Sorry to all LIW

[Mara]

Date: 1/6/2008 7:52:38 PM
Author: TravelingGal
re: getting spanked by other senior members...

I don't really recall having that experience personally, but I lurked for a long, looooong time. Even after I was a member, I still mainly lurked. It's always good to learn the personalities of a board before you jump in.

Even though it probably seems like I spew exactly what I think, I STILL edit my posts frequently before I hit submit. Modifying a word or sentence here or there can make a big difference and I think it's always a good thing to reread posts (outloud helps) to see what kind of tone you may be conveying.

I totally agree re lurking and learning about a board before jumping in. It took me a really long time to feel comfortable at PS, and that was not anyone's fault but my own...I just needed to test the waters first. Of course back then PS was such a different bird it's not even remotely the same thing now. I also have been around the internet community world for years now, going on about 12 years that is...man am I dating myself or what. I have seen all types of internet personalities.

Like TG....I edit my posts countless times before hitting submit and even sometimes afterwards. Many times I read it afterwards and think oh I shouldn't have used *that* word...since all we have here are words and you never know how someone is going to interpret what you write. But you also cannot be responsible for everyone's *interpretation* of your words..or feel bad or guilty about them. It's very hard to get tone across. Any many times people ASSUME you are being snarky or something when that's not the case. I mean if I am being snarky, usually it's pretty obvious....so whenever I'm not, I am always like woah hang on...when it's misinterpreted. But it can be seriously hit or miss. Sometimes I am just like' eh whatever' if someone misinterprets...it may not really be worth the explanation it would take.

and YEP .... PS does have good and bad like any forum. There are thousands of people here. To expect everyone to have the warm fuzzies at all times is unrealistic. I don't even have the warm fuzzies for the love of my life (my husband of course!) at all times. And I actually like him! Most of the time.

So you just filter what you don't like, hold your tongue when it seems prudent (or not and take the lumps)...and we all co-exist. Somehow it just works.

And that's awesome.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/6/2008 8:03:48 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 1/6/2008 7:55:48 PM
Author: TravelingGal

And what is wrong with being immature? I am always confounded by people who insist they are more mature than their age (although I do believe there are many people who genuinely are. There are just some life blows that make you grow up fast). Young people are allowed to be immature. And there are plenty of older people who act immature as well.

People told me I was mature in my 20s. I always snorted back, ''I''m mature enough to know that I am still pretty damn immature.''

There really isn''t anything wrong with it, but I think many people would perceive being called that as a put down.

Hee...probably because we live in a society where we''re always screaming at people to "GROW UP!"

 

[mimzy]

Date: 1/6/2008 8:06:40 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 1/6/2008 8:03:48 PM

Author: Ellen

Date: 1/6/2008 7:55:48 PM

Author: TravelingGal


And what is wrong with being immature? I am always confounded by people who insist they are more mature than their age (although I do believe there are many people who genuinely are. There are just some life blows that make you grow up fast). Young people are allowed to be immature. And there are plenty of older people who act immature as well.


People told me I was mature in my 20s. I always snorted back, ''I''m mature enough to know that I am still pretty damn immature.''

There really isn''t anything wrong with it, but I think many people would perceive being called that as a put down.

Hee...probably because we live in a society where we''re always screaming at people to ''GROW UP!''

i''m pretty sure i''ve been called immature once or twice on pricescope, and i dont'' think they meant it as a compliment

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 1/6/2008 8:03:48 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 1/6/2008 7:55:48 PM

Author: TravelingGal


And what is wrong with being immature? I am always confounded by people who insist they are more mature than their age (although I do believe there are many people who genuinely are. There are just some life blows that make you grow up fast). Young people are allowed to be immature. And there are plenty of older people who act immature as well.


People told me I was mature in my 20s. I always snorted back, ''I''m mature enough to know that I am still pretty damn immature.''

There really isn''t anything wrong with it, but I think many people would perceive being called that as a put down.

