Rude comments from strangers on your jewelry

[Moh 10]

Date: 8/7/2009 7:21:02 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Were they a 10,000-carat, enhanced wellmatched pair?
What shape were they, pear?
How was the color?
How were they set - more of a half-bezel or the exposed tension setting?

Oh and could you see a reflection of her girdle?

 

[Shopaholic]

Does this count as rude?:

Hubby and I were out late and one of the stores still open happen to be a high-end costume jewelry place, that also sold real pearl items (which was what caught my attention to go in and browse) and they also had Moissanite, I didn''t really care for it but the sales girl was carrying on with her schpeal anyways, then she was saying how it tested on the diamond tester like a diamond....and my hands were just resting on the counter at the time, I turned my head to look at a pearl necklace and without asking, she pulled out the diamond tester and tested my diamond! Then she tried to play it off when hubby and I looked at each other with the ''did she really just do that?!'' face, by saying "see, a Moissanite will also beep on this diamond tester". Then why didn''t you pull out the Moissanite and test that?! Not that I even asked about Moissanite at all! I was looking at pearls!

Anyways, hubby and I are not fools plus we weren''t new to people being ''curious'' about my ring (I was wearing my Tiffany solitaire with the channel set sides), we knew her intentions. So yeah, there are some that ask me if my rings are real, and then there was that girl who decided to find out for herself.

I was miffed and actually I became more miffed when I thought, "now what if someone does come in wearing a CZ because that is what they can afford, and this girl did that to them?!"

 

[Gailey]

Rudest, most inappropriate comment was from #3 son (aka baby Gailey) to #1 son (aka Jimbo) whilst in the presence of Mr Gailey who was buying my diamond studs:

"Holy F**K! Did you see how much our inheritance just went down by"

And he was right on the button, because they will go to my nieces one day - cheeky brat!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 8/7/2009 8:36:50 PM
Author: Moh 10

Date: 8/7/2009 7:21:02 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Were they a 10,000-carat, enhanced wellmatched pair?
i guess they were

What shape were they, pear?
half moon

How was the color?
F color according to GIA

How were they set - more of a half-bezel or the exposed tension setting?
exposed setting


Oh and could you see a reflection of her girdle?
only at a certain angle

 

[D&T]

Date: 8/7/2009 8:51:53 PM
Author: Gailey
Rudest, most inappropriate comment was from #3 son (aka baby Gailey) to #1 son (aka Jimbo) whilst in the presence of Mr Gailey who was buying my diamond studs:

''Holy F**K! Did you see how much our inheritance just went down by''

And he was right on the button, because they will go to my nieces one day - cheeky brat!

sorry Gailey- this made me chuckle... I hope you don''t get offended by my comment. Its pretty funny from this kid

 

[lvnut]

Date: 8/7/2009 8:36:50 PM
Author: Moh 10

Date: 8/7/2009 7:21:02 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Were they a 10,000-carat, enhanced wellmatched pair?
What shape were they, pear?
How was the color?
How were they set - more of a half-bezel or the exposed tension setting?

Oh and could you see a reflection of her girdle?

I know this is funny to most people and I try to have a sense of humor about it. It is unlikely, but did anyone every think that maybe the woman has had breast cancer and had reconstruction. I only say that because I am a breast cancer survivor and I have a pretty nice set of silicone reconstuction! I have had random people compliment me on my breasts and I think if they knew I had cancer and it was reconstruction they would probably feel bad for saying anything. I'm just happy to look "normal" and actually really, really appreciatet any complimenst ony my breasts! It has been many months of surgery to get me to this point, but trust me, what most women find to be an obnoxious comment can be considered a compliment to a breast cancer survivor. I could post pictures, but since some people seem to enjoy making people feel bad, I won't, but I will say I've sent many bikini photos to women about to go throught what I went through and it made them realize that with the right doctor you can have a great result!

And also Moh - I've seen some of your other posts and thought you might be "tough cookie" but today when someone said something that I found "not so nice" I really appreciated your kind comments.

I realize everyone has an opinion - my favorite comment is "Opinions are like a**holes - everyone has one." But I go out of my way to only say nice things - if I can't think of anything nice to say I keep my mouth shut! I really don't feel the need to hurt anyone's feelings.



