Speaking of names, how about your first + SO's last?

[MissStepcut]

At first, my SO did not want me to take his name and was upset by the idea that I would. Now that we're having a baby, he's come around. Since we're different races, and strangers have a tendency to not realize we are together, I really like the idea of our family being obviously linked through our names.

 

[sweetpea&babycorn]

At first, my SO did not want me to take his name and was upset by the idea that I would. Now that we're having a baby, he's come around. Since we're different races, and strangers have a tendency to not realize we are together, I really like the idea of our family being obviously linked through our names.

Congrats on the baby! I've always had concerns over whether people would think my bf and I are together because of our different races, so I decided that I would socially go by his last name.

Like a lot of ladies here, my dad is super proud of our name, as am I. His dream was to see his children grow up with college degrees and succeed professionally, so he's insistent on us keeping our names at least professionally. My sister told her husband she'd change her documentation to take his last name, but she hasn't had the heart to be proactive about it, and after a while, her husband dropped it.

I have been in too many situations where people would assume I wasn't with my bf because of my race. My sister's mother-in-law was convinced my BROTHER was my fiance ("Oh, THIS must be your fiance!" uh, no lady), and just this past weekend, I was at a birthday dinner for my bf at his parents' house, and an old friend of my bf who I was introduced to as his girlfriend, turned to us, and asked, "so how do you guys know each other?" Seriously?

 

[Magpie09]

At first, my SO did not want me to take his name and was upset by the idea that I would. Now that we're having a baby, he's come around. Since we're different races, and strangers have a tendency to not realize we are together, I really like the idea of our family being obviously linked through our names.

Without sparking one of the controversial threads; the above disappoints me. Sorry you have to deal with this MissStepcut and Sweetpea.

Congrats on your baby! When are you due?

 

[MissStepcut]

I have been in too many situations where people would assume I wasn't with my bf because of my race. My sister's mother-in-law was convinced my BROTHER was my fiance ("Oh, THIS must be your fiance!" uh, no lady), and just this past weekend, I was at a birthday dinner for my bf at his parents' house, and an old friend of my bf who I was introduced to as his girlfriend, turned to us, and asked, "so how do you guys know each other?" Seriously?

Yeah we have a few stories like that too. Example: FH orders coffee for himself, tea for me. The cashier then turns to me and tries to take my order. We also double date frequently that's the bizzaro version of us (caucasian guy, girl of a race similar to FH). Trying to get the waiter to split the bill correctly is consistently hilarious.

 

[MissStepcut]

At first, my SO did not want me to take his name and was upset by the idea that I would. Now that we're having a baby, he's come around. Since we're different races, and strangers have a tendency to not realize we are together, I really like the idea of our family being obviously linked through our names.

Without sparking one of the controversial threads; the above disappoints me. Sorry you have to deal with this MissStepcut.

Congrats on your baby! When are you due?

Meh. I don't really mind. I grew up with an adoptive brother of another race, so I'm not easily ruffled by racial confusion.

We're due Nov 19th

 

[Magpie09]

At first, my SO did not want me to take his name and was upset by the idea that I would. Now that we're having a baby, he's come around. Since we're different races, and strangers have a tendency to not realize we are together, I really like the idea of our family being obviously linked through our names.

Without sparking one of the controversial threads; the above disappoints me. Sorry you have to deal with this MissStepcut.

Congrats on your baby! When are you due?

Meh. I don't really mind. I grew up with an adoptive brother of another race, so I'm not easily ruffled by racial confusion.

We're due Nov 19th

That will come up quick!

It's very multicultural here so you don't come across that idealology very often. My BF and I are different races as are many of our friends. I quite like having different backgrounds and ideals- makes for interesting conversation.

 

[audball]

At first, my SO did not want me to take his name and was upset by the idea that I would. Now that we're having a baby, he's come around. Since we're different races, and strangers have a tendency to not realize we are together, I really like the idea of our family being obviously linked through our names.

Without sparking one of the controversial threads; the above disappoints me. Sorry you have to deal with this MissStepcut and Sweetpea.

Agreed. I'm sorry any of you have to deal with this. Love is love.

 

[Chewbacca]

I have no idea what I am going to do with last names. I feel so connected to my family by it. In recent years my last name has become very popular because of a book and movie franchise. It has surprisingly made me like it more! I've grown very attached.

My SO's last name suits his first name, but I don't think it suits mine. Of course our names are chosen by our parents to match afterall!

Then again, if and when I have children, I would want our family's surname to match.

So I'm totally on the fence until further notice! Perhaps if SO had an AMAZING last name I would be more tempted he he. Friends of ours have the last name 'Perfect'!

 

[audball]

I think a lot of people feel that way Chewie! And the older usually the more attached.

 

[Chewbacca]

I think a lot of people feel that way Chewie! And the older usually the more attached.

Totally! I have noticed that (personal experience) younger friends are totally OK with the name change, and older are a little iffy!

Do you think its weird to change your name in an official capacity (or add the new one onto your original), but continue with maiden name when you introduce self, professionally, on FB (ha ha) etc?

I wonder if that would be confusing. Or stupid.

 

[audball]

I think a lot of people feel that way Chewie! And the older usually the more attached.

Totally! I have noticed that (personal experience) younger friends are totally OK with the name change, and older are a little iffy!

Do you think its weird to change your name in an official capacity (or add the new one onto your original), but continue with maiden name when you introduce self, professionally, on FB (ha ha) etc?

I wonder if that would be confusing. Or stupid.

People do things like that. Usually it's the opposite though. Most keep their maiden name officially, but go by their new married name socially. Then you still have your maiden name for work, professionally, etc.