Tell me your stories about interesting responses to your ring

[Lynnchee]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So even when I come across a ring that a friend or acquaintence is showing off, that I find hideous for my own taste, I still rejoice in their joy and tell them it''s beautiful. Just because it doesn''t suit me, doesn''t mean it''s absolutely perfect for her.

Me and my guy have picked out a ring and are looking for the center stone. When his parents asked him about the ring. He said we were still just shopping around. He told them that the rings average about $1000 and they blew up! "are you crazy?" "that''s so expensive" "why the heck would you want to spend that kind of money" Blah blah .. harp harp.

In actuality, the ring we purchased, centerstone and all is around $3000, but i will never tell anyone that. (except all of you reading.. hee hee

). If they''re harping incessantly now, I can''t even begin to think of what they''ll say if they find out the truth.

Anyway, my future hubsters and I have agreed that if anyone asked about cost or size, I would simply say "I don''t know - He did all the work and won''t tell me anything". And let them think or say whatever the heck they want to. I''m going to love my ring to bits.

It''s for me, and what it sybolizes is more important than what it actually is.

Still, when explosive comments like that come from parents, it makes me a bit anxious in how I will handle other people with smaller, bigger, or better diamonds who will scoff or be envious.
My stone is actually .6 carats, which is great for me. I was adamant about keeping my diamond under a full carat, because I just don''t like big diamonds. My preference, i''m wierd. Still, I know that there will be people out there who thinks it''s just a sparkly chip.

It makes me wonder if many ladies get negative or downright rude comments about their e-rings and how do you handle it? Or, has anyone ever have someone look at yours and look saddened about their own?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Most of the comments I get are from sales clerks when I am signing the credit card receipt since I hold the paper with my left hand when I write with the other. The strangest comment I have gotten has actually happened twice. They said, "Wow, somebody must really love you!!!"

I thought that was strange because never in my life would I equate the amount of love with the size of the diamond! All I could really say was "thank you so much".

I would never, ever tell anyone in real life the cost of my diamond(s). That is nobody''s business whatsoever. We do post things like that on here because we are providing information anonymously. Anyone rude enough to ask (in person) doesn''t deserve a realistic reply...I''d just say, oh, somewhere between $500 and $50,000!

 

[jewelerman]

I have a couple stories to share.

I have been in the jewelry trade for many years and i enjoy when people ask about my rings or watches.I actually had one customer who once asked if she could see our cubic rings like the one i was wearing. I told her that we didnt carry cubics and that mine was also genuine( a 2.54 round brillint ).She said that she knew it couldnt be real because retail people didnt make enough to afford diamonds that size.She didnt buy a ring ...

For my 22nd birthday my mother took me shopping for a ring.I found a great 1950s signet ring and an un-set oval 1.30 blue sapphire at the family jeweler.As we were coming out of the store my grandmother happened to be walking down the street and met us.She was shocked that we would spend money on such a gift because it had no practical use.It took my mom quite some time to get her calmed down.She would have really been upset if she knew what mom really spent that day...I wear that ring often.It was worth every penny.

 

[Pandora II]

I get loads of lovely comments on my ring from complete strangers.

The thing that really annoys me has been a couple of people who have asked in detail what the stone is. The minute I say it''s a garnet all interest vanishes from their face.

My grandmother turned round to me at Christmas and said she hoped I wasn''t too upset and jealous about my cousin''s wife''s e-ring. I asked why I would be jealous or upset - and her reply was that FI obviously couldn''t afford a diamond. I just told her I could have had a very nice sized diamond for what my ring had cost, thank you very much!

Nowadays I just tell people it''s a tsavorite and that it''s 200 times rarer than emerald. I don''t want to defend my ring from people who think garnets are $10 and easy to find.

 

[nebe]

"Oh my god I LOVE your engagement ring!"

...It''s a RHR. Some people don''t know left from right I guess? I''m grateful for any compliment though

 

[Ellen]

My strangest. We were with 2 couples, one are friends, the other relatives to our friends. My friend says to the other gal, come here, you've got to see her ring (mine), it's so pretty. The gal looks at it, and goes "WOW, it's gorgeous, what is it"?

It's a round.

And that's what I said. lol What else could I say?

 

[MoonWater]

The comment I''ve heard the most is "It''s so different," I guess halos aren''t common outside of PS.

One woman I was chatting with on the train said "Oh it''s a cluster ring" (as in those cluster of diamonds meant to look like a larger stone). We had a nice chat up to that point and I didn''t care to correct her. She was a nice woman and it wasn''t that bright on the train lol.

