Tell me your stories about interesting responses to your ring

[Elmorton]

Twice in the past week, I''ve had close girlfriends ask what my ring cost. I''ve always read posts on this subject thinking, "dude, who cares if close friends know," since several of my friends visited my loose stone and setting with me before I made up my mind. But for some reason, I TOTALLY clammed up when asked point blank, and said that I knew what the setting cost, which I think both friends knew was a complete lie since DH can''t even keep secrets at Christmas. I think the reason I got skittish though was that both friends were asking as a point of comparison for what their boyfriends should spend. Seemed strange.

Oh - the other question that gets under my skin: "Is that a princess cut?" Princesses are lovely stones, but c''mon people, they''re not rectangular.

 

[beau13]

Its funny how girlfriends react huh Elmorton? I only told two of my close friends I was getting a new diamond ring, the others didn't have a clue. Ony one of the two I told asked to see my ring and said "oooooh...nice. Only one of the dozens of friends I didn't tell..ever noticed or said anything. Her comment was "did you get your diamond reset? Pleeeeeeeeeease..you know nothing about diamonds I thought (since my original diamond I wore for 14 yeras was a pear shape diamond under one carat). I think I would notice a drastic difference if she had been sporting the new bling! Nobody notices or comments on my ring..(friends..even family), which is odd because I notice EVERYONE's rings (I know not everyone is fanatical as most of us here on PS). However..I am starting to think it's more of a case of "envy" since most friends wear plain gold bands, and a few have diamond rings (all around the .50-.75 carat range). I wonder if any of them will comment when it comes back being reset in a halo setting!

 

[Elmorton]

I notice rings everywhere, too, but it really isn''t on the radar for most of my friends, so I try not to bring up jewelery at all in coversation, even though all my close friends know I love it. Honestly, I''m almost embarrassed if a (not really close) friend notices a new necklace or ring or something, because I don''t want someone to think that I''m financially careless. I think it does have to do with the midwestern culture though - none of my friends'' mothers had rings larger than a carat, and I grew up in a somewhat affluent community, so I don''t really think jewelry is something my long-time friends value or see as valuable. I do have a friend who has a rather large ring, but she also lives in an urban area where the social climate is completely different. I''ve also noticed that for both friends and acquaintances, if I compliment someone''s handbag or shoes or beaded bracelet, the compliment is always taken well. A compliment about non-costume jewelry (such as a simple "What a beautiful engagement ring!") can seem like an extremely uncomfortable or awkward moment for the wearer.

 

[musey]

"It's bigger than MINE!"

"Is that your REAL ring?"

As opposed to...?


One of my friends got a little jealous over our engagement because she has a (what she thinks is secret) harmless crush on my fiancé. She got on the subject of rings and I asked what she thought she wanted... her response? "One just like yours!" Really?

There are so many other options and combinations out there, but you want one just like mine?

 

[ursulawrite]

I''ve had the "cute" and "sweet" thing. On the flip side, I''ve heard "sparkliest diamond ever" and "so elegant", so it''s 50/50 on what strangers will say. As for an acquaintance of my husband, he said that my ring was, "...nice, but my wife''s cost $40k". My friends all gushed over it (as well they should

).

Yesterday I had an odd, silent reaction. My husband and I went to view an apartment, and the realtor kept staring at my hand. At first I thought I''d been a dimbo and had remnants of my hummus bagel on there

but soon realised that she was checking out my ring--like, *uncomfortably* staring at it. I''m sure realtors do give you a once-over to see whether you''re a serious buyer or not, but her intensity freaked me out a bit

 

[Blair138]

I have a beautiful pave set right hand ring and people ask me ALL THE TIME if it''s real and it usually doesn''t offend me...BUT a friend''s wife saw it and when I inquired about getting sizing beads put in by her jeweler she acted surprised and said "Is it real?" Now-this woman knows ALL ABOUT jewels and diamonds-it''s her THING-I looked at her like she had 3 heads and said "YES!" some people...

 

[portia]

My uncle who saw my ring recently after I was engaged said ''Wow, it''s so.... clean''. That''s all he could say... that it''s so ''clean''. I guess he thought that it was so sparkly and white because it''s ''clean''. Haha!!

 

[Lynnchee]

Date: 6/2/2008 4:54:57 PM
Author: jewelerman
I had a close friend that i worked with in the jewelry trade whose mother had suddenly colapsed while they were shopping in an up-scale store.She wore a beautiful VS-G color 3 plus carat diamond and 3 other platinum rings that held an additional 8 carats twt of diamonds.The mother passed out again on the way to the hospital,and when she got there the nurses started to pull on her rings to give them to my friend.When they started to tug on the ring with the 3 carat her mother came to and said''b****...you take my ring and i will kill you''she then passed out again...the rings stayed on her hands...I guess like a loiness will protect her cubs,a woman will protect her children AND her diamonds!

