Those expecting a 2009 engagement...

[absolut_blonde]

Following up on my own post to say that I have been perusing possible destination wedding resorts (though we haven't decided on a DW for sure just yet). Though, if I were seriously looking then I would be going through my aunt since she is a travel agent. This is just for fun, mostly.

What can I say? Things are slow around the office!

 

[ckrickett]

Date: 12/22/2008 2:02:51 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 12/22/2008 1:54:51 PM
Author: ringless

Date: 12/22/2008 12:05:52 PM
Author: Bia
Prob 2009...when I have no idea. I thought I was expecting a 2008 proposal, but that is clearly not happening...or at least it doesn''t seem to be

So, no...no planning (to answer your question

)

Bia, why do you think that???

mini, mini, mini threadjack:

Not sure ringless. He just doesn''t seem like the type to propose on Christmas and well, New Years...I don''t know. Plus, don''t most girls have an idea? I mean some hints...

I have nothing to go on, whatsoever. BUT, I refuse to say ANYTHING to him, OR get depressed about this and ruin my holidays.

Could be like my SO. Likes to give hints and hints, then says he feels we need to wait a year to grow as a couple. Which I TOTALLY respect, but then when I kindly ask him to STOP hinting cause it is getting me antsy he just smiles and says not to expect anything, or not to NOT expect anything.

Boys are confusing, no?

 

[The Future Mrs.]

My boyfriend and I are planning to seriously look at rings in January '09. He probably will purchase the ring in January too. Our four year anniversary is Jan.11. Last week he told me " Four years is long enough, don't you think ?" So that tells me he's ready. I have already chosen the ring, and he is ready to see it and purchase and start his special proposal planning. I am expecting a proposal in March '09 ,when we take our Vacation to Nashville. I'd like to get married in July 2010.

Lot's of congratulatory messages are in order for so many LIW's for 2009 !

YaY US !!!

 

[mtjoya]

Well, I don''t have a clue when he will propose but I love to casually browse! I love checking out whiteflash and dream of my dream ring!

 

[ringless]

Date: 12/23/2008 2:09:58 PM
Author: ckrickett

Date: 12/22/2008 2:02:51 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 12/22/2008 1:54:51 PM
Author: ringless

Date: 12/22/2008 12:05:52 PM
Author: Bia
Prob 2009...when I have no idea. I thought I was expecting a 2008 proposal, but that is clearly not happening...or at least it doesn''t seem to be

So, no...no planning (to answer your question

)

Bia, why do you think that???

mini, mini, mini threadjack:

Not sure ringless. He just doesn''t seem like the type to propose on Christmas and well, New Years...I don''t know. Plus, don''t most girls have an idea? I mean some hints...

I have nothing to go on, whatsoever. BUT, I refuse to say ANYTHING to him, OR get depressed about this and ruin my holidays.

Could be like my SO. Likes to give hints and hints, then says he feels we need to wait a year to grow as a couple. Which I TOTALLY respect, but then when I kindly ask him to STOP hinting cause it is getting me antsy he just smiles and says not to expect anything, or not to NOT expect anything.

Boys are confusing, no?

Yes, they are totally confusing. I have lost some hope... i had a glimmer of hope I would get a christmas proposal, but now I am pretty bummed...

I am trying to keep my chin up though.. New Years and Valentine''s Day is just around the corner. Here''s hoping it will happen on one of those holidays

Good Luck girlies...

 

[babygirl]

Oh boy- should I be planning already?!? I think we''ll be engaged sometime in ''09 (hopefully sooner rather than later), but I haven''t really given anything much definitive thought. I know where I''d ideally like to have the reception, but a wedding date will depend entirely upon when the proposal happens. I''d love love LOVE a fall wedding, but I doubt I''d have enough time to plan a Fall 09 wedding (assuming he won''t ask for at least another few months). However, I''m not too keen on a long-ish (over a year) engagement, so likely once it happens, we''ll just take it from there with the planning and wing it. From the weddings I''ve attended, I have a pretty good sense of what I''d like for my own wedding (flowers, colors, music, style of photography). Hopefully "just winging it" will pan out! hahaha. But seriously, I guess maybe I should start looking into things? Yikes!

 

[ringless]

Date: 12/22/2008 3:53:42 PM
Author: mscushion
Hi absolut_blonde! I''m expecting a proposal in the next couple months. I was originally hoping for a late 2007 proposal (which I now realize was not realistic at all), then a Fall ''08 proposal... and now early ''09 ...sigh (at least I know he''s now working on a ring...because he''s told me/asked me for input, etc.) Valentine''s Day will be our 8-year anniversary -- I know that date would be a bit cliche for a proposal, but I''d still love it.