Edited to fix typo - must stop drinking wine and posting!

 

[Gailey]

Date: 8/7/2009 10:15:00 PM
Author: D&T

Date: 8/7/2009 8:51:53 PM
Author: Gailey
Rudest, most inappropriate comment was from #3 son (aka baby Gailey) to #1 son (aka Jimbo) whilst in the presence of Mr Gailey who was buying my diamond studs:

''Holy F**K! Did you see how much our inheritance just went down by''

And he was right on the button, because they will go to my nieces one day - cheeky brat!

sorry Gailey- this made me chuckle... I hope you don''t get offended by my comment. Its pretty funny from this kid

Not at all D&T, I chuckled too even if I did think he was a cheeky brat! We decided to teach all three a bit of a lesson. We were heading to the UK last year for a holiday and as my ER was in two pieces I decided to go and get some cheap bling to wear for the trip. Mr Gailey told the kids he thought it was about time he treated me after 15 years. Because they watched him buy my real diamond studs a few months previously they swallowed it hook, line and sinker. He told them he''s spent $30K and one by one, they went very pale! Here''s a snap, I also had a 7 stone eternity to go with this but it''s not in the photo.

It was months before we let the cat out of the bag!

 

[D&T]

Date: 8/7/2009 11:49:23 PM
Author: Gailey

Date: 8/7/2009 10:15:00 PM
Author: D&T

sorry Gailey- this made me chuckle... I hope you don''t get offended by my comment. Its pretty funny from this kid

Not at all D&T, I chuckled too even if I did think he was a cheeky brat! We decided to teach all three a bit of a lesson. We were heading to the UK last year for a holiday and as my ER was in two pieces I decided to go and get some cheap bling to wear for the trip. Mr Gailey told the kids he thought it was about time he treated me after 15 years. Because they watched him buy my real diamond studs a few months previously they swallowed it hook, line and sinker. He told them he''s spent $30K and one by one, they went very pale! Here''s a snap, I also had a 7 stone eternity to go with this but it''s not in the photo.

It was months before we let the cat out of the bag!

thats Awesome gailey!

lol...

 

[Moh 10]

Date: 8/7/2009 10:18:54 PM
Author: lvnut

And also Moh - I''ve seen some of your other posts and thought you might be ''tough cookie'' but today when someone said something that I found ''not so nice'' I really appreciated your kind comments.

I''m tough on the outside but soft on the inside - like good bread.

 

[Gailey]

Date: 8/8/2009 12:02:54 AM
Author: Moh 10

Date: 8/7/2009 10:18:54 PM
Author: lvnut

And also Moh - I''ve seen some of your other posts and thought you might be ''tough cookie'' but today when someone said something that I found ''not so nice'' I really appreciated your kind comments.

I''m tough on the outside but soft on the inside - like good bread.

Look out Moh, they''ll eat you alive over on RT now you''ve exposed your core!

 

[Moh 10]

Date: 8/8/2009 12:10:26 AM
Author: Gailey

Date: 8/8/2009 12:02:54 AM

Author: Moh 10

Date: 8/7/2009 10:18:54 PM

Author: lvnut


And also Moh - I''ve seen some of your other posts and thought you might be ''tough cookie'' but today when someone said something that I found ''not so nice'' I really appreciated your kind comments.

I''m tough on the outside but soft on the inside - like good bread.

Look out Moh, they''ll eat you alive over on RT now you''ve exposed your core!

Oh, come on.
You''re just buttering me up.

 

[cindygenit]

Awww amethysyt!!! Don''t be angry at the rude salespeople! They don''t know any better

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/8/2009 1:02:31 AM
Author: cindygenit
Awww amethysyt!!! Don''t be angry at the rude salespeople! They don''t know any better

Nah Cindy, I am not really angry, i was just REALLY surprised at how the whole conversation came about. When I am in the situation, I am very reactive, once I leave and had the time to think, I am more pensive... Now, its ok, I am not really bothered - and I am still looking for a present for my friend! Maybe if I go there on Sunday, he wont be working lol.

 

[Moh 10]

If you are up for it, I'd consider bringing in your lab report and showing it to him.
Tell him how his comment made you feel bad.

I wouldn't involve the manager.
Just you two alone; and I'd be nice and brief about it.

