The Official TTC Thread!

[Pandora II]

Congratulations to all of you! I don''t think there has ever been such a BFP boom in one month before!

Amber, I am so incredibly happy for you! Don''t worry about the test not getting darker yet - it can take a few days between each test to get a darker result. I didn''t get a BFP line that was as dark as the control until I was almost 6 weeks (I had a stash of tests and just kept testing for the fun of it

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[blushingbride]

Date: 3/17/2009 9:18:57 AM
Author: lovelylulu
Hello ladies,

Thank you so much for all of your positive thoughts and well wishes, unforunately someone had to break this streak. I wanted very much for it never to end, but this wasn''t my cycle. I''ve known since the weekend, but didn''t want my negative news to dampen the recent *amazingly* good news. I also needed time to adjust to my own new reality. Here''s kind of how it went -

My plan of trying to avoid Saturday by sleeping through it was off to a terrible start. At 5 a.m. - my mind was racing -- full of thoughts, expectations, hope. I finally couldn''t take it anymore and got up to take an HPT. negative. I wasn''t too disappointed at it''s early, DPO9, and still no spotting.

I went back to bed, but couldn''t quite rest, so I started my day. Took a shower. Walked my pup to the grocery store to get some strawberry jam for a tart I was planning on bringing over to my friend house that afternoon. Returned home, took the laundry out of the dryer.

Checked for the 204th time. but this time. tinged.

I was crushed. but a few days have passed and we''re just moving forward. not exactly sure where just yet

, but forward.

Awe sweetie - I''m so sorry! I know the feeling checking a gazillion times to see if AFF comes AND even when I see brown tinge, I still have SOME hope that maybe it''s implantation spotting.

I was routing for you, I really was....

I guess it was nice to have this happen over weekend so you have time to process it and veg a little. Mine is supposed to come this weekend too so, I''m sure I''ll be in the same boat. I''m just hoping it happens after my friend''s baby shower on Sat.

Anyway, I''m glad you are in a better place now and focusing on your next steps.

 

[sunkist]

Man! I''m so sorry Lulu! Sending vibes for that positive to come soooooon!!

 

[AmberWaves]

Lulu, I am so sorry this wasn''t the cycle.

 

[Mandarine]

Sorry Lulu

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Oh Lulu,

I''m sorry, girl. I was right there with you last week, absolutely broken hearted over not only letting myself and my husband down for this cycle, but also those here, particularly in the midst of all the positives that were being posted. I know the sorrow, and I sincerely hope that neither of us (or anyone else) has to feel it again. It''s rough.

I''m proud of you for looking into other means to the end result of being a parent. Sadly, no option seems to be quick and easy and free of pain, but it''s good to know there are other options out there. Funny thing is, before I met Paul, I was convinced that I wanted to adopt my children. If that''s where we end up going, I think (*hope*) I will be excited about it and able to change gears into that avenue. Still, I can only imagine the stress of when you should decide that it''s time to go that route.

Lots of thoughts and prayers for happier days ahead for you and your hubby, girlie!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Date: 3/17/2009 9:25:34 AM
Author: InLuv101
Happy St. Patty''s Day Ladies!

I''m thinking of you all but trying to catch up at work!! I hoping for a few more BFPs...who is testing soon?

Sorry Lulu...

Our month will come too!!

CD22/?DPO

Amen!! It will, it will.

 

[ChinaCat]

Lulu- Sorry girl. I guess the streak had to end sometime. Still not giving up on you though.

Adoption: I have a family member who for various health reasons is unable to get pregnant. She was married to a jerk, got divorced. In her mid-30''s, she decided she wanted to adopt a little girl. It''s been a very long, very expensive and heart-breaking process. It''s not always this way, but in her case, she is single and had some minor health concerns that limited her options. The first agency she used messed up to the point where they apologized and gave her most of her money back-which never happens. I am telling this story b/c it has a happy ending, don''t worry!

So she had basicallly given up and just recently, another agency contacted her with the option of a little girl from India. Because she was already so far along in her process, she could basically "put a deposit" on the little girl (I know, that sounds so weird and cold). She is now in the process of adopting her, and hopefully she will be in her ams in 6 to 9 months. I cannot wait to meet her.

