Rude comments from strangers on your jewelry

[Amethyste]

I was trying to find a present for a friend of mine, and a cute little necklace caught my attention in a jewelry store ( at the maul ) so I go in there
asking the clerk to please look at it. He noticed my ring and said " It's a nice ring you got! Did you buy it over there"? As he was pointing at a store across them "Bill and Bob". I said No! I don't think they sell diamonds over there... He looked at me like I was kidding, so he asked me if he could look at it, I extended my hand for him to look at it and after he examined it he asked me about the clarity, then he asked me "HOW MUCH DID IT COST"!!!!

at this point, I did tell him that not it was only rude to ask me if I bought my ring in a custome jewelry store, but to also ask me how much I paid for my ring. i was internally fuming at that point and the necklace i was looking to buy, no longer was a contender. I told him that I wanted to buy the necklace but his comments were really over the top...

I left, upset and also shocked at some people's lack of manners and etiquette ( even him in his mid 50's )

ARRRRRRRRRRRRGH!

Anyone experienced something similar to this? How did you react? Please share!

 

[Moh 10]

Yes he was extremely rude.

You don''t see too much costume jewelry mimicking quarter carat diamonds.
Much of costume jewelry copies fine high-end jewelry.
So many women want what you have (but can''t afford it) that a huge industry was created to copy impressive jewels.

Your diamond is so substantial that some people assume it could not possible be real.
So in a way even though the guy was a moron and uninformed you could also take his mistake as a compliment.

 

[Amethyste]

In retrospect, Moh, i think you are right.... I should take this as a compliment. Now that I had time to process the moment and not be in the gist of it, I can live with that.

Thank you for your insight

 

[Dannielle]

Some people..

Atleast he did compliment your ring, even if he insulted you first!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 8/7/2009 8:59:02 AM
Author:Amethyste
I was trying to find a present for a friend of mine, and a cute little necklace caught my attention in a jewelry store ( at the maul ) so I go in there
asking the clerk to please look at it. He noticed my ring and said '' It''s a nice ring you got! Did you buy it over there''? As he was pointing at a store across them ''Bill and Bob''. I said No! I don''t think they sell diamonds over there... He looked at me like I was kidding, so he asked me if he could look at it, I extended my hand for him to look at it and after he examined it he asked me about the clarity, then he asked me ''HOW MUCH DID IT COST''!!!!

at this point, I did tell him that not it was only rude to ask me if I bought my ring in a custome jewelry store, but to also ask me how much I paid for my ring. i was internally fuming at that point and the necklace i was looking to buy, no longer was a contender. I told him that I wanted to buy the necklace but his comments were really over the top...

I left, upset and also shocked at some people''s lack of manners and etiquette ( even him in his mid 50''s )

ARRRRRRRRRRRRGH!

Anyone experienced something similar to this? How did you react? Please share!

Don''t spend too much time obsessing over this. You''re ring is substantial and stands out among the crowd, so expect to receive more comments than the usual person may! You have a gorgeous ring. Just enjoy and let the comments slide off your back.

And to answer your question, never has anyone said anything rude about my jewelry. The closest was when on two seperate occasions when I was wearing my TBTY necklace (a single stone - small .3, someone rolled their eyes at me. One was a relative of my husband. I felt so bad about it, I quit wearing jewelry around them for many years. The other was a starbucks employee. Oh, yeah, also another of my husband''s relatives gave me a dirty look after looking at my earrings. None of my diamonds are big, so I have no idea what the deal was with any of them. People are just weird.

 

[brightlight]

Date: 8/7/2009 8:59:02 AM
Author:Amethyste
I was trying to find a present for a friend of mine, and a cute little necklace caught my attention in a jewelry store ( at the maul ) so I go in there
asking the clerk to please look at it. He noticed my ring and said '' It''s a nice ring you got! Did you buy it over there''? As he was pointing at a store across them ''Bill and Bob''. I said No! I don''t think they sell diamonds over there... He looked at me like I was kidding, so he asked me if he could look at it, I extended my hand for him to look at it and after he examined it he asked me about the clarity, then he asked me ''HOW MUCH DID IT COST''!!!!

at this point, I did tell him that not it was only rude to ask me if I bought my ring in a custome jewelry store, but to also ask me how much I paid for my ring. i was internally fuming at that point and the necklace i was looking to buy, no longer was a contender. I told him that I wanted to buy the necklace but his comments were really over the top...

