Questions, Comments, Thoughts...Help!

[MissAva]

Date: 10/20/2005 12:21:14 AM
Author: Mara
Girls, relish the waiting. Sure it''s hard to play the waiting game day in and day out for however long your honey strings you along, but in the end you''ll remember the waiting fairly fondly...

I remember waiting for the ring to be done, one night we went out to dinner to our first date restaurant, I thought oh my god the ring is done and he''s going to ask me tonite. I felt giddy the whole time. Well he didn''t ask me and I was disappointed...but after that I realized I couldn''t assume like that or even hope. It would happen when it did and I didn''t want to drive myself nuts thinking EVERY dinner we went to was it. When I told him I thought maybe he was going to ask that night, he laughed and said the ring wasn''t even ready yet. TORTURE.

Honestly if he was like, you have a few years to wait. If he wanted to wait until I had my PhD. I would be fine would not think about it, I could easily let it go. I almost wish he would lie and say that.
But it is just so weird, this major decision is being made without both of us being in on it. We are so good about communicating things, expectiations, feelings it is just weird to be put on hold like this.

 

[MissAva]

Date: 10/19/2005 2:44:54 PM
Author: caligal
Oh is he trying to drive you crazy! Hmmm, he has the date all picked out huh? Well- he obviously is baiting you ready to hear a million times- references to rings.... I say keep posting here and not a word to him!

He''s throwing you off with Christmas, and you can keep on guessing, but he wants it to be a surprise. Beware of sudden plans for a weekend away or vacations, that is the best I can tell ya! How exciting that he has the date planned though- YAY!!! We expect a full report when he does...

Sadly our weekends are spent on oppisate ends of the coast he is in NY and NJ and I am in AL and sometimes GA or TN. When I went home last weekend while I was waiting at the airport he asked me if my nails were done and I nearly screamed. But I know it cannot be this early. My flying home was a surprise, I just could not keep it. I was too worried he would make plans, or agree to work the weekends again.

 

[MissAva]

Date: 10/19/2005 9:28:43 PM
Author: kalispera
Matatora, I don''t think a board game proposal is cheesy (although I am a puzzle-junkie and FORCE my boyfriend to play monopoly with me) and I would probably beat my boyfriend up if after our conversation today he decided to wrap a piece of jewelry (other than an e-ring) in 8 boxes for Christmas!!

We are totally an evening in kind of couple. We just really like each others company. Scrabble is our favorite I think, and if he did something with that it would be cute, but so would proposing on the Luxuray tax spot on Monoply, or while playing Dominos, oh or saying he found the last peice to the puzzle...I love cheesy things like this. Lately everytime I see a shiney my mind goes into overdrive on diffrent ways he could do it. Though part of me wants the just down on one knee and a kiss. I like going walking so that would be ideal. Honestly it is a bit fun to think of all the diffrent ways he could do it.

 

[MissAva]

Date: 10/21/2005 10:43:39 AM
Author: Croí

poor Mata, I know you must be writhing from curiousity at this point - MULTIPLE files !?!?!?!?!?


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I know, we are both really the nerdy planner/research types.

But what could he need multiples files for, if he had three or less he would have given me a number, that is how his mind works. So that means there are at least four....what could they be?

 

[ellewoods]

Oh my gosh Matatora.....the "are your nails" done comment would have sent me into a heart attack! Both from excitement but also anxiety and annoyance at him if he was just trying to get you all riled up!

You know what''s funny....my long distance BF is coming to visit next weekend and I am very excited (haven''t seen each other in 2 months)....and we''re even going to go look at some jewelry stores. Woo-hoo! But I just realized that my nails are horrible (he loves nice longish nails with a french manicure)....I am a chronic nail biter and have been doing a lot of it from stress lately.

Anyway so my nails are not going to grow enough in a week to look nice....so I''m debating whether to go get acrylics just for his visit so my hands (left hand!) will look nice when I try on rings. I really don''t want to get acrylics because I never can keep them up and then my nails get destroyed underneath....but then again, is that worth having my nails look nice when we go ring browsing? Maybe? Probably?

 

[MissAva]

Actually he is just one of those men who notices things like that. He always has. Before we started dating I used to paint my nails everyday, he always noticed and would comment. And when we have had plans to look at rings in the past he has teased me about doing my nails in a french so that would match regardless of what I was wearing (I dont paint them around him the smell is unpleasent to him, I do not notice it anymore.)
I would say not to get fakes, only becuase I hate them. I dont know why but they always look tacky to me. It took me FOREVER to stop biting mine. Go and get your nails done or at least file the edges smooth and buff them.

 

[snuga]

Date: 10/21/2005 3:12:37 PM
Author: Matatora

Date: 10/19/2005 9:28:43 PM
Author: kalispera
Matatora, I don''t think a board game proposal is cheesy (although I am a puzzle-junkie and FORCE my boyfriend to play monopoly with me) and I would probably beat my boyfriend up if after our conversation today he decided to wrap a piece of jewelry (other than an e-ring) in 8 boxes for Christmas!!

