: White Gold, Platinum
Styles to avoid: Antique and related

She has mentioned liking the Tiffany Solitaire and three stone rings.

She likes clean looks. Such as the Sirena Collection Pendant Earrings

I haven''t given this to her, but I have a strong feeling she will love this as well:
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Maybe the combined power of PS can find some other ideas...

Budget is well not a factor but for numbers sake $4,000
 
I''ll be honest, I don''t really understand what a "promise" ring is. If you intend to marry her, why not, um, propose marriage with an engagement ring?

If you''re going to go the promise ring route, though, is it your intention that the promise ring be upgraded to an engagement ring at some point, or will you get a whole new e-ring? Will the promise ring become a right-hand ring at some point? If you plan to use it to upgrade to an e-ring, you''ll want to choose a vendor that has a tradeup policy.

Will a promise ring be worn on the right hand or left? Generally, if it''s not an engagement ring, I wouldn''t do a diamond, and especially not in a Tiffany solitaire setting - that just says engagement. I''d suggest a colored gemstone (post on the colored stones board) for a non-engagement ring. The other tricks for disguising a diamond as a "not-engagement-ring" usually involve halos, and it sounds like that''s not her taste. Have you thought of getting her another piece of diamond jewelry, a pendant or bracelet?
 
Although I don''t necessarily get the promise ring thing either, you seem set on that, so... what about a band - maybe a diamond / colored stone band? Then, once you are married, she could ''stack'' this band with her engagement / wedding rings? Just an idea. Facets have some bands like this:

http://www.signedpieces.com - under ''colored stone eternity bands''
 
I agree with what milton said. If you''re still set on the promise ring idea, I wouldn''t get a ring in a tiffany setting as that just screams e-ring. What about a sapphire or a gemstone set in a band?
 
I second the stacking band idea, or if you want something more e-ringy maybe something like this?



ETA: I didn't see your price point, maybe something like this? Blingy without being overdone. WF band
 
I agree with the others about the look of promise rings vs engagement rings.

Are you going to mind people thinking that she''s engaged? Is she going to mind that since she''ll likely be asked about it more than you?
 
Also, and not to be politically incorrect or anything, but if "budget is not a factor" for a promise ring, then if people think that is her engagement ring, they may think you just cheaped out on it. (Insert standard disclaimers that $4k would get you a lovely e-ring and is a respectable budget and all). I''m just saying, if you have that much to pay for a casual jewelry purchase, then I''m guessing that both she and your social circle might expect a more sizeable e-ring purchase, so she might end up annoyed that people both assume that you''re engaged when you''re not, and also that you sort of cheaped out on the ring.
 
IMHO - it''s a nice thought, but why don''t you just save up for a "real" promise of marriage, an engagement ring? Or if you really want to buy her a ring, then don''t call it a "promise," just call it a gift. I dunno...maybe I''m weird.
 
To be fair, tickintime asked what kind of promise ring his GF might like, not if its appropriate or wise to buy her one. No one else knows what their situation may be and while part of what makes this forum great is the diversity of opinions and thoughtfulness of replies IMHO I feel like this thread is drifting into less helpful waters. What if one of them has to move far away soon? What if they''re not from an engagement culture? What if we try to answer the question asked?


just my $o.o2
 
Date: 2/7/2008 3:33:31 PM
Author: mercoledi
To be fair, tickintime asked what kind of promise ring his GF might like, not if its appropriate or wise to buy her one. No one else knows what their situation may be and while part of what makes this forum great is the diversity of opinions and thoughtfulness of replies IMHO I feel like this thread is drifting into less helpful waters. What if one of them has to move far away soon? What if they''re not from an engagement culture? What if we try to answer the question asked?


just my $o.o2
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I agree...and to worry about what others think (ie: cheaped out on the e-ring)...who cares what others think? Honestly, since this is not meant to be an engagement ring I would not do a Tiffany solitaire. I am not at all familiar with this vendor, but this ring is pretty
http://www.jewelrycentral.com/product.asp?pID=3258&cID=94&c=72038

This one is pretty as well
http://www.sndgems.com/blue-topaz-rings3.htm
 
I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your advise and opinions.
 
If you and your GF want a Promise Ring, then a Promise Ring you should have! Good luck finding the perfect one
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What about a 5 or 7 stone diamond band? Maybe something like kcoursolle''s custom 5 stone band from White Flash (https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/my-wf-5-stone-u-shaped-amazing-wedding-band.54795/), but probably with a bit smaller diamonds, or one from Signed Pieces?

I really like the idea of some kind of band that can be stacked with other rings or eventually worn with her engagement and wedding rings. Your girlfriend seems to like very classic and streamlined things, and a diamond band is so versatile and will be worn even after she has an engagement ring.

