PSers w/ Multiple E-rings

[SB621]

This might be a long rambling post so I apologize in advance.

Since joining PS I have longed for a 4-5ct OMB/ OMC to call my own. I see Armywifes, Haven and JustGinger’s gorgeous solitaries. They are saved to my desktop and I just stare at them all day long. DH thinks I’m crazy but the man also wants me to be happy. If a large OMB/OMC is what will do the trick then he OKed me to start my search, but then guilt sets in.

Here is the problem. Maybe 3 years ago DH upgraded my center diamond to 2ct D center and my last anniversary we upgraded the setting to a VC halo. It isn’t even a year old!!! I absolutely adore the ring and really don’t want to get rid of it. DH and I have agreed on a budget for my solitaire, which I think is doable if I troll ebay or go through OWD/ JbEG but it doesn’t leave a lot of room. I feel very guilty and I’m in discussion with possible options with DH.

1- I could sell my VC ring and center stone to help fund my solitaire
2- I could trade in my RB center for a larger OMC/OMB through the jeweler I bought it from. I don’t think they have a huge selection of exactly what I’m looking for but given time I think they could find something. If I did the trade in, my expenses would at least be cut in half.
3- I could just keep my current ring and proceed forward with the purchase of a solitaire

The solitaire will be lower in color and have a whole different feel to it compared to my D colored halo. I would like it set low with double claw prongs. Perhaps some engraving on the underside/ carriage but nothing crazy. The solitaire will be closer to M-N-O-P. I wouldn’t wear either ring as a RHR as I’m having a 3 stone made right now by SK so really my halo and the solitaire I would trade in and out as my engagement ring. Do you think that is crazy? I just can’t imagine spending so much money on 2 rings that I wouldn’t wear all the time. My DH doesn’t get buying a ring that I only wear sometimes as an ering.

DH ultimately doesn’t want me to make any rash decisions. He thinks I should just start my hunt and once I have the solitaire and start wearing it see how I feel about it. Then move on from there. Ok so my long ramble is over….I would just like to hear from other PSers who have multiple engagement rings. Do you switch them out often? Do you find you wear your rings equally at different times? Are you sorry or do you have any regrets about purchasing a second (or third/ forth)? Do you find that having multiple rings takes away from the importance of an engagement ring or makes it less sentimental?

Thanks in advance!

 

[Mayk]

This might be a long rambling post so I apologize in advance.

Since joining PS I have longed for a 4-5ct OMB/ OMC to call my own. I see Armywifes, Haven and JustGinger’s gorgeous solitaries. They are saved to my desktop and I just stare at them all day long. DH thinks I’m crazy but the man also wants me to be happy. If a large OMB/OMC is what will do the trick then he OKed me to start my search, but then guilt sets in.

Here is the problem. Maybe 3 years ago DH upgraded my center diamond to 2ct D center and my last anniversary we upgraded the setting to a VC halo. It isn’t even a year old!!! I absolutely adore the ring and really don’t want to get rid of it. DH and I have agreed on a budget for my solitaire, which I think is doable if I troll ebay or go through OWD/ JbEG but it doesn’t leave a lot of room. I feel very guilty and I’m in discussion with possible options with DH.

1- I could sell my VC ring and center stone to help fund my solitaire
2- I could trade in my RB center for a larger OMC/OMB through the jeweler I bought it from. I don’t think they have a huge selection of exactly what I’m looking for but given time I think they could find something. If I did the trade in, my expenses would at least be cut in half.
3- I could just keep my current ring and proceed forward with the purchase of a solitaire

The solitaire will be lower in color and have a whole different feel to it compared to my D colored halo. I would like it set low with double claw prongs. Perhaps some engraving on the underside/ carriage but nothing crazy. The solitaire will be closer to M-N-O-P. I wouldn’t wear either ring as a RHR as I’m having a 3 stone made right now by SK so really my halo and the solitaire I would trade in and out as my engagement ring. Do you think that is crazy? I just can’t imagine spending so much money on 2 rings that I wouldn’t wear all the time. My DH doesn’t get buying a ring that I only wear sometimes as an ering.