Simply awesome..

 

[Lynnchee]

I guess the "is it real" response is getting more common. I don''t really understand that response at all. But, I guess you can take it as a compliment that your ring is so beautiful that it must have cost way too much, therefore, it must not be real. Or maybe i''m too optimistic.


Still, are they really expecting you to say "yah, it''s totally fake. I totally fooled you. The joke is on YOU. har har har."

 

[MJS51102]

I usually get "OMG What the hell is that?!", "You just blinded me!" "Is that a real diamond", "Does he have a brother", "He must really love you" lol Once I was at Barney''s and I had this rude sales girl ask "what do you have that I don''t?!'' So I just simple said "obviously class!" lol

The funniet story I have is when my husband went to ask my mom for permission to marry me. I called her the minute after we were engaged and she''s all excited and goes "So when is he getting the stone to put in it?" and I was like "It''s IN THE SETTING ALREADY" LOL She thought that when he showed her the ring, that it was a cz place holder because it was so big and she couldn''t imagine anyone in their right mind purchasing something like that LOL. She asked me to put my hubby, then fiance, on the phone and proceded to playfully yell at him for spending too much money on a piece of carbon LOL. But heck I''m not complainig

 

[Dee*Jay]

When I first got engaged my then-future MIL grabbed my hand and screamed OH MY GAWWWWWD!!! She was completely horrifed. That was two upgrades ago...

 

[Haven]

I get the "did you just clean your ring/have your rings cleaned?" comment a lot.

I''ve had several cashiers say lovely things about my ring when I''m paying my bill.

The most startling was when someone stuck her ring next to mine and said something along the lines of "I can''t believe YOUR ring is bigger than MINE!" I don''t think she was trying to be rude, though, it just came out wrong.

 

[emilina22]

because the store i work at has pretty good lighting and since i work the register pretty much all the time, women are always glancing (hoping i dont notice which i think is funny) but many times women usually give me the "OMGosh your ring is gorgeous, he did a great job" or some ask " is that an engagement ring?" (which leads into the whole wedding info convo) i dont think anyone has been too disrespectful or weird although here are a couple of ODD incidents:

1: a woman and her daughter (who was also engaged) were checking out and as i am bagging their things he GRABS my hand and was like "is that an ASSCHER!" and i was like "yes it is" and politely took my hand back, and as i did that her daughter grabs my hand and was like "MOM! see thats what i wish my FI got me"...i dunno that was a bit awkward, although she did have a lovely ring (also in a halo, but with an RB center)

2. a woman and her son were using our photo copier and as i am getting up from getting her more paper she literally grabs my hand before i even got all the way up and was like "is it an antique?" it totally got me off guard and i almost fell... i dont mind if people ask to see but please please please dont grab my hand

3. a woman was checking out and as i was waiting for the receipt machine to print her recipient i notice her staring at my hand (which i think is a bit funny) but when i give her her receipt to sign she is still staring and scribbles her name, and then i ask as i aways do, "would you like your copy with you or in your bag" and it took her a moment to focus and was like " oh wait what? i was mesmerized by your gorgeous ring" we had a nice giggle

4. another woman was like "wow its so clean, what do you use to clean it" and so i told her about my solution, and how i sometimes just use warm water and a bit of dish wash soap and she was like " oh of course cause diamonds are class, no wonder it would clean so well" i just stared at her...

 

[karasue91]

My engagement ring is an eternity band. I picked it out myself and I absolutely love it. I didn''t want a traditional center stone type ring because it''s just not me, and I loved the idea of the sparkles all the way around my left ring finger.

I do realize it''s unique though, so when people ask to see my engagement ring and I hold up my hand, I have this odd urge to blurt out "I picked it out!" so people don''t think FI bought me some weird engagement ring, hahaha

Anyway, FI has this friend with this AWFUL girlfriend. I don''t say this just because of her reaction to my ring, she''s just awful to be around. At our engagement party, his friend asked to see my ring and said he thought it was really awesome and so different and he had never seen anything like it (boys are clueless, it''s just an eternity band) and she takes my hand and looks at my ring and says "Oh, it''s so CUTE!!". She then proceeds to turn to him and tell him all about how she wants "a really BIG one!" in her awful baby voice. hahahahaha i just laughed because she''s such a materialistic little brat and it was just so like her to say something like that!!!

