should a girl feel proud to own a Tiffany e-ring?

[K9]

boots... that set is BEAUTIFUL on your hand! It''s perfectly proportionate! Your man did a good job trying to find you the best he could afford and he did a great job!

 

[Tuckins1]

I understand your feelings, but honestly, your ring looks bigger than .57 carats! Maybe you have thin fingers or something, but it looks bigger then that. The ring itself is very beautiful! I have a similar situation... My ring was a custom ring by a high end jeweler here in my area. My stone is a D SI1 .70 ct princess and is SO SPARKLY!! My friend got a tacori ring with quite a large radiant stone, but it looks cloudy and I don''t even care for the setting. Her ring cost about 3 times what mine did, but I like mine way better because the stone looks prettier and I know my hubby went for quality over quantity. Enjoy your ring and feel special that your man cared enough to get you a spectacular stone and setting!!!

 

[2Artists]

Coming at it from a purely artistic aesthetic viewpoint rather than a monetary one. I don''t think that huge rings are any better than smaller rings just different.

Think dogs- big dogs are not any better than small dogs just different. Some people prefer little dogs some big dogs it all depends on the person (and dog since both sizes have distinct advantages. Really it comes down to personal preference.

I think it is the same with rings. Both huge and small rings have advantages. Big rings have a certain special presence and visual weight and beauty and small rings are very sleek and streamlined and almost aerodynamic on the hand.

I don''t think that your ring looks small at all by the way. I think that it looks like a classy quality ring on your lovely hand.

And just picture your guy going and picking out the ring for you-that should melt any lingering doubts about your beautiful ring.

Mrs.2Artists

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 7/24/2008 8:34:53 PM
Author: 2Artists
Coming at it from a purely artistic aesthetic viewpoint rather than a monetary one. I don''t think that huge rings are any better than smaller rings just different.

Think dogs- big dogs are not any better than small dogs just different.

Ahhh, but grasshopper, your logic is flawed because everyone knows that big dogs are way better than little dogs...

 

[iheartscience]

First of all, your ring is beautiful and looks great on you! However, I completely understand where you''re coming from. I am not a Tiffany girl either, and if my fiance had purchased my ring there I would have been a touch irritated because I know he could get more bang for his buck elsewhere. So I don''t think you''re a brat at all! You''re just a smart shopper!

It''s too late to do anything about it now, but I would definitely get yourself a great diamond at a later date. If you purchase from a place like Whiteflash.com, you can get a gorgeous diamond and upgrade it repeatedly! Their upgrade policy is great-you can upgrade and there is not a set limit on the amount you have to spend like there is at Tiffany.

And I bet you''ll get over feeling a smidge jealous soon enough! Stuff like that always passes eventually.

 

[2Artists]

Ha you are too funny! Awwww but for real they are all cute-same thing with quality diamonds of various sizes!

Mrs2Artists

 

[Isabelle]

I have to say that the truth is that F VVS1 is incredibly rare and adds a great deal of value to your stone. That and the cut, along with the name Tiffany in the shank mean it is worth more dollars wise, and will retain its value over the long haul much more so than a lower color grade or clarity grade from a typical B&M jeweler. That''s an objective fact. The name stamp means a lot in terms of how the ring would be valued on the open market. The color grade and clarity grade just add tremendously to that. Secondly, it looks gorgeous on your hand. Keep it and get a fabulous RHR for your 5th or 10th anniversary. Don''t spend one minute thinking about your friends'' ring. It''s not half of what yours is, even if does weigh more. --And I say this as a non-Tiffany ering owner.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Date: 7/24/2008 12:57:26 PM
Author: fieryred33143
A 'girl' shouldn't feel lucky to have any particular ring.

A 'girl' should feel lucky to have found someone in their life that they love and that loves her back and is now asking her to spend the rest of her life with him.

That's all I'll say on that.

I agree with this 100%.
Congratulations on your engagement!

 

[Rhea]

Your ring is very pretty and looks good on you. It''s too late now to really worry about the Tiffanys thing, besides the lines are fairly split on that subject! Your DH did a great job and bought a great ring. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.

 

[NeverEndingUpgrade]

Your set is absolutely gorgeous, and I can see the quality even in that small photo. If you are still unhappy with the center stone, will Tiffany let you exchange it for a larger, lower clarity one while keeping the set? I know all their diamonds are not VVS.

Oh, and a girl should be proud to have any e-ring, not just one from Tiffany.

 

[maybe tiffany]

Date: 7/25/2008 7:00:49 PM
Author: NeverEndingUpgrade
Your set is absolutely gorgeous, and I can see the quality even in that small photo. If you are still unhappy with the center stone, will Tiffany let you exchange it for a larger, lower clarity one while keeping the set? I know all their diamonds are not VVS.

