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Saturday night, I lost my best friend/cat

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sure he stepped over the bridge calmly and peacefully.

He knows you love him, I promise . . .

He is still with you, he's only changed form . . .

It'll get better soon . . .
 
im so so sorry athena ;( i dont know what to say, but im so sorry and im thinking of you and Dude, im sure he knows you love him...
 
Damn, I'm sorry to hear this. I cry with you, for you tonight. :((
 
So sorry for your loss.
 
Thank you so much everyone. I wish you all could've met him. Boy he was a groovy kitty. Just the best. They broke the mold when they made him.
 
JewelFreak|1291661296|2788993 said:
Oh, Athenaworth, I'm so sorry. It's so darn hard to lose our fuzzy kids. Even if you were there, it sounds like something no one could help. Unlike us, animals aren't afraid to die. I think they know when it's happening but they have no mythology, no fears about sins committed. He knew then & knows now that you love him totally, and that will never end. He takes your love with him; it's his fortune, his money in the cosmic bank. Go ahead & grieve without guilt -- what better memorial can we ask for than someone missing our presence? I'm certain he's waiting at the Bridge for you. Here's a picture, reputedly done by an American Indian, of where he waits (along with my many much-missed 4-footed family members & others' here too).

--- Laurie
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Laurie your post made me bawl my eyes out! ;( I always dream of it being like that for our pets.

Athena, I am so sorry for your loss and I understand how heartbroken you must feel right now. {hugs}.
 
I'm so sorry he passed. Nevertheless his memory is in your heart forever.
 
I am so sorry for your loss. I think loving a pet makes us better people. I still carry my childhood dog in my heart. Please please don't feel guilty or like you did something wrong. You did not and I am sure he knew you much you love him.
 
Athena, I'm so sorry :( I know how much your heart is hurting right now and I hope you're able to find some peace soon!
 
athenaworth|1291683307|2789354 said:
Thank you so much everyone. I wish you all could've met him. Boy he was a groovy kitty. Just the best. They broke the mold when they made him.
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Tell us about him... what made him a groovy kitty? :)
 
i'm so sorry to hear that, athena. my heart breaks for you. wishing you lots of healing in the future. ((((HUGS)))))
 
Oh athena I can't stop crying, my heart is aching so hard for you, I'm so, so sorry. Please please don't be hard on yourself, he was a very much loved boy with a wonderful life, and he knew it. Wishing you peace and healing in the future, the pain of losing a pet is indescribable.

If it helps you to talk about him, I'd love to hear more about Dude, I even just adore his name 8)

I wish I was there to hug you xxx
 
If you are up to it, I would love to hear about Dude too. Tell us about him. How did he get his name?
 
Whispering a prayer for little Dude, and for comfort for you. I lost my heart-friend cat, Max, when I was in Vegas with my Dad at a convention. My husband and son were home and did not think to call him in during a horrific thunderstorm (he was terrified of thunder). Well, the 'storm' turned in to a 5 day, historic weather pattern that had unbelievable thunderstorms stuck over our town for FIVE days. Airport closed, etc. They didn't tell me he got 'lost' on the first day of my trip, because they thought I'd come home and ruin my vacation. The pain I felt when I got back I can't even describe. It has been 8 years now, and it has been very hard to forgive them. Yes, I got another cat 2 years later, then and another, and I'm loving them, but I still feel guilty about Max. He trusted me so much. That morning he gave me such a 'loving' in my lap, rubbing his face all over mine, licking my whole face, sitting with his forehead against mine that I laughed out loud. I even said to him "It's just a trip to Vegas! I'm not saying 'goodbye forever'!" Little did I know. I looked for him for a year. Then we had to move. I still, still feel awful. Good luck, dear girl.. ;(
 
He had a stuffed mousie that he killed every night. It's my favorite thing of his and I sleep with it every night now. He also had this funny little tunnel thing that we got him for his 10th birthday that he would DART into as fast as he could, then he'd turn around and DART back through the other side as fast as he could. He'd do that several times in a row and then we'd drag him around in the tunnel while he bit the sides of it.

He hated his Summer haircuts. He was Cujo at the vet so we always had to put him under when we would take him in for his bouts (the same kind of bout that eventually took him from us). So a few times we'd ask the to just sheer him because we knew there was no way he'd let us do it if he was awake. He was always so cold when we'd cut his hair, so he'd snuggle even more with me under the blankies.

He loved being with us in the bathroom when we took our showers, and if we happened to take a shower in the middle of the day when he wasn't expecting it, he'd RUN as fast as he could into the bathroom so he could be there with us. We'd always spend the first 10 minutes in the bathroom snuggling him and talking to him, and in return he'd rub his nose in our ears (we called it "telling us a secret"). He also liked to play chase. We'd hide around a corner and peek out at him and he'd run as fast as he could to catch us, then he'd do scary Halloween kitty and fall over on his side.

