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Thank you thank you thank you! You''re all so nice...
Oh, nyt, you know Maisonneuve Park! I''ve always liked it, but now it really has a very special place in my heart!
My brother told me he could help me take good pics with my dad''s camera, we''ll see what we can do. I''m afraid it won''t be this week-end though, since we''re going camping!
Oh, nyt, you know Maisonneuve Park! I''ve always liked it, but now it really has a very special place in my heart!
My brother told me he could help me take good pics with my dad''s camera, we''ll see what we can do. I''m afraid it won''t be this week-end though, since we''re going camping!
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Haha... I think 9 months as a LIW is long enough!Date: 7/17/2006 10:52:43 PM
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YAY, Anchor! Congrats....very happy for you!
Good things come to those who wait (a reasonable amount of time).
Thanks Sweetpea!!
Apparently, my future in-laws reception to the news was less than enthousiastic... I''m not exactly surprised, but I could hear in J''s voice that he was disappointed when he told me over the phone.
Anchor, I''m sorry to hear that your future inlaws aren''t being all that enthusiastic. I hope that they can find some joy in their son finding happiness with you. Just remember that this is your time and don''t let them bring you down!! It sounds like your family is very supportive and happy for you, and that is really nice.. enjoy the company of people who celebrate your relationship and hopefully the others will come around!! Just remember-you''re ENGAGED!! YAY!!
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kali - Well, his dad doesn''t want anyone to be happier than him and he the unhappiest and most bitter man I''ve ever known... And I suspect his mom has a "stealing her son away" thing going on. It may sound cold, but I personally don''t really care because I don''t exactly like them, I just feel that it''s not fair at all for J. He deserves better than that!
Anyway, I found a pic of the park where he proposed... Isn''t it lovely?
Anyway, I found a pic of the park where he proposed... Isn''t it lovely?
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Anchor, I''m a little belated in wishing my congratulations! But CONGRATULATIONS!!! You and your fiance look so sweet together and the ring is so pretty. Hope you can take some more pictures! I hope that his family warms up to the engagement, but don''t let them bring you down! Congrats to you two again!
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Date: 7/18/2006 7:09:45 PM
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kali - Well, his dad doesn''t want anyone to be happier than him and he the unhappiest and most bitter man I''ve ever known... And I suspect his mom has a ''stealing her son away'' thing going on. It may sound cold, but I personally don''t really care because I don''t exactly like them, I just feel that it''s not fair at all for J. He deserves better than that!
Anyway, I found a pic of the park where he proposed... Isn''t it lovely?
It is a pretty park, Anchor. I hope you two and visit it often!
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Hi Anchor. I''m excited to see more pictures of your ring. Exciting!!
Have fun on your trip this weekend. Are you planning on wearing your ring camping? I would hate to have a new ring and not be able to wear it so soon, but I''d also hate to get it dirty while I was *primitiving it.* Choices, choices.
Have fun on your trip this weekend. Are you planning on wearing your ring camping? I would hate to have a new ring and not be able to wear it so soon, but I''d also hate to get it dirty while I was *primitiving it.* Choices, choices.
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There was some engagement party/wedding planning drama already yesterday... *sigh*
My mother talked about planning something for an engagement dinner for us, but we''re pretty private people and don''t enjoy big parties, so she was thinking about something small at home with our side of the family. My mother being a pretty shy woman, she wasn''t comfortable with planning something for people she''s never met. If J''s side of the family wanted to plan something, it was up to them.
And then J''s mother came out and said she was disappointed because she wanted us to have an engagement dinner with both families there and my mother should be planning it because it''s traditional for the fiancée''s parents to plan it. Our reaction was that if she wants an engagement party, why doesn''t she plan it??
It may be a tradition in her family, but my parents had never heard of that tradition...
My fiancé and I were really pissed that there was already an argument between our families about an engagement dinner that we don''t really need and we were about to tell his mother that if she wants one, then she''ll have to plan one. Enough already!
And then my mom called me to tell me that she felt bad that J and I were stuck in the middle of a sticky situation when we were supposed to celebrate, so she''d found a place and was about to make reservations for everyone on August 6th at 10:30 if it was okay with us. His side of the family has three days to confirm their presence so she can adjust the reservations. I''m pretty relieved to see that resolved, and if they''re not happy, then it''s just too bad.
Then, J and I took a decision and we are not going to let anyone''s tradition get in the way of the wedding we want to have. If we agree to everyone''s demand, we''ll end up having a wedding that''s really not us and we''ll look back on that day and regret that we didn''t do things like we wanted them... So, I told my mom about it and told her that we will invite who we want to see there, do it our way, and we will not abide to everyone''s wish and tradition!! She was okay with that and promised she''d make sure nobody in the family gave me grief for that. J is going to tell the same thing to his mother today. The engagement dinner thing is the first and last time we follow her traditions just to make her happy and she better not make demands again!
What nobody knows is that if there''s too much arguing and complaining, we''ll cancel the wedding and elope...
My mother talked about planning something for an engagement dinner for us, but we''re pretty private people and don''t enjoy big parties, so she was thinking about something small at home with our side of the family. My mother being a pretty shy woman, she wasn''t comfortable with planning something for people she''s never met. If J''s side of the family wanted to plan something, it was up to them.