We are totally an evening in kind of couple. We just really like each others company. Scrabble is our favorite I think, and if he did something with that it would be cute, but so would proposing on the Luxuray tax spot on Monoply, or while playing Dominos, oh or saying he found the last peice to the puzzle...I love cheesy things like this. Lately everytime I see a shiney my mind goes into overdrive on diffrent ways he could do it. Though part of me wants the just down on one knee and a kiss. I like going walking so that would be ideal. Honestly it is a bit fun to think of all the diffrent ways he could do it.

I also think its fun to think of the different ways he can do it.. That way I can also always be surprised and I don''t have my heart set on "one way" that I want to be proposed to!

 

[MissAva]

Oh I am soo guilty of that! When we first started dating we went jogging every day and would always stop in the same place to talk. Then that became our spot to have serious discussions. I really wanted him to ask me there until I realized there is no way what so ever to get me over there without my knowing what was going on. As unlikely as it is I really, really want it to be a surprise.

 

[MissAva]

Does anyone know how to find past AIM conversations? I tried to cut and paste something but I got distracted and closed the box.

Anyway I think it will be Christmas for sure now. I was asking him what he wanted this year and he was saying all sorts of goofy things. Then I asked for a price range (this is our pattern for everything even birthdays since ours a four days apart). He said 100$ and my heart it just sank. Then he he goes, hopefully you will be getting something about 100 times more. So either he is the worlds biggest tease, and ought to be shot, or it really will be Christmas.
Now I am torn between

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feelings.

 

[monarch64]

Matatora, I bet you''re right about Christmas, or somewhere near Christmas! Your story totally reminds me of my engagement story... back in December of 2002, my now-husband, who is very subtle as well, dropped an uncharacteristic hint in the grocery store. We were shopping together and I was wearing some sterling silver non-diamond ring on my left hand ring finger, and he said, "why are you wearing a ring on that finger? I guess you don''t need a diamond!" I knew right then and there that the proposal was coming, and SOON! Three days later, it was Saturday and I had to work, but I called in sick for some reason (hmmm, female intuition?) I went to my favorite store, bought a new outfit, and as I was driving back to our apt, he called my cell and asked me if I wanted to go downtown (Chicago) that night to dinner and to look at the Christmas lights on Michigan Ave. Of course I said yes and hurried on home, hee hee. I got home, dumped my shopping bags on our bed, tore into the shower and while I was undressing I heard him on his cellphone outside on the balcony right off our bedroom (he never knew I heard him) talking to one of his friends, saying "yup, this is the night!" I was totally praying to God, literally, that he was talking about proposing to me! I had never been ring shopping with him, just told him I wanted a RB, so I didn''t know FOR SURE, but we did end up engaged that very night. (Should I post my story, and if so, what thread?) So, IMHO, I think your FF is absolutely giving you hints to make sure you''re prepared and excited to the max! He obviously knows you well enough to know you want to look and feel your absolute best for the happy occasion...I don''t think he is just baiting you. Have an awesome time and good luck!!!

 

[MissAva]

Post a new thread here! I would love to hear your story.

 

[MissAva]

My New Baby! I acutally think I like this one better, it is a little smaller and I think that would be best. The more I think about the less I was a super big diamond. Can I just happen to mention this to him? What if he already has the other one?

 

[Caribou]

The waiting is torture. It''s like putting bone in a dog''s face and pulling it away everytime he goes to grab it....TORTURE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[MissAva]

The waiting is torture...but it is spiffy too. To add to the metaphors, it is like being really hungry and going out to dinner. Everytime the waiter comes towards you you get all excited sit up straight and stop talking....and then they just keep on walking. You are a bit dissappointed but still happy becuase you know your food is comings soon.

Can anyone guess who is hungry?

 

[MissAva]

Just got off the phone with my SO, feeling a little torn. He was telling me he goes into work early and spends about 20-30minutes on the computer before clocking in for the day. Being the rather large pain in the bum that I am I of course asked what he was doing. He replied that he is looking up diamonds on the web and then running them through the HCA. Which I guess means that other one will not be going to me. I told him what I had been thinking and he chuckled and said he expected me to pelt him with links tomorrow morning. He gets to work at 7 in the am so yea…I might. I mean no, no that would be wrong! No my baby is not mine! But on the other hand maybe he will find one that I missed and it will be perfect! He is!

 

[Kerbear560]

Hi Matatora!

I just found this thread, and thought I would add my $0.02.

I agree with everyone here who has told you to TRY not to expect a proposal, because it just sets you up for disappointment (I know it''s hard, believe me). But, to me it sounds like he IS planning to pop the question (you said that he told you he had chosen the date, he has double checked what size ring you wear, he has multiple files, he said that hopefully you will be getting something 100 times more expensive than $100 for Christmas, and he goes into work 20 - 30 minutes early to search for diamonds and run them through the HCA). Now, he may be doing or saying some of these things to throw you off. But, IMO men do not do anything until they are good and ready, and if it wasn''t on his mind/he wasn''t planning something, I don''t think he would''ve mentioned any of it to you. I think at this point it is just a matter of when! So, sit back, try to relax and enjoy the roller-coaster ride that so many of us are (or have been) on. I know it''s hard, but I agree with those that said you will look back on this time with fondness.