Date: 5/31/2008 7:08:32 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Most of the comments I get are from sales clerks when I am signing the credit card receipt since I hold the paper with my left hand when I write with the other. The strangest comment I have gotten has actually happened twice. They said, ''Wow, somebody must really love you!!!''


I thought that was strange because never in my life would I equate the amount of love with the size of the diamond! All I could really say was ''thank you so much''.

I''ve gotten that comment several times also! Isn''t it weird? I guess I never realized how much people equate love with the size of a ring. What is wrong with people? Incidentally, I feel slightly self conscious about my ring now. Living in my little PS bubble I never fully comprehended what it meant to have a well cut stone and a really nice setting. The size now seems larger when I''m in the real world (on PS it''s average lol). They say go by your circle, but I have few women I''m close to and none of them have engagement rings. So I had no judge. But I can already tell people think it''s severely expensive. I also sense the green eyed monster from someone I do have to see on a regular basis but I won''t even say anything in case she ever visits this board.

I just wish people would pick what is best for them and be happy. Why does it matter what others are wearing? I wouldn''t trade my ring for the world because FI and I worked on it together and it''s unique to us.

 

[MoonWater]

Date: 5/31/2008 8:09:14 PM
Author: Ellen
My strangest. We were with 2 couples, one are friends, the other relatives to our friends. My friend says to the other gal, come here, you''ve got to see her ring (mine), it''s so pretty. The gal looks at it, and goes ''WOW, it''s gorgeous, what is it''?


It''s a round.

And that''s what I said. lol What else could I say?

LOL what is it? Um...is that a pic of it in your avatar? I think I can guess what it is.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/31/2008 8:13:30 PM
Author: MoonWater

Date: 5/31/2008 8:09:14 PM
Author: Ellen
My strangest. We were with 2 couples, one are friends, the other relatives to our friends. My friend says to the other gal, come here, you''ve got to see her ring (mine), it''s so pretty. The gal looks at it, and goes ''WOW, it''s gorgeous, what is it''?


It''s a round.

And that''s what I said. lol What else could I say?

LOL what is it? Um...is that a pic of it in your avatar? I think I can guess what it is.

Yes.

That''s just it, it''s not like it''s out of round, or a round set in a square halo or something that could confuse a person. Just a round solitaire. lol

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 5/31/2008 7:59:59 PM
Author: nebe
''Oh my god I LOVE your engagement ring!''


...It''s a RHR. Some people don''t know left from right I guess? I''m grateful for any compliment though

Some people do wear ERs on their right hands. My neighbour is French and thought for weeks that I was engaged because I had my great-grandmother''s engagement on my right hand as an RHR.

 

[MoonWater]

Date: 5/31/2008 8:17:01 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 5/31/2008 8:13:30 PM

Author: MoonWater

Date: 5/31/2008 8:09:14 PM

Author: Ellen

My strangest. We were with 2 couples, one are friends, the other relatives to our friends. My friend says to the other gal, come here, you''ve got to see her ring (mine), it''s so pretty. The gal looks at it, and goes ''WOW, it''s gorgeous, what is it''?



It''s a round.

And that''s what I said. lol What else could I say?

LOL what is it? Um...is that a pic of it in your avatar? I think I can guess what it is.

Yes.

That''s just it, it''s not like it''s out of round, or a round set in a square halo or something that could confuse a person. Just a round solitaire. lol

Do you think that she doubted that it was a genuine diamond? I mean, that''s the only other thing I can imagine that would cause her to ask that question. However, that would be quite rude.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/31/2008 8:25:30 PM
Author: MoonWater


Do you think that she doubted that it was a genuine diamond? I mean, that''s the only other thing I can imagine that would cause her to ask that question. However, that would be quite rude.

I honestly don''t know what caused her to ask that. And I didn''t have the guts to ask, politely of course. The only other thing I thought of, was maybe because it''s a H&A stone, which you simply don''t see around here, that maybe she thought it was some proprietary cut or something? I dunno, but I have been around her before, and she''s really sweet, so I don''t think she meant anything rude or insulting. Of course, we''ll never know!

 

[gwendolyn]

Maybe she was so taken aback by Ellen''s gorgeous arrows that she couldn''t think properly? They do sometimes leave me a little

!

 

[Ellen]

Me too Gwen!