It doesn't have to be confrontational, just matter of fact with little emotion and drama.
It would be awkward but helpful for him in the long run.

 

[cushioncutnut]

Date: 8/7/2009 8:51:53 PM
Author: Gailey
Rudest, most inappropriate comment was from #3 son (aka baby Gailey) to #1 son (aka Jimbo) whilst in the presence of Mr Gailey who was buying my diamond studs:

''Holy F**K! Did you see how much our inheritance just went down by''

And he was right on the button, because they will go to my nieces one day - cheeky brat!

ROTF! I gotta kick out of that. My son (13) said to me one day... YOu need to stop looking at diamonds....we NEED $$ for college!!!

Naturally that made me want to look more as our children forget that they can pay for their own college just like my husband and I did!!

 

[HollyS]

Date: 8/7/2009 2:40:21 PM
Author: Madam Bijoux
I wouldn''t want to shop at a jewelry store where the salesperson doesn''t know genuine jewels from costume jewelry.

Bingo.

After an ignorant salesclerk asked the stupid question "Is it real?", they would know the answer merely by the "How idiotic are you, anyway?" glare I would give them. And then, I would leave. Without further comment.
Obviously he was a nitwit. And no one needs to buy jewelry from a nitwit. Or be riled up about the opinions or verbalizations from said nitwit. His stupidity wouldn''t make me mad - - just concerned for his other customers. Poor fools.

 

[latebloomer]

I always wish I had a snappy comment back for the question "how much did it cost?, not just about jewelry but about everything. 9We''ve moved recently and have very nosy neighbours). (We use the British spelling here in Canada btw!). I don''t want to say something like "I''m uncomfortable answering that questions" because the truth is that I''m shocked that such a question would be asked!

I agree with the second post, in a sense that idiot was
a) complimenting you
b) showing his own idiocy.

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 8/7/2009 4:43:57 PM
Author: sofi
A woman I know told me this story: She was eating dinner in a restaurant when another diner passed by and stopped to stare at my friend''s gorgeous wedding set. After a moment the stranger looked up and said with a smile, ''You know, in this light, that almost looks REAL.''

A lot of these stories baffle me, but this one in particular. What on earth would possess a stranger to go out of her way to be rude to another stranger? There is no glossing over this comment; it was very deliberate and extremely rude. But, why?! Why would anyone act that way to someone they don''t know? Why make the effort to be mean to a stranger? Are there people who think it''s funny? Cute? Do they think being petty and rude is alluring somehow?

Seriously, I don''t get it.

 

[cindygenit]

Date: 8/8/2009 1:13:55 AM
Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/8/2009 1:02:31 AM

Author: cindygenit

Awww amethysyt!!! Don''t be angry at the rude salespeople! They don''t know any better

Nah Cindy, I am not really angry, i was just REALLY surprised at how the whole conversation came about. When I am in the situation, I am very reactive, once I leave and had the time to think, I am more pensive... Now, its ok, I am not really bothered - and I am still looking for a present for my friend! Maybe if I go there on Sunday, he wont be working lol.

That''s great to hear! I actually do go out of my way to avoid certain SAs... or I would ask for a specific SA (Whom I have a good relationship with) to help me...LOL

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

A gal standing behind me in a line up said very loud "that ring is fake"....her friend turned very red and looked mortified...I just ignored it...

cheers--Sharon

 

[Moh 10]

Date: 8/10/2009 12:01:11 PM
Author: canuk-gal
HI:


A gal standing behind me in a line up said very loud ''that ring is fake''....her friend turned very red and looked mortified...I just ignored it...


cheers--Sharon

Astonishing!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Hee! I just remembered one from a few years ago: I was wearing Old Miss Evil (my emerald cut) in a restaurant. A woman about 3 tables away came over and said "Oh, I could wear a ring like that - nobody would ever notice it." (Well, duh - you noticed it.)

 

[roverchic]

I had a SA at a very snooty chain jewelry store pawn me off (after initially greeting me) to another SA bc she did not "have time to help someone wearing costume jewelry." (She had no idea I heard her snide comment.)

