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The vast majority of babies would be adopted in this country. The ones who might wait would probably be those with aids or drug mothers, and those are often the mothers who do not access abortion anyway. So as a society, we are already caring for children like that.Date: 2/27/2006 3:28:53 PM
Author: fire&ice
To add to Demzela's point - which I concur - also because you are pro-choice doesn't mean you're are pro-abortion. And, I've always found it odd that 'men' are the one's choosing that a women shouldn't have a choice.
I suppose one of my main problems with the 'anti abortion' stance is the hypocrisy. Failed birth control or use of no birth control is a non-issue. They aren't pro-active in the 'not getting pregnant in the first place'. It's just not realistic - or perhaps not logical to my senses - an opinion. How many are involved with the health care, mental care, finding a home, etc. for those women who choose to have their baby? If a women's right to choose is reversed, how many will open orphanages for the unwanted? It's unrealistic to assume that all the babies will be lovingly cared for by their birth mother or be adopted.
At the crux of one's stance is your personal opinion (based on many things) of when life begins. What if the baby never forms a brain stem? Slippery slope - and why I believe that abortion should be a choice - and I can't see how one could impose 'limits' or exceptions because those are open to interpretation - and by the time it's sorted out - could be a non issue.
Jeremy, I already knew you were a nice guy, and I know you picked out one of the best rings on PS. But this is really a special post. I would be so very proud if my son were to write this. And I hope my girls will marry someone as loving and as level headed as you are.Date: 2/27/2006 10:09:05 PM
Author: jldunn
I know my girlfriend was adopted. Her parents had to go on a waiting list for a couple years to be able to get her. Her relationship with her adopted mother isn''t the greatest. I''m still thankful her mother made the choice to have the child and give it up for adoption. Her life has made a world of difference in my life, and a lot of others that I''ve known.
If you''re going to have sex, you might have a child. It''s common sense. If you willfully engage in an act you should be will to accept the responsibility for dealing with the consequences whether you find it fair or not. If someone accidentally crashes their car and someone else dies, it''s still considered manslaughter and you''re prosecuted. Negligence or good intentions doesn''t absolve responsibility.
As far as instances of rape, I figure it''s like this. If someone steals my coat, I might freeze to death, and that''s not fair. The fact that my coat was unfairly taken from me doesn''t give me the right to take the coat away of someone else, causing them to freeze to death. If a person becomes pregnant and feels like that will ruin their life I think the responsible thing to do is accept the unfairness that life has handed them, own it, live it well, and refuse to pass the unfairness down to another innocent.
If you read back one of my earlier posts, I did say that there would probably have to be exceptions. It is a reality that women become pregnant in the midst of cancer treatment (as a noteable example) and the treatment can cause damage to the unborn baby. Yet postponing treatment could take the life of the mother. That is a case where I think the woman and her husband have a right to choose when her life is truly at stake. But this is probably a factor in less than 1% of abortions, I''d imagine. And that is a very tragic position for anyone to be in.Date: 2/27/2006 10:13:00 PM
Author: rainbowtrout
diamondseeker:
Do I think it is wrong to kill a human? Not always, no. Self defense first comes to mind. If someone represents a clear and present danger to your health and well being I do believe the police course I took on assult told me it was OK to shoot them.
So if a baby is going to cause me serious health problems or death, then I do think it would be moral to kill it from this line of arguement. Self defense.
If a child is going to be born with a debilitating illness or into a terrible life situation (darfur, etc) I believe it is my right as the mother to choose not to bring that child into the world. Period. In my opinion I DO have that right. Not God, not you, not the law, me. The one carrying the baby or the potential for a baby or whatever you want to call it. The ability to make choices for your children decreases as they age and gain self awareness and responsibility. When they are still part of my body, when they are literally my flesh and blood then yes, I think I have that choice. People have been talking a lot about sacred life--what about sacred choice?
What this comes down to on a legal level is if the majority of the american people believe killing a fetus is the same as killing an adult human. If they truly do, the laws should change. I''ll move. If they don''t, then maybe our society is degraded or awful or whatnot, but it''s a democracy and that''s how things go.
Well, that question was "on what basis do you determine that it is wrong to kill a person who is already born?", not "when is it okay to kill a person who is already born?". I certainly agree that defending one''s life is a justifiable reason to harm/kill another. And there can at times, be just wars.Date: 2/27/2006 11:00:36 PM
Author: rainbowtrout
I was not responding to your other post, I was responding to the one which you have since deleted in particular.
Date: 2/27/2006 10:45:51 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Date: 2/27/2006 10:09:05 PM
Author: jldunn
I know my girlfriend was adopted. Her parents had to go on a waiting list for a couple years to be able to get her. ... I''m still thankful her mother made the choice to have the child and give it up for adoption. Her life has made a world of difference in my life, and a lot of others that I''ve known.
