Blenheim
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Sorority Pressure?
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Hey Kristy -- what house were you in?Date: 4/26/2006 1:47:41 AM
Author: KristyDarling
Sorority pressure? None that I remember. In fact, I don''t remember ANYONE at my sorority getting engaged during college. However, a few did soon after graduation. Then again, what do I know....I was hands-down the most inactive member of my sorority (the Greek/jocks crowd turned out not to be my cuppa tea) and it was 10+ years ago. Perhaps depending on regional location, some colleges may trend towards earlier engagements, i.e. while still in school. Blenheim, in what part of the country are you going to college? Just curious.
I too don''t remember anyone getting engaged while I was in college (undergrad)...so I would say there was no sorority pressure on me either. But like Kristy, than was 10+ years ago (gosh, do I feel old!)
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Thank you for the warm welcome! I''ve been waiting to jump in for a while, and I''m glad I did! You all are so nice.
Plantationcatt, I know how you feel about wanting the candlelighting -- it would have been nice to have everyone know at the same time, and to be able to tell the proposal story to everyone. I think that when it happens I''ll try to get together with all the girls in my pledge class and my little and tell them all at once. It won''t be the same, but it''s sort of the same idea. Plus, it''ll be a good excuse to get us all together again! We just finished our senior week and I''m feeling a little sad about everyone going off in different directions.
I really am happy for my sisters who are already engaged -- at the time I was jealous but now it doesn''t bother me as much anymore. I think most of the pressure came from other girls who were just curious and didn''t know they were pressuring me! Some of it came from myself too, as much as I hate to admit it.
My brother says, "Sororities can make perfectly normal girls do things that are totally not normal." Not to be harsh on my experience, because I got so many good things out of it, but I can see where he''s coming from.
So, you''re planning on a summer engagement?
Plantationcatt, I know how you feel about wanting the candlelighting -- it would have been nice to have everyone know at the same time, and to be able to tell the proposal story to everyone. I think that when it happens I''ll try to get together with all the girls in my pledge class and my little and tell them all at once. It won''t be the same, but it''s sort of the same idea. Plus, it''ll be a good excuse to get us all together again! We just finished our senior week and I''m feeling a little sad about everyone going off in different directions.
I really am happy for my sisters who are already engaged -- at the time I was jealous but now it doesn''t bother me as much anymore. I think most of the pressure came from other girls who were just curious and didn''t know they were pressuring me! Some of it came from myself too, as much as I hate to admit it.
My brother says, "Sororities can make perfectly normal girls do things that are totally not normal." Not to be harsh on my experience, because I got so many good things out of it, but I can see where he''s coming from.
So, you''re planning on a summer engagement?
staceybelle
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Blenheim, I was glad to see this thread because it''s nice to know I''m not the only one who feels that way! I''m so pleased that you shared. Sorry if I seem rant-y about the situation, but I''m sure you know how frustrating it can be!
Best wishes for your health -- I think I read you''re doing better. Yay! I''ll be thinking about you.
Best wishes for your health -- I think I read you''re doing better. Yay! I''ll be thinking about you.
Blenheim
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Stacey Bell, I''m glad that you posted! I was probably equally rant-y, so don''t worry about it.
And I know what you mean about some of the pressure being self-inflicted. There are a couple of girls whose names originally came up as girls who could be engaged, and they just basically said, "No, don''t say that. I''m nowhere near being ready." And then people started leaving them alone. If I didn''t want him to propose, I probably wouldn''t react the same way and they''d be more inclined just to leave me alone.
I''m starting to feel a bit better. I have my second post-op appointment in two days, so we''ll see what the surgeon allows me to do. I should probably pop over to Hangout and update my surgery thread.
And I know what you mean about some of the pressure being self-inflicted. There are a couple of girls whose names originally came up as girls who could be engaged, and they just basically said, "No, don''t say that. I''m nowhere near being ready." And then people started leaving them alone. If I didn''t want him to propose, I probably wouldn''t react the same way and they''d be more inclined just to leave me alone.
I''m starting to feel a bit better. I have my second post-op appointment in two days, so we''ll see what the surgeon allows me to do. I should probably pop over to Hangout and update my surgery thread.
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