I've been struggling with a very serious situation, and I could really use some unbiased advice on how to proceed. I don't know if anyone remembers my story, but in a nutshell, my dad is an extremely abusive and mentally unstable person. My mom is finally going to leave him, and this presents a huge safety issue, as he will come after her with a blind fury that I've been fearing since I was 4. We are making arrangements to make sure that she is safe, but when he can't find her, he will undoubtedly be coming after me. I've made some arrangements for my safety as well, however, I am currently in my second year of law school, and my parents (at his insistence) now live across the street from my school, so him following me is definitely a huge concern. Needless to say, I'm in a very difficult position, as law school alone is a huge undertaking, without also having to worry about my safety every time I go to campus. Also, I've missed quite a bit of class already, and I just can't bring myself to care about studying while I'm trying to prepare for every scenario that might happen with my dad. To add another twist, everyone in my support network is insisting that I push through and not 'let him take this from me again,' as I've had to leave law school another time before (a different school, and an experience that I LOVED) because of a similar situation with my dad. This time around, my dedication and drive has definitely not been the same, and rather than letting him take something from me, I'm starting to feel like I don't want to force myself to do something I don't want to do anymore. My whole life has been about survival, and pushing through and doing things I didn't want to to do in order for him not to 'win.' But all that's gotten me is exhaustion and things I've pushed down, catching up with me. I'm also planning our wedding right now, and it's been so great to have a chance to be creative again. I hadn't realized how much I missed being creative until I started the planning, and that's definitely an option that I explored during my first hiatus from law school, but ultimately decided that law school was the more prudent path. Don't get me wrong, I definitely enjoy law school too - but it's absolutely not the same kind of joy I get from more artistic pursuits. A big part of my decision is being able to take care of my mom later, and I know I have a much better shot of doing that how I'd like to by going the law school route. I just can't seem to muster up enough...something...to actually care and study. I know that in the end I'll be okay, because I have to be. I guess this is freaking me out because for the first time, a big part of me knows that always ignoring what you want to do and doing what you don't love because it's the "right" decision isn't necessarily the best answer, at the end of the day.
Am I being a baby? Do I need to suck it up and finish law school? I'm prepared for honest answers. Thanks.
Am I being a baby? Do I need to suck it up and finish law school? I'm prepared for honest answers. Thanks.