Q for LIW....if your bf propose to you with a beautiful 2.5 ct solitaire ring...

[MoonWater]

Well, I'm not a LIW any longer but it's only been 3 months so I'm answering anyway.

Yes, I would ask him to return it for something smaller. I'm all about proportions and that would look insane in my hand. Not to mention I'm not the most delicate creature, I'm sure I'd slam it into doors and other objects. It wouldn't be practical for our lifestyle. Then there's the fact that it's a solitaire, something I'm not much of a fan of for myself. Yup, he'd be returning it alright.

 

[Anna0499]

No way! I wouldn't ever ask my SO to take any engagement ring back, but since we've talked about and he plans on getting between a 2.5-3 ct. RB already I would be getting just what *we* expected!

 

[Linda W]

Date: 7/17/2008 10:00:16 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 7/17/2008 1:35:53 AM

Author: Linda W

blonde, my remark was meant for dancingfire, not you.

see Linda.....that''s what you get for picking on me.

You should know by now, I love giving you a bad time, tee hee.

 

[lala2332]

I would say "Thank you very much!" and then stare at it..........constantly .....forever!

 

[HeadOverHeels4James]

Date: 7/17/2008 10:38:44 AM
Author: lala2332
I would say ''Thank you very much!'' and then stare at it..........constantly .....forever!

HAHA

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/17/2008 10:45:22 AM
Author: HeadOverHeels4James

Date: 7/17/2008 10:38:44 AM
Author: lala2332
I would say ''Thank you very much!'' and then stare at it..........constantly .....forever!

HAHA

Ditto!

 

[HeadOverHeels4James]

LOve the new pic elle!

 

[Lauren8211]

Thanks.. unfortunately that''s FF''s pinky.. and not my ring finger...

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/17/2008 9:10:45 AM
Author: janinegirly
I wish I had these sorts of problems!

It''s the ring he chose for you so and therefore has a lot of symbolism, so I would not ask to exchange. You can always get a smaller one or just wear your wedding ring if you feel it is too flashy for day to day,etc.

Any pics? It sounds like quite a rock!

still waiting for my dream 2.5ct RB.

 

[sunnyd]

Well jeez if nobody else wants it, I''ll gladly accept!!!

Seriously, I''d be wondering what I did to deserve this!!!!

 

[princesss]

A *beautiful* one? Heck no I wouldn''t. I''d slap that thing on my finger faster than you can say, "WOW!"

 

[Bia]

Uhhhmmmm....no. I would accept it and take reeeeaaally good care of it.

Assuming he could afford it. If he''s in the poor house as a result, then I''d downgrade...I think.

 

[purrfectpear]

Tell you what Dancing Fire, just in the interest of pure research I''ll take one for the PS team. You send me the 2.5 ct. engagement ring, and I''ll get back to you on my response

 

[dreaming of the day]

I would ask when he became my fariy godmother! Are you kidding? It would be my dream come true. In reality I know we couldn''t afford that, but in a dream world I couldn''t be happier!!!

 

[pocahontas]

Date: 7/17/2008 12:23:02 PM
Author: princesss
A *beautiful* one? Heck no I wouldn't. I'd slap that thing on my finger faster than you can say, 'WOW!'

Haha - me too

Except, I'm not a LIW - I got engaged three months ago.

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Is this a trick question?????

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:43:20 AM
Author: trillionaire
Is it just me, or would that seem rude and ungrateful?

I think the reason DF is asking is because it''s not uncommon here for women to complain that their ering is smaller than they hoped it would be and they''d have preferred a larger stone with lower gradings in other areas. People rarely tell these women that they''re rude or ungrateful (well, people do, but the majority seem not to), so I think DF is turning the tables to see what people think in the opposite direction...Is that correct DF?

 

[FrekeChild]

You know...if I were ever to accept a 2.5ct ring, it would have to be blue-natural or not, but it wouldn''t ever leave the house. (And we''d have to be in the same tax bracket as Bill Gates.)

I''d be watching TV in my hooker heels and my giant blue bling.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Good question. Although, I know my boyfriend would NEVER buy me a 2.5ct diamond because he thinks I have small, short fingers and small hands, and that a HUGE stone like 2.5 would look terrible on me.

My Mom also happens to think the same thing. So it wont happen.

But to play along:

if he got me a 2.5ct I guess I would have to see how it looked on my hand. If I liked that size on me or not. I honestly think anything over 1.5 on me looks "fake" and sort of "clunky" (not to say it looks like this on others, just me.) Eh, it depends I guess.

