Sadness and GRR!!

[Mandarine]

Hi Fisher!

All I can say is that you crack me up!!!....Chill girl!!!!!!!!!!

I know you are excited, and can't wait, and all that....but we're talking weeks here!...let the boy surprise you!. You will look back at this and wonder why you were acting so silly and why didn't you let him have his dream proposal (which I believe would also turn out to be YOUR dream proposal!). All I can say is stop trying to put a big cloud in such a wonderful time of your life!...leave it up to destiny, or God, or whatever, to let things happen when the time is *right*...just try and relax and don't ask more questions, tell him to stop telling you about it, and have a a GF/BF relationship without engagement talk for now! you only have a few weeks of that left, so enjoy it!

I agree with travelling gal and maybe a break would be "healthy" for you, and Paul, and for both of you!

We're all waiting with you, and we're all waiting to hear when it finally happens and see the story come together!

M~

ETA: edited for typing errors!

 

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Date: 6/20/2006 8:52:29 PM
Author: Mara
girlfriend, chill! drop and give me 20!

What happened to letting him surprise you with it?!?!?!

Him telling you there is a glitch and you wanting to know what is not a surprise.

Just tell him you don''t want to know anything else til it''s on your finger and THEN go committ yourself. I can''t take it anymore and I''m not even in your relationship!!

OMG Mara...you are killing me. All the things I''m thinking when I read the post you already have them down LOL

Fish...try to remain calm. I''ve read alot of the ladies other advice and I know you are ansy and Paul''s not helping by telling you the details...not much longer. Better to have the ring perfect then have something messed up wouldn''t you say??

Some things are worth waiting for and this ring will most definitely be one of them. I have no patience, and I hate surprises (love them really but can''t stand the anticipation of them

) so I definitely know where you are coming from. However from one impatient person to the other...try to get involved in something else to take your mind off of it. When he gets the ring he''s probably going to drive straight to your house and put it on your finger just because he won''t be able to wait either.
Good luck sweetie!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Alas, I must admit you all are RIGHT. Not that I doubted it, but now, I can sort of see that the focus was a little *too* extreme there for a minute. Paul and I talked today, and I think that his excitement was making him tell me things, and that I didn''t realize how much I *do* want to be surprised, and I do want him to have the satisfaction and joy of *getting it done* and in his own way, with his own surprise. He says that he''ll do his very best to NOT mention it again, and to avoid and ignore my tendencies toward asking without asking him for information. I have agreed to work really hard to just not ask, and to let him be the man and surprise me and make it a fun and happy moment we''ll treasure for life.

Plan, day one. Going well. If it''s a short plan, I''ll rock the house with doing so well at it. I almost see it as a challenge. How long can I go without bringing up such and such? Gosh, we have lots of other things to talk about and do and yeah, I''m sliding back into chill out mode, I do believe. I don''t know when they''re sending anything, who it''s coming from, when he''ll get it, or anything. And I''m happy that he''s happy that it will have some element of a surprise to it, and he''s just so excited about his plans. That in itself is much more exciting than trying to figure out when I''ll get it. *I almost mean that completely, too. I''m REAL close to meaning it as sincerely as possible!!*

Thanks for the comments. My scrapbook has about 5 more pages now, and I''ll soon be back up to the date!