Those waiting beyond a 2009 engagement...

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 1/14/2009 9:31:13 PM
Author: mochamamasita
Honestly, the only thing that''s holding him back is the fact that he doesn''t have a job and he doesn''t have any money saved. I''m hoping that a year will be enough time for him to find a job and save some money.

DITTO TO THAT GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!! With the exception that S has a job.......he just needs a better one (and he looks everyday.) So he doesn''t have much saved to use towards a ring with all his bills he pays.

Here''s to our FF''s finding amazing jobs in 2009!!!

 

[Blackpaw]

Date: 1/15/2009 12:00:39 PM
Author: Dreamgirl

Date: 1/14/2009 9:31:13 PM
Author: mochamamasita
Honestly, the only thing that''s holding him back is the fact that he doesn''t have a job and he doesn''t have any money saved. I''m hoping that a year will be enough time for him to find a job and save some money.

DITTO TO THAT GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!! With the exception that S has a job.......he just needs a better one (and he looks everyday.) So he doesn''t have much saved to use towards a ring with all his bills he pays.

Here''s to our FF''s finding amazing jobs in 2009!!!

Ditto!!! just what''s needed

 

[Dreamgirl]

I'd even have to say that right now I am more of a LIW for FF's future job (more than an engagement) because I just REALLY don't see it happening until that point. It's so frustrating.

We went out....oh goodness probably at the end of October and he got 2 suits for interviews. But before that, we had been out searching and searching for the perfect suits. He is 6'2" and thin (not lanky thin but sporty thin) 6'3" in shoes- so it was hard to find something that looked good on him. And, as fussy as he is, he wanted a brown suit (not black) and HE thinks I'M PICKY!!

He also got a grey one as well. Then in November we spent much time searching for the perfect shirts to match the suits and ties he got. Then..........we looked and looked November and December for dress shoes. FINALLY he found some fancy Clark's that looked very nice with his stuff. Oh, did I mention that he was looking for a 'dark/cherry brown' shoe? Gosh, thinking about this makes me realize how we are too much alike! haha!! He also got the same shoe in black.

So what's crazy is that he is so motivated to find the perfect job but nothing has come around yet. Poor guy. Poor ME!!!!!!!

It's very hard to find that perfect job- I was there with my own job but luckily I was hired with the dream job back in September. Which makes him want his dream job all the more!!! (I'm currently making MUCH more than he is too!

) Luckily I am in the position to save most of my money. I could afford an engagement ring right now but I doubt he could.

I keep telling him to save what he can for a 'future ring' and he says he saves as much as he can when he can (maybe not reffering to a ring though) He's actually HUGE on saving money. Oh, and I forgot to say that with the current economic state- I worry that my dream rings will be further out of reach than I originally thought. Why? Because I worry the store will go under before we can get there to buy a ring!!!!!!

I told him we should go buy one now and he can save it but he has no response to that haha!

 

[KatM]

Date: 1/15/2009 12:25:24 PM
Author: Dreamgirl
I''d even have to say that right now I am more of a LIW for FF''s future job (more than an engagement) because I just REALLY don''t see it happening until that point. It''s so frustrating.

Yep, we''re exactly the same. Bf is so stressed about bills, loans and finding a job that I really don''t think he can look beyond that right now. I understand completely, as I don''t have a job that I consider a career, or even that I''m all that excited about, but sometimes I do want to think about the future and what it might look like. He''s so consumed with job stuff that it''s hard for him to go there.

 

[Blackpaw]

the economy is a worry - my BF is pretty blase about it but im really worried about the employment situation. we''re both in jobs now but they''re not career jobs - when we do go out to find career jobs im scared there wont be any

and we need them if we want to get this ering of mine

dont worry about tiffs dreamgirl - they''ll weather the storm and hopefully have a few price reductions along the way

 

[Still_Waiting]

I''m in a similar boat as you and Dreamgirl. I don''t have a full-time job and sometimes it kills me to realize I''m not very independent anymore (financially, that is). My monthly contribution to our household consists merely of groceries and our cell phone bill.

I came to a startling realization yesterday, though. In August, he was all gung-ho for getting our wedding planning going...I started getting depressed about not having enough work and not really liking it...all wedding talks came to a screeching halt. Since, we''ve only discussed it a few times. Once, when I was completely unconsolable. Something he said to me that night has haunted me ever since. I think I finally know what he was trying to say. I think he''s going to wait until I''m content in my career before going any further with an engagement. Not because he wants me to make more money so I can help out more (he was doing it just fine on his own before I came along), but because he wants to see me happy. The sad thing is, the chance of me getting a full-time job in my field this year is slim-to-none at best, so...I guess we won''t be getting engaged for quite some time.

But, back to the point...I guess I can totally understand how difficult it could be to still be striving for that perfect job, while getting engaged, planning a wedding, starting a marriage, etc. Dreamgirl-I''m glad you''re so supportive and understanding! Of course, you love your SO, but I think sometimes it must be hard.

If anyone has ever had a difficult time finding a job, I think you can understand. It can really take a toll on you and we really need all the support we can get!

Phew! Guess I had to get all that off my chest! LOL

 

[Definitely. Maybe]

Just wanted to wish everyone (and their FF) luck with finding the perfect job soon... I know for me it has been extremely difficult in finding a job since I just graduated. Best of luck to everyone!

 

[LilyOfTheValley]

I totally feel your pain. Lol.
I probably won''t be engaged until 2012 and married in 2013. It''s sad...I wish it could be done sooner, but boyfriend is so adamant about waiting. It''s such a long way''s away that I am mostly here to look at eye candy, basically.