I think so too. I know I''ve been called immature and mature plenty of times. I know I act both sometimes. People have a tendency to think I''m about 20 instead of being 25 because of how I look as well as how I can act. Either way, I don''t care, what other people think of me isn''t important to my own livelihood.

I think it''s the nature of our society to want to be older, and we don''t take advantage of our youth when we have it. But people will use "immature" as an insult, and "mature" as a compliment. Think about it...

"You''re so immature."

vs.

"You''re so mature."

Without meaning to, I automatically say the first sentence like it''s an insult and the second like it''s a compliment.

I think that''s why Erin reacted the way she did. I would agree that I think Erin is being a little bit dramatic about the subject, but I think being new to the forum made her sensitive to the controversy (not sure if the situation really truly merits that term-I''m thinking not but so it is...) as well. You people can be pretty intimidating.

I hope Erin comes back soon.

 

[meresal]

Wow, this is still going?!?!

To start, I feel that I need to clear my name. Erin, I never used the word annoying. I also was the first to use the word "immature", and as some other posted after me... it is a proven that the colors and fonts indicate young age, which is not a problem at all, just something I was pointing out. I never indicated that you, Erin, were immature. I am also 23 yrs old, and have no right to make those types of assumptions, no would I ever. I dont like being misquoted and compltely out of context.

I am all for original thoughts and ideas, and that is exactly what I said in my original post.

As far as avatars go... I believe that the one for this thread should be TG''s stickman banging his head against the wall, bc it just wont END!!!

 

[Skippy123]

Erin, come back; I enjoy your happy go lucky self!

Once I might have hurt my feelings for about 2 mins, I moved on and kept posting. It is okay to agree to disagree too. I understand there are all kinds of people here and you seriously can't please them all (plus life would be boring); I learned that a loooong time ago or it will just wear you out.

Come back sweetie pie!

There is a good bunch here!!!!

 

[Ellen]

Freke, great post. You elaborated on it perfectly.

 

[TravelingGal]

LOL, I know that being called immature is rarely taken as a compliment, nor is is rarely intended as one. I was just merely saying that really, there''s isn''t anything WRONG is being immature at a young age. I agree that people don''t like being called it!

As far as intimidating, I think that''s why it''s good to lurk first. I think lurkers would found that "intimidating" posters just bark louder, but rarely hold any grudges. I guess some just have more sensitive ears.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 1/6/2008 8:41:26 PM
Author: TravelingGal
LOL, I know that being called immature is rarely taken as a compliment, nor is is rarely intended as one. I was just merely saying that really, there''s isn''t anything WRONG is being immature at a young age. I agree that people don''t like being called it!

As far as intimidating, I think that''s why it''s good to lurk first. I think lurkers would found that ''intimidating'' posters just bark louder, but rarely hold any grudges. I guess some just have more sensitive ears.

It is, but it doesn''t dissolve all fear, at least at first. The first time Alj quoted me, I saw her av before her post and thought, Oh no, she''s going to cut me up into little pieces!

And honestly, I don''t even know why I thought that, because while she will call a spade a spade, she really is an extremely fair person.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/6/2008 9:18:16 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 1/6/2008 8:41:26 PM
Author: TravelingGal
LOL, I know that being called immature is rarely taken as a compliment, nor is is rarely intended as one. I was just merely saying that really, there''s isn''t anything WRONG is being immature at a young age. I agree that people don''t like being called it!

As far as intimidating, I think that''s why it''s good to lurk first. I think lurkers would found that ''intimidating'' posters just bark louder, but rarely hold any grudges. I guess some just have more sensitive ears.

It is, but it doesn''t dissolve all fear, at least at first. The first time Alj quoted me, I saw her av before her post and thought, Oh no, she''s going to cut me up into little pieces!

And honestly, I don''t even know why I thought that, because while she will call a spade a spade, she really is an extremely fair person.

Well, that''s ALJ...I still quake in my boots every time she comes around a thread I post on. Hehehehe.