DH ultimately doesn’t want me to make any rash decisions. He thinks I should just start my hunt and once I have the solitaire and start wearing it see how I feel about it. Then move on from there. Ok so my long ramble is over….I would just like to hear from other PSers who have multiple engagement rings. Do you switch them out often? Do you find you wear your rings equally at different times? Are you sorry or do you have any regrets about purchasing a second (or third/ forth)? Do you find that having multiple rings takes away from the importance of an engagement ring or makes it less sentimental?

Thanks in advance!

I don't think you are crazy... very lucky girl.... I'm actually toying with selling my trannie next year...(I just got it finished in August) because I think I want an Emerald Cut... and I can't have more than one extra.... I have college and cars to pay for!!!

 

[SB621]

Thanks Mayk! (by the way congrats on selling your eternity! I saw it was sold in the pre-loved section!)

Really an Emerald cut? I have to say those are growing on me too! Several step cuts (asschers and emeralds) have been posted lately and I'm totally swooning over them. I only wish they would face up larger as I hate to say it but size really matters to me. Ultimately I want my OMC/OMB to be at least 10.5mm- closer to 11mm would make me extremely happy.

Gosh my savings account would be so much more comforting had I never found PS...dang google!

 

[susimoo]

Sarah

I too have a VC, as well as a very modest antique cushion (1.31) for every day wear.

I will either trade in the cushion and go bigger, whilst keeping my VC. Or I will set the cushion, in a fabulous new setting.
After that it will either be a step cut or a three stone ER.

None of these will be right hand rings. All will be ER's, to worn as the mood takes me.

I wake up and feel different everyday and as such, I want my look to be different, everyday.

I have NO problem with having multiple ER's!!!

 

[Mayk]

Thanks Mayk! (by the way congrats on selling your eternity! I saw it was sold in the pre-loved section!)

Really an Emerald cut? I have to say those are growing on me too! Several step cuts (asschers and emeralds) have been posted lately and I'm totally swooning over them. I only wish they would face up larger as I hate to say it but size really matters to me. Ultimately I want my OMC/OMB to be at least 10.5mm- closer to 11mm would make me extremely happy.

Gosh my savings account would be so much more comforting had I never found PS...dang google!

I know the feeling...

Very excited about the band.. a man with cancer buying a gift for his wife... very sweet... made me feel good!!!

 

[Circe]

Those are three of the more disparate looks I can imagine. There's always the chance that if you got rid of one, you'd both have lost money on the deal, AND miss it, possibly costing you more to replace it.

Honestly, if it were me, I'd want to keep them all and to just juggle them as mood indicated. It's what I do with my eternity rings - I might be able to wear my e-ring on one hand and my anniversary on the other, but if I tried to wear all of my eternities at once, I'd be cutting off circulation. I figure it's worth the sunk cost to be able to enjoy the variety and memories. Sure, if I sold them, I'd have the OMB pendant I want sooner rather than later ... but with a little patience, I can have both!

That said, do you think you might be more like Demelza? She says since getting her transitional, she doesn't really wear her MRB. But I think that might be a decision to save until after you get the second ring. If you do wind up selling, either you can put those funds towards a fantastic vintage-y SingleStone setting ... or something else. There are always more bling projects, no?

 

[Phoenix]

Sorry I am a bit confused! At the moment, you have a 2ct D colour VC halo ring and another modern RB simple solitaire? And you have a 3-stone ring coming? If you have both the 2ct halo ring AND another MRB solitaire, I'd either trade-in/ upgrade the solitaire or sell it to get your dream antique stone.

The halo ring and 3-stone ring are totally different looks, as Circe has said.

Anyhow, I totally sympathise. As you may know, I've put up a bunch of diamonds for sale - out of guilt more than anything else. However, I still have a halo pear, my 5ct Holly (which as you know is a solitaire) and a 3ct which is another solitaire. And I am searching for an antique stone. I plan to halo either the 5ct or the antique (but I plan on selling the 3ct at some point in the future - still need to convince the hubs to let me sell it). What's more, I am missing m 3-stone ring!

