Upgrading!

[Leila]

Thanks you guys! You all are making me feel even more excited! I know the diamond looks kind of substantial in those pictures but it doesn''t really look like that in person. I haven''t told any of my girlfriends or my sisters about my upgrading--they won''t understand and will secretly think I am nuts or greedy! I don''t plan on saying anything to anyone unless they notice and ask. I can''t openly discuss this and be excited about it around people I know. Only the Pricescope family knows what this diamond obsession is all about!

I just found out from GOG that not only will the head on my ring needs to replaced, but the area the head sits in will need to be made larger. So the "arms" or that cathedral part, whatever you call it, will need to be adjusted. I didn''t know they could do stuff like that without hurting the integrity of the ring. That''s making me a little anxious.

 

[Kaleigh]

It sounds more scary than it actually is. Your ring will be fine and safer as it will be a new head and new prongs. I can''t wait to see it. Funny about upgrades, I didn''t tell my family, just my closest friends. But my grandmother noticed it right away and I said oh no, it''s the same ring. It was the exact same ring, but hubby got the next bigger size. I said I gave it some vitamins and it grew, Lol. She still doesn''t know. But her eye sight isn''t so good, that''s part of it.

 

[Demelza]

Same here. I only told a few good friends and that''s all. I would never tell my mother. And she probably wouldn''t notice. Wonder if she''ll notice my new setting.

Can''t wait to see pics of the new stone!!!

 

[Leila]

Kaleigh, I''ve always admired your big, beautiful ring! What did your friends thought of you upgrading your ring? The first couple of times I talked about diamonds with some of my girlfriends, their eyes just sort of glazed over--they so were not interested and I think they felt I am just spoiled or something so I don''t talk about it with them anymore. I wish I had friends who share the same kooky interest in it as I do. My friends do have eagle eyes though and so do my husband''s side of the family. They''ll probably notice it after the first 5 minutes. I don''t know what I should say if it comes up. I know I shouldn''t be concerned about what other people think but a teeny part of me do. Upgrade? AGAIN?!

 

[Leila]

Demelza, how can your mother not notice? You CANNOT not notice a ring like that. No way!

 

[lili]

Leila,

Just tell them you lost weight or else you have finger liposuction.

 

[CoutureFemme]

at Kaleigh''s and Lili''s remarks about sidestepping inquiries about upgrades, they''re hilarious - and sound like something I may have to use if I were ever to get an upgrade in the future!

Leila, your setting is GORGEOUS and what I want for my e-ring! I''m still shaking my head in disbelief that the diamond you sent back isn''t 2 carats! it looked HUGE on your teeny finger! I can''t wait to see what the 2ct. looks like, I''m so happy for you yay!

 

[Mara]

haha that''s so funny, i hardly tell any friends in real life bout my upgrades...they think i am nuts anyways! only a few knew about my last one. i will have to see if anyone notices my ~2.25c next year..tee hee. that will definitely be a jump!

 

[Kaleigh]

Leila,
My closest friends know that jewelry is my absolute passion. They also know I waited a very long time to get this ring, so when I did, they were thrilled for me. But as I add to my collection say my asscher they start to roll their eyes a bit. But then make me take it off and try it on and ask me to tell their hubbies they want one too. Many of them have gotten upgrades to. I have been married for 19 years, so I feel I kinda earned it.

 

[Demelza]

Date: 10/25/2005 8:59:55 PM
Author: Leila
Demelza, how can your mother not notice? You CANNOT not notice a ring like that. No way!

What can I say? My mother doesn''t notice a lot of things. One reason might be that I don''t see her very often as I live in Vancouver and she''s in California. It is possible that she would comment on how large the stone is, not realizing that it got even bigger. We''ll find out when I go visit for Thanksgiving. I hope she doesn''t notice because she''d likely be critical.

 

[Demelza]

Date: 10/25/2005 8:57:51 PM
Author: Leila
My friends do have eagle eyes though and so do my husband''s side of the family. They''ll probably notice it after the first 5 minutes. I don''t know what I should say if it comes up. I know I shouldn''t be concerned about what other people think but a teeny part of me do. Upgrade? AGAIN?!

I can relate to feeling concerned about what other people might think. Part of me feels like a bad person for spending so much money on luxury items that only I get to enjoy. And I guess I worry if others will think the same. For me, it comes from growing up in a very critical family.