Just kidding Alj...ya know we love ya!

I was just more careful at first...my earlier posts were far more bland. The snark came leaking in later. I''m a sneak snarker!

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Oh for goodness sakes!!!!

How about some rum and scotch pie people?

cheers--Sharon

 

[meresal]

Rum and Scotch Pie?!?!?! Is there really such a thing so heavenly, here on earth???

 

[canuk-gal]

Date: 1/6/2008 9:46:50 PM
Author: meresal
Rum and Scotch Pie?!?!?! Is there really such a thing so heavenly, here on earth???

 

[princesss]

I''m in for pie. And this rum and scotch concoction sounds positively glorious.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 1/6/2008 9:43:36 PM
Author: canuk-gal
HI:

Oh for goodness sakes!!!!

How about some rum and scotch pie people?

cheers--Sharon

Troublemaker.

 

[MissErin]

Ummmm... WOW. This has gotten to be quite the little thread... I disappear for a few hours and return to a crazy mess of advice and points of veiw. To be quite honest- I feel lucky that so many wanted to contribute to this.

After getting off PS for a while and resting (since I am still sick - UGH) I have come to the conclusion I have given this way too much power, consideration, and DRAMA. (pointed out by others as well - haha) I am over it. It's so tiny in the big scheme of life. I went overboard and took it waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too far. It's just a font - not a life altering change. haha I see why so many jumped on the bandwagon to try to get through to me. I'm stubborn sometimes and far too dramatic about this.

So here is what has come from all this semi-healthy thinking:

I will continue to use the default font (without whinning) and sometimes to show my excitement I will change the color. Ex. YAY!!
That way I can be myself but in smaller doses. That was the end result is a win/win for EVERYONE. And I will also commit to grow a thicker skin and stop being a drama queen over the tiny nothings. We're here for each other and I took offense for no good reason. So I am here to let you all know - I am OFFICIALLY over it.


Thanks for the helpful wake up call. Not that being sick is an excuse but I do believe it contributed to my drama. Hope you all understand!! haha

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/6/2008 10:24:29 PM
Author: MissErin
So I am here to let you all know - I am OFFICIALLY over it.

GOOD.

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/6/2008 10:27:02 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 1/6/2008 10:24:29 PM
Author: MissErin
So I am here to let you all know - I am OFFICIALLY over it.

GOOD.

Agreed!! ::shakes hand:: You may want to break the antibacterial soap after that.

 

[Ellen]

I''m glad you sorted things out and decided to come back Erin.

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/6/2008 10:29:31 PM
Author: Ellen
I''m glad you sorted things out and decided to come back Erin.

I am telling you ladies - I need MEDS!! ASAP!!

 

[aljdewey]

Date: 1/6/2008 9:23:30 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 1/6/2008 9:18:16 PM
Author: Ellen

It is, but it doesn''t dissolve all fear, at least at first. The first time Alj quoted me, I saw her av before her post and thought, Oh no, she''s going to cut me up into little pieces!

And honestly, I don''t even know why I thought that, because while she will call a spade a spade, she really is an extremely fair person.

Well, that''s ALJ...I still quake in my boots every time she comes around a thread I post on. Hehehehe.

Just kidding Alj...ya know we love ya!

I was just more careful at first...my earlier posts were far more bland. The snark came leaking in later. I''m a sneak snarker!

C''mon, gals......you all KNOW I''m really just a big mush, but you''re not supposed to be TELLING anyone! You''ll kill my bad-ass rep! LOL

Ell, did I even have the chainsaw avatar when you first arrived? I didn''t think it was that old! I used to have the Velma avatar....for quite a long time actually! SO long, in fact, that Mara had grown very used to it and was stunned to learn I don''t actually LOOK like Velma! (THAT was a hysterical day; she finally saw a picture from my wedding and said "Uh, where''s the glasses? I thought your hair would be different. Gee, I always pictured you in that turtleneck!" LOL)

Thanks for the kudos on the fair thing; it''s of utmost importance to me, so I''m glad that resonates.

