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Saturday night, I lost my best friend/cat

athenaworth

athenaworth

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My son (yes, he felt like a son) Dude died on Saturday. it happened the worst possible way. We were in Jamaica living it up and he was with a sitter. He was sick, but the sitter said he was getting better so we didn't have the sitter take him to the vet. Then he died. I can't shake the feeling that he died thinking we'd abandoned him. My heart is broken into a thousand pieces and I don't think it'll ever heal.
 
Oh, my dear, I am so terribly sorry for your loss.
Know that you gave Dude the best life possible and that he knew he was loved. I know the pain of losing a loved one and my heart goes out to you. When we lost Billy - my beloved cat of almost 16 years (also a son to us)- I thought my heart would break and that I would never feel happiness again. In time the searing pain will be less and you will be able to think of Dude with love and affection and happiness and there will always be a special place in your heart for him.
Big hugs,
Missy
 
Athena, I am so very sorry for your loss. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Sometimes things just happen this way. Think about the life you gave Dude and how much love he gave you. Hugs.
 
((((((hugs))))))) don't second guess yourself, it does no good anyway - you did the best you could, how could you know? I wish upon you peace at this time, godspeed dude!
 
I am so, so sorry. Just know that you couldn't have done anything differently. It's terrible that it worked out that way, but it's not your fault. I'll be thinking of you and Dude. My best friend is my cat too, so I can just imagine your heartbreak.
 
I am so sorry for your loss. I cried when I read your post, imagining your heartbreak. My dogs and kitties are my children, too. This is a loss I have not yet experienced, and I honestly don't know how I will be able to endure it when I do. My heart aches for you, and I wish I could just give you a long hug. I'm just so sorry.
 
I am so brokenhearted for you. I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better, but I know the heartache you must feel. I'm just so, so sorry.
 
((HUGS))
 
I am so very, very sorry sweetie, and heartbroken for you. Please don't feel guilty, all of this was beyond your control. You had no way of knowing. You gave Dude a wonderful life, just think of all the happy years you gave him. Oh, there are no words to truly comfort you or take away your pain. But please know my thoughts are with you, and (((hugs))) to you as you deal with this loss.
 
I'm so sorry. I am sure that he knew he was loved and adored and cherished. I wish you peace and comfort during this sad time.
 
Oh, Athena. I'm so very, very sorry. I lost a cat unxpectedly a few years ago, and I was completely brokenhearted - we *know* they won't be with us forever, but losing them unexpectedly is such a terrible blow.

You most certainly did *not* abandon him - you left him with a qualified sitter who I'm sure cared for him well, and, given how unexpected it was, there's no guarantee a vet could have saved him (mine died *at* the vets, in the course of a completely routine check-up). Know that you loved your cat, and you gave him the best life possible. You have all my condolences.
 
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Oh, Athena. I'm so very, very sorry. I lost a cat unxpectedly a few years ago, and I was completely brokenhearted - we *know* they won't be with us forever, but losing them unexpectedly is such a terrible blow.

You most certainly did *not* abandon him - you left him with a qualified sitter who I'm sure cared for him well, and, given how unexpected it was, there's no guarantee a vet could have saved him (mine died *at* the vets, in the course of a completely routine check-up). Know that you loved your cat, and you gave him the best life possible. You have all my condolences.
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I'm so sorry about your loss!

Like Circe said, hat even with a vet visit, there is a chance he may not have been able to be saved :(
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand how you feel but you shouldn't blame yourself. I'm sure he knew you loved him.
 
I'm so sorry! :(sad
 
Thank you everyone. My heart is so broken. Thank you for letting me come here and talk about it.
 
Oh, Athenaworth, I'm so sorry. It's so darn hard to lose our fuzzy kids. Even if you were there, it sounds like something no one could help. Unlike us, animals aren't afraid to die. I think they know when it's happening but they have no mythology, no fears about sins committed. He knew then & knows now that you love him totally, and that will never end. He takes your love with him; it's his fortune, his money in the cosmic bank. Go ahead & grieve without guilt -- what better memorial can we ask for than someone missing our presence? I'm certain he's waiting at the Bridge for you. Here's a picture, reputedly done by an American Indian, of where he waits (along with my many much-missed 4-footed family members & others' here too).

--- Laurie

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I'm so sorry to hear about your poor kitty! ;(
 
I'm so sorry for your loss.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss :blackeye: . As hard as it is not to 'humanize' our pets, I think that Dude definitely knew he was loved, and most definitely knows that you didn't abandon him.

Was he very old? Was there any chance that he was waiting for you to be away from him?

I hope that your heart mends quickly, and that you have many fond memories to remember!
 
Im so sorry for your loss :blackeye:
 
Big hugs Athena...I am so sorry. Crying (and time) are the only things that ease my pain at a time like this. Be gentle on
yourself.
 
Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear about your kitty.
 
I'm sorry Athena! You didn't do anything wrong though. I'm really sorry for your loss -- it's never easy to lose a pet.
 
I am so sorry for your loss :(sad
 
So very sorry for your loss Athenaworth. Must have been so hard. Am sending you a huge hug. And to tell you, don't beat yourself up. I know easy for me to say?? But just came back from a trip, and came back to my oldest doggie not doing well.. I am staying home with him for Xmas. I can't trust the sitter any more. Your sitter sounds like she was attentive.

Hugs to you and prayers of comfort in your loss.
 
I learned a long time ago when I a kid and my my mother worked for a vet that there's a certain flow chart of decision making you follow as a responsible pet owner. You followed it. Don't blame yourself. You didn't do anything wrong. I'm so sorry for your loss.
 
I am SO sorry for your loss :(( :((
 
Oh Athena, I'm so, so sorry for your loss :(sad
 
I am so sorry for your loss. :blackeye:
 
I'm so sorry Athena. You and Dude are in my thoughts. ((HUGS))
 
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