 

[lumpkin]

Date: 10/26/2005 1:23:26 AM
Author: Demelza

Date: 10/25/2005 8:57:51 PM
Author: Leila
My friends do have eagle eyes though and so do my husband''s side of the family. They''ll probably notice it after the first 5 minutes. I don''t know what I should say if it comes up. I know I shouldn''t be concerned about what other people think but a teeny part of me do. Upgrade? AGAIN?!

I can relate to feeling concerned about what other people might think. Part of me feels like a bad person for spending so much money on luxury items that only I get to enjoy. And I guess I worry if others will think the same. For me, it comes from growing up in a very critical family.

My husband''s family notices all those things. His mother grew up during the depression and is very frugal. She still wears those polyester pants and shirts she had in the 1970''s, LOL! The springs are shot in their furniture -- you sit down and sink two feet, and they still have green shag carpeting that must be 30 years old. You get my drift, I''m sure. I don''t wear my diamond around them, I just wear my band. They would definitely not approve so I figure why even go there.

 

[diamondlil]

I only discuss my jewelry with a select few friends because people can be very critical. I''ve gotten comments about being "spoiled" and "what a waste of money." I hate having to explain myself or try to justify my spending to people. That''s why it is so great to have a place like PS. Knowing there are so many of us that share the same passion is very comforting to me.

 

[lumpkin]

Date: 10/26/2005 8:29:13 AM
Author: diamondlil
I only discuss my jewelry with a select few friends because people can be very critical. I''ve gotten comments about being ''spoiled'' and ''what a waste of money.'' I hate having to explain myself or try to justify my spending to people. That''s why it is so great to have a place like PS. Knowing there are so many of us that share the same passion is very comforting to me.

So true. I wonder what it is about diamonds that we have to "justify" having them, upgrading them, wearing them. Other people who have been judgmental about it would certainly be offended if they were expected to justify their timeshare or their boat or motorcycle or big screen TV or their expensive vacations. There''s just something about jewelry that some people love to hate. It''s very nice to come here for my little guilty pleasure.

 

[Leila]

Sometimes I do feel a little guilty for having spent all this money on diamonds. But my view is, no matter what your vice is, whether it is diamonds, cars, vacation trips, whatever, if you really want it, can afford it, why not treat yourself? Most of my girlfriends already thought my ring was "too big" for me and "too expensive." But most of my friends and family thinks it''s almost obscene to spend all that money on jewelry, no matter what. Yet they won''t think twice about spending it on vacation trips, real estate, cars--the more worthwhile "investments." But for me, I will have to think real hard about spending my money on those things! Ha ha!

 

[Leila]

I think I posted this a long time ago in another thread on eternity sets or something but I thought I put it here so it''s all in one place.

 

[Leila]

 

[lumpkin]

Could I ask where you got your setting?

 

[Leila]

The setting is a Precision Set, purchased through Good Old Gold. Here''s their website www.precisionset.com if you''re interested.

 

[tawn]

Date: 10/25/2005 8:57:51 PM
Author: Leila
Kaleigh, I''ve always admired your big, beautiful ring! What did your friends thought of you upgrading your ring? The first couple of times I talked about diamonds with some of my girlfriends, their eyes just sort of glazed over--they so were not interested and I think they felt I am just spoiled or something so I don''t talk about it with them anymore. I wish I had friends who share the same kooky interest in it as I do. My friends do have eagle eyes though and so do my husband''s side of the family. They''ll probably notice it after the first 5 minutes. I don''t know what I should say if it comes up. I know I shouldn''t be concerned about what other people think but a teeny part of me do. Upgrade? AGAIN?!

Most of my girlfriends are the exact same way! They could care less about diamonds and jewelry...but they all have luxury vehicles!

We bought a new Stainless BBQ recently, and one of my girlfriends made a snide comment about how we were spending our money on totally "frivalous" things! Our old BBQ lasted for 9 years, and after over 11yrs of marriage, I got a fairly nice ring (1.11ct), but nothing huge or anything! I feel kinda dumb because I''m letting her make me feel guilty about it! It''s hard not to think of all the things you could have done with the money! That explains why it took me so flippin long to get my ring!

