rude friends

[Blair138]

Date: 4/21/2009 7:15:11 PM
Author: Guilty Pleasure
hmmm, I have no idea why I thought you were just out of college, getting engaged the June after graduation. It sounds to me like maybe the one girl who planned this is really close to the girl with the party and jumped the gun. I think it is super early to have a real bachelorette party, so I just assumed that she was getting everyone excited about her friend.


A b-party this early is nutty, but you can''t say anything because it will just look like you''re jealous or don''t want to share the spotlight, which is not the case.


Maybe you''ve just grown apart from your friends, or they are miffed about not being bridesmaids. who knows? Anyways, sorry you feel let down. If anyone backs out of your party because of being tired from going out the weekend before, they are not very good friends.

Thanks GP. That is exactly how I feel. I am really happy for the other friend, but I know that if I say anything, it will seem like I am being rude and jealous.

 

[Tuckins1]

They sound like they are being bee-atches. Sorry, but it''s true. An engagement IS an exciting time, and the bride to be deserves to have some ooh-ing and aah-ing over it!

 

[havernell]

Date: 4/21/2009 9:56:55 AM
Author: Guilty Pleasure


3. Maybe this other engaged girl has one close friend in the group who is spearheading the celebration movement. The rest are just going along with it. It doesn't mean that they ALL care more about her stuff than yours.

This is the first thing I thought of when I read your post, Blair. Is the girl who send the email about the bachelorette party closer to the newly engaged girl than she is to you?

I couldn't tell from your post, but has there been a flurry of emails from lots of different girls in the group showing excitement for your other friend's b-party, or has it just been this one email from this one lone girl?

If it's the later, I don't think you can constitute one email from one girl to be evidence that "everyone" is more excited about the newly engaged girls engagement than they are about yours. It could just be this one girl (for whatever reason).

Regardless, I hope you can relax and just have fun both weekends!

 

[redfaerythinker]

I feel for you. Weddings can really bring forth those friends that aren''t really friends at all.

 

[meresal]

Thanks for coming back and answering our questions.

If none of them are close enough to be in your wedding party, then personally, I would let it go. Are these girls going to be in this other girls wedding party? I know it hurts, but that would explain alot of the excitement... and it''s hard to be excited when your not involved with the wedding AND in other cities.

If these are high school friends, then it sounds like that''s exactly where your friendship still stands... high school. I would just try to have fun at her party, and then have a great time at yours. I wouldn''t say anything because I would assume that would almost assure that others will not show up to your, or it could be very uncomfortable.

I hope everything works out Blair!

 

[Margot]

Glad to hear it''s not going to dampen your own fun at your b-party. You have the right attitude. I completely understand why you were bothered by the whole thing. It''s hard to reconcile how some people can be thoughtless, especially if you''ve been a good friend to them. The party they''re planning is BOGUS, but if you tried to explain that, they probably wouldn''t "get it" anyway.

 

[Dannielle]

I just wanted to post some support, I hope everything works out for you

 

[VRBeauty]

Blair: From what you''ve told us, I can see why you''re hurt and upset. I guess I''d echo what Freke and others have said... I''m not sure these are friends you can (or should) rely on.