Oh, and a girl should be proud to have any e-ring, not just one from Tiffany.

i totally agree. maybe you can ask what their policy is about changing the center stone.

your set is gorgeous!!!! congrats on the engagement. i think your guy did an awesome job.

 

[bootsiekin]

To everyone,

thank you again for all your kind words and advice! everyone on this site is so friendly!

What Isabelle wrote really struck me - it made me think more about this ring being more than just mine. It will be around a lot longer than I will, and maybe I should consider its value also as an heirloom to pass down. When I think about it that way, it almost seems like the perfect package, F and VVS1, platinum, Tiffany, etc. My mind may be swaying to think that it would be wrong to separate this *almost* perfect diamond from an otherwise perfect ring. Does that make sense? Is it really true that over time this ring would hold its value better than if it had a lower color/clarity but higher carat stone - maybe something like 0.8C H-color, VS2? There is a certain appeal to thinking 150 years from now one of my great grandchildren will be looking in awe at this ring, and it being special because of the high quality stone.

I am not sure what the options really are from Tiffany if I dont do their upgrade plan, which I think would be a waste, unless I end up with money to burn. I think I could purchase a loose diamond from them (being that they wont set a non-Tiffany diamond) and have them set it in my original setting (provided the new size was not too large)? I guess I would need to go in there and see what kind of prices I would be looking at for a noticeably larger stone with a lower clarity/color grade. In a perfect world, I suppose I would try to make a deal with them to trade in this stone for one of the same dollar value - but I doubt they are that understanding! So, I would end up still keeping my orignal diamond and maybe putting in another setting or selling it? At least its nice to know I have options..and time to think about it. I couldnt really afford to purchase anything for about 2 years when I *hopefully* have completed my PhD and will have a job!

 

[Skippy123]

It is beautiful ring and many congrats!!!

 

[Joan]

It was so thoughtful of your partner to get you such a beautiful ring (it really is!), and that he wanted to make the effort to get it from a place that he considered high quality..and the best. It says a lot about how he feels about you, and that he wanted this token of his love to please you!

We all start out smaller, and when things are more secure..some of us upgrade or change.

I think what you must remember here is what is really important is the people around us, and the output of love we give. When we die my guess is that we won''t care about rings..and the people who remember us won''t care about the rings we wore..but they will remember our essense..and how we made the world more special for them, and the caring we gave.

You''re ring is so beautiful. It''s beautiful because it has a beautiful story. I kind of wish my husband would have picked out my ring..but I used to be such a control freak (and maybe still am a little) that I just had to choose myself. It would have meant more to me(like your ring) if he would have chosen it. I think life''s surprises are undervalued.

And btw..your ring looks lovely and big on your finger!
Joan

 

[diane5006]

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[Isabelle]

Date: 7/26/2008 12:34:07 AM
Author: bootsiekin
To everyone,


thank you again for all your kind words and advice! everyone on this site is so friendly!


What Isabelle wrote really struck me - it made me think more about this ring being more than just mine. It will be around a lot longer than I will, and maybe I should consider its value also as an heirloom to pass down. When I think about it that way, it almost seems like the perfect package, F and VVS1, platinum, Tiffany, etc. My mind may be swaying to think that it would be wrong to separate this *almost* perfect diamond from an otherwise perfect ring. Does that make sense? Is it really true that over time this ring would hold its value better than if it had a lower color/clarity but higher carat stone - maybe something like 0.8C H-color, VS2? There is a certain appeal to thinking 150 years from now one of my great grandchildren will be looking in awe at this ring, and it being special because of the high quality stone.


I am not sure what the options really are from Tiffany if I dont do their upgrade plan, which I think would be a waste, unless I end up with money to burn. I think I could purchase a loose diamond from them (being that they wont set a non-Tiffany diamond) and have them set it in my original setting (provided the new size was not too large)? I guess I would need to go in there and see what kind of prices I would be looking at for a noticeably larger stone with a lower clarity/color grade. In a perfect world, I suppose I would try to make a deal with them to trade in this stone for one of the same dollar value - but I doubt they are that understanding! So, I would end up still keeping my orignal diamond and maybe putting in another setting or selling it? At least its nice to know I have options..and time to think about it. I couldnt really afford to purchase anything for about 2 years when I *hopefully* have completed my PhD and will have a job!