And TGal......that quaking symptom you have comes from living in Cali, girlie! Not from me! LOL

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/6/2008 11:45:22 PM
Author: aljdewey

C''mon, gals......you all KNOW I''m really just a big mush, but you''re not supposed to be TELLING anyone! You''ll kill my bad-ass rep! LOL

Ell, did I even have the chainsaw avatar when you first arrived? I didn''t think it was that old! I used to have the Velma avatar....for quite a long time actually! SO long, in fact, that Mara had grown very used to it and was stunned to learn I don''t actually LOOK like Velma! (THAT was a hysterical day; she finally saw a picture from my wedding and said ''Uh, where''s the glasses? I thought your hair would be different. Gee, I always pictured you in that turtleneck!'' LOL)

Thanks for the kudos on the fair thing; it''s of utmost importance to me, so I''m glad that resonates.

And TGal......that quaking symptom you have comes from living in Cali, girlie! Not from me! LOL

When I first lurked, you had your velma avatar. Sometimes I still see you as velma. And Mara was Daphne (is that her name?) Then for awhile, all she was was a pair of boots.

Speaking of earthquakes, we are seriously due. Last big one was in January (MLK day to be exact) in 1994...so we are 14 years without a decent size quake. Hm...

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/6/2008 11:55:51 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 1/6/2008 11:45:22 PM
Author: aljdewey

C''mon, gals......you all KNOW I''m really just a big mush, but you''re not supposed to be TELLING anyone! You''ll kill my bad-ass rep! LOL

Ell, did I even have the chainsaw avatar when you first arrived? I didn''t think it was that old! I used to have the Velma avatar....for quite a long time actually! SO long, in fact, that Mara had grown very used to it and was stunned to learn I don''t actually LOOK like Velma! (THAT was a hysterical day; she finally saw a picture from my wedding and said ''Uh, where''s the glasses? I thought your hair would be different. Gee, I always pictured you in that turtleneck!'' LOL)

Thanks for the kudos on the fair thing; it''s of utmost importance to me, so I''m glad that resonates.

And TGal......that quaking symptom you have comes from living in Cali, girlie! Not from me! LOL

When I first lurked, you had your velma avatar. Sometimes I still see you as velma. And Mara was Daphne (is that her name?) Then for awhile, all she was was a pair of boots.

Speaking of earthquakes, we are seriously due. Last big one was in January (MLK day to be exact) in 1994...so we are 14 years without a decent size quake. Hm...

NO THANKS!!!!!!! I am perfectly fine with living quake free in Cali... The 94'' quake was enough...as were the others... Maybe because I live way too close to northridge... No more jinxing.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/7/2008 12:10:49 AM
Author: MissErin

NO THANKS!!!!!!! I am perfectly fine with living quake free in Cali... The 94'' quake was enough...as were the others... Maybe because I live way too close to northridge... No more jinxing.

Unfortunately, it''s part of life here in cali. We are overdue, I believe. I don''t believe in jinxing...whatever is to be, will be.

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/7/2008 12:28:41 AM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 1/7/2008 12:10:49 AM
Author: MissErin

NO THANKS!!!!!!! I am perfectly fine with living quake free in Cali... The 94'' quake was enough...as were the others... Maybe because I live way too close to northridge... No more jinxing.

Unfortunately, it''s part of life here in cali. We are overdue, I believe. I don''t believe in jinxing...whatever is to be, will be.

No I know you''re right - especially since I am a Cali girl born and raised. I think I''d rather a bunch of small quakes rather then a BIG one. I think because the faults are full of tension, a big one is coming sooner then we even realize. I once saw a documentry showing a comparrison of a build up within the earth to one the scientist created. He connected a rubber band to a brick and pulled is slowly - as the tension built up the brick would move slightly until the tension was enough to create a STRONG pull forward. This was similar to the faults. It was quite fascinating - something I actually wish I could show people.