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Rough_Rock
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- Feb 21, 2009
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Hi all!
So I am currently in the process of buying the diamond and picking out a setting, but I have a couple questions about asking for blessing. I'm somewhat of a traditionalist, and my girlfriend is quite close with her family, so I think it is the right thing to do. Plus, I'm hoping to incorporate them somehow into the post-proposal celebration, so I would need to tell them beforehand anyway!
Herein lies my dilemma...they live in Toronto, and I am in Washington DC, while my girlfriend is at college in New Hampshire. I've met her parents a few times, over the past 2+ years we've been dating, and we've gotten along great, including the time I spent at her house over the Christmas holidays last year, and I am confident they will be excited about this. But it's really hard for me to get to them in Toronto, or meet them in New Hampshire without tipping off my girlfriend! I've thought about the phone, but that seems flippant, and I'm thinking that a nice letter might be the better way? I'm hoping that maybe in the letter I could explain everything, and then maybe at some point down the road when we are in the same city, I can have a better chance of getting them alone to talk about it in person because they will already be tipped off.
Does anyone have any ideas on this or experiences with something similar? I want to go the traditional route, but it's so difficult for me with the distance, and I'm hoping to find a way to do it where I can be, perhaps, less casual than calling them up on the telephone some night of the week. Maybe if I wrote them a letter to set up a phone call with them?
Thanks!
So I am currently in the process of buying the diamond and picking out a setting, but I have a couple questions about asking for blessing. I'm somewhat of a traditionalist, and my girlfriend is quite close with her family, so I think it is the right thing to do. Plus, I'm hoping to incorporate them somehow into the post-proposal celebration, so I would need to tell them beforehand anyway!
Herein lies my dilemma...they live in Toronto, and I am in Washington DC, while my girlfriend is at college in New Hampshire. I've met her parents a few times, over the past 2+ years we've been dating, and we've gotten along great, including the time I spent at her house over the Christmas holidays last year, and I am confident they will be excited about this. But it's really hard for me to get to them in Toronto, or meet them in New Hampshire without tipping off my girlfriend! I've thought about the phone, but that seems flippant, and I'm thinking that a nice letter might be the better way? I'm hoping that maybe in the letter I could explain everything, and then maybe at some point down the road when we are in the same city, I can have a better chance of getting them alone to talk about it in person because they will already be tipped off.
Does anyone have any ideas on this or experiences with something similar? I want to go the traditional route, but it's so difficult for me with the distance, and I'm hoping to find a way to do it where I can be, perhaps, less casual than calling them up on the telephone some night of the week. Maybe if I wrote them a letter to set up a phone call with them?
Thanks!