I left, upset and also shocked at some people''s lack of manners and etiquette ( even him in his mid 50''s )

ARRRRRRRRRRRRGH!

Anyone experienced something similar to this? How did you react? Please share!

If it makes you feel better, I have a family member who goes around asking other family members how much my jewelry (not just my e-ring) costs or if it is fake or heirloom jewelry b/c it''s so expensive. She even tried to bribe family members to find out.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

My ex bf blatantaly asked my father how much his Rolex set him back....yea...wasn''t a BF for very long...

 

[Madam Bijoux]

I wouldn''t want to shop at a jewelry store where the salesperson doesn''t know genuine jewels from costume jewelry.

 

[Circe]

Tactless, tactless, tactless. And from a jewelry store employee, of all people!

I''ve had the occasional people asking me if things are real, but never assuming that they''re *not* - frankly, I''d either laugh it off, or write to the guy''s manager, depending on how insulted you''re feeling over it.

 

[decodelighted]

This is just food for thought but ... what if the ring HAD been fake? Would it have been JUST as rude a question ... asking if it was from a costume jewelry store - or how much it cost? I think YES. That inquiring about the value of people''s items is rude under any circumstances. And that its just as rude to give pitying looks to less valuable items as it is to give stank eye to people with sizable pieces.

Admiring a piece is one thing. Trying to assess value is another.

 

[brightlight]

Date: 8/7/2009 2:48:05 PM
Author: decodelighted
This is just food for thought but ... what if the ring HAD been fake? Would it have been JUST as rude a question ... asking if it was from a costume jewelry store - or how much it cost? I think YES. That inquiring about the value of people''s items is rude under any circumstances. And that its just as rude to give pitying looks to less valuable items as it is to give stank eye to people with sizable pieces.

Admiring a piece is one thing. Trying to assess value is another.

Very well said!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 8/7/2009 2:40:21 PM
Author: Madam Bijoux
I wouldn''t want to shop at a jewelry store where the salesperson doesn''t know genuine jewels from costume jewelry.

I agree, but I do think it can be difficult sometimes when you''re dealing with something so large and unique. It''s rare to see a genuine knockout ring like the one Amethyste has. Still, I would not ask questions like that regardless of whether it was .25 cts or 25 cts.

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/7/2009 2:47:13 PM
Author: Circe
Tactless, tactless, tactless. And from a jewelry store employee, of all people!

I've had the occasional people asking me if things are real, but never assuming that they're *not* - frankly, I'd either laugh it off, or write to the guy's manager, depending on how insulted you're feeling over it.

Oh I thought about it, but then I looked at his name tag and it said "Joe Schmoe - Manager".
Yikes.

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/7/2009 2:51:24 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 8/7/2009 2:40:21 PM
Author: Madam Bijoux
I wouldn't want to shop at a jewelry store where the salesperson doesn't know genuine jewels from costume jewelry.

I agree, but I do think it can be difficult sometimes when you're dealing with something so large and unique. It's rare to see a genuine knockout ring like the one Amethyste has. Still, I would not ask questions like that regardless of whether it was .25 cts or 25 cts.

Hudson - you are right, there is a way to ask questions properly, even if you are skeptical. That's when common sense and tactfulness come into play, and unfortunately, some don't know how to move around in the sandbox

 

[LGK]

I''ve had the same conversation about my 3 1/2 ct OEC ring. One woman absolutely freaked the hell out when I wouldn''t tell her what I paid for it (good lord, where do people get off?!!). She started bellowing at me repeatedly about how I needed to tell her immediately; apparently she felt that loud volume and repetition was an excellent way to coerce me into sharing overly personal information. Strangely, it didn''t work- I never did tell her! Since she was a customer, I refrained from lecturing her about her unbelievable rudeness, but it was difficult.

I had one guy ask me who I had to f**k to get my ring. I was so shocked I laughed. What do you say to that? "My husband, obviously"?