 

[jewelerman]

Hey ladies... im glad you had a chuckle from my story...by the way,my friend''s mother recovered just fine.fun stuff...One qustion that women ask me alot about my gemstones...are these for your future wife? They ask if the 2.54 diamond will be going into an engagements ring soon? I remark that if it is going into an engagement ring for her than she had better have a 4 carat in her purse for me...and my friends and old girl friends know I AINT KIDDING!By the way...dont feel bad for my old girl friends...they gathered some nice jewelry made of sterling,gold,diamonds,sapphires,pearls, and turquiose from dating me!

 

[Dancing Fire]

a few years ago at a restaurant ....

a stranger walk pass our table and she said to my wife ..."that''s a beautiful ring" is it real ?

referring to her 3 ct ring ,so i reply by saying " dose it matter,you just said it''s beautiful " on second thought i should of ask if her boobs were real

even though i knew they were silicones

 

[LGK]

Let''s see. I get a *lot* of discussion of my rings, probably because I work in proximity of lots of antique jewelry. So the #1 most common comment is "Did you buy it here/where you work?"

The hands down weirdest thing I got was one woman who serenaded my rings. I seriously had *no* clue what to do. I think she was not all there, if you know what I mean. She siezed my hands, would not let go, then circled around to the side of the counter where the customers aren''t supposed to be, then started singing "you are so beautiful" at my hands. I kept tugging to try to free myself and failing. I can''t tell you to this day how I reacted- probably just stared in shock with my jaw unhinged, the situation was so deeply bizarre. She finally realized she wasn''t getting whatever reaction she wanted (dunno what she expected!) and then she got angry and huffed out. Leaving me feeling a bit gobsmacked.

I get asked a lot if my ring is real. I have also been asked about what it cost. One was a local jeweler- he *really* wanted to know! He tried asking me twice, my DH twice, and finally I told him after he rhodium plated a fun ring for free and let me play with his loose diamonds for an hour. He had my smaller ring off my finger and under his microscope in his store in about 10 seconds flat.

My biggest pet peeve is the people who look with their fingers- reach out and put a finger on the stone. My mom actually does it!

Last week I got one woman who asked first if the larger ring I wear is real. Then when I said yes, she said "Oh so it must be a family stone!" Um. No?

The coolest thing I ran into was a girl who made me write down exactly where I got my center stone & the setting because she wanted a ring just like mine.

 

[Elmorton]

Whoa, LittleGrey... I think you win. I really hope you''re the only PSer who has had her rings serenaded! Too funny!!

 

[AMGgal]

Date: 6/2/2008 10:20:58 PM
Author: portia
My uncle who saw my ring recently after I was engaged said ''Wow, it''s so.... clean''. That''s all he could say... that it''s so ''clean''. I guess he thought that it was so sparkly and white because it''s ''clean''. Haha!!

Funny to hear, Portia! I got this comment a few days after getting proposed! While on a business trip to the Midwest, a gal saw my ring and said nonchalantly, "It''s so clean, that''s how it is when it''s new." I laughed on the inside.

 

[lesco]

Well, I have a couple stories especially with my first ring. A coworker asked to look at it and went..... uhhhhh it's nice ..... very tiny though - but it's nice. That was no lost in translation issue. I guess NY does not get a .28 carat stone.... Gotta move to Europe.

Recently, my sister's MIL asked me to show her my upgraded ring... She looked at it and did not say a word. NOT A WORD. Just changed the topic.
So, I guess I am the girl with the small diamonds. TADA!

Another story, I was looking at settings yesterday with my loose (upgraded) stone at hand and the couple vendors who asked to see the diamond proceeded by saying: Well with a stone THIS size, I recommend a halo.... OK. Even the "upgraded" diamond is still small , I get it!

Who cares .... I still like it!

 

[Lynnchee]

Date: 6/3/2008 4:38:34 PM
Author: lesco
Well, I have a couple stories especially with my first ring. A coworker asked to look at it and went..... uhhhhh it''s nice ..... very tiny though - but it''s nice. That was no lost in translation issue. I guess NY does not get a .28 carat stone.... Gotta move to Europe.

Recently, my sister''s MIL asked me to show her my upgraded ring... She looked at it and did not say a word. NOT A WORD. Just changed the topic.
So, I guess I am the girl with the small diamonds. TADA!

Another story, I was looking at settings yesterday with my loose (upgraded) stone at hand and the couple vendors who asked to see the diamond proceeded by saying: Well with a stone THIS size, I recommend a halo.... OK. Even the ''upgraded'' diamond is still small , I get it!

Who cares .... I still like it!