So bottom line: nothing wrong with having more than one ering!!

 

[SB621]

Mayk- that is wonderful about the ring. I'm happy it is going to a new home with what seems a very deserving couple.

Susimoo- I was hoping you would chime in since we are essentially have the exact same ring. I didn't realize you switched it out with another one though. For some reason that makes me feel so much more at ease with this whole thing. My friends practically worship my VC ring and will not understand that I want something a little different for other times. But they again they don't get my jewelry obesssion at all. Most of them are very content and happy with their mall store engagment rings.

CirceI guess I didn't even think about how different all 3 looks are, but you are right. A halo, a three stone and a solitare are as end of the spectrum as you can get. And I really do love them all equally.

I have been selling off a large portion of my jewelry and colored stone collection over the last few months to help fund my 3 stone project. I'm starting to think I might even sell some more. I have several rings that I ADORE but haven't worn in over a year. Since I plan on my 3 stone pretty much being my RHR all the time, there really is no point in keeping my RHR CS rings. But at the same time I'm not really ready to part with them. Perhaps I will just put out feelers. Ideally I would like to raise about 25% of the budget that DH and I agree on for the solitare, by selling off old stuff I don't wear or won't set. Then I feel like I won't be so guilty by making another large purchase this year.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I absolutely would LOVE to have multiple e-rings! The reason is that I can't have everything I love all in one! I sincerely love my Vatche Tiffany repro with well cut modern round brilliant, although I wouldn't mind if it were larger! But I also love the beauty of a Van Craeynest setting and would be thrilled to have that with an AVR/OEC! I'd love to have a halo with an antique cushion or AVC! I could give up the rb for an AVR, but I do not want to give up the setting I have. And an AVR sort of needs a setting of a particular style to make it a total package. So for me, having two e-rings would solve it. My problem is that I no longer work and I feel guilty spending that kind of money when we could save it for trips and things like that. My husband wants to retire early. And we have one more child to go to college. I do have 3 Beaudry RHR's in progress, though, and that is all I have planned unless I turn my current diamond into a 3 stone ring (this includes the sapphire one).

If I were you, I would not give up the VC ring that you have. As someone said, why lose money on a gorgeous ring?! I'd get the OEC/OMC and keep the one you have. I think you will want to wear it at times. It is beautiful and classic and hopefully you will have granddaughters to hand these rings down to. At least that is what I hope with each heirloom piece I buy. If you find that you never wear the VC after a couple of years, then you can rethink your plan. But I'd be very cautious about giving up a D color diamond for a low color cushion. I think you might regret it.

 

[SB621]

Sorry I am a bit confused! At the moment, you have a 2ct D colour VC halo ring and another modern RB simple solitaire? And you have a 3-stone ring coming? If you're having both the 2ct halo ring AND another MRB solitaire, I'd either trade-in/ upgrade the solitaire or sell it to get your dream antique stone.

The halo ring and 3-stone ring are totally different looks, as Circe has said.

Anyhow, I totally sympathise. As you may know, I've put up a bunch of diamonds for sale - out of guilt more than anything else. However, I still have a halo pear, my 5ct Holly (which as you know is a solitaire) and am searching for an antique stone. I plan to halo either the 5ct or the antique.

Sorry Phoenix I will clarify. I have a 2ct RB in a VC halo. My 3 stone ring is coming next month from SK (it also has a 2ct center though much lower in color O-P range with .50ctw sides). I plan on this being a RHR ring and will probably not wear it as an Ering.

Yes I saw some of your beauties up for sale. I almost bought your VC FLY ring when I lost my FLY in NYC, but decided to put those funds into something else. I have discovered that DSS sets in quickly so I really want to go for size this time around.

EDIT for spelling! Sorry!

