To have an engagement party?

[EyeElle]

Hey All,

I just had a quick question. When is it to late to have an engagement party?? What is the average time to have on after being engaged??

I am asking because I am in a bit of a tough spot. My sister had said she would through me an engagement party as she is my MOH, as I am for her wedding (in a few months). And when she got engaged I threw a party for her within a month of being engaged. It has already been 3 months since my engagement and no party.

I am not complaining because she isn''t throwing one but because she said she would be and after all these months nothing has happend and all this time I know my friends wanted to throw one for me. So they keep on asking me about the party my sister is supposed to be throwing in my honour and I feel kind of stupid saying there is nothing planned.

I even asked her about it .. just jokingly when I should buy a pretty dress for my engagement ... didn''t want to be mean of coarse. And she kind of just said Oh ya ... I have been so busy ... and then ended with its coming don''t worry. That was 3 weeks ago.

I am just not sure what to do about it. And if its weird if it comes months after getting engaged.
(P.S. I am not getting married still 2011 ... if that makes a difference)

Thanks for listening and for any opinions advice you may have!

 

[Amanda.Rx]

Well, I''m having my engagement party this weekend, and I was engaged 6 months ago! So, in my opinion, better late than never!

I would let her throw it for you, if she''s up for it. It should be fun! Maybe you could try and get more information from her... tell her that you''re trying to plan your schedule out for the next few months, and you want to make sure to keep the date she has picked open. Maybe that will get her moving?

 

[Camille]

E-parties are fun but can be expensive. Yah, your date makes a world of a difference...I''m sure is coming.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Hmm..don''t know your sister, but it sounds like it may not happen (but like I said I don''t know her..so I could be wrong). If you really want to have some kind of celebration could you have a get-together yourself for close family and friends? We had a close family only dinner/party at a nice restaurant about 3 months after getting engaged..so it''s definitely not too late. They''re not gift parties typically, so throwing it yourself wouldn''t be in bad taste in my opinion..it''s kind of saying hey come celebrate our engagement with us!

 

[Dannielle]

We had our engagement party almost 6 months after we got engaged.. we are both really glad we did it, everyone had a great night and is really looking forward to the wedding

 

[mrscushion]

It''s not too late IMO and I think she will throw one for you, but if she keeps dragging her feet, you''ll have to sit down with her and tell her about your friends wanting to throw you one.

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 8/4/2009 4:52:29 AM
Author: mscushion
It''s not too late IMO and I think she will throw one for you, but if she keeps dragging her feet, you''ll have to sit down with her and tell her about your friends wanting to throw you one.

ditto - ours was thrown about 1 month after we got back from vacation.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

Ok, what i read from this is that your sister is getting married in a few months, so i would be expecting that you will have to wait until after her wedding for her to throw you one.. judging from her response to your questions it sounds like it is probably not at the top of the list right now. If you are happy to wait until after her wedding for your e party then do that, but if you want it before maybe you should get your friends to throw it for you and pitch it to your sister as though you are ''taking it off her plate'' so to speak.

I think anything up to 12 months is cool... anything more and people start to get suspicious. Mine is planned for March next year and EVERYONE asks if we are getting married at the same time.

 

[gwendolyn]

Hahah, glad someone asked this! J''s parents wanted to throw us one, but since we got engaged over 4 months ago, we were sort of looking at ourselves and asking, "Er, is it too late? Should we still do it?" His folks live about 200 miles away and want to throw a BBQ for us and some family members to celebrate, which sounds fine to me, but it''s figuring out when we can get up there that''s the problem! Plus his folks may have forgotten by now that they offered...

Which of course is fine, we don''t need one--but it does sound like fun.

Glad you ladies don''t think it''s too late! Maybe we will after all!

 

[purselover]

It''s never too late for parties! Ours is next month so it will be about 3 months after our engagement, I don''t think that''s too late, we wanted to make sure everyone had plenty of notice so more people would be able to come.

 

[Mannequin]

Date: 8/4/2009 4:52:29 AM
Author: mscushion
It''s not too late IMO and I think she will throw one for you, but if she keeps dragging her feet, you''ll have to sit down with her and tell her about your friends wanting to throw you one.

+2. If she''s not willing or able to throw this party herself, maybe you should organize one and see if she wants to help with the planning.

 

[LilyKat]

I don''t think it matters at all how long you''ve been engaged for, as long as there is a reasonable gap between the party and the wedding itself. Since your wedding isn''t until 2011, it''s not a problem at all.

It was nice of your sister to offer but to be honest it doesn''t sound like her mind is really in it, probably because she''s got too much on her plate with her own wedding. I''d allow your friends to do it and explain to your sister that you wanted to take some pressure off her, but that she''s welcome to collaborate with your friends if she wants to give her input.

 

[NakedFinger]

Etiquette indicates the e-party needs to be a considerable amount of time before the wedding itself (several months at the least). So if you were were having a year engagement and its been 3 months already, I would say it needs to take place within the next month or two or its too late. However, since you arent getting married until 2011, you have PLENTY of time. The reason for this is most guests (all though it isnt required nor shouldnt be expected) tend to bring gifts. So you shouldnt have the parties to close together (according to industry etiquette).

An engagement party shouldnt be that long after an engagement because the true purpose is to celebrate the newly engaged couple (and in some cases, to announce the engagement) so after a while it becomes superfluous. However, 3 months is by no means too late. I would say once you hit 7 months then its kind of a lost cause.