One thing though is that if you would like this be something that she can wear for a long time, I would stay away from eternity rings. If you both ever plan on having children, it''s very possible her ring size could change and it would be a shame to have a ring that she can''t wear later in life because it can''t be resized.
 
It looks like you''ve got a stone picked out, have you looked at niwaka at all? They have modern, austere settings that evoke tiffany without being a copy.

Niwaka

Be warned, their website is a bit of a pill.
 
Regarding the .47ct RB...I reserved that stone, just in case. That is if you are talking about the GoG D/IF thread...

I guess I should explain the promise ring as seen by myself.

We are young 22/21, we both have several (possibly 10+ for myself) years of school left. We have talked about engagements, marriage, time-lines, children, etc. We both agree that getting when she graduates or shortly after would be the most wise idea. I would not want to invoke the stress (excitement/distraction) being newly engaged brings and starting to plan a wedding brings with it while she is in school. With that said we are looking at a minimum of June 2011 being the absolute earliest, this may move later with residency and other schooling.

It is not so much a promise to love her, be faithful, propose, etc. As it is a physical reminder that I am here and many more days as ''us/our/we'' are coming. We are not really ready for an e-ring as this time it is more important to focus on school.

She would wear it on her left hand, this is her personal preference.
 
That''s a great reason to get a promise ring!

I think everyone was thrown off by your budget being so big.

My fiancee gave me a promise ring also (although it was only $200, and the diamond was of terrible quality!) Anyway, like you, we were very young (I think 19) and still in college. It was just a nice gift from him to show his commitment, but we were obviously not financially ready or old enough to actually get engaged. I wore it everyday (on my left ring finger) for years until it was replaced by and engagement ring!

However, my fiancee jumped the gun a little, and proposed to me when he graduated college, but I was still in school. Of course I was thrilled when it happened, but again we just were not financially secure enough to be planning a wedding. So we have been engaged for 3 years and will finally be married soon. I do wish he would have held off until we were actually ready to get married! On the other hand I am glad I at least got to wear a nice ring that showed I was "taken" for the past few years. So I think your idea is an excellent plan!

Btw, if she wears it on her left hand she will be asked every day if she is engaged or married. I was, and it did get embarrassing since the ring was so cheap. But obviously not enough to move it to the other hand! Obviously her ring will be much nicer than mine was but that will just add to the confusion. I just explained it was a promise ring (and some people think it has something to do with virginity, because Jessica Simpson''s dad gave her one for that purpose!), but she can also call it a preengagement ring too.

Look at it this way, most people will think "WOW! If that''s the promise ring, imagine how gorgeous the Ering will be!" Which is what I thought when I saw your budget!
 
For a promise ring, I prefer the 3 stone look with a colored center stone and small side stones, like the blue topaz Diamond Dana posted. A band would look too much like a wedding band to me. I''m all for wearing whatever you like on the wedding ring finger. I wore a ring there for a long time and I wasn''t even seeing anyone, and I know people who don''t wear a ring at all even married. However, if you don''t want to have to explain to everyone that it''s not an ering, it''s easier to go with something that doesn''t look like one.
 
I am not independently wealthy, as I am sure most of you may think...
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However, I do have more money coming in then I have going out at the CURRENT TIME. I could save it and invest, yadda, yadda...But I would spend it on a new snowboard, computer, and some junk I won''t use....Why not make her day/life a little shinier!

My budget is inflated, due to the fact that I am working as an intern at a major pharmaceutical company and we all know they have tons of the green stuff. It will quickly fall back to reality after that is over and I know I will not be able to offer her anything similar after wards.

PS: She is not materialistic, quite the opposite. She is more than happy being with me and having nothing at all, this I know.
 
Ah, go ahead and get her that 0.47 D IF diamond ring. Put it into a simple solitaire setting. I think it''s really neat that you want to get her a special gift, and that is a very special gift.

As someone who got married at 22 (three weeks after my college graduation) and then went to graduate school, I just want to say that ultimately marriage is nothing more than hanging out together. All the rest of the trappings are just trappings. And, I think it would be very cool if that lady of yours ends up wearing that beautiful diamond ring for the rest of her life! Personally, I think a 1/2 ct ring is a great every day, wear it just about anywhere, size.

Best wishes to you both.
 
I''d get her a two row eternity ring for the right hand. Avoid the ering misunderstanding. Exeldiamonds.com had a nice one for about$3085. Check it out.
 
Okay, I understand your situation now. I think you already know that I am opposed to using a small engagement ring as a promise ring. If it''s not an e-ring, I think it should not look like one.
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My suggestion would be to get her a very fine quality gemstone ring that she can cherish the rest of her life and wear on her right hand once you are really engaged. To me, that would be the perfect promise ring. You two will know the meaning of it and it can easily be worn on the left hand and not be so confused with an e-ring.