That sucks that size would be the only thing that would outweigh it''s beauty. Size really doesn''t matter - to some people. I really prefer smaller diamonds. I was adamant about keeping my center stone under one carat. When I continued shopping, I said that I definitely wanted one below 3/4 carats. It''s just too big for me!

Then again, it is my first. So, we''ll see what kind of monster he''s created after I wear my ring for awhile.

 

[nebe]

Date: 6/2/2008 11:43:03 PM
Author: MJS51102
I usually get 'OMG What the hell is that?!', 'You just blinded me!' 'Is that a real diamond', 'Does he have a brother', 'He must really love you' lol Once I was at Barney's and I had this rude sales girl ask 'what do you have that I don't?!' So I just simple said 'obviously class!' lol

The funniet story I have is when my husband went to ask my mom for permission to marry me. I called her the minute after we were engaged and she's all excited and goes 'So when is he getting the stone to put in it?' and I was like 'It's IN THE SETTING ALREADY' LOL She thought that when he showed her the ring, that it was a cz place holder because it was so big and she couldn't imagine anyone in their right mind purchasing something like that LOL. She asked me to put my hubby, then fiance, on the phone and proceded to playfully yell at him for spending too much money on a piece of carbon LOL. But heck I'm not complainig

So... this giant stone... do we have pictures?

 

[jewelerman]

Little gray,
I agree with you!!I HATE when people rub their fingers over the top of my rings when they (uninvited most times) grab my hands to look at them...i hate to have strangers this close and if i havent met them before i see it as a security risk.I never let people i dont know try my rings on either.

 

[threepwood]

When I first got my halo ering ppl said looks like a costume jewellery.. I had a friend who has that it is too much for her taste.. Fast-forward 2 years, the person who said my ering looks like a costume jewellery now loves halo and want to get a rhr just like mine.. Than the friend who said my ering was too much now loves my ering a lot.. She often ask me to take it off so she can wear it for a min.. I guess my ering its some warming up to..

I had 2 co-worker who said that they could never get a ring as big as mine.. Both of them said that .70 is good enough for them.. I had a friend who said how shiny my ring is.. And another co-worker who said "WOAH!!!" and that "Woah!" got the attention of another co-worker who saw my ring and said that my husband must be very rich..One co-worker saw my ering and ask me if it is real and when I told her it is.. She was like "Wow, you husband must really love you."

I don't know if this is a compliment but I couldn't help feeling embrassed was when one of my relative grabbed my hand and said how big it was. Than she showed it to her husband and said that her diamond look like a chip compared to hers.. I think my face turned red..

I had another relative held my hand and stare at my ering reaaly hard before she nod her head proclaimed to everyone that it is a good quality diamond..

I had 2 people think the my 6 carat morganite was a diamond and I had to tell them its a morgonite.. I also had a jeweller asking me if my morgonite ring was a pink diamond.. and when I said no, she than asked me if my halo was made of pink diamond (which was right)

The funniest was from my grandma who gave my husband a thumbs up when she saw my ering and said, "Very good, very good!..

 

[anchor31]

I got a few interesting comments on my ring.

A few days after FI proposed, we went to have lunch with my brother and his then-GF (now FI) and she said: "When I get a ring, I certainly don''t want it to be as big and high-set as this." She got her wish and good for her (she''s a bigger girl and her finger size is twice mine so it''s not very difficult to have a rig that looks smaller in her case anyway), but that was kind of rude to say...

The funniest one was from a classmate, who said: "Whoa... He must be loaded!" Give me a break, it''s not the Hope diamond, it''s a 0.506ct RB with sidestones! A man doesn''t have to be rich to afford that.

I''ve gotten a lot of comments on how sparkly it is. I''m really grateful we took the time to learn about cut!

 

[Lynnchee]

I just wanted to share one my own reactions to this ring that a woman was wearing. I work at a restaurant and had to wait on this woman tonight. The moment she sat down to take her order I could see her diamond sparkle so beautifully. I think it was a 2 carat emerald with a halo. I actually didn''t realize I was staring until she said she was ready to take her order. I felt like a doofus. I wonder how long I was standing there??

So when she took her order, I struck up the nerve to ask to admire her ring. I thought it was so delicious that I didn''t realize I touched her hand to look at it. I think I made her uncomfortable. I didn''t mean to! Yikes. It was the sparkliest diamond I did ever see in that cut.

I left her alone for the rest of the night to give her space. She must think i''m a wierdo.

 

[GemView]

Date: 5/31/2008 7:59:32 PM
Author: Pandora II
I get loads of lovely comments on my ring from complete strangers.


The thing that really annoys me has been a couple of people who have asked in detail what the stone is. The minute I say it's a garnet all interest vanishes from their face.