I JUST started browsing online for wedding inspirations...in fact, I started just last night!!! I was looking at dresses on theknot.com. I don''t think I''ll go from engagement right into planning... I want to blissfully enjoy being engaged for a while first. Then, perhaps a very intimate, small Fall 2010 wedding. I could also see us having an even longer engagement.

Your situation sounds a lot like mine now... I was hoping for a Summer ''08 Engagement, then Fall or Holiday proposal, and now it''s looking like it will be early ''09 (HOPEFULLY). I totally love that you are hoping for a Valentine''s Day proposal b/c so am I at this point! 8 years together.. wowza, you got me beat girl. I''ve been with my bf for 7 years and a few months now.
I want a spring 2010 wedding... sigh.. here''s hoping we both get engaged in the next few months!

 

[LtlFirecracker]

I am hoping to be engaged this year. I have some general ideas what I want, but will not plan any specifics until after I get engaged as there are just too many variables.

 

[absolut_blonde]

Date: 12/26/2008 9:55:20 PM
Author: babygirl
Oh boy- should I be planning already?!? I think we''ll be engaged sometime in ''09 (hopefully sooner rather than later), but I haven''t really given anything much definitive thought. I know where I''d ideally like to have the reception, but a wedding date will depend entirely upon when the proposal happens. I''d love love LOVE a fall wedding, but I doubt I''d have enough time to plan a Fall 09 wedding (assuming he won''t ask for at least another few months). However, I''m not too keen on a long-ish (over a year) engagement, so likely once it happens, we''ll just take it from there with the planning and wing it. From the weddings I''ve attended, I have a pretty good sense of what I''d like for my own wedding (flowers, colors, music, style of photography). Hopefully ''just winging it'' will pan out! hahaha. But seriously, I guess maybe I should start looking into things? Yikes!

I''m sort of in a similar situation so I have been starting to look around. I''d like a late fall/early winter wedding- preferably in 2009 but I suspect it will be more like Jan 2010. So, depending on when he proposes, that may not give me a TON of time to plan. I just want to have a bit of a starting point prior to that. Plus if we go the whole destination wedding route we will need to lock in a date with the resort as soon as we can, so that we can notify friends & family.

At first, I didn''t want to ''jump the gun'' or jinx myself... you know, just in case. But we''ve been talking about it more lately and I feel comfortable enough to go ahead and do some browsing.

 

[tessari]

I''m glad us 2009 people have this thread! My engagement will be in 2009 but before March 1, 2009. It''s coming up soon!
As far as planning, I have been reading yelp reviews of bridal salons and making my lists. I''m also sorta trying to lose 10 lbs before I can try on wedding dresses because I am really excited about doing that and I want to do it right after I get engaged. So far my loss has been only gaining 2 lbs over the really long holiday weekend and losing one of them in one day! Yay water weight! As you can see, I''m all about looking good in the wedding dress!
I also might start looking into photographers in the area. I am sort of dreading that because I have no clue what to look for and I don''t want to screw it up!
My BF is looking into Honeymoon stuff.
So far our Engagement Party date is set because we are going abroad for that (tickets purchased) and our wedding date is set (venues permitting).

 

[Dreamgirl]

I don''t honestly know if he will propose in ''09. My guess is not. If he did at all, it would probably be late 2009 but I really don''t see it happening yet. Maybe 2010, more than likely by 2011. But I''m so bad that I keep up on making sure how much dream venue rental rates are, looking at gowns, dreaming of dream rings and posting on PS...lol (All LIW''s pass me by and leave me behind. It''s slightly depressing in a way!)

 

[someoneelse]

I am! He has the ring, and it''s in his nightstand drawer... is it bad that while he''s gone I''ve put it on and worn it around the house? I just couldn''t help myself.

There hasn''t been much planning, other than us discussing the type of wedding we''d like, who our attendants would be and when it will be (definitely 2010). I have been looking at lots of pictures for inspiration and I think I''m beginning to get a good idea of what I like and what I don''t like.

 

[ringless]

Date: 12/30/2008 3:00:30 PM
Author: someoneelse
I am! He has the ring, and it''s in his nightstand drawer... is it bad that while he''s gone I''ve put it on and worn it around the house? I just couldn''t help myself.