Now the reason I am telling this is because if anyone deserves a child and would be a good mother, it''s her. It breaks my heart that I can get preggo and she can''t. But when she sent me the pictures of this little girl, my heart broke and melted all at the same time. She is so beautiful and so precious, I wanted to take her home myself. And once I saw her face, any thoughts I had about it being sad or not as good that she had to adopt rather than have her own completely dissolved. This girl is meant to be her daughter, I can feel it. Being a mother is being a mother, it doesn''t matter how you get there.

And to add on more happy endings, she has met the most wonderful guy and they plan to get married after she brings home the little girl.

Oh, and about how long and hard the process is- it helps tremendously to be married and not have health issues. Her circumstances were pretty unique, and I certainly don''t think it would be that difficult for anyone here. She couldn''t afford domestic adoption, and her international choices were pretty limited- for example, China and Russia were closed to her.

 

[lovelylulu]

Thanks ladies for the support

A few days can be enough time to let the light shine back through, even if it''s only peeking in at this point.

Initially, after the spotting (can i tell you that I despise that word) I felt so foolish. Mostly because I allowed myself to be relieved.

Relieved that maybe this *infertility* business would be over, that we would never have to have another test, that there was nothing ever *wrong* with either of us, that I wouldn''t be put in the difficult position of deciding whether to undergo treatment (something I am absolutely uncertain about), that we wouldn''t have to endure all of the emotional ups and downs of an adoption, that our baby would be close in age with its cousins, that we would be parents.

Now we are back at the very place I felt so relieved to leave.

But, life goes on and we''re going to make it a beautiful one.

China - thanks for sharing your family member''s story. I''ve been reading a number of other families'' stories and have learned that adoption is not easy. If we ultimately decide to take that path, I''m sure that we will not fully understand what we''re in for, but we''ll just have to try to remember that it will all be worth it in the end.

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so enough from the fertility-challenged, I want some more good news, let the BFPs roll

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Date: 3/18/2009 8:50:23 AM
Author: lovelylulu

Thanks ladies for the support

A few days can be enough time to let the light shine back through, even if it''s only peeking in at this point.

Initially, after the spotting (can i tell you that I despise that word) I felt so foolish. Mostly because I allowed myself to be relieved.

Relieved that maybe this *infertility* business would be over, that we would never have to have another test, that there was nothing ever *wrong* with either of us, that I wouldn''t be put in the difficult position of deciding whether to undergo treatment (something I am absolutely uncertain about), that we wouldn''t have to endure all of the emotional ups and downs of an adoption, that our baby would be close in age with its cousins, that we would be parents.

Now we are back at the very place I felt so relieved to leave.

But, life goes on and we''re going to make it a beautiful one.

China - thanks for sharing your family member''s story. I''ve been reading a number of other families'' stories and have learned that adoption is not easy. If we ultimately decide to take that path, I''m sure that we will not fully understand what we''re in for, but we''ll just have to try to remember that it will all be worth it in the end.

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so enough from the fertility-challenged, I want some more good news, let the BFPs roll

Indeed!!! Your posts are inspiring. Life doesn''t always happen as we want it to, but we still get the choice to enjoy it and live it up!

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Are you going to proceed with the tube/dye test? Gosh I can''t remember the name of it, but I know last cycle you were talking about doing it the next cycle. I''m so hopeful and prayerful that a little "blow out" (didn''t someone refer to it as that?) will be all you need to reach your dream, girl!!

 

[tiffanytwisted]

Lulu- I''m sorry this wasn''t your cycle. I''m glad you are feeling a *little* better.

 

[swimmer]

Lulu, I''m so sorry.

 

[ChinaCat]

I hope I didn''t upset anyone by posting the adoption story in this thread. I wasn''t at all trying to suggest to anyone that is was time to "give up" and consider adoption.

Lulu had mentioned it and I just wanted to share her story because I am so moved by it.

