Quick Vent

[ladypirate]

Aaaand, we''re back to square one. Turns out the date is not being moved after all.

At this point we''re talking about not even doing a honeymoon, or if we do, doing something really small.

*Sigh* Oh well. I guess we can always go on vacation another time.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 8/26/2009 12:47:18 AM
Author: ladypirate
Aaaand, we''re back to square one. Turns out the date is not being moved after all.

At this point we''re talking about not even doing a honeymoon, or if we do, doing something really small.

*Sigh* Oh well. I guess we can always go on vacation another time.

That sucks...I would honestly probably just skip her wedding if I were you. Best friend or no best friend, cutting short my already-planned 3 week honeymoon just wouldn''t be a possibility! If you really can''t skip her wedding, I would take as much time as you can in between your wedding and hers. What a crappy situation all around!

 

[katamari]

Any chance you could take your honeymoon for the three weeks before your wedding? If you have everything planned and a coordinator or trusted parent to troubleshoot anything for you while you are gone, it could be a possibility.

 

[Winslet]

I'm so sorry you are going through this, especially since you just had your hopes raised. If you are thinking about missing her wedding after all (and I'm not sure from your posts that you are), I would be very cautious. There could be some definite resentment from your friend considering you'd be missing it for a full 3-week honeymoon. Just something to think about though, if she really is a great friend and an easy-going person, she might be understanding - just think carefully on it. I hope that ultimately something comes up that works out perfectly for both you and your friend! Best wishes.

 

[ladypirate]

Date: 8/26/2009 1:16:12 AM
Author: Winslet
I''m so sorry you are going through this, especially since you just had your hopes raised. If you are thinking about missing her wedding after all (and I''m not sure from your posts that you are), I would be very cautious. There could be some definite resentment from your friend considering you''d be missing it for a full 3-week honeymoon. Just something to think about though, if she really is a great friend and an easy-going person, she might be understanding - just think carefully on it. I hope that ultimately something comes up that works out perfectly for both you and your friend! Best wishes.

Winslet, thanks for your post. There is no way I''m missing her wedding--I''m just bummed at the situation.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

You should absolutely take the honeymoon time you alotted and use it towards the honeymoon. BUT...who says honeymoons can only be celebrated in some place tropical? Do you have a small resort town near you that you could take a couple days exploring? Even if it isn''t at the same time as the wedding...even if it''s a couple of weeks later...write yourself an IOU for the time, and be sure to take it when you can get away again--even if it''s two weekend trips so neither of you miss work!

Being there for your friends wedding is something you will never regret. It''s a memory you''ll never get back if you miss it. So, try to make the most of it. I know you''re disappointed...and you feel like if she had gotten her stuff together earlier this would be a non-issue. But you can''t look at it like that. Her wedding is important to her and if July 31st is the date...then so be it. You just have to great creative to make it work in your favor so you don''t feel like you''re losing out on anything.

 

[tlh]

Is there anyway you could take the time off after your friend''s wedding? I know it isn''t ideal, but maybe you could mini-moon for a weekend after yours... help your friend... and then do the big sha-bang after that?

Just a thought, I wanted to give you a huge hug.