 

[Phoenix]

Sorry I am a bit confused! At the moment, you have a 2ct D colour VC halo ring and another modern RB simple solitaire? And you have a 3-stone ring coming? If you're having both the 2ct halo ring AND another MRB solitaire, I'd either trade-in/ upgrade the solitaire or sell it to get your dream antique stone.

The halo ring and 3-stone ring are totally different looks, as Circe has said.

Anyhow, I totally sympathise. As you may know, I've put up a bunch of diamonds for sale - out of guilt more than anything else. However, I still have a halo pear, my 5ct Holly (which as you know is a solitaire) and am searching for an antique stone. I plan to halo either the 5ct or the antique.

Sorry Phoenix I will clarify. I have a 2ct RB in a VC halo. My 3 stone ring is coming next month from SK (it also has a 2ct center though much lower in color O-P range with .50ctw sides). I plan on this being a RHR ring and will probably not wear it as an Ering.

Yes I saw some of your beauties up for sale. I almost bought your VC FLY ring when I lost my FLY in NYC, but decided to put those funds into something else. I have discovered that DSS sets in quickly so I really want to go for size this time around.

EDIT for spelling! Sorry!

Ah I see. Look fwd to seeing your new 3-stone ring. As my edited post above says, I am really missing the 3-stone ring look, so I may recall one of the diamonds I've put up for sale and reset it into a 3-stone ring!

No worries. That's the exact reason I put it up for sale -the centre stone is too small for me as well. I didn't know you lost your FLY ring! Sorry to hear that. I assume you got the insurance payout (since you mentioned the funds) (?).

Can't wait to see your new antique stone!

ETA: I agree with DS.

 

[bunnycat]

I have 2 rings I switch between. One is a modern halo and the other an OEC. I switch out based on how I feel and where I'm going or how I'm dressed. I tend to wear colored stones on my right hand so the left is where diamonds generally go.

 

[SB621]

Sorry I am a bit confused! At the moment, you have a 2ct D colour VC halo ring and another modern RB simple solitaire? And you have a 3-stone ring coming? If you're having both the 2ct halo ring AND another MRB solitaire, I'd either trade-in/ upgrade the solitaire or sell it to get your dream antique stone.

The halo ring and 3-stone ring are totally different looks, as Circe has said.

Anyhow, I totally sympathise. As you may know, I've put up a bunch of diamonds for sale - out of guilt more than anything else. However, I still have a halo pear, my 5ct Holly (which as you know is a solitaire) and am searching for an antique stone. I plan to halo either the 5ct or the antique.

Sorry Phoenix I will clarify. I have a 2ct RB in a VC halo. My 3 stone ring is coming next month from SK (it also has a 2ct center though much lower in color O-P range with .50ctw sides). I plan on this being a RHR ring and will probably not wear it as an Ering.

Yes I saw some of your beauties up for sale. I almost bought your VC FLY ring when I lost my FLY in NYC, but decided to put those funds into something else. I have discovered that DSS sets in quickly so I really want to go for size this time around.

EDIT for spelling! Sorry!

Ah I see. Look fwd to seeing your new 3-stone ring. As my edited post above says, I am really missing the 3-stone ring look, so I may recall one of the diamonds I've put up for sale and reset it into a 3-stone ring!

No worries. That's the exact reason I put it up for sale -the centre stone is too small for me as well. I didn't know you lost your FLY ring! Sorry to hear that. I assume you got the insurance payout (since you mentioned the funds) (?).

Can't wait to see your new antique stone!

ETA: I agree with DS.

Yes it was insured. I'm more irritated then anything else by loosing it. It was a push persent for our daughter who I had last year. I tend to lose jewelry that has sentimental value I was hoping to give her that ring on her wedding day, so while the insurance was great to get the sentiment is completely gone.

 

[Phoenix]

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Yes it was insured. I'm more irritated then anything else by loosing it. It was a push persent for our daughter who I had last year. I tend to lose jewelry that has sentimental value I was hoping to give her that ring on her wedding day, so while the insurance was great to get the sentiment is completely gone.

Oh no, so sorry to hear that!