There hasn''t been much planning, other than us discussing the type of wedding we''d like, who our attendants would be and when it will be (definitely 2010). I have been looking at lots of pictures for inspiration and I think I''m beginning to get a good idea of what I like and what I don''t like.

wowza, does he know you know where he''s hiding it? Sometimes guys surprise me...nightstand drawer, c''mon!

 

[AllieGator]

I''m probably going to be engaged by the end of 2009... surprisingly, my choice and not his. He''s ready to be engaged, me not so much. Since I won''t be graduating for a couple of years, we''ve only planned a few things. We know it will be a civil ceremony, since we don''t care about our differing religions (Me: Episcopal, Him: Lapsed Judaism), and we don''t think either set of parents would be happy if we tried to mesh the two. They won''t be happy about the justice of the peace either, but we think it''s a decent compromise. We picked a date (July 2, 2011), we know it will be small, and we''d like to have it at his parents house, since it''s quite large and beautiful, and we know that it would hold the people we want to invite, and won''t fit those we don''t want to. He''s more into it then me, it''s cute.

 

[ringless]

BIA - I hope you get your end of the year proposal tonight!!!

If not, it''s ok... we will wait it out together!

 

[that_someone_special]

Date: 12/30/2008 3:00:30 PM
Author: someoneelse
I am! He has the ring, and it''s in his nightstand drawer... is it bad that while he''s gone I''ve put it on and worn it around the house? I just couldn''t help myself.

There hasn''t been much planning, other than us discussing the type of wedding we''d like, who our attendants would be and when it will be (definitely 2010). I have been looking at lots of pictures for inspiration and I think I''m beginning to get a good idea of what I like and what I don''t like.

I laughed out loud- seriously...

BF has "my" ring in the nightstand drawer too. And when he''s gone.. and sometimes when he''s there, I try it on, just to make sure it still fits and glitters
I really DON''T want to try it on, but I''m also not patient. I''m trying. Last night he actually told me that he took my ring out to look at it.. and that it "misses me". Ha.

 

[princesss]

Date: 12/30/2008 2:05:18 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
I don''t honestly know if he will propose in ''09. My guess is not. If he did at all, it would probably be late 2009 but I really don''t see it happening yet. Maybe 2010, more than likely by 2011. But I''m so bad that I keep up on making sure how much dream venue rental rates are, looking at gowns, dreaming of dream rings and posting on PS...lol (All LIW''s pass me by and leave me behind. It''s slightly depressing in a way!)

Well, Dreamgirl, I bet you''ll be here for a shorter stay than I will! We can hang out together and stalk the LIW board, lol.

As for me...no 09 proposal plans here, but I''ve started casually browsing, lol. I can''t help it! I just love the bling.

 

[DietCokeBreak]

Shhhhhhhhh, don''t tell, but I''m doing pretty serious research (looking at package prices for venues and photography, calculating per head costs at various locations, etc)

I''m not narrowing anything down to final decisions or getting my heart set on them, because I want FF to be as involved as he wants to be in the process. But good photographers and venues book so far in advance, and we want to marry in January of 2010. I''m trying to have a couple of options for smaller wedding locations, and a couple of options for bigger wedding locations, and a choice of a few photographers that are within our budget. That way we can just make a decision and jump on it, and if one doesn''t work out we''ll know who to try next.

That being said, I''m feeling very stealth about the whole thing. If anyone found out I was doing this, they would probably think I''m some obsessive bridezilla. I can hear it now, "Why are you planning a wedding when you haven''t even gotten a ring yet? That''s awfully presumptuous!" But people just don''t understand how difficult it is to book the vendors you want.

 

[ringless]

BIA

This is the one I was checking in on you!!! lol I knew it!

 

[Bia]

Date: 12/31/2008 3:17:52 PM
Author: ringless
BIA - I hope you get your end of the year proposal tonight!!!

If not, it''s ok... we will wait it out together!

Oh my gosh, I didn''t see this! I should have just posted my engagement, but then again, I didn''t have time to write it out so thoroughly and definitely couldn''t have posted pictures. At least this way, you got all the necessary info immediately following!

Thank you for looking out sweetheart! You guys are truly THE BEST!

(Gosh, I''m feeling so sentimental lately!)

