Thank You''s before the wedding?

[Jena17]

I started receiving some wedding gifts in the mail, I haven''t even sent out the invitations yet either. I was wanting to get picture thank you cards after the wedding but I didn''t know if I should start writing thank you notes now for the gifts I am getting before the wedding?? What is the rule on that? Thanks!

 

[minx714]

Wow thats a first for me. I''ve never heard of people sending gifts before the invititions have gone out. Are they family or close friends that know they are invited to the wedding? I almost would treat it as an engagement gift instead of a wedding gift. When did you announce your engagement?

 

[Jena17]

I know! It is actuallly an old teacher of mine, who is a good friend of my mom''s. So she knows she is invited to the wedding, I just had my bridal shower last week but she wasn''t invited cause she is out of state so I don''t think it was for that, and the wedding is Oct 10th so the invites are going in the mail TODAY!!

We have been engaged since November 2008 so I doubt it''s an engagement gift! Tough one huh??

 

[minx714]

Wow that is a tough one! You know most people that I know of don''t send out the thank you notes until after the wedding. That seems rude to wait over 2 months to send one to her. I guess its up to you if you feel weird waiting to get the picture thank you card for her. Another option would be to jot down a thank you in a generic one from Target or Walmart and then after the wedding send a thank you note for her attendence. It does seem most people are more lienent with thank you cards from weddings. Probably because they know how stressed a bride can be!

And of course there is the old "rule" that you have up to a year after the wedding to send thank yous.

 

[Guilty Pleasure]

Send a thank you note now so that they know you received the gift. Open it so you know what to thank them for. It is up to you whether or not you start using it right away. I used our wedding gifts before the wedding, but a friend of mine kept all her gifts in a guestroom until after the wedding.

If you have it in the budget, have either flat cards or foldovers made with your maiden name on them. I''ve bought stationary from lynlee.com and really liked it. If it''s not in the budget to have that stationary made, then just buy some thank you notes at target or walmart or an office supply store. They are relatively inexpensive.

 

[Haven]

Send out the thank you notes as soon as possible after you receive a gift, within two weeks is best. People will often send gifts before the actual wedding, as it is most proper to send the gift to the home rather than bringing it to the actual reception, anyway.

The "one year rule" is a fallacy. No such thing exists

 

[minx714]

Date: 8/21/2009 1:18:23 PM
Author: Haven
Send out the thank you notes as soon as possible after you receive a gift, within two weeks is best. People will often send gifts before the actual wedding, as it is most proper to send the gift to the home rather than bringing it to the actual reception, anyway.

The ''one year rule'' is a fallacy. No such thing exists

Oh I absolutely agree, Haven. But its interesting that some people, guests and couples, will still be ok with it...

That was more of a

on my part.

 

[Haven]

Oh I figured that, Minx. I just wanted to state it since *so many* people actually believe it.

I have a friend who just married in July and isn''t going to send out any thank you notes until December, when they''ll send holiday cards printed with a wedding picture and a generic sentiment. Ugh. We''ve received two pre-typed generic thank you notes in the last year. Tacky, tacky.

 

[minx714]

Date: 8/21/2009 1:50:16 PM
Author: Haven
Oh I figured that, Minx. I just wanted to state it since *so many* people actually believe it.

I have a friend who just married in July and isn''t going to send out any thank you notes until December, when they''ll send holiday cards printed with a wedding picture and a generic sentiment. Ugh. We''ve received two pre-typed generic thank you notes in the last year. Tacky, tacky.

That is super tacky!!! I can understand trying to cut corners, but this is just not one that you can do that with! As a guest you would start to feel like you were only there for the gift, which i can''t stand

A wedding is supposed to be about the people that are there.

 

[Jena17]

My goal is to have my Thank You''s out at least a month after the wedding, I hate getting them months after, and I couldn''t imagine a YEAR after! I never understood that! And I got a photo card Thank You with a wedding picture from a wedding I went to this year and it was just printed "Thank You" on the photo card and that was it!!! The labels weren''t hand written or anything! SOOO Tacky! I couldn''t believe it, that was the first non handwritten card I have received for a Thank You!