And Lulu, that was exactly my whole point, that even if it''s difficult, it''s so worth it. I really wish I could post this little girl''s picture because she is soooo cute and scrumptious. I never hear of people adopting from India- and I learned it''s because India is extremely partial to domestic adoptions and try to keep their kids in India. A child isn''t even eligible for outside adoption until they''ve been "passed over" at least three times! So this adorable little girl apparently has been passed over so she is available for outside adoption. The first time I saw her, I thought how could anyone pass up this angel? But thankfully they did, b/c my cousin gets to keep her!

Anyways, back to the regularly scheduled thread.

Lulu, glad the sun is peeking out for you. It ain''t over yet!

Fishie- How''s your MIL doing?

 

[Sha]

Lulu, I''m sorry... I hope you have good news next month, as well.

I was wondering...has anyone heard from Independent Gal? I miss her ''voice'' around these forums. I know she''s probably on a break after her recent loss.... just hoping everything''s okay with her, and that she feels comfortable being back here when she''s ready.

I think I''m 2 dpo today. Nothing much to report. Dh and I only Bd''ed twice during the fertile window - one on 4 days before O, and one on the night/early morning after my positive opk. I think that would be the same day as O day, technically. So 4 days before O, and O day. We nearly didn''t BD - because DH was getting a cold and was feeling achy, but I did some major convincing and finally got some!! My plan was for us to BD closer to O (instead of 2 days before O like the last couple cycles) so I think we achieved that. Hopefully it makes us a difference, we''ll see!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

You know who I've been missing around here?

Festy! Where did she go? I remember she was going to have a girls weekend in Miami, and I can't remember her posting since she's been back!! If you're lurking, Festy, come say hi... we miss you!! ETA: Nevermind; she posted last week. Duh. Well, still, I miss you, come back again and chat with us!!

I also miss Dr. K..... Come say hi to us, too!!

And in case Indy is lurking, too: hi, girl!! Hope you're doing well.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

ChinaCat,

Thanks for asking about Martha; she''s doing better every day, finally home from the hospital, building up her strength for another round of treatment. I can''t wait for the day she''s declared well and all this hospital visit stuff will be done!!

 

[InLuv101]

Morning all!

Fisher -- I believe Festy is on her honeymoon in Argentina! I'm jealous

I miss Independent gal too!

Sha -- Sounds promising! Fingers crossed for you this cycle

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So things have kinda calmed down for me. I have no idea what DPO I am. I am on CD24 and my cycles usually last between 29-31 days. I'm pretty sure I O'd on the cruise and we did get in a good amount of BD on the cruise, but I'm pretty sure I'm not preggo this month. No symptoms at all for me but I am missing my usual (*)(*) soreness again this month. Anyone else in the 2ww?

ETA: China --I was not offended at all about your adoption talk! I think adoption is a wonderful thing and DH & I talked about possibly adopting long before we were TTC. I'm so glad your family member is finally getting her little girl!

 

[Sha]

Date: 3/19/2009 9:05:08 AM
Author: InLuv101
Morning all!

Fisher -- I believe Festy is on her honeymoon in Argentina! I'm jealous

I miss Independent gal too!

Sha -- Sounds promising! Fingers crossed for you this cycle

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So things have kinda calmed down for me. I have no idea what DPO I am. I am on CD24 and my cycles usually last between 29-31 days. I'm pretty sure I O'd on the cruise and we did get in a good amount of BD on the cruise, but I'm pretty sure I'm not preggo this month. No symptoms at all for me but I am missing my usual (*)(*) soreness again this month. Anyone else in the 2ww?

ETA: China --I was not offended at all about your adoption talk! I think adoption is a wonderful thing and DH & I talked about possibly adopting long before we were TTC. I'm so glad your family member is finally getting her little girl!

Hi InLuv,
Thanks for the good vibes.

I have a good feeling about this cycle too.

Did you use the opks on your cruise? That might be helpful in determining when you O'd. Did you get any crosshairs from FF? (Feel free to post your chart if you want us to look at it)Depending on how many DPO you are it might be too early to have symptoms. I also don't have any breast soreness yet - I think I'm 3po today.

 

[InLuv101]

Date: 3/19/2009 2:29:09 PM
Author: Sha

Date: 3/19/2009 9:05:08 AM
Author: InLuv101
Morning all!

Fisher -- I believe Festy is on her honeymoon in Argentina! I'm jealous

I miss Independent gal too!