 

[cushioncutnut]

I wouldn't let it get to you as he has probably never llayed eyes on something so beautiful! People have no couth!! You would think an older gentleman would be a bit wiser to think before he speaks......... Especially if he is in sales!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/7/2009 3:11:04 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
I''ve had the same conversation about my 3 1/2 ct OEC ring. One woman absolutely freaked the hell out when I wouldn''t tell her what I paid for it (good lord, where do people get off?!!). She started bellowing at me repeatedly about how I needed to tell her immediately; apparently she felt that loud volume and repetition was an excellent way to coerce me into sharing overly personal information. Strangely, it didn''t work- I never did tell her! Since she was a customer, I refrained from lecturing her about her unbelievable rudeness, but it was difficult.

I had one guy ask me who I had to f**k to get my ring. I was so shocked I laughed. What do you say to that? ''My husband, obviously''?

*spit my water all over my screen* OMG!!! you are so funny!

I am glad to see that I am not the only one running into rude and obnoxious people... Thank you for sharing this

 

[cushioncutnut]

Date: 8/7/2009 3:21:48 PM
Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/7/2009 3:11:04 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
I''ve had the same conversation about my 3 1/2 ct OEC ring. One woman absolutely freaked the hell out when I wouldn''t tell her what I paid for it (good lord, where do people get off?!!). She started bellowing at me repeatedly about how I needed to tell her immediately; apparently she felt that loud volume and repetition was an excellent way to coerce me into sharing overly personal information. Strangely, it didn''t work- I never did tell her! Since she was a customer, I refrained from lecturing her about her unbelievable rudeness, but it was difficult.

I had one guy ask me who I had to f**k to get my ring. I was so shocked I laughed. What do you say to that? ''My husband, obviously''?

*spit my water all over my screen* OMG!!! you are so funny!

I am glad to see that I am not the only one running into rude and obnoxious people... Thank you for sharing this

LOL! I think all you could do is laugh after that comment!!

 

[Moh 10]

Date: 8/7/2009 3:11:04 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
I had one guy ask me who I had to f**k to get my ring.

Wow! THAT takes the cake!

A shocking question deserves a shocking answer.

I'd respond, "The entire NFL - and MAN!, was it was worth it - in fact I would have done it for free!?!"

Such an insulting jerk needs to have it just shoved right back into his face!

 

[joflier]

Date: 8/7/2009 3:11:04 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
I''ve had the same conversation about my 3 1/2 ct OEC ring. One woman absolutely freaked the hell out when I wouldn''t tell her what I paid for it (good lord, where do people get off?!!). She started bellowing at me repeatedly about how I needed to tell her immediately; apparently she felt that loud volume and repetition was an excellent way to coerce me into sharing overly personal information. Strangely, it didn''t work- I never did tell her! Since she was a customer, I refrained from lecturing her about her unbelievable rudeness, but it was difficult.

I had one guy ask me who I had to f**k to get my ring. I was so shocked I laughed. What do you say to that? ''My husband, obviously''?

That''s crazy! I would have probably said something snotty, like "shows how good I am." and walk away.

 

[sofi]

A woman I know told me this story: She was eating dinner in a restaurant when another diner passed by and stopped to stare at my friend''s gorgeous wedding set. After a moment the stranger looked up and said with a smile, "You know, in this light, that almost looks REAL."

 

[jewelerman]

Date: 8/7/2009 8:59:02 AM
Author:Amethyste
I was trying to find a present for a friend of mine, and a cute little necklace caught my attention in a jewelry store ( at the maul ) so I go in there
asking the clerk to please look at it. He noticed my ring and said '' It''s a nice ring you got! Did you buy it over there''? As he was pointing at a store across them ''Bill and Bob''. I said No! I don''t think they sell diamonds over there... He looked at me like I was kidding, so he asked me if he could look at it, I extended my hand for him to look at it and after he examined it he asked me about the clarity, then he asked me ''HOW MUCH DID IT COST''!!!!

at this point, I did tell him that not it was only rude to ask me if I bought my ring in a custome jewelry store, but to also ask me how much I paid for my ring. i was internally fuming at that point and the necklace i was looking to buy, no longer was a contender. I told him that I wanted to buy the necklace but his comments were really over the top...