My grandmother turned round to me at Christmas and said she hoped I wasn't too upset and jealous about my cousin's wife's e-ring. I asked why I would be jealous or upset - and her reply was that FI obviously couldn't afford a diamond. I just told her I could have had a very nice sized diamond for what my ring had cost, thank you very much!


Nowadays I just tell people it's a tsavorite and that it's 200 times rarer than emerald. I don't want to defend my ring from people who think garnets are $10 and easy to find.

That's a stunning ring, no two ways about it. I love garnets of all kinds. They sparkle so well and the color is completely natural without treatments!

 

[GemView]

Date: 6/2/2008 7:23:10 PM
Author: beau13
.... Nobody notices or comments on my ring..(friends..even family), which is odd because I notice EVERYONE''s rings (I know not everyone is fanatical as most of us here on PS). However..I am starting to think it''s more of a case of ''envy'' since most friends wear plain gold bands, and a few have diamond rings (all around the .50-.75 carat range). I wonder if any of them will comment when it comes back being reset in a halo setting!

I once attended a tea/baby shower for my future SIL, who was expecting her second child. When the ladies, most of whom I had never met, found out I became engaged about two weeks prior, they asked to see my ring. The original setting I had picked out with my FI was not very flattering -- yellow gold with dishwater color side stones, which I failed to make out as a poor match for my diamond under the artificial jewelry store lights. Thankfully, the one thing my FI and I got right about the purchase was a beautiful colorless, ideal cut center diamond. As such, the comments I received that afternoon were mostly questions about how long we had been dating, how we met, etc. Nevertheless, those comments that were directed toward the ring were very gracious. The only person who showed no interest whatsoever was my future SIL. Initially, I was a bit clueless about her behavior and thought she was just trying to keep from putting me on the spot (since it probably appeared that her friends had unintentionally done so with all their curiosity). When I had a moment alone with her, I offered to let her see my ring. Her response? "Oh, I already saw the ring in your engagement photo." Before I could reply, she turned and walked away. The photo she was referring to was a shot of my FI and I taken from at least 5 feet away. There was no way she could have viewed my ring all that well. As a result of her out-of-left-field reaction, it dawned on me that she was unhappy with the attention her friends had shown me and/or my engagement ring. Two years have now gone by and she''s never once commented at all. All the while she wears a gorgeous platinum wedding set that I complimented her on prior to her wedding.

Fast forward to little over three weeks ago, at which time we upgraded my setting from 14K yellow gold to 18K white gold (to obtain better matching side diamonds). Shortly afterward, I got together with six friends and spent three hours at dinner catching up. Nobody noticed my ring. However, in this case I was somewhat relieved because outside of PS it seems almost taboo to upgrade wedding rings, e-ring stones or settings (except by reason of necessity, that is). I say this only because I''ve had a handful of weird vibes from the few who have noticed my new setting -- as if to imply I am not sentimental enough, too materialistic, or wasting money.... All told, I''ve come to the conclusion that folks are either happy for you, judgmental or envious. Consequently, I don''t plan to tell anyone outside my family about this or future jewelry purchases. If friends and acquaintances notice, that''s fine. If they don''t, that''s fine by me too.

 

[swimmer]

Date: 6/1/2008 7:54:07 PM
Author: Selkie
I thought this was a cool reaction: a former coworker, who was from China, told me that sapphire is considered a very 'powerful' gemstone when she saw my ring for the first time.

Your ring IS powerful. The women I work with for part of my job (all higher ups) and two of my closest friends have sapphires or sapphire accents. So I remained surprised when a librarian recently told me that I have a ruby. Um, its blue, give me my books.
Folks comment more on size, and a possible correlation with love. One person said it was nice my DH comes from money, yeah, we are 31, old enough to be earning real money, what a strange assumption. But mostly people say nice things, its just the weird ones rankle, you know?

 

[Pieface]

Some great stories there ladies. I had a good chuckle at some of them. I think sometimes the mouth just out paces the brain

I also thought I would comment on the "someone must really love you line" I have always thought this is a pretty harmless thing to say. It is complimentary and with any luck doesn''t have the ring wearer thinking that you are going to mug them!

What is the appropriate way to ask to have a look at someone''s ring/jewellery anyhow? I think those that are comfortable to show it won''t really care and those who aren''t will find almost any approach to be rude or inappropriate.

My girl has had a few comments mostly from her friends. The funny thing is they all pretty much ignored it until we were married. I think they are all mostly puzzled that it is still sparkling. I think the worst one was from one of her work colleagues who said it was just what she wanted - small and simple. It''s funny as it was genuinely intended as a compliment but kinda came out wrong.