Jeremy, I already knew you were a nice guy, and I know you picked out one of the best rings on PS. But this is really a special post. I would be so very proud if my son were to write this.
I believe Scott Peterson was charged with the murder of unborn baby Conner, and I do believe that was correct to fault him with the death of that baby who most certainly could have lived if delivered at that point (8 months).Date: 2/28/2006 9:05:50 AM
Author: fire&ice
Would it be manslaughter if someone miscarries w/ some fault attached?
I applaud anyone who works w/ the crisis pregnancy centers - but, I have found that is not the majority. They don''t believe in Planned Parenthood or help with women NOT getting pregnant in the first place. Should absintence be taught? Sure - but it''s not the end of avoiding unwanted pregnancy.
No, but I have morned the loss of a miscarried baby. Have you never known a woman who was broken hearted over a miscarriage? I have friends who have lost babies at 6 months of gestation and a funeral was held. The only difference in those babies and aborted babies was that one was very much wanted and the other was not. Both were human beings with beating hearts and brains who were not yet born.Date: 2/28/2006 9:51:19 AM
Author: AGBF
Date: 2/27/2006 10:45:51 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Date: 2/27/2006 10:09:05 PM
Author: jldunn
I know my girlfriend was adopted. Her parents had to go on a waiting list for a couple years to be able to get her. ... I''m still thankful her mother made the choice to have the child and give it up for adoption. Her life has made a world of difference in my life, and a lot of others that I''ve known.
Jeremy, I already knew you were a nice guy, and I know you picked out one of the best rings on PS. But this is really a special post. I would be so very proud if my son were to write this.
In my opinion, loving someone who is adopted is totally irrelevant to the issue. If someone isn''t born, he isn''t born. We don''t morn the fact that many people have not been born because two people who might have conceived them never had sex together or had it on the wrong day! There are many of those ''potential'' people out there and if they were born, someone might love them, too.
Deborah
Well, I most assuredly do not feel that IVF is some kind of mortal sin. In earlier years I might have tried that had I not been able to conceive. Now that I have adopted, though, I am such a strong proponent of taking care of a child who is already born and has no parents, that I''d probably choose that option instead. Because with hindsight, I know that I have as great a love for my adopted child as I do for my birthchildren. The miracle is equal for me. So I do not consider adoption second best or a compromise in any way. But again, I speak from experience and that is easier than making the decision on the front end.Date: 2/28/2006 8:55:26 AM
Author: Maria D
>>If a person becomes pregnant and feels like that will ruin their life I think the responsible thing to do is accept the unfairness that life has handed them, own it, live it well, and refuse to pass the unfairness down to another innocent. <<
Jeremy and Diamondseeker, out of curiosity, I''m wondering what your views are on in vitro fertilization and if they are consistent with your views on abortion. If a couple can''t become pregnant, do you feel they should accept the unfairness life has handed them, own it, live it well, and refuse to pass the unfairness down to another innocent? Do you worry about the 400,000 frozen embryos in the U.S. when only a tiny fraction of them will ever have a chance to become babies? Do you feel that it is immoral for a couple undergo IVF if they may selectively terminate some of the embryos once implanted? Does it matter if the decision to selectively terminate is based on the survivability of the other embryos or the simple fact that the couple may not want septuplets?
The Catholic Church declares that IVF is mortally sinful. I wonder if they will ban it South Dakota....
Yeah, I need to let this go, too. Said everything I have to say.Date: 2/28/2006 12:21:40 PM
Author: MINE!!
Crap... Crap Crap Crap.....I swore to myself that I was just going to read the rest of the thread and that was it....Crap.
When I was 19 my best friend got pregnant. She was upset. She decieded that her ''child'' was not a real life. She and her Boyfriend planned to get married. So they would just go ahead and keep the BABY. Matter-a-fact.. they did get married. BUt time when by... 3 months, 4 months, 5 months and then she decided that she did not want to be fat in her wedding dress. At 6 months she went to NY to get a late term abortion. At 6 and a half months she aborted her child.
She got married.
A week before her abortion I found out I was pregnant. I had no doubts.. not from the very moment of the first positive. it was a life PERIOD!! I was not married, I had no education, I had a wonderful boyfriend who ended up marrying me. (We stayed together for 7 years... he is still my best friend) I was scared, I was nervous and I was excited.. inside me.. there was LIFE! I knew when I was having sex that I could end up getting pregnant, I could not murder my child. My friend told me.. wait till you feel it move.... I will never forget that moment. Sometimes, I can''t help but wonder HOW you could feel it move and still abort it. I learned A LOT from this situation. I learned a lot about people. How some could have a life and others could destroy it so non chalantley.. all for the matter of convience.