Sha -- Sounds promising! Fingers crossed for you this cycle

****************************************************

So things have kinda calmed down for me. I have no idea what DPO I am. I am on CD24 and my cycles usually last between 29-31 days. I'm pretty sure I O'd on the cruise and we did get in a good amount of BD on the cruise, but I'm pretty sure I'm not preggo this month. No symptoms at all for me but I am missing my usual (*)(*) soreness again this month. Anyone else in the 2ww?

ETA: China --I was not offended at all about your adoption talk! I think adoption is a wonderful thing and DH & I talked about possibly adopting long before we were TTC. I'm so glad your family member is finally getting her little girl!

Hi InLuv,
Thanks for the good vibes.

I have a good feeling about this cycle too.

Did you use the opks on your cruise? That might be helpful in determining when you O'd. Did you get any crosshairs from FF? (Feel free to post your chart if you want us to look at it)Depending on how many DPO you are it might be too early to have symptoms. I also don't have any breast soreness yet - I think I'm 3po today.

Hey Sha!
So glad you are feeling good about this cycle

I didn't get to use my OPKs on the cruise. #1 - I just really wanted to relax for one month and not think too much about it so I just used CM as a guide. #2 - I couldn't find anything to pee in!! No paper cups to be found on board, lol. I did use a couple when we got home to try confirm my suspicion that I O'd on the cruise (that's when my CM dried up). I got negatives for 5 days in a row so I'm pretty sure I've O'd. I didn't temp this cycle either so my chart has nothing on it but CM and BD. My longest cycle yet has been 31 days and it's CD24 so *if* AF doesn't show up by CD31, I'll test. If she does show, I will be back to temping and using the OPKs next cycle.

 

[swimmer]

Some bad news. Yesterday, on our 9th cycle trying, CD 44, 24dpo my temps crashed. Today, I am bleeding horribly. I have been mentally prepared, but it is still difficult. This weekend I had a virus and was very sick, not sure of any correlation. But after vomiting for several days with a fever of 102, I just felt like it was over, and so it is.
I called my ER who had confirmed the positive last week and he said, "well, at least we know you can get pregnant." And that is a very good thing to know.

I do not want to worry all you wonderful ladies who are in the same stage as I was...as we all know, sometimes this just happens. Mostly I don''t want to dampen the excitement; this should be a celebratory place with good information. Hopefully I statistically can "take one for the team" because you all need to keep your little beans stuck. And the next round of them better stick too, especially for the veterans who have been here some time.

 

[InLuv101]

I''m so very sorry for your loss swimmer

 

[AmberWaves]

Oh Swimmer, I am SO SO sorry for your loss.

 

[robbie3982]

So sorry for your loss, Swimmer

 

[Mandarine]

Oh Swimmer, I am so so sorry for your loss

My heart goes out to you and I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[Sha]

Oh, swimmer....

I''m really sorry too... You have such a noble attitude about this, but I know it must be hard for you and your DH.

((HUGS))).

 

[Maisie]

I''m so sorry for your loss Swimmer.

 

[E B]

Swimmer, I''m so sorry. Big hugs to you.

 

[NovemberBride]

I am so sorry Swimmer. Big hugs to you and your DH and I pray that you get another BFP soon.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Swimmer,

Awww. I''m so sorry, sweetie. I hope that you and your husband are able to find strength in one another right now. And it is good news that you can get pregnant. It''s my sincere hope and prayer that you''re able to move forward in the right time and go through the journey to its completion-parenthood.

Come talk anytime, we''re here for you. Truly.

 

[peonygirl]

Awww, swimmer, I am so, so sorry! I know that you must be a wreck right now, but please take care of yourself and try to do anything that gives you a little comfort or joy. I know that after my miscarriage I didn''t eat or change my clothes for three days, but I was so upset I didn''t realize it until later. I hope that you and your DH are able to lean on each other. I know that mine was really wonderful during that time.

I know what you mean about the statistical thing. . . as soon as SO many people got pregnant in the last two weeks, all I could think about was that at least one or two of us were going to lose our babies.

I feel for you so much sweetie. Hang in there.