There is absolutely no question that a stamped ring from a design house like Tiffany will sell for much more than a non-designer stamped ring of similar quality. It might disturb some people to know that, but that is the reality. You can take a look at Sotheby''s online or any other great auction house and see how much more an authentic, signed ring will get on the free market. Now, please do not expect to *make money* on a resale. That is unlikely. But your ring will sell for much closer to what you paid retail than someone else''s non-designer ring of similar quality. Of course, presumably your granddaughter would want to keep your ring and not sell it. So all of this is academic. If you start dismantling the ring, I doubt you will experience anything like the resale value I discussed above. The value of the signed piece flows from the integrity of the piece remaining intact. Also, I do not think Tiffany will let you trade in your diamond for another. Their rings are made by hand for each diamond and I would be really surprised if they agreed to trade the stone. But I could be wrong and it can''t hurt to ask them. Of course, Tiffany has a one time upgrade policy as you mentioned. You can upgrade your ring once so long as you spend at least double on the upgrade of what you originally spent. So, at your ten year anniversary, you could go pick out a $20,000.00 ring and get $8000.00 credit toward the purchase. Not too bad. You might be surprised that you can afford to spend $12,000.00 on an upgrade in ten years. For now, I would reiterate to you: Enjoy your heirloom ring and don''t worry about it anymore. The ring looks really beautiful on your hand!

 

[D2B]

whilst i love looking at all the larger rings, in real life, yours is perfect, the perfect size, quality and sparkle. something i wouldl love to wear everyday with confidence.
everyone is different, but for me I love your ring and the size is so great for all the time.

You can always get a big sparkly RHR of lesser quality later down the track if you want, so you can have some fun.
but keep that beauty

d2b

 

[mb418]

It is such an elegant set!! Even on its own, the e-ring is absolutely stunning! With the matching wedding band on (Tiffany too!), the set is to-die-for!!!

I think there really aren't a lot of Tiffany's e-rings posted here that looked like yours!! Your fiance did a great job selecting this e-ring for you. It doesn't look small on your hand, don't worry! It looks very very delicate and elegant.

Regarding the upgrade policy, it is described exactly as Isabelle mentioned. However, don't even think about it! Well ... with inflation and all, I think that if you don't execute the upgrade policy soon, with Tiffany increasing the price every year, you probably won't get much of an "upgrade" even with doubling the amount that you originally spent. (I had also entertained the upgrade idea for a while because I thought I wanted a different design than the one that my fiance picked out)

Last but not least, congratulations!! Post more pictures of your set and wear it proudly!!

p.s. If anybody intentionally made you feel bad by making a remark about the size or comparing carat weights, then you should definitely exercise the bragging right and drop in the conversation that you always love the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's and can't believe how lucky you were to actually receive a GORGEOUS Tiffany engagement ring that your fiance picked it out all on his own!

That would shut them up!

 

[rcrosier]

First of all, I think the ring is beautiful, even though I'm not a Tiffani's fan, which is partially because I can't afford to be one. Don't feel insecure with what you have. Be proud of your boyfriend for who he is and how he treats you. At the end of the day, an ering is just a material object. Nothing more, nothing less. I think, and I'm sure you agree, that what it signifies is more important than the ring itself. If you're friends are making you feel insecure, they aren't your friends. You seem to be a lucky girl, so don't let these little things bother you. I do undrestand your frustration, but the money has been spent and you have a nice ering, so I would just let it go and be happy.

 

[Isabelle]

Date: 7/26/2008 4:30:02 PM
Author: mb418
It is such an elegant set!! Even on its own, the e-ring is absolutely stunning! With the matching wedding band on (Tiffany too!), the set is to-die-for!!!


I think there really aren''t a lot of Tiffany''s e-rings posted here that looked like yours!! Your fiance did a great job selecting this e-ring for you. It doesn''t look small on your hand, don''t worry! It looks very very delicate and elegant.


Regarding the upgrade policy, it is described exactly as Isabelle mentioned. However, don''t even think about it! Well ... with inflation and all, I think that if you don''t execute the upgrade policy soon, with Tiffany increasing the price every year, you probably won''t get much of an ''upgrade'' even with doubling the amount that you originally spent. (I had also entertained the upgrade idea for a while because I thought I wanted a different design than the one that my fiance picked out)


Last but not least, congratulations!! Post more pictures of your set and wear it proudly!!


p.s. If anybody intentionally made you feel bad by making a remark about the size or comparing carat weights, then you should definitely exercise the bragging right and drop in the conversation that you always love the movie Breakfast at Tiffany''s and can''t believe how lucky you were to actually receive a GORGEOUS Tiffany engagement ring that your fiance picked it out all on his own!

That would shut them up!

I REALLY agree with you here. Your last paragraph is totally spot on!

 

[mb418]

Date: 7/26/2008 7:38:43 PM
Author: Isabelle

Date: 7/26/2008 4:30:02 PM
Author: mb418
It is such an elegant set!! Even on its own, the e-ring is absolutely stunning! With the matching wedding band on (Tiffany too!), the set is to-die-for!!!