 

[Rosebloom]

I would definitely keep the VC! You have two children so two spectacular heirloom quality rings makes sense to me. (Hmmm... on this line of reasoning maybe you should have a third baby!). I think having two options will keep each of them fresh for you. And they really are such distinct looks.

I'd be cautious about selling your colored stone RHRs too. I could see how you might decide that your three stone is perfect with your (future) 5 carat OMC but you prefer a colored stone to pair with your VC.

But I do understand guilt over jewelry purchases and limited budgets. If selling was the only way to get the ring of your dreams then I'd say have a fire sale!

 

[SB621]

I would definitely keep the VC! You have two children so two spectacular heirloom quality rings makes sense to me. (Hmmm... on this line of reasoning maybe you should have a third baby!). I think having two options will keep each of them fresh for you. And they really are such distinct looks.

I'd be cautious about selling your colored stone RHRs too. I could see how you might decide that your three stone is perfect with your (future) 5 carat OMC but you prefer a colored stone to pair with your VC.

But I do understand guilt over jewelry purchases and limited budgets. If selling was the only way to get the ring of your dreams then I'd say have a fire sale!

Exactly! I have thought about it more this morning and I do think I will end up selling a few more items. I will keep the pieces that I truely love or that I would one day like to pass down to my son or daughter. But everything else I think I will get rid of. I believe it was Phoenix who posted not to log ago about having quality pieces over quantity and I think I'm getting to that same mindset. I would rather have fewer staple pieces that I constantly wear then a plethora of choices that don't see the light out of day outside of my bank safe.

 

[Laila619]

Me personally, I think having two e-rings is kind of a waste. I used to have two, and I found that I really only wore one much more than the other. It was just money sitting in my jewelry box. So I would probably sell the VC halo and use the funds towards a honking solitaire.

 

[rosetta]

I have a 1 ct F VVS cushion that I must admit I dont wear much as I wear my larger 3 stone more.

I'm keeping it forever because of sentimental reasons though (hubby proposed with it)

Honestly, if I got another ring, my three stone will have to go as I'm sure it wouldn't get worn much.

I tend to wear the biggest stone the most.

If you will wear more than one ring, keep it. If you honestly won't, then set it free!

 

[Christina...]

I have two e rings as well. A three stone with sapphire sides and a solitaire. I've kept the three stone because it was my original e ring but it really doesn't get worn much. I planned to wear it as a RHR but I've never gotten around to getting it sized. I'm one of the people that tend to wear the largest ring and the others just sit in my jewelry box waiting and waiting....but I love the idea of having an heirloom piece to hand down to each of my children and that alone would sway me to keep them both.

 

[Dreamer_D]

One ring to rule them ALL.

Sell it all and buy a single amazing piece that meets all your loves and desires, as big as your wildest dreams.

 

[SB621]

One ring to rule them ALL.

Sell it all and buy a single amazing piece that meets all your loves and desires, as big as your wildest dreams.

You are a total enabler! I'm surprized Enerchi hasn't jumped on this band wagon yet.

I think the plan right now is I'm going to sell some of my pieces, but hold onto my VC ring. Pending how much wear it gets a may or maynot sell it. I guess we will see down the road.

So if anyone sees a great OMB/ OMC out there that is 10.5mm + then feel free to email me as I'm offically SHOPPING!!!!!

 

[CharmyPoo]

One ring to rule them ALL.

Sell it all and buy a single amazing piece that meets all your loves and desires, as big as your wildest dreams.

I am starting to think this is the way to go. I have way too many rings and at the end of the day ... they all sit in the box.

 

[ForteKitty]

I'm trimming down my collection too, but I need more than just one big diamond. I need to keep at least a second bigger one on the other hand, and an array of colored stones because I get bored easily. If you do decide to sell, before you actually sell them, put them away for a while and see if you can handle just one ring. Last thing you want to do is sell at a loss and then realize you made a mistake.

 

[lknvrb4]

I do not see the purpose in having multiple erings, but that is me. I think one ring is enough.