I might take it, it all depends........lol

And Im with blondebunny as well as thinking Id worry about someone stealing it from me or losing it, something like that. I would be paranoid about the thing. (heck, I think I will be like this anyhow with whatever size diamond I get!)

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/17/2008 1:46:02 PM
Author: surfgirl

Date: 7/17/2008 1:43:20 AM
Author: trillionaire
Is it just me, or would that seem rude and ungrateful?

I think the reason DF is asking is because it's not uncommon here for women to complain that their ering is smaller than they hoped it would be and they'd have preferred a larger stone with lower gradings in other areas. People rarely tell these women that they're rude or ungrateful (well, people do, but the majority seem not to), so I think DF is turning the tables to see what people think in the opposite direction...Is that correct DF?

be honest girls

 

[partgypsy]

No. But I would ask him what bank he robbed.

 

[choro72]

Honestly? I will take put it in a secure display case, and not tell anyone about its existence. I plan to collect fine porcelain, crystals, or china in the future, so it might go well in the display case together. I will get a nice display setting for it too.

 

[kittybean]

I think I need to clarify: if I were proposed to with ANY carat of diamond, I don''t think I would be able to tell my fiance that I wanted something different, even if I thought I did.

Before I got engaged, I actually did think I wanted a different setting for my engagement ring. However, after the proposal and learning of all the effort he put in to get me something beautiful (which it unequivocally is), I couldn''t imagine wanting anything other than the ring he proposed with. I would love my ring and my diamond whether it was .1 ct or 10 ct because of what it symbolized.

DF, I think most of the LIWs ultimately feel this way (that the symbolism is the most important part of the diamond ring). What you get to see on this forum are the expressions of 1) women''s fondest desires and 2) women''s greatest frustrations. I think that skews the perspective a lot and really divorces it from reality. It may appear that everyone wants a 2+ ct diamond, but I think what everyone really wants is a proposal and the chance to be engaged to the person they love most. Not that the big diamond isn''t a great bonus, but I think it''s totally unnecessary in most ladies'' minds. Maybe I''m wrong and am giving LIWs too much credit, but that''s the vibe I get (it''s also how I personally felt).

 

[princesss]

Freke! You''re purple!

 

[trillionaire]

I can say that I DO NOT WANT a 2+ carat diamond. Way too over the top for me. (.8-1.25ct look lovely!) I would rather him spend that kind of money on a house, or school loans. Diamonds, while lovely, are mostly impractical, and I would rather travel the world than have a huge diamond. I would have a hard time, however, telling someone that they spent their money poorly, though as a new fiancee, I might have to get used to having those sorts of discussions with my clearly delusional DF!

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 7/17/2008 8:51:35 PM
Author: princesss
Freke! You''re purple!

Muah ha ha ha ha ha!!!!!

Yup!

 

[vita*dolce]

i''d probably say something like "oh, are you sure you don''t want to trade this in for something a little more in our budget?" but i''d definitely hope he didn''t take me up on it...

 

[Octavia]

If my FI had gotten me a ring bigger than ONE carat, I would have questioned whether he knew me well enough for us to be getting married. I''m don''t wear much jewelry on a regular basis, and I''d definitely never wear a 2.5 carat ring. Even on special occasions. Luckily, he was sensible and got me a ring that I''m comfortable wearing on a daily basis, that doesn''t get in my way, and that was well within our budget.

 

[Bliss]

I'd say, "WHAT????!!! I said 10 carats!!!!! Get thee back to Tiffany asap!"

(That was a Dancing Fire-esque comment!) See? I'm learning quickly!

LOLOLOL.

I wouldn't refuse anything FH bought me. But the young Jedi has been trained well.

He 'gets' me in so many ways. My best friend and more.

(swoon)

Sorry for the sap, ladies!!!!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 7/17/2008 8:51:36 PM
Author: trillionaire
I can say that I DO NOT WANT a 2+ carat diamond. Way too over the top for me. (.8-1.25ct look lovely!) I would rather him spend that kind of money on a house, or school loans. Diamonds, while lovely, are mostly impractical, and I would rather travel the world than have a huge diamond. I would have a hard time, however, telling someone that they spent their money poorly, though as a new fiancee, I might have to get used to having those sorts of discussions with my clearly delusional DF!

you can't say that on a diamond forum