I think there really aren''t a lot of Tiffany''s e-rings posted here that looked like yours!! Your fiance did a great job selecting this e-ring for you. It doesn''t look small on your hand, don''t worry! It looks very very delicate and elegant.


Regarding the upgrade policy, it is described exactly as Isabelle mentioned. However, don''t even think about it! Well ... with inflation and all, I think that if you don''t execute the upgrade policy soon, with Tiffany increasing the price every year, you probably won''t get much of an ''upgrade'' even with doubling the amount that you originally spent. (I had also entertained the upgrade idea for a while because I thought I wanted a different design than the one that my fiance picked out)


Last but not least, congratulations!! Post more pictures of your set and wear it proudly!!


p.s. If anybody intentionally made you feel bad by making a remark about the size or comparing carat weights, then you should definitely exercise the bragging right and drop in the conversation that you always love the movie Breakfast at Tiffany''s and can''t believe how lucky you were to actually receive a GORGEOUS Tiffany engagement ring that your fiance picked it out all on his own!

That would shut them up!

I REALLY agree with you here. Your last paragraph is totally spot on!

I am just being silly

, but if it is called for ..... hehehee

However, Isabelle, it is you who always make us girls rethink about our rings and see it in a different light. Thanks so much for being so kind and supportive!

 

[azbuyer]

First - I just wanted to say I think your ring is beautiful. As a guy who is about to propose next month, the process is very daunting. Again - the ring is just a symbol and you should be proud that he sought out the best of the best. As a guy, reading these types of threads is the main reason I decided to not completely surprise my soon-to-be fiance.

As a last point, I saw a few comments in this thread about the non-Tiffany options being lower "quality". Something to think about- I live in NYC and early in the process I went to Cartier (just to look for ideas) who I presumed only carried the "finest" diamonds. Imagine my surprise when one of the rings I liked (cushion cut halo) was an H color VS2. If Cartier is selling H/VS2's, that makes yours that much better!

Good luck and all the best for a happy and prosperous future!

 

[bgray]

Should you decide you want or need a larger stone --honestly you would be better off selling your ring yourself and then bying a new one from a pricescope vendor. while yes you lose a lot when you re-sell most jewelry the tiffany name and signature plus the box and papers would make it very saleable. then use that $ to put toward a new ring. if you upgrade with Tiffany you really get taken twice.

 

[caligirl08]

Hi there

I think your feelings are completely valid- an engagement ring is very important and because it''s something you wear everyday, I think it''s important to have something you really like.
That being said, I don''t want to sound overly sentimental, but I just want to add another point of view... Very recently, my family was informed that my mom has a tumor in her lung and doesn''t have much time left. It is very likely that she will not be here to see me get engaged, let alone, be here for my wedding day. I would happily give up any engagement ring or any material possession to have her share in that special moment with me. So for what it''s worth, I think it''s important to be grateful for those more important things in life that we all (myself included!!) tend to take for granted. Your diamond can always be upgraded, so no worries...
In the meantime, enjoy your ring because honestly, I think Tiffany rings are gorgeous! You are one of a lucky few...

Take care!
Stacey

 

[arthureld]

reasons I should feel lucky

The man you love wants to marry you.

 

[bootsiekin]

Date: 7/28/2008 1:24:52 AM
Author: caligirl08
Hi there


I think your feelings are completely valid- an engagement ring is very important and because it''s something you wear everyday, I think it''s important to have something you really like.

That being said, I don''t want to sound overly sentimental, but I just want to add another point of view... Very recently, my family was informed that my mom has a tumor in her lung and doesn''t have much time left. It is very likely that she will not be here to see me get engaged, let alone, be here for my wedding day. I would happily give up any engagement ring or any material possession to have her share in that special moment with me. So for what it''s worth, I think it''s important to be grateful for those more important things in life that we all (myself included!!) tend to take for granted. Your diamond can always be upgraded, so no worries...

In the meantime, enjoy your ring because honestly, I think Tiffany rings are gorgeous! You are one of a lucky few...


Take care!

Stacey

Hi Stacey,

I just want to say I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I know what you are going through, my dad passed away just over a year ago from a rare genetic disease. So, he was not here to see either me or my sister get engaged and won''t see us get married later this year. Though, I always feel like he is here and listening when I talk to him. I know the medical stuff is frustrating and can be confusing, but I hope you will be able to cherish the time you have with your mom.



Shannon

 

[UCLABelle]

Personally, I love your ring, and it is consider a nice size with regard to national average, but I understand your post.

I would be proud to own a high quality ring, from a great historic store, that your husband-to-be purchased for you. However, if you prefer size, that is perfectly legitimate and perhaps you could suggest to him an upgrade in a few years through Tiffany (typically, you are normally required to spend twice the original purchase price, minus about 10%)...