Today, the child that I did not abort, she is my life blood. I ache when she cries, I melt when she smiles and I would lay down my life for her without hesitation. MY GOD, I think, what if I had decided that I could not take the responsibility, what if I decided that I was inconvienced by her, what if I decided that it was not worth the trouble, what if I had decided I didn;t want to be fat in my wedding dress? I weep just thinking about what I would have done if I had aborted her and left her to be burned in some incinerator. LIFE!! LIFE!! Responsiblity, life.
Date: 2/28/2006 9:51:19 AM
Author: AGBF
Date: 2/27/2006 10:45:51 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Date: 2/27/2006 10:09:05 PM
Author: jldunn
I know my girlfriend was adopted. Her parents had to go on a waiting list for a couple years to be able to get her. ... I''m still thankful her mother made the choice to have the child and give it up for adoption. Her life has made a world of difference in my life, and a lot of others that I''ve known.
Jeremy, I already knew you were a nice guy, and I know you picked out one of the best rings on PS. But this is really a special post. I would be so very proud if my son were to write this.
In my opinion, loving someone who is adopted is totally irrelevant to the issue. If someone isn''t born, he isn''t born. We don''t morn the fact that many people have not been born because two people who might have conceived them never had sex together or had it on the wrong day! There are many of those ''potential'' people out there and if they were born, someone might love them, too.
Deborah
Date: 2/27/2006 10:09:05 PM
Author: jldunn
As far as instances of rape, I figure it''s like this. If someone steals my coat, I might freeze to death, and that''s not fair. The fact that my coat was unfairly taken from me doesn''t give me the right to take the coat away of someone else, causing them to freeze to death. If a person becomes pregnant and feels like that will ruin their life I think the responsible thing to do is accept the unfairness that life has handed them, own it, live it well, and refuse to pass the unfairness down to another innocent.
Date: 2/27/2006 10:45:51 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Date: 2/27/2006 10:09:05 PM
But this is really a special post. I would be so very proud if my son were to write this.
Frankly, I would be deeply disturbed if a son of mine wrote that post.
Date: 3/1/2006 12:51:09 AM
Author: Demelza
Date: 2/27/2006 10:09:05 PM
Author: jldunn
As far as instances of rape, I figure it''s like this. If someone steals my coat, I might freeze to death, and that''s not fair. The fact that my coat was unfairly taken from me doesn''t give me the right to take the coat away of someone else, causing them to freeze to death. If a person becomes pregnant and feels like that will ruin their life I think the responsible thing to do is accept the unfairness that life has handed them, own it, live it well, and refuse to pass the unfairness down to another innocent.
Are you ACTUALLY comparing being raped to having your coat stolen????? Being raped is a signifiant, life-altering, physical and emotional trauma. To force a woman to bear a child created during a rape because, gee, life isn''t fair, is extremely cruel. I''m not saying you are a cruel person, but I have to say, I''m quite disturbed by these comments, especially coming from a man. I told myself I would no longer participate in this thread (as, I see, have others), but I had to speak up when I saw this. Perhaps I''m misunderstanding you??
Well, if you carry this to it''s logical conclusion, you''d have to say that drug use, prostitution, etc. would be your right...no one''s business what you do with your body. Okay, fine. We are probably headed in that direction anyway.Date: 3/1/2006 1:27:16 AM
Author: monarch64
I wasn''t going to say anything on this thread, but I feel compelled. My statement is, and forever shall remain, ''it is no one else''s business, including the state, church, or otherwise, what I do with my own body. Period.''
Date: 3/1/2006 8:34:20 AM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Wow. I am amazed at how things people say are just totally twisted into something they did not intend! And I don''t get this thing about birth control AT ALL. We are talking about babies that have been conceived, period.
I already said I think there should be exceptions. My point and I think Jeremy''s is that most of us have the full knowledge that having sex can cause pregnancy. With the exception of rape, the CHOICE is to have sex or not, with the full knowledge that one might become pregnant. THAT is the right to choose. I realize there are cases where properly used birth control fails. Fine, you do not have to keep the baby. You then have the right to choose to keep or give the baby for adoption. Give it to a home who will love it if you can''t. That''s all.
The thing I liked about Jeremy is that if he were the father in an unintended pregnancy, he would be a man and take responsibility rather than trying to force the woman to have an abortion. I think some here may not understand that many young women are coerced into abortion by their controlling partners. They see this at CPC''s all the time.
But the truth is, people are more afraid of what other people will think if they give their baby up than if they just kill it in the first place so no one knows. And that is very sad indeed.