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Brilliant_Rock
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Hey ladies!! I know LIW has had a few iterations of a thread like this, but I thought it'd be nice to hear from the new LIW's and anyone else who posts on this board again!
Sometimes, especially when talking to friends who are in new relationships, I start feeling a little sorry for myself because it seems that all the "romance" is gone from my relationship with SO after almost 2 years in - there are no more huge/grand gestures of love (or at least, not as many or anywhere near as often), homemade candle-lit dinners, gifts "just because," and so on and so forth. Sometimes I hear stories from my girlfriends about that awesome thing their SO did for them that night/weekend/whatever, and feel disappointed that my SO doesn't do something like that for me.
But then I get to thinking about it and I realize that SO DOES do romantic things for me on a daily basis, but they aren't what is 'traditionally' seen as romantic so I often don't realize or appreciate these gestures for what they are. And then when I sit and ponder it, I get all warm and fuzzy thinking of the little things he does that show he loves me and understand that these things are so important and that he HASN'T become romantically-challenged, he's just showing it differently than he did when we first started dating.
So, ladies, what are the romantic things your SO does for you? Big, small, please share! I'll start with a few:
-He cooks me breakfast pretty much every morning, while I'm still laying in bed feeling too tired to get up. Then he'll come into the bedroom, give me a kiss, and say "time to get up, breakfast is ready!" Some mornings I feel especially groggy, so then he offers to bring breakfast to me in bed! I think this is something I don't appreciate enough because I'm sure if the roles were reversed, I'd be thinking "come on, lazy, get your ass out of bed and help me make breakfast!"
-He travels for work on a very frequent basis, sometimes last-minute. Every time he leaves town, he arranges a flower delivery to arrive on either the 2nd or 3rd day of him being gone. He doesn't ever send me flowers for Valentine's Day or my birthday or any other time people usually send flowers, but he does each time he travels.
-He lightly rubs my back every night when we're falling asleep. That is like the most relaxing thing ever for me, and he'll generally stay awake reading or something while rubbing my back until he knows I'm asleep. I've told him so many times that he doesn't have to do that and he can go to sleep, but he does it anyway.
-He is an amazing skier, whereas I only went skiing for the first time in my entire life last year. He grew up skiing, so he comes down double black diamond runs like they're nobody's business, whereas anything that "looks" steep is terrifying to me. We've gone skiing a few times since last year, and he will stay with me all day on the greens and easy blues to make sure I'm doing ok. I know it must absolutely bore him out of his mind to be skiing terrain that's so easy for him, yet he'll stay with me the whole time to make sure I'm doing ok and having fun. Sometimes I force him to leave and go ski the harder runs on his own because I want him to have fun, too, and he'll go do that for an hour or so but he invariably always ends up back with me, helping to encourage me down steeper runs. No matter how low my confidence is with a particular run or how many times I've fallen, he'll keep telling me I'm doing great and that he knows I can do it.
Your turn!
Sometimes, especially when talking to friends who are in new relationships, I start feeling a little sorry for myself because it seems that all the "romance" is gone from my relationship with SO after almost 2 years in - there are no more huge/grand gestures of love (or at least, not as many or anywhere near as often), homemade candle-lit dinners, gifts "just because," and so on and so forth. Sometimes I hear stories from my girlfriends about that awesome thing their SO did for them that night/weekend/whatever, and feel disappointed that my SO doesn't do something like that for me.
But then I get to thinking about it and I realize that SO DOES do romantic things for me on a daily basis, but they aren't what is 'traditionally' seen as romantic so I often don't realize or appreciate these gestures for what they are. And then when I sit and ponder it, I get all warm and fuzzy thinking of the little things he does that show he loves me and understand that these things are so important and that he HASN'T become romantically-challenged, he's just showing it differently than he did when we first started dating.
So, ladies, what are the romantic things your SO does for you? Big, small, please share! I'll start with a few:
-He cooks me breakfast pretty much every morning, while I'm still laying in bed feeling too tired to get up. Then he'll come into the bedroom, give me a kiss, and say "time to get up, breakfast is ready!" Some mornings I feel especially groggy, so then he offers to bring breakfast to me in bed! I think this is something I don't appreciate enough because I'm sure if the roles were reversed, I'd be thinking "come on, lazy, get your ass out of bed and help me make breakfast!"
-He travels for work on a very frequent basis, sometimes last-minute. Every time he leaves town, he arranges a flower delivery to arrive on either the 2nd or 3rd day of him being gone. He doesn't ever send me flowers for Valentine's Day or my birthday or any other time people usually send flowers, but he does each time he travels.
-He lightly rubs my back every night when we're falling asleep. That is like the most relaxing thing ever for me, and he'll generally stay awake reading or something while rubbing my back until he knows I'm asleep. I've told him so many times that he doesn't have to do that and he can go to sleep, but he does it anyway.
-He is an amazing skier, whereas I only went skiing for the first time in my entire life last year. He grew up skiing, so he comes down double black diamond runs like they're nobody's business, whereas anything that "looks" steep is terrifying to me. We've gone skiing a few times since last year, and he will stay with me all day on the greens and easy blues to make sure I'm doing ok. I know it must absolutely bore him out of his mind to be skiing terrain that's so easy for him, yet he'll stay with me the whole time to make sure I'm doing ok and having fun. Sometimes I force him to leave and go ski the harder runs on his own because I want him to have fun, too, and he'll go do that for an hour or so but he invariably always ends up back with me, helping to encourage me down steeper runs. No matter how low my confidence is with a particular run or how many times I've fallen, he'll keep telling me I'm doing great and that he knows I can do it.
Your turn!
Mr snoopkat and I will be together for 5 years this Easter and while he's not really into grand gestures, I love it when he:
I think this thread is a good way to force us to sit down and realize our blessings in our men! 
#1 I don't work anymore. So I don't have a work to have him surprise me at. #2 He's no longer in school and is working ridiculous hours, so he doesn't have the free time to do all those things anymore.
It's a battle, but I try really hard to recognize the true goodness in my SO, not just those that are superficial. I have a short attention span, and need constant reminders that he still cares for me.. but I'm working on that! I'm reminding myself now 
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