Kaleigh
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Sounds like one of my closet friends. We had a falling out on election dayDate: 2/26/2009 11:11:56 PM
Author: Linda W
GREAT topic Lisa. Good Grief yes. I have a friend like this.. Always about her, even at our age. I answer the phone when it rings. After I say hello, good grief I can''t get a word in. She seldom asks how I am, etc. On the other hand, she has other qualities that I adore about her.
We have been friends for over 30 years.
Wow, I am sorry, glad things are better and you sound like a great friend. I don't get why those types of people never have compassion for others and love putting others down??Date: 2/26/2009 11:55:28 PM
Author: akmiss
Sounds like one of my closet friends. We had a falling out on election dayDate: 2/26/2009 11:11:56 PM
Author: Linda W
GREAT topic Lisa. Good Grief yes. I have a friend like this.. Always about her, even at our age. I answer the phone when it rings. After I say hello, good grief I can't get a word in. She seldom asks how I am, etc. On the other hand, she has other qualities that I adore about her.
We have been friends for over 30 years.And didn't talk for almost two months. She does have great qualities but she is definitely out of balance. It is always about her. If she is not talking about herself or her son (whom I adore!) she is putting other people down. Her life is a sob story yet she has no compassion for anyone else. I still do care a great deal for her but just needed to move on. If any of this makes sense.
Could I have expected anything esle? You are so bad. NO IRL.. kwim??? Figure that out..Date: 2/27/2009 12:49:13 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
Queen Bee ?? yes, there are a few of them on PS.
Date: 2/27/2009 1:02:37 AM
Author: Kaleigh
Could I have expected anything esle? You are so bad. NO IRL.. kwim??? Figure that out..Date: 2/27/2009 12:49:13 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
Queen Bee ?? yes, there are a few of them on PS.Bed time!!!
Date: 2/27/2009 7:58:03 AM
Author: Maisie
I think I have been a bit ''queen bee'' with someone I have been emailing lately. And I felt awful when I realised that I was doing it. I am trying not to go on about my new ring all the time. I think its my main topic of conversation but it doesn''t mean everyone else WANTS to hear about it!
I also know someone who absolutely drained me. She only wanted to talk about herself and how she felt. Its hard to be around someone who constantly complains. I am like Skippy, I love helping but not if its all one sided. I have cut that person off now and I really do feel loads better.
I have a good friend from HS like this. FI likes to say "it''s all about her, all the time." Which is kind of true. But she''ll call every once in a while, and talk for 10 minutes straight about herself and the goings-on of her life. After trying and not being able to get a word in edge-wise, I finally just "uh-huh" through those 10 minutes, then she''ll finally ask "so what have you been up to?"Date: 2/26/2009 11:48:31 PM
Author: Gypsy
I have a coworker like this.
And a friend who is .... weird. She does monologues. We get on the phone she rattles off EVERYTHING going on in her life for five minutes straight... like it''s a news report, then I''m supposed to do the same. It''s very weird. I''ve started emailing. At least that way I''m not counting after a few minutes to see how many sentences she''ll go through before she takes a breathe. It''s very distracting and very strange. She''s a sweetheart though, and there is give and take... just in segments.
Great way to put it, Steel.Date: 2/27/2009 8:16:53 AM
Author: Steel
I have developed a great filter. If somebody goes on and on and on and on () I can just filter it out. We call can get a bit bee-ish from time to time, that is what friends are for; they have to listen to your crap. Then if you become obsessed it is their job to stage an intervention.
Date: 2/27/2009 8:34:33 AM
Author: luvthemstrawberries
I have a good friend from HS like this. FI likes to say ''it''s all about her, all the time.'' Which is kind of true. But she''ll call every once in a while, and talk for 10 minutes straight about herself and the goings-on of her life. After trying and not being able to get a word in edge-wise, I finally just ''uh-huh'' through those 10 minutes, then she''ll finally ask ''so what have you been up to?''Date: 2/26/2009 11:48:31 PM
Author: Gypsy
I have a coworker like this.
And a friend who is .... weird. She does monologues. We get on the phone she rattles off EVERYTHING going on in her life for five minutes straight... like it''s a news report, then I''m supposed to do the same. It''s very weird. I''ve started emailing. At least that way I''m not counting after a few minutes to see how many sentences she''ll go through before she takes a breathe. It''s very distracting and very strange. She''s a sweetheart though, and there is give and take... just in segments.
By that time, I''m too tired of holding the phone up and listening to say anything more than ''eh, not much. Same old thing.''
The last conversation, she told me why a few weeks ago she kept trying to call me, knowing I''d just gotten back from being out of the country for 10 days and was too busy to talk. She and her husband (of less than 2 years) had been having marriage problems, because he''s a police officer and was taking on too much off-duty work, and she was worried he was cheating. But he made it up to her and they had a nice Valentines Day date and so on so forth....Anyway, she couldn''t call anyone else during those troubles because of her other friends, she couldn''t talk to his sisters about it, and her one other close friend is too ''judgemental.'' She wanted to talk to me I guess because I''m not judgemental and say it how it is. I''m pretty laid back, so I guess that''s a good thing that I''d be considered supportive...?
I''m not a huge phone talker anyway. It''s just not me. Mom used to tell me when I was young that I need to learn to talk on the phone more because that''s how friends communicate.Anyway, this friend really is a sweetheart, and she''s a great supporter when you need prayers or a friend. I''m sure she''d be there if anything serious ever happened. And she''s always trying to hang out, which we very rarely get to do. So I should really count my blessings that at least someone''s interested in being my friend.And learn how to make my life sound more interesting on the phone, hehe.
You know it''s all about me [x4]
ME!
Haha aww tlh I don't think it's really describing you. My friend doesn't do it to crack me up... she seriously just rambles. She's very serious. Haha I honestly don't know that I've ever noticed her breathe, so she must have it downpat.Date: 2/27/2009 8:43:21 AM
Author: tlh
It sounds like you are describing me. I am KNOWN for doing this. I have really perfected the art of the soliloquy, in that I can speak for minutes and perfectly time my breathing DURING my talking to not allow others the chance to talk.... I do it more to be funny... plus I tend to crack my friends up!
But I don't really like talking on the phone because you cannot see your friend, and read their body language... so I do email. But I do care what is going on with my friends and we do have conversations of back and forth exchanges... but yeah, if I'd on hyper overdrive... i will talk way too much.