 

[madelise]

No one can tell you how you'll feel or what you'll wear.. esp if you don't know yourself! I agree with Circe, keep them all until you get your upgrade, and decide to sell if you don't wear your older ones.

I have two small solitaires, one simple, and one in a halo. I have one eternity. I have one SS rolling ring, and one sapphire halo. I have one OEC edwardian. I rotate between A.L.L. of them, and give them a bunch of love. I don't rotate them day-to-day, but I'll miss wearing one, and I'll wear it for weeks, get sick of it, and trade. I wear all of them on my LH ring finger, too, even if they aren't e-rings. If I can give 6 rings enough loving, I'm sure you'll manage It would be horrible if you got rid of one because you thought you wouldn't wear it enough… and then you miss it a few years down the road, and have to spend MORE money to build the same piece again.

I get the monetary guilt. But if you are financially stable enough to afford the upgrade w/o selling your old pieces, do it. You can always sell the other pieces later.

 

[Polished]

I have one favourite e-ring that is my .47 diamond in a Van Craeynest setting that I adore and wear daily. However I have three others that are special because they are used less frequently - that special event, when I feel like more bling, when I'm wearing a particular colour or seeing people who enjoy jewelery, out comes the lighter sapphire ring or the darker Van Craeynest sapphire ring or the larger .72 diamond BGD ring. I would never trade my collection for one spectacular ring because it's not what I would feel comfortable or enjoy wearing. For me it's the package, I adore the settings, the stone, the complete look, which kind of makes variety fun.

 

[Rhea]

I like having multiples, but I don't have any big stones. My two are completely different styles and selling one of them wouldn't help me to afford a bigger one. I'd reconsider if I could get my dream ring by selling them and getting one ring.

 

[chrono]

I know I will never be happy with just one because I get bored with the same look. I rotate my diamonds and coloured stones every week or so.

 

[LaraOnline]

Personally, I'll be keeping a single engagement ring on the left hand. for now, anyway. Haven't been married 10 years yet, praps the more-married amongst us have an opinion that matters more on this.

I had to change up my original (just desperate for a 'grown up's' ring lol), but of course I have kept the 'cute' lil original guy and matching band (diamonds not worth reselling in any case).

Recently, I had a bit of a personal tragedy and I have surprised myself by suddenly considering going bigger on my 1.6c sol. (the new engagement ring)
But.... really not sure at all I'm going to go there. I went to bed all het about the possibilities, and woke up thinking 'No Way In The World'.

It would take a big leap from where I am now, to get to the point where I would rework my current wedding set into a new setting altogether.
Possibly to celebrate a massive anniversary.....maybe....

RHRs, on the other hand.... well that's where the party could/would be.
Although my RHR is a 'family' ring (to celebrate my kids), I could see the way in years to come of switching up or changing the style possibly with less guilt. Although the longer the ring 'lives' the more reluctant I am to destroy it, particularly if it is a fine, well-made piece of quality jewellery.

I also want to consider my children with my jewellery choices and leave a family heritage, which means leaving nice things as they are.

Generally though, I'm not yet a massive collector / rotator of precious things. My favourite jewellery is worn most every day, I just love it too much to leave it behind, so that encourages me to think rework and redo rather than stash away.

 

[ksmom]

Interesting topic, as I don't know anyone in real life who has my diamond hoarding habit. Over time I have come to realize that I am not so much a 'size whore' as I am a variety whore- I can't commit to just one stone! (Thankfully I am not the same with men ) I do have a 'favorite' ring which I consider to be my Ering (my RG Leon) but I do switch it out at least once or twice a week with my tranny, and once I get it I will include my marquise in the rotation. I only wear rings on my left hand so DH and I got these other rings knowing that they wouldn't all be worn at the same time or frequency. I did offer to consign my tranny for my OMC but DH wisely advised against it and I am so grateful for that. I can't imagine parting with any of my rings now, in fact I dream of expanding my collection of old cuts rings- next, I want an antique oval, an antique pear and an antique asscher. It does help a little that I am most comfortable wearing diamonds that are around the 7mm range, though I suppose that might change one day too!