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 12/31/2008 5:48:57 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 12/30/2008 2:05:18 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
I don't honestly know if he will propose in '09. My guess is not. If he did at all, it would probably be late 2009 but I really don't see it happening yet. Maybe 2010, more than likely by 2011. But I'm so bad that I keep up on making sure how much dream venue rental rates are, looking at gowns, dreaming of dream rings and posting on PS...lol (All LIW's pass me by and leave me behind. It's slightly depressing in a way!)

Well, Dreamgirl, I bet you'll be here for a shorter stay than I will! We can hang out together and stalk the LIW board, lol.

As for me...no 09 proposal plans here, but I've started casually browsing, lol. I can't help it! I just love the bling.

Really? I doubt it! haha. I'll probably be here the longest. In fact, I was thinking about that last night. While I love being here on PS, it can be slightly depressing to see all the "PS friends" I'm making pass me by and go over to BWW and then I never see them anymore!

So new people will come and go.........and here sits Dreamgirl holding down the house lol

How long do you think you will be around princess? I think I remember you saying 3-4 years...I'd love to stick around with you!!! lol BTW, I honestly don't even know if it will happen by 2011. I would think so. But who knows, I might be here until 2015 lol

 

[ringless]

Date: 1/6/2009 1:31:39 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 12/31/2008 3:17:52 PM
Author: ringless
BIA - I hope you get your end of the year proposal tonight!!!

If not, it''s ok... we will wait it out together!

Oh my gosh, I didn''t see this! I should have just posted my engagement, but then again, I didn''t have time to write it out so thoroughly and definitely couldn''t have posted pictures. At least this way, you got all the necessary info immediately following!

Thank you for looking out sweetheart! You guys are truly THE BEST!

(Gosh, I''m feeling so sentimental lately!)

haha yeah... I would be too!

 

[chocolatefudge]

I would love to say that I know a 2009 proposal is coming, but I don''t!! SO says it will but he also told me that last year too

I was REALLY hoping for a 2008 Christmas proposal and was really disappointed when it didn''t. I cheered up quickly when I realised he could be waiting for my birthday, Feb 2nd!! That was until last night when he announced that he was really sorry but couldn''t get me much this year because money is so tight

I can''t see him having enough money for a good few months now and then I can''t actually imagine him proposing. Sorry if I sound really negtive, just been feeling a bit sorry or myself and I know I shouldn''t. Went back to work yesterday and a girl announced she had gotten engaged over Christmas. I was really happy for her but started crying!! Luckily noone noticed but I felt so stupid!! I was asking her about it and she was so happy and tears just came into my eyes and I couldn''t stop them!! I''m such a baby!!

 

[sammyj]

Date: 12/31/2008 5:02:38 PM
Author: swedish bean

Date: 12/30/2008 3:00:30 PM
Author: someoneelse
I am! He has the ring, and it''s in his nightstand drawer... is it bad that while he''s gone I''ve put it on and worn it around the house? I just couldn''t help myself.

There hasn''t been much planning, other than us discussing the type of wedding we''d like, who our attendants would be and when it will be (definitely 2010). I have been looking at lots of pictures for inspiration and I think I''m beginning to get a good idea of what I like and what I don''t like.

I laughed out loud- seriously...

BF has ''my'' ring in the nightstand drawer too. And when he''s gone.. and sometimes when he''s there, I try it on, just to make sure it still fits and glitters
I really DON''T want to try it on, but I''m also not patient. I''m trying. Last night he actually told me that he took my ring out to look at it.. and that it ''misses me''. Ha.

Whaaa????? What are these guys waiting for?!?!?! I totally don''t get this ''holding the ring hostage'' thing....boys make no sense at all!!

 

[trillionaire]

SO has had this ring since July 2008. I found out over the holidays that he told my sister way back then, but swore her to secrecy. The poor thing has been going crazy with knowing, lol! (I told her that he had a ring, and she told me she knew already, lol) My mom, however, was upset that she was out of the loop, since SO talked to dad.

Can''t make everyone happy I guess. I have no idea when, if ever, he will propose. I assume sometime after I secure a job

(darn economy is holding up my life!!!) If he doesn''t propose this year, I will probably think that he has lost his ever loving mind. True story. I hope he manages to surprise me, but I can''t see him doing anything over the top, I would be utterly shocked. And everything so far has been very predictable.

Anyway, I am trying to get a bunch of things going in my personal life, and I hope to be too busy to be worried about engagements. I also hope to spend a lot LESS time on PS. Not that I don''t love you all!

