thehoneymoon.com registry and gift giving

[violet02]

I know there are lots of posts on here about honeymoon registries. I was wondering if any of you have used or know of someone that has used www.thehoneymoon.com. They do take a cut of the money but they charge the guests the percentage fee, we don''t lost it from our pool of money. The charge is kinda lame but we did it for a friends wedding and it wasn''t a huge deal.

We''re only haveing about 70 people at our wedding due to budget constraints. We''re also only registering for a honeymoon since we don''t need anything else. I think a honeymoon in greece could run us at least 6k plus airfare etc. We''re probably registering for about 6k. They have these ''canned'' templates that are so much easier to use then making up all your own line items. Anyways the site seems to be ok. I''m wondering if we''ll even come close to that amount with 70 guests.

Probably not. Also if you invite relatives from out of town and they can''t make it, what''s the etiquette on gift giving at that point? Should we expect one or not at all.

Thanks,
M

 

[mjso]

I believe technically, you should never expect a gift

With 70 guests, if every guest gave to the honeymoon registry, they''d all have to average an $85 gift. This seems reasonable, but I doubt everyone will be giving to the honeymoon registry. I''ve never had experience with a honeymoon registry (myself or attending a wedding with one) so I''d imagine it mainly depends on how comfortable you feel your guests will be with the idea. I''m sure some people will still buy you a "gift" because that''s what they want to do. If this is your only registry, you''re probably more likely to get closer to the amount you are looking for.

As for out of town guests, I think in reality some will still send a gift and some won''t. It probably depends on how close they are to you, and their financial state in general. I didn''t attend one of my coworkers weddings because I had to go to my FBIL''s college graduation the same weekend, but I still sent a gift. But then some friends from college got married out of state, invited us, we couldn''t go for various reasons and we didn''t send a gift. (I still feel bad about this).

 

[Independent Gal]

Also, keep in mind that a couple usually only gives one gift, so if you are having 70 guests including 25 couples, that''s 45(ish) present givers, not 70. But depending how long you are planning to spend in Greece and how fancy a place you want to stay at, it doesn''t have to cost $6000 PLUS airfare! That''s a hefty budget.

And I second MJSO that you should not ''expect'' anyone to give a gift. Most people will, some won''t. Even of those who come to the wedding, some won''t give a gift.