Thoughts on this subject?

[DonaBella]

Just thought I''d mention that I sometimes notice myself when my hypoglycemia is coming on and sometimes I cannot. It DOES affect me in my parenting or with my reasoning skills. I am blessed that I have a dear GF who recognizes this in me and helps me alot. If I go without eating or miss a meal, I have a hard time staying focused or am easily distracted or upset. My husband used to dispel its validity, but now tries to recognize the symptoms so he can deal with me better.

I wish I didn''t have to deal with it at all, quite honestly. I notice it happening more just before a major event or my period, for some reason. I have tried to help myself with small meals or snacks that include protein. Sometimes that is all it takes.

 

[DonaBella]

On the subject of fighting in a relationship/marriage...My DH and I have used alot of comedy to get through alot of potential fights and things have worked themselves out better that way for us.

We both are passionate people (hello, I am Spanish, Italian, French, Swedish and who knows what else! Hubby is Scottish, Danish and a dab of Irish) so in the same vein that we enjoy life and activities, we have that same fire in our fights. The word "fight" has a different meaning for me. I say we have more disaggreements than actual fights. With our disaggreements, we may differ and strongly at that, but it is soon resolved with clarification and everyone is better for it. With our "fights", it may take a day or two or so, but I personally never let it go longer because I want to not miss anymore time with my sweet DH and I want us to resolve things. That''s just me.

Nothing fought about is worth losing valuable time loving and just being together...Loving my sweet man and not getting along with him saddens me more than being right or winning a fight!

 

[Gypsy]

Days... you know I think we are blessed b/c we usually make up immediately. We've had one bad fight in 7 years that lasted more than a few hours. It was a really bad one that almost broke us up. We worked through it. But it took sometime to get over... but with that exception we get over things easily as miss each other too much to stay mad too long.

 

[bee*]

Saturn, I wouldnt worry about not having a fight that has lasted for a while. Over the 7 years, D and I have had lots of niggly fights but only one fight where we didnt speak for about 12 hours. Normally we sort it out then and there

 

[ladykemma]

a payday candy bar cut in half can do wonders for a hypoglycemics sanity.

 

[Gypsy]

LOL LadyK... will have to pass that on. And keep it in mind if I ever encounter it. Payday. Peanuts... protien. Sugar for immediate energy. Good call.

 

[firebirdgold]

I must admit, I was relieved when bf and I fought over what kind of fries we were going to buy in the frozen foods aisle one day.
I was scared to get angry with my ex-bf, and always bit down any snappy or irratible thing I thought (bad for my health). We never argued about even tiny things. Yet despite that, when we broke up he cited my terrible temper as a main reason.
My beloved thinks my temper is cute and hugs me or laughs at me when I get snarly. In the end all of our very minor tiffs have been resolved by the simple fact that we love each other.
We''ve recently had our second major ''incident'' where our confidence in ourselves and each other broke, it''s fixing itself because we love each other and we are both willing to do whatever it might take to make the other person happy. I think we''ve learned new areas in ourselves and in our lives we need to work on improving, but all we really need to do to finish making up is just one hug. (which we''ll get this afternoon! yay!) The first one was about an evening of increasing unhappiness followed by 15 minutes of fixing what could have been a disaster. In a way the first major incident taught us how to resolve confilct since it was a small one that spiraled out of control.

Anyway, the point is, one of the key things in a relationship is how well you resolve confilct with each other because there will be some conflict, if not now then someday. And it''s not a good idea to get yourself permenantly joined to someone until you know how you resolve conflict, wether it''s something as petty as french fries or as huge as how important you are to the other person.
Just my .02

 

[ladykemma]

"I must admit, I was relieved when bf and I fought over what kind of fries we were going to buy in the frozen foods aisle one day. "

snort (laughing) we solved this problem by each getting what we each wanted. problem solved.

life''s too short.