But, clearly we''re wonderful women and wives, and obviously deserve our upgrades...and BBQs!

 

[Leila]

Oh, Tawn! Trust me, you do not have a "fairly nice ring," it''s stunning! I looove the diamond halo. I always coveted that look for my upgrade but it''s a little too similar to my original engagement ring, which I wear on my right hand.

I think a stainless BBQ is a good purchase. There''s nothing frivolous about it. Yes, I know what you mean about the luxury cars. I''m not interested in ever spending my money on luxury cars but some of my friends do; maybe I should start giving my friends that same

look they give me when they talk about it.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 10/26/2005 6:15:46 PM
Author: Leila
Sometimes I do feel a little guilty for having spent all this money on diamonds. But my view is, no matter what your vice is, whether it is diamonds, cars, vacation trips, whatever, if you really want it, can afford it, why not treat yourself? Most of my girlfriends already thought my ring was ''too big'' for me and ''too expensive.'' But most of my friends and family thinks it''s almost obscene to spend all that money on jewelry, no matter what. Yet they won''t think twice about spending it on vacation trips, real estate, cars--the more worthwhile ''investments.'' But for me, I will have to think real hard about spending my money on those things! Ha ha!

agree 100%. congrat on your upgrade

 

[tawn]

Date: 10/26/2005 10:46:31 PM
Author: Leila
Oh, Tawn! Trust me, you do not have a ''fairly nice ring,'' it''s stunning! I looove the diamond halo. I always coveted that look for my upgrade but it''s a little too similar to my original engagement ring, which I wear on my right hand.

I think a stainless BBQ is a good purchase. There''s nothing frivolous about it. Yes, I know what you mean about the luxury cars. I''m not interested in ever spending my money on luxury cars but some of my friends do; maybe I should start giving my friends that same

look they give me when they talk about it.

I love my ring...but I could have gone bigger and spent more money, but just couldn''t justify it. Then I also couldn''t do things, like the spur of the moment trip to Vegas in a few weeks! I talked my mom and 2 of my Aunts into flying down from Canada and meeting me in Vegas for the week. Yeeehah!

And, a BBQ is a must have in sunny CA where we bbq all year long and it''s such an easy dinner. Ya know what? We have everything we need, and some fairly nice stuff including a new truck and motorcycle, and of course, my ring!

But, we also have some money in the bank, no credit card debt, and we''re not starving! So, I refuse to feel guilty!

What is it that makes us feel guilty or weird for wanting/having diamonds?

 

[icekid]

Leila- totally cannot wait to see that new rock on your finger! The 1.5 looks huge, so I am sure the 2 ct will look phenomenal (bigger is better, right?

). I have been blessed with tiny fingers also, so it will be fun to see what 2 cts looks like on you!

And who cares about people who are not interested in diamonds anyway.. they are obviously not enlightened like we are

I figure, at least our little habit isn''t poisoning the environment like the big expensive SUVs (whatever it takes to justify more diamonds!

)

 

[diamondfan]

Leila, it is so exciting. I love upgrades, I just got my second one. It may seem like a long time but I can tell you it is worth the wait to finally have the thing you want. A couple weeks in the scheme of thimgs, of having it for life it is so worth it...

 

[Leila]

Thanks so much all you guys for sharing in my excitement. I found out it''s going to take a little longer. It will be 2-3 weeks from this coming Wednesday, November 2nd.

I want my new diamond to be laser inscribed (GOG only does that on Mondays) and then it can be shipped to Precision Set.

 

[sarita]

Leila,

Have admired your beautiful set over on DT, I am very happy to see you get the upgrade you are yearning for. (I was synicgrrl there if you remember me). Of course, I have to say the 1.5 still looks huge and your set always looked simply perfect on your hand so a 2ct will really pop! I''m glad you decided to keep the beautiful set. You always have your lovely antique original E-ring to switch it up if you get bored.

 

[onedrop]

Leila: First of all, I love your username, it was my great-grandmother''s name as well.

And congratulations on your upgrade. I cannot imagine how HUGE the 2 ct. is going to look. I mean that in a good way.

Looking forward to the pics!

 

[Mara]

Can''t wait!!!

 

[Leila]

Hi Sarita! I had no idea you''re synicgrrl! I remember your yummy emerald diamond. It''s nice to see you here!