Here are some suggestions:

http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/Sapphires/Jewelry/Rings/Jewelry=J577

http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/Sapphires/Jewelry/Rings/Jewelry=J855

http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/Sapphires/Jewelry/Rings/Jewelry=J762

http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/Sapphires/Jewelry/Rings/Jewelry=J130
 
P.S. Blue topaz is a really inexpensive stone and also not durable. That''s why I posted some lighter blue sapphires for you. They are the most durable after diamonds and are much more desirable stones.
 
I''m gonna throw my vote in as well and suggest an eternity band instead of a solitaire.. That way she can wear the band with her e-ring and wedding later on after you get married.. She''ll get more use out of it that way! And she won''t constantly have people coming up to her asking if she got engaged! My itty bitty promise ring 2 years ago got engagement questions and I know that a much much larger solitaire would get WAY more questions!
 
I think an eternity band is going to make it appear that she is married. I really think it would be wise to stay away from engagement rings and wedding bands for your promise ring!
 
As much as I love the idea of a diamond band that she can later wear with her wedding set, I do think that it will appear as a wedding ring now. I love the rings that Diamondseeker posted from the Natural Sapphire Company...especially the first one, and the third is a close second
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I really like the second and fourth one DS posted with preference to the second :) A little under your budget but with the leftovers you could always get her some earrings as well
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Tickintime - I think the idea of a "promise" ring is lovely - although over here in Australia they are called friendship rings.

My now FI bought me one for my 30th birthday and spent just over $5K which is excessive to some people but not in a lot of the circles we travel in. I wear it on my right hand, even now we''re engaged. I thought it was a beautiful gesture - made me feel taken, I knew he was committed but we weren''t in a place where we were ready for engagement.

I say go for your instinct - I showed my FI a lot of different friendship rings I liked - and he ended up picking one all by himself that was more lovely than I could have ever hoped.

My friendship ring doesn''t look like my engagement ring though, and I was glad he didn''t pick a solitaire style setting.
 
a promise ring sounds good. mmm, sounds like med school is in the future, i'd say save as much as possible before going in!!!! books and supplies are $$$ and if you are planning on living off of loans, some schools have a cap to how much they allow ea student to borrow and most of the time, it's not enough.

so, yes, promise ring sounds good but u can find many, many nice ones for ~2k. (that's 2k + interest, less u have to pay back years later). if you dont have to take out loans, then go for it!! just my 2 cents.
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maybe some here? (shane & co)
http://www.shaneco.com/catalog/Catalog.asp?PageLevelID=3&numResults=16&Page=1&bRange=1001&tRange=2000&pos=2

if you definitely want diamonds: (robbinsbros.com)
http://www.robbinsbros.com/ProductSearch/searchResult.asp?p=1&prodTypeID=1118&prodAttrID3=102&prodAttrValueID3=All+Ring+Styles%2CAll&attcount=3&searchString=Platinum%26nbsp%3B%3E%26nbsp%3BLadies%26nbsp%3B%3E%26nbsp%3BAll+Ring+Styles&pType=ring&intIsJewelry=0

hope it helps!
 
Date: 2/7/2008 9:02:29 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Okay, I understand your situation now. I think you already know that I am opposed to using a small engagement ring as a promise ring. If it''s not an e-ring, I think it should not look like one.
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My suggestion would be to get her a very fine quality gemstone ring that she can cherish the rest of her life and wear on her right hand once you are really engaged. To me, that would be the perfect promise ring. You two will know the meaning of it and it can easily be worn on the left hand and not be so confused with an e-ring.


Here are some suggestions:


http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/Sapphires/Jewelry/Rings/Jewelry=J577


http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/Sapphires/Jewelry/Rings/Jewelry=J855


http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/Sapphires/Jewelry/Rings/Jewelry=J762


http://www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com/Sapphires/Jewelry/Rings/Jewelry=J130
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The first one is spectacular! I love it. Thanks for the ideas, it gives me much more to think about. I will have a talk with her (although she has no opinion on the matter, her request [she wants promise/engagement/etc "commitment"-ring to be a complete suprise])

I will find out what she thinks of when she pictures a p-ring, Med school will be pushed back a year for post-bac research and a heck of a lot of working (mmm text books!) I could also add a minor to my degree (or a dual degree) and add another co-op to my undergrad time, this would give me another 6-months of full time working, before I graduate.

I will figure out the money, I have never had lots of it, but always have my needs fulfilled. I have her after-all!
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I am glad you liked the idea of considering a gemstone ring! I do think it would be very special and something she could enjoy forever. I hope you''ll come back and let us know what you decide!
 
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