 

[MoonWater]

Hmm, didn''t consider the arrow factor. That''s probably true. A co-worker looked at my ring and she''s like "Is that some sort of design in it?" so I guess it is unusual.

 

[butterfly 17]

I think one of the nicest but most interesting responses was when I was at Banana Republic and I was looking at some shirts.

The sales guy came up to me and asked me if I wanted a cup and I was like, for what and he responded, "For the ice on your finger".

It was actually nice to hear that and it not only made me chuckle, but it made my day. I was not even wearing my bigger diamond, I had on my .70+ EMC diamond wedding set.

 

[Lynnchee]

Thank you all for your stories and insights.

All but one of my friends has an egagement ring, my mother never wears hers, and my MIN is scared of spending over $100 on any piece of jewelry. So, I don''t really have a basis of comparison either. Still, I know my friends will be as ecstatic as I will. I''m excited to get my ring and show it off shamelessly

BTW, Ellen, I really like how your avatar captures the arrows. It looks like a snowflake!

 

[Harriet]

Date: 5/31/2008 9:16:06 PM
Author: butterfly 17
I think one of the nicest but most interesting responses was when I was at Banana Republic and I was looking at some shirts.

The sales guy came up to me and asked me if I wanted a cup and I was like, for what and he responded, ''For the ice on your finger''.

It was actually nice to hear that and it not only made me chuckle, but it made my day. I was not even wearing my bigger diamond, I had on my .70+ EMC diamond wedding set.

How nice of him!

The rudest response I''ve ever gotten is "OMG. Look at the size of that rock. Is it real?"

The funniest (not actually that funny except that it was made by someone in the trade is "Is that a cushion?"

 

[marcy]

Ellen, LOL at “it’s a round”. You are so funny!

Pandora, people who don’t think garnets are awesome have not had the pleasure of seeing a “real” garnet. Your ring is gorgeous!

Lynnchee, I hope no one is rude enough to inquire about how much your diamond or your ring cost. My center diamond is .53 and I find it to be the perfect size for me.

The only rude comments I had came from my MIL and Grandmother-in-law. We had only had the ring for about a week and met my husband’s family for brunch. His grandmother is always checking to see if I have on any new jewelry because she has commented a few times that I spend all of her grandson’s money on jewelry. Grandma notices I have on a new wedding ring – grabs my hand and asks me if it’s new. My husband says yes and tells her we both got new wedding rings. She looks at my ring and says “maybe you can afford something bigger next time”. My MIL then chimes in “we couldn’t afford anything nice until our 25th anniversary”. My diamond is an E VS1 AGSO and I couldn’t be happier with it. They would have both freaked out if they knew how much my diamond cost.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Date: 5/31/2008 9:16:06 PM
Author: butterfly 17
I think one of the nicest but most interesting responses was when I was at Banana Republic and I was looking at some shirts.

The sales guy came up to me and asked me if I wanted a cup and I was like, for what and he responded, ''For the ice on your finger''.

It was actually nice to hear that and it not only made me chuckle, but it made my day. I was not even wearing my bigger diamond, I had on my .70+ EMC diamond wedding set.

That is cute.
Lets see...the "cutest" question/comment that I have gotten was when I was at Starbucks and the girl at the register was all "Your ring is so pretty...where did you get it"? I was thinking...from my husband

 

[LegacyGirl]

I''m at a wedding and this woman who had been glaring at me the whole night comes over and grabs my hand, looks at my ring and goes

"Is that an engagement ring?"

Me: "Yes."

Evil Wench: "Isn''t that a bit excessive for someone your age?"

Me:

I get ahold of myself and go "No I think it''s lovely, thank you."


I walked away shaking my head. The nerve of some people

If only I would have had CR''s monster on my hand hahaha.

 

[Bliss]

True story: I was in Central Park with FI and I noticed a woman with her mother staring at us. I had no idea why. But then we walked by and she yelled, "TAKE OFF YOUR RING." I still had no clue (NY'ers can be an odd mix of characters) and didn't turn around until she said it LOUDLY again. When I turned, she looked right at me and said, "TAKE YOUR RING OFF."

We were so confused, we walked away. (Never a good idea to interact with hostile mentally insane people...LOL) But we figured she was angry because she thought my ring was extravagant and would attract muggers. It was the only explanation we could come up with. We were both in jeans and it is the only ring I wear. So strange.

ETA: This was on a sunny Saturday afternoon & the park was packed with families with kids, bikers, walkers & police. It wasn't in the evening or in the far north part of the park. LOL.

