stealing thunder?

[jaustin]

Date: 6/21/2007 9:48:18 AM
Author: Dee*Jay
This reminds me of that thread where someone didn''t want her friend to get married in Hawaii because *she* got married in Hawaii.

OMG! Like no one has EVER gotten married in Hawaii except her! LOL.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 6/21/2007 9:48:18 AM
Author: Dee*Jay
This reminds me of that thread where someone didn''t want her friend to get married in Hawaii because *she* got married in Hawaii.

Geez, people need to get over themselves...

Jen, I hope your boyfriend ignores this ridiculous comment and proposes to you at the perfect moment--whenever that might be!

I was just thinking the same thing! Your future BIL sounds like such a brat! I''m glad your boyfriend isn''t playing along.

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 6/21/2007 10:12:14 AM
Author: basil
I got engaged about a month before my cousin''s wedding. Far as I know, she wasn''t offended. It did make me a little uncomfortable when my grandma was parading my hand around to various family members, though. Most people took it as ''great, we have another party to look forward to!''

If my brother got engaged right before my wedding, I think I''d be thrilled, honestly.

This happened to me too. My FI and I had gotten engaged three weeks before my cousin''s wedding. At the rehearsal dinner, the bride''s mom came up to me with camera in tow. She admired my ring, said to everyone standing near us to look at my ring, and then she asked someone to take a picture. I was really embarrassed and I''m sure I probably have a horrified look on my face in the photo. I don''t think it necessarily stole my cousin and his FI''s thunder but it was a little uncomfortable. I''m sure it was all in good fun though and I did get the same reaction from my family as you did.

 

[NYCsparkle]

hey dee this groomzilla reminded me too of the hawaii thread. i hope your soon to be fiancee proposes to you the way he planned and when he planned. your soon to be BIL is acting like a spoiled child who needs to have all of the attention on him. he reminds me slightly of allycats sister who wants a year for herself. don''t worry jen---what comes around.....hopefully he''ll start acting like an adult and be happy for you and his brother instead of stomping his feet about it.

 

[jesterjigger]

Whenever anyone asks you when you''ll be getting engaged smile and tell them "Once FBIL has decided it won''t steal his thunder".

Well, I may not think you should do that at all, but it would serve him right. I don''t think it''d be a big deal at all, especially if your bf proposed two or three weeks before the wedding. The day before or even the week leading up to it might not be too great, but it''s still none of his business.

 

[Love in Bloom]

Date: 6/21/2007 11:56:26 PM
Author: jesterjigger

Whenever anyone asks you when you''ll be getting engaged smile and tell them ''Once FBIL has decided it won''t steal his thunder''.

LMAO!! I think this situation calls for an honest response such as this one.

 

[gailrmv]

Just wanted to agree, I think FBIL is being ridiculous! i think it would be inappropriate to propose the day before or on his wedding day - but any other time is fair game!!

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 6/21/2007 5:46:43 PM
Author: jaustin
Like everyone else said, that''s a really childish way of thinking. I have four friends that got married within six months of me and my husband:

June 10th
August 12th
September 16th (my wedding)
December 2nd
December 16th

Not only that but we were dating the longest (2 1/2 years) and we were the last to get engaged. We didn''t make a big deal about it because it wasn''t up to us when everyone else got engaged (or married). The only one who threw a fit about it was the youngest bride (She''s 1. Hers was the last wedding and they were one of the first to get engaged. So yeah, I think that''s really immature do make a big deal out of getting ENGAGED close to someones wedding. The thing that I can''t stress enough, though, is don''t let anyone make an announcement that you two got engaged at the wedding. I''ve actually seen that happen!!

unless its the groom, something ala, "and my brother is about to share this joy because...." I think that would be lovely - nothing like *sharing* joy, it grows exponentially and compounds, it doesn''t *take* the joy people have for you and gives it to somseone else lol

 

[Kit]

No, I wouldn't feel the same way because I don't believe the world revolves around me.

How do people get to be like this? I mean, honestly. People get married, engaged, have babies, funerals, graduation parties, and all other kinds of big events every f*ing day. I just don't understand why anyone would think their event would warrant such special attention over anyone else's.

 

[litebrite]

This is ridiculous behavior; it might be stealing thunder if it was done on the day of his wedding. Glad to see your future fiance has more sense than that, and be happy you''ve got the smart one in the family!