 

[mrscushion]

Date: 1/6/2009 3:05:51 PM
Author: chocolatefudge
I would love to say that I know a 2009 proposal is coming, but I don''t!! SO says it will but he also told me that last year too

I was REALLY hoping for a 2008 Christmas proposal and was really disappointed when it didn''t. I cheered up quickly when I realised he could be waiting for my birthday, Feb 2nd!! That was until last night when he announced that he was really sorry but couldn''t get me much this year because money is so tight

I can''t see him having enough money for a good few months now and then I can''t actually imagine him proposing. Sorry if I sound really negtive, just been feeling a bit sorry or myself and I know I shouldn''t. Went back to work yesterday and a girl announced she had gotten engaged over Christmas. I was really happy for her but started crying!! Luckily noone noticed but I felt so stupid!! I was asking her about it and she was so happy and tears just came into my eyes and I couldn''t stop them!! I''m such a baby!!

Chocolatefudge, I''m so sorry to hear that. Please don''t feel bad that hearing about your co-worker''s engagement brought tears to your eyes. I think that happens to many if not most of us. I think I know what you mean when you say "I can''t actually imagining him proposing." Recently, my SO has led me to believe that we''re close (-ish) to a proposal, but sometimes I just can''t see him actually popping the question, or I think he''ll get cold feet, etc. I really hope that 2009 is the year for you, though. A year''s a long time, and his finances might well be looking up in another few months.

 

[MrsHToBe]

I''m expecting a 2009 proposal (hopefully.. *knock on wood*). The original timeline was for the end of 2008, but due to some financial short-comings, we had to re-adjust, lol. That being said, I have no idea when in 2009 it could happen, but I''m hoping it''s sooner-than-later if at all possible.. the 28th of this month marks 8-years for us, so it''s about time!

 

[happygolucky851]

I am also hoping for a 2009 proposal! just dont know when yet!! my BF really likes to surprise me and i absolutely love surprises sooooo who knows when! april is a big month, my birthday, i get my college ring (its a big deal for aggies!), and 3 year anniversary! so maybe sometime then! i know he has the ring hostage which makes matters worse for me!!! i''m itching to have it!! my left hand is way too empty these days! haha he knows i would like family to be around so i dont konw... he graduates college in august so thats another big day that all family would be at! soo the 1st half of 09 is going to be KILLER!! HAHA


good luck to all you ladies expecting a stunner rock!!!

 

[NicaK]

I know that a proposal is coming in 2009 I''m just sure when. The ring is picked out; he just needs to buy it. My BF is in school right now so he might wait until he graduates from college in May but secretly I''m hoping for something sooner! I have done some lurking on a few wedding forums like The Knot. I have a few ideas about colors and a location. Luckily for me, one of my friend''s father is a minister and said that he would do our wedding at his church. I also have a friend whose mom is a professional photographer so I have someone to take pictures. I hope all of our engagement dreams come true this year.

 

[tlh]

Ladies... you want to be engaged, plant the seed and water frequently.

How do you do this... in your own REALLY CUTE way, you look. You;ll never know what you want until you actually start to go in person. So when you are shopping at the mall go in to a store and say I want to look at the pretties... see how he responds, if he refuses to go in with you and says he''s going to look at the sports store next door and will meet when you''re done... he''s not ready. If he is interested in what you like.. SWEET. If you dont want your ring from this store say I dont want my ring from the mall- I just want to look and see what I like.

I would say things like " you should not be able to get my ring while you do anything else. You should not be able to combine this trip with any other purchase. Getting my ring should be the most inconveint thing you do, because you''re only going to propose once...." "You shouldnt ever buy jewelry from a place that you can also buy tampons and face soap." Stuff like that.

Water frequently. Send emails like, ooo I like this... because the closer your man gets to buying, the more interested he is in your input.

But the trick is also to talk about stuff they like. Sometimes you get so, ring obsessed you might forget about the fact that all this money the guy is spending on you, he could be doing so, and neglecting something that he too really wants. Women get soo ring focused but in the same regard aren''t dropping hundreds to thousands of dollars on something their man really wants. My man and I wanted a house, and I basically matched $ for $ by my saving for a down payment for a house. I am not saying you spend as much on him as he does on you... but I am saying you talk about things. Because, you are bettering YOUR situation by saving money... and when he finally does propose, YOU BOTH have a nice little nest egg. But I was an LIW for almost 3 years... so I was also saving splitsville money if I didn''t get my ring.

Best wishes to all you fine ladies... I hope you get rings in ''09!