The last night I spent with him he snuggled under the blankies with me all night. He even rolled over when I rolled over. It's turned out to be my favorite night. Then when we got up early for the flight, he stayed in bed. It was too early for him! Smart boy stayed under the blankies until the last minute. He really was a one-of-a-kind kind of kitty. I will love him for the rest of my life.

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Oh, Athena. What a sweetheart! I have tears in my eyes after reading your post. My heart is breaking for you, too.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can tell from your pictures that he was the happiest cat, and was so happy you were his Mama.
 
Athena - I have not had the pleasure to meet you, and regret that it must be under these circumstances, but I so very sorry about Dude. Your story and pictures really touched my heart, as I have 2 furry kitty boys myself. Your recollection of events and apparent love for Dude has brought tears to my eyes. I know that whatever the circumstances, life happens according to some plan, so please don't blame yourself for his passing, it was just his time. I hope that you are able to find some peace soon and know that he will forever be with you.
 
I'm so sorry Athena.

What a gift that you have videos of Dude, makes me think I need to go make some of my dog. Pictures are great, but nothing beats video for making you feel like he is right there with you. It may be painful to watch now, but I hope in the future they bring you joy to be able to remember him so well.
 
Gosh I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. He sounds like he was full of personality.

I had a similar thing happen. We moved, and our indoor/outdoor cat who was always very savvy about traffic and other hazards, started crossing a street he always avoided in order to visit his old haunting grounds. On one of those trips he was hit by a car. A small part of me, I can never forgive myself for inadvertantly contributing to his death.
There is no way for it not to be really hard right now because you really miss him. But it will get better, and in time you will remember your time with him with warmth and love rather than in grieving.


For everyone else, give your furry friends lots of hugs and love.
 
Athena, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. ;(

Here's what I think: I think Dude knew it was coming, and he purposely held off until you were gone. (I'm sure you'll agree that pets just KNOW when we're going on a trip!) He didn't want you to have to suffer through it with him, and he was trying to spare you that pain by waiting until after you had left. He absolutely DOES know how much you love him, and he loves you just as much. ((((HUGS))))
 
hawaiianorangetree|1291689500|2789480 said:
JewelFreak|1291661296|2788993 said:
Oh, Athenaworth, I'm so sorry. It's so darn hard to lose our fuzzy kids. Even if you were there, it sounds like something no one could help. Unlike us, animals aren't afraid to die. I think they know when it's happening but they have no mythology, no fears about sins committed. He knew then & knows now that you love him totally, and that will never end. He takes your love with him; it's his fortune, his money in the cosmic bank. Go ahead & grieve without guilt -- what better memorial can we ask for than someone missing our presence? I'm certain he's waiting at the Bridge for you. Here's a picture, reputedly done by an American Indian, of where he waits (along with my many much-missed 4-footed family members & others' here too).

--- Laurie
Click to expand...

Laurie your post made me bawl my eyes out! ;( I always dream of it being like that for our pets.

Athena, I am so sorry for your loss and I understand how heartbroken you must feel right now. {hugs}.
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Yeah me too ;( (I know when I lose any of my guys I'm going to be an utter wreck, and they're all elderly now.) Your kitty knew you loved him though, and there's nothing that you could have done. But truly what an awful thing to have happen while you were gone. :blackeye:
 
Thank you so much for sharing Dude and his story with us. My thoughts are with you. (((((HUGS)))))
 
I'm sorry about your beautiful boy! Looking at your pictures and your videos you can tell how much you loved him. This makes me know that he knew it too!!!
 
I've decided to make a Shutterfly album of him for DH for Christmas. Going through the photos seems to help. We also saw our marriage counselor last night and he helped me with the guilt part of it. I think I'll always feel like I could've done something to help, but now at least I *think* I'm over the worry that he thought we abandoned him. I'm going more and more time between sob-fests as well, so that's good, although DH and I both are still only getting about 4 hours of sleep, and that's with aides. I can't believe it's only been a few days. It feels like an eternity and then again feels like only yesterday.
 
Thanks so much for sharing Dude's stories athena, he sounded like a riot! The look on his face when he was tucked into your DH's jocks is hilarious! He looks like he's saying "yeah? so what?!" :bigsmile: I love how they snuggle at night under the covers, they're such big softies. What a handsome guy he was, and your girl kitty is so pretty! They look like a bit of a handful together ::)
 
I'm so sorry for your loss :( I haven't gotten my cat yet, but we've put a deposit down on her and I already love her, so saying he's like a family member is understandable. HUGS!
 
HI:

I am very sorry for your loss. I loved your stories and pictures--thank you for sharing.

kind regards--Sharon
 
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