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Tsavorite earrings--how did I do? Still have time to CXL

chrono said:
I don't think you can get better tsav earrings for under $500 but you might get some other green earrings for less. Ummm...chrome tourmaline, malachite, or something like that. Didn't a poster once post a really sweet pair of green sapphire earring studs from Etsy that were very well priced?
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Yeah--I looked around at chrome tourmalines and I couldn't find anything nice for less. Not that they don't exist--just finding good stuff AND matched pairs AND being pressed for time made it tricky. I am open to green sapphires, but malachite makes me nervous because of how soft it is. She wanted these more for "everyday" wear. Well, I'll see what MM says and take it from there. If I start another search I'll make sure that I post a new thread to collect opinions! Thanks for all the support! Thinking about this kept me up last night!
 
Tuffy: You did really, really well and paying what you paid for well made, 14k gold, good quality tsavorites is worth it!

I don't know your FSIL, but could it be that she is a bit insecure, doesn't feel that she is "worth" what you spent and doesn't feel comfortable for that reason, even if its her 30th? Could your Fiance explain that these were given freely and you all wanted her to have a little bit of the best quality available so that they would be a keepsake for years and years? Perhaps if she understood that they were not a financial stretch, but consciously given the highest quality to celebrate her milestone and the love you all have for her? Don't know, just thinking out loud...

Its the little things that she won't realize until she has them, like the posts fit really well into the backs, that they won't tarnish, that the green is a really beautiful deep green, that the earrings aren't lightweight and cheesy. But those are only realized after wearing them for a while. :(sad
 
Most of the setting is in silver. Most of the gems are very small and they are of the very inexpensive variety such as topaz, peridot, quartz, zircon and the like. Quality isn't the best either (very light in tone and saturation) but a good choice for those who want something that looks nice at an affordable price.
 
chrono said:
Most of the setting is in silver. Most of the gems are very small and they are of the very inexpensive variety such as topaz, peridot, quartz, zircon and the like. Quality isn't the best either (very light in tone and saturation) but a good choice for those who want something that looks nice at an affordable price.
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Well after all my fretting FI called his sister and laid it all out. It is because of the cost--she said that she likes them very much, but she feels like they're too expensive. It's not that she likes the ones from Macy's better--it's just that the price tag is $250 less.

He let her know that we just wanted to give her something nice--something genuine. He explained that the gems at Macy's are often heavily treated or even synthetic (I've taught him so much!), so though they might be "cheaper", they don't have the same inherent value. He let her know that we will be happy to try and exchange or return the earrings, and we just want her to be happy with her earrings--no matter which she chooses!

She should let me know within an hour or so, and I can contact MM if need be. If she wants to exchange for a cheaper pair, we can try that. Maybe she will feel more comfortable, and then she'll be able to enjoy them. It makes me feel so bad that she is having a hard time fully enjoying them just because she knows what they cost!
 
Tuffy, I'm so sorry your lovely thought turns out to be so hard on you! I hope you won't let it bother you too much, though -- you did the best anyone could do & certainly from the nicest motives. I'm surprised your FSIL is still bothered by price, knowing 3 people contributed to it, which makes it affordable for all. If I were Dear Abby, & if you can't return them, I'd probably advise you to tell her, "We love you. You're 30. Congratulations, you have a pair of earrings that will look good all your life, unlike the Macy's stuff. Please accept them in the spirit with which they were offered."

Either way, don't stress. You did a wonderful thing & she could learn that accepting a gift gracefully is as necessary a skill as giving good presents. Chin up, honey!

--- Laurie
 
Awww....it's so sweet all around. Seems like everything is cleared up now and at this point, would stress how you all feel she's so important to everyone that she's worth it.
 
It's funny after all this it was really over a couple hundred bucks. I just talked to FSIL and she said that she does really like them and has worn them every day. She just feels guilty like it was too extravagant. I told her that we all chipped in and we just wanted to give her something nice for her 30th... Yadda yadda. She ended up saying that she just needs to suck it up and learn to accept a nice gift!!

Omg, so much drama for that!!! I know that FI and FSIL's parents had money troubles when they were younger. I think she now has a fear of poverty and has a very hard time accepting gifts in general, and this just seemed like too much. I soooooo wish FI had just scribbled over the price with Sharpie. I should have wrapped it!!!
 
Yes, but think of what you've learned about her...it will only make your relationship stronger, and hopefully bring you a little closer.
 
minousbijoux said:
Yes, but think of what you've learned about her...it will only make your relationship stronger, and hopefully bring you a little closer.
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Very true--excellent silver lining
 
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