I left, upset and also shocked at some people''s lack of manners and etiquette ( even him in his mid 50''s )

ARRRRRRRRRRRRGH!

Anyone experienced something similar to this? How did you react? Please share!

So...how much did your ring cost!!!

 

[4ever]

Date: 8/7/2009 4:43:57 PM
Author: sofi
A woman I know told me this story: She was eating dinner in a restaurant when another diner passed by and stopped to stare at my friend''s gorgeous wedding set. After a moment the stranger looked up and said with a smile, ''You know, in this light, that almost looks REAL.''

Wow......some people huh

 

[jewelerman]

My most memorable experiance like this....had a customer that wanted to try on a ring that was on my finger(my own personal jewelry) when i told her no, she said that she knew that if my jewelry was real then it came from store stock...and if it were mine then it had to be cubic z because she knew how much sales people were paid.

 

[lvnut]

I have had a few people over the years ask how much my ring cost. Not many, but it is unbelievably rude! My own family doesn''t even ask - it''s just none of anyone''s business!

Ametheyste - Your ring is simply so gorgeous I am sure you will be getting many comments over the years while you wear it! My husband sometimes calls my ring "the conversation starter" because so many people ask me about my ring (of course they''re usually diamond lovers) that it always ends up being a long conversation.

What I find almost even more rude is the people who see your ring and just keep staring at you and trying to check out the ring. Then they nudge their friend and then they stare. Usually happens when we eat at a restaurant and we usually sit at the bar . If you want to see it, just ask me! I''ll show it to you (won''t tell you what it costs though!)

 

[D&T]

Date: 8/7/2009 3:33:12 PM
Author: cushioncutnut

Date: 8/7/2009 3:21:48 PM
Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/7/2009 3:11:04 PM
Author: LittleGreyKitten
I''ve had the same conversation about my 3 1/2 ct OEC ring. One woman absolutely freaked the hell out when I wouldn''t tell her what I paid for it (good lord, where do people get off?!!). She started bellowing at me repeatedly about how I needed to tell her immediately; apparently she felt that loud volume and repetition was an excellent way to coerce me into sharing overly personal information. Strangely, it didn''t work- I never did tell her! Since she was a customer, I refrained from lecturing her about her unbelievable rudeness, but it was difficult.

I had one guy ask me who I had to f**k to get my ring. I was so shocked I laughed. What do you say to that? ''My husband, obviously''?

*spit my water all over my screen* OMG!!! you are so funny!

I am glad to see that I am not the only one running into rude and obnoxious people... Thank you for sharing this

LOL! I think all you could do is laugh after that comment!!

seriously lol... I don''t think people mean to be rude (hopefully not), but don''t think they know how to clearly express themselves of their envious and excited way maybe?

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 8/7/2009 2:06:07 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
My ex bf blatantaly asked my father how much his Rolex set him back....yea...wasn''t a BF for very long...

at least he didn''t ask him if it was real.

 

[Haven]

If people ask about cost it''s entirely appropriate to say something along the lines of "I''m not comfortable answering that question." If you accompany that with a shocked expression, all the better.

If people ask *ridiculously* intrusive questions, such as who you had to have intimate relations with to get that ring, it is entirely appropriate to give them a brand-new shiner and a deep impression of said ring in their face. That way, they''ll have a little token to remember you by. Perhaps they can then take their face to a jeweler and get an appraisal from the impression, too.

I''ve been asked about cost a few times, I usually just say "I''m not going to air that personal information around here!" and give them an incredulous smile.

I never take offense to any of it, though. One cannot possibly be happy going around letting others ruin her day with their idiocy.

 

[Dancing Fire]

one time my wife and i was having dinner at this restaurant a lady walk pass our table and she asked my wife "that''s a beautiful ring is it real ?"

i replied by saying... dose it matter? you just said its beautiful. i should of ask her if her boobs were real

even though i knew they were silicones.

 

[Fly Girl]

Date: 8/7/2009 6:40:00 PM
Author: Haven

I never take offense to any of it, though. One cannot possibly be happy going around letting others ruin her day with their idiocy.

Agree.

I always consider the source of these comments. It''s not worth getting upset when an idiot says something stupid. It is to be expected.