 

[diamondfan]

I have had people stare and grab my hand, exclaiming it must be fake. I have people ask me size and cost and where I got it, and I have had people say they would never want a diamond that big. (wasn''t offering). I say hubby got it and does not discuss price with me, though I know because I went to Tiffany''s the day it was finished since hubby was out of town and NO WAY was I waiting. Sometimes I tell them it is big enough when they ask the size, and if they ask me if it is real and I am feeling silly I say, no, amazing what QVC can do with a CZ these days!

 

[Rhea]

I remarked on the woman''s ring at the post office yesterday. It was an emerald cut, which is rather rare to see in the UK, and about .5 - .75 carat at a guess. I was impressed that it was a different cut than what I typically see so I commented that her ring was really pretty and it was an emerald cut, right. She looked down at it, said she didn''t know, that it was a present. I was a bit put off by her dismissal. I''ve only commented on people''s ring a couple of times here because they seem almost embarrassed by it.

When I first started a job after I first moved to the UK and hadn''t worn my e-ring for the first couple of weeks there. The first time I wore it another person there reached across the desk, grabbed my hand, and commented that it was beautiful. It was nice. I don''t usually get comments other than "it''s so cute" so I was really excited that someone paid a real complement.

Date: 5/31/2008 7:59:59 PM
Author: nebe
''Oh my god I LOVE your engagement ring!''


...It''s a RHR. Some people don''t know left from right I guess? I''m grateful for any compliment though

I wore my engagement ring on my right hand through my engagement. I think some people, myself included, just see a diamond ring and assume that it''s an engagement ring. Your ring is very pretty. I''m glad the re-sizing worked out for you.

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 6/1/2008 5:58:27 AM
Author: Addy
When I first started a job after I first moved to the UK and hadn''t worn my e-ring for the first couple of weeks there. The first time I wore it another person there reached across the desk, grabbed my hand, and commented that it was beautiful. It was nice. I don''t usually get comments other than ''it''s so cute'' so I was really excited that someone paid a real complement.

Have you done an SMRT thread of your engagement ring, Addy? I just did a search and didn''t find anything other that your beautiful loose stones and your lovely earrings. If you post a thread, I am sure lots of us would be happy to pay your ring real compliments. Whaddyasay?

 

[777_LDY]

Date: 5/31/2008 8:09:14 PM
Author: Ellen
My strangest. We were with 2 couples, one are friends, the other relatives to our friends. My friend says to the other gal, come here, you''ve got to see her ring (mine), it''s so pretty. The gal looks at it, and goes ''WOW, it''s gorgeous, what is it''?

It''s a round.

And that''s what I said. lol What else could I say?

 

[Ellen]

Date: 6/1/2008 7:27:48 AM
Author: 777_LDY

Moon, yeah, there is a distinct look to a H&A cut. I think people can definitely tell it''s different, but they just don''t know why. I could see it throwing people off.

 

[iheartscience]

I''m loving some of your responses! diamondfan, your CZ from QVC comeback is hilarious!

The weirdest response I got was so weird I made a thread about it here! I was picking up a sandwich at the deli and the girl ringing me up asked me if my ring was an engagement ring, and then she asked me "Is it conflict free?" I was too surprised to do anything but tell her it was, but I got some great comebacks in the thread I started if someone ever asks me that again!

I was also told how beautiful my ring was and then asked how much my ring cost by the cashier at a convenience store! I used the "I don''t know-I didn''t pay for it!" line.

 

[MoonWater]

Date: 6/1/2008 12:51:34 AM
Author: LegacyGirl
I''m at a wedding and this woman who had been glaring at me the whole night comes over and grabs my hand, looks at my ring and goes



''Is that an engagement ring?''


Me: ''Yes.''


Evil Wench: ''Isn''t that a bit excessive for someone your age?''


Me:

I get ahold of myself and go ''No I think it''s lovely, thank you.''



I walked away shaking my head. The nerve of some people

If only I would have had CR''s monster on my hand hahaha.

What the????

 

[MoonWater]

Date: 6/1/2008 7:48:36 AM
Author: Ellen

Date: 6/1/2008 7:27:48 AM

Author: 777_LDY

Moon, yeah, there is a distinct look to a H&A cut. I think people can definitely tell it''s different, but they just don''t know why. I could see it throwing people off.

I always want to whip out the H&A view but I realize these aren''t PSers and they will think I''m crazy.