Oh, btw, how cute is it that he has multiple files!

 

[MissAva]

I know I know just enjoy this last time waiting....but I want to be married to him now. I would be fine skipping the engagement, ring included. Rings are spiffy and what not but it is him that I want.
And I love your ring ideas, MM is going to make you a stunning ring!

 

[Kerbear560]

Date: 10/29/2005 8:04:04 PM
Author: Matatora
I know I know just enjoy this last time waiting....but I want to be married to him now. I would be fine skipping the engagement, ring included. Rings are spiffy and what not but it is him that I want.
And I love your ring ideas, MM is going to make you a stunning ring!

You definitely have the right attitude Matatora. It''s so easy to get caught up in having the perfect ring (I know, PS blasphemy!) and the perfect wedding, that sometimes people lose sight of the big picture, the marriage! You have found the person that you can''t wait to spend the rest of your life with. That''s what''s really important!

(Thanks! I''m glad that you like my ring ideas!)

 

[snuga]

I also think it sounds like it will be christmas, and if it''s not, please punch him for me because it would be mean to lead you on like this!!

My boyfriend and I also do the "what''s our budget?" game for different holidays. This christmas he told me that his budget would be upwards of 9000 dollars... hmm... now, he''s not the kind of guy who would actually tell me this if he was going to propose, so i don''t think he will,

but it''s still nice to know he''s thinking about it!

I hope it happens for you soon!

 

[MissAva]

V is interning near my family and is baby sitting tongiht and Monday (bless him). Anyway we were discussing what he would do with them and he said this, sometimes I forget why I love him soo very very much.

Matatora :you could work on the puzzle with Trigger
Him: i could
Him: or play mononopoly
Matatora: ....just as long as Trigger does not land on luxury tax
Him: kay kay
Matatora: yes
Him:relax about the ring and trust me
Him:its only for you
Him: only from me
Him: I love you

He really is very sweet....but still not giving much away in details is he?

 

[ame]

nope not very much detail there but still quite sweet.

if he is using the HCA he''s probably readin your thread

 

[anchor31]

I''m so excited for you!!! If he''s looking for diamond, it could be real soon!!!

 

[MissAva]

Date: 11/4/2005 4:41:37 PM
Author: ame
nope not very much detail there but still quite sweet.

if he is using the HCA he''s probably readin your thread

You would think so, but he will not even use the search by cut feature. V maybe the only person more stubborn then I.

 

[MissAva]

Update! As many of you know Jeffrey has bought my stone and decided on the setting as well! It ought to be compleated today. I am hoping that he will fwd me this email as well. I am soo curious about how the compleated head will look.
So I will see Jeffrey this Friday...and I now know that it will be sometime between the 16th of December and the 3rd of January. He mentioned that I would get the ring before I went out with his best mate and his new lady.
Any advice on how to think of anything else? Any guesses on when he will do it? Or how?
The excitment is nearly too much!

 

[SoonIHope]

Oooooh congratulations!!!!! I am in a very similar boat - I know it''s going to happen sometime between now and Christmas. And it''s KILLING ME!!!!! SOOOO EXCITING!!!!!! I am finally at the point where I''m NOT trying to guess every possible way he could do it even though that''s haaard since it''s going to be SO SOON!!! So yeah, just stay on your excitement high and remember you''ll be engaged in LESS THAN THREE WEEKS!!!!

 

[anchor31]

He bought the stone and the setting? I didn''t know!!! That''s wonderful! I''m so excited for you! It''s soon soon SOON!! Yay! Can''t wait to see the ring too!

 

[MissAva]

Apple of My I! This is the thread about my stone and ring in the SMTR Folder! I am soo excited! It is supposed to be finsihed today, and Lesley said she would be sending him photos today. Which I am hoping very much will be FWD to me directly! Wouldnt that be grand!

 

[bookworm21]

Hey Matatora, just wanted to say congratulations! I was reading the entire thread with a grin on my face. It''s so cute that your SO would keep you on tenterhooks like that. That''s the funnest part of getting engaged, IMO. Hints here and there, but you never know when!

And I saw your diamond! It''s gorgeous. Yummers.

 

[nytemist]

This is FABULOUS progrees Matatora!!! Congrats to you. Hopefully it will be a veeeery Merry Christmas for you!

 

[MissAva]

Matatora: did you sleep well
My SO: yes I did
My SO: had good dreams
Matatora: about what?
My SO: us and the proposal
My SO: cant tell you details..sorry it would give it away

I am so excited, he is so sweet. How cute is he for dreaming of proposing.

I love him soo much! I am so excited, I am going to marry the man I love!

I am so grateful for the blessing that he is.