I was wearing my pear shaped champagne diamond ring...looks similar to your yellow...and 2ct tw diamond studs with track pants, a hoodie and sneakers.
I asked to see a pair of Mikimoto pear and diamond earrings...tried them on, thanked the SA and left...
I came back about an hour later, walked up to the snooty SA and set a large shopping bag on the counter in front of her.
I smiled politely at her as I pulled out a medium sized box, opened it, and showed her my brand new Louis Vuitton purse.

I pointed out that I had just spent the same amount of money in another store that I could have spent at her store, but I chose the other store bc the SA''s were helpful, cordial and didn''t make the mistake of insulting me. I also made it a point that she saw the sales receipt with the price so she knew without a doubt it wasn''t a fake.

I asked to see the manager, and sat down with him to talk. She stood at the other end of the store, looking a little sick, and obviously scared. After a few minutes, he called her over, gave her my ring and asked her to clean it. She went to the back of the store and emerged about 10 minutes later, my ring all sparkly and clean (I am sure she spent some time inspecting it as well). I politely thanked her for her courtesy and praised her cleaning skills. I once again left w/o purchasing anything.

When I am in that particular area, I make it a point to stop in to browse their cases...if she is working, she always greets me (by name) and is very polite. I have never bought anything, and seriously doubt I ever will. I just enjoy seeing the look on her face when I walk in. (I know, I can be mean.)

Oh yeah...when I sat down with the manager...we talked about golf...he plays at the club I belong to and I recognized him...I didn''t once mention her name or my experience with her to him (what she doesn''t know won''t hurt her, right?)

 

[zhuzhu]

People have also asked me in the past how much my ering set costs. I just smiled and said "a lot". It is simply not worth it to be angered by people who don''t think before speaking.

 

[Moh 10]

I've had people ask the cost of my diamond.
Mostly people too young to know better.

 

[amyjokerette]

I was thinking about this for a while...

Here are my reactions... first, moh10 makes a good point... sometimes young people who don''t know any better let things like that slip out. Also people who are thinking about buying rings for someone tend to ask more.

But, in this particular situation the store manager clearly should have known that that was not appropriate. But, I can imagine that seeing your gorgeous ROCK would cause anyone to momentarily lose their grip on reality! It''s really not everyday that people see a beautiful lemony pear of that size... and he probably just had a lapse in judgement. But take it as a compliment!!! I was thinking that maybe he is so used to talking about prices that it just slipped out.

 

[Amethyste]

I had many laughs reading this thread!!!
you guys have spunk!! I love PS
THanks AmyJokerette - I am starting to let these kind of comments roll off my back now... THank you for your kind words

 

[Dandi]

I used to work in a jewellery shop, and was engaged at age 22 to my DH with (what I believe to be

) a beautiful engagement ring that I still wear with much pride. A customer entered the store and commented on my ring. It was exactly the style she was shopping for, for herself. She said "I'd like you to work out a quote for my to have that exact same ring made, but with real diamonds".

My boss was standing behind me and let out a huge snort

Perhaps I looked too young to own a pretty diamond ring?

Or perhaps she was an ignorant haggis? I worked for a jeweller for pete's sake!!!

Once I'd made it quite clear to her that my diamonds were in fact natural, another bird standing behind her (total stranger) piped up and said "oh yeah, I've had a ring just like that made too, with real diamonds, they're much bigger than yours though".

I thought my boss was going to die of stifled laughter that day. Honestly.

 

[NakedFinger]

Unfortunately, with all the access to "fake" items out there, its now become customary to assume something is fake. Ie: Its very rare for a small person to have large breasts, so we assume "they must be fake". I can it all the time, size 2, full C cup "Are those real???". People assume I paid for them, why cant I just be blessed?

Or with purses. I now refuse to by anything from the Louis Vuitton or Coach monogram collections, because that is what gets knocked off. Now everyone one (and literally everyone, like 12 year old girls walkin around the mall) have LV bags. Many of which are fakes. So why spend $2k on a bag that people now just assume is fake?

The same thing happened with your ring. So must is fake and knocked off nowadays, that this person (ignorant as it is) assumed it couldnt possibly be real. What with CZ''s and lab diamonds and "Diamonique" or whatever that crap on QVC is, people see more and more replicated. It almost makes we not want to have and super big diamond because if no one is going to believe me that its real, whats the point you know? Its SO annoying! (Sorry vent over!

)

This doesnt excuse him blatantly asking if it was fake or how much it cost. Some people have no tact.