And then J''s mother came out and said she was disappointed because she wanted us to have an engagement dinner with both families there and my mother should be planning it because it''s traditional for the fiancée''s parents to plan it. Our reaction was that if she wants an engagement party, why doesn''t she plan it??
My fiancé and I were really pissed that there was already an argument between our families about an engagement dinner that we don''t really need and we were about to tell his mother that if she wants one, then she''ll have to plan one. Enough already!
Then, J and I took a decision and we are not going to let anyone''s tradition get in the way of the wedding we want to have. If we agree to everyone''s demand, we''ll end up having a wedding that''s really not us and we''ll look back on that day and regret that we didn''t do things like we wanted them... So, I told my mom about it and told her that we will invite who we want to see there, do it our way, and we will not abide to everyone''s wish and tradition!! She was okay with that and promised she''d make sure nobody in the family gave me grief for that. J is going to tell the same thing to his mother today. The engagement dinner thing is the first and last time we follow her traditions just to make her happy and she better not make demands again!
What nobody knows is that if there''s too much arguing and complaining, we''ll cancel the wedding and elope...
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Anchor I''m sorry that there has already been the issue about the engagement party/dinner. You''re right, you don''t need to follow anyone else''s traditions if they are not to you and your FI''s liking. The talk your FI has with his mom today should help nip that problem in the bud.
Haha...your last comment of eloping made me laugh!! My ff and I have already discussed that! While I have always dreamed of having a wedding with our familes and friends in attendence and my Dad walking me down the isle...if there is un-needed DRAMA then we will just elope!!
Haha...your last comment of eloping made me laugh!! My ff and I have already discussed that! While I have always dreamed of having a wedding with our familes and friends in attendence and my Dad walking me down the isle...if there is un-needed DRAMA then we will just elope!!
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Oh sweet Anchor, don''t let this *fuss* diffuse your happiness! It''s silly how so many mothers have so many ideas and plans without even talking to their child, or child-in-law. It just happens. Maybe you and your boy can present a *united front* and just be really nice, but really open and firm that you have pretty much set how you want things and that you both appreciate their ideas and all, but that things need to be as low-stress as possible for both of you and that you want to both feel like you''re adults who get to make the choices about how you unite together as one.
Sometimes parents don''t know how bossy they come off. Usually it''s without intent.
I do hope things simmer down and stay that way! Yay! You get to marry the boy you''ve loved for what, 4 years or so now? YIPPEEE! Don''t let ANYONE even start to steal away that joy!
*Even still, elopping has ALWAYS intrigued me. So NOT me, so VERY tempting!!*
Sometimes parents don''t know how bossy they come off. Usually it''s without intent.
I do hope things simmer down and stay that way! Yay! You get to marry the boy you''ve loved for what, 4 years or so now? YIPPEEE! Don''t let ANYONE even start to steal away that joy!
*Even still, elopping has ALWAYS intrigued me. So NOT me, so VERY tempting!!*
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Uneeded dramma, yuck! I am the same way! I refuse to let my someday wedding become stressful. To me it is not about tradition, it is not about a big impressive party, it is about a spiritual commitment between two people and God (whichever version of God that may be--unless of course you aren''t into spirituallity--then it''s mostly just about the commitment between the two of you). So if anything goes wrong:flowers, dress, parites, etc, well then, whatever. I''ll still get to make that commitment with the person I want to be with. I have already decided that I refuse to be stressed, even if it means wearing a potatoe sack down the aisle. I''d rather be happy than "perfect"
so if your wedding gets stressful, and you elope, I say more power to ya!
so if your wedding gets stressful, and you elope, I say more power to ya!
that must be absolutely frustrating!! it stinks that there is already drama when you guys JUST got engaged!! it sounds like there will always be something with them (i can TOTALLY relate-my boyfriend''s mother can drive me nuts!!) just enjoy this time-it will only happen once, you''ve waited a long time AND YOU DESERVE IT!!!
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Thank you so so so much for your support, you have no idea how better it makes me feel! The whole situation just blew up last night, they weren''t happy with the date and weren''t willing to make an effort to be there, but still blamed my mother... I''ve let go of a lot of things since I''ve known J, but that I just couldn''t!! How dare they!!
It was like a slap in the face for J, poor boy, to see that his own parents aren''t even willing to lift a finger to be there at their son''s engagement dinner that they asked my mother to plan! We just decided to cancel the whole thing. My mom told me she and dad are planning a surprise for us with our side of the family; if his parents want something, they''ll have to plan it themselves. And then there was some jealousy fuss about them not being present on the 15th when my parents gave a toast at dinner and when we went to church on the 16th and had the ring blessed. The thing is, we hadn''t planned any of those things and didn''t know they were going to happen, they were away on vacation and wouldn''t have drove the hour to be there anyway... So
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When the fighting died down yesterday, he made sure his parents knew that those who will cause trouble will not be present at the wedding. And that is final.
Fancy - We''re Catholics (J was actually the one to help me find my way back to God) and that''s what we believe to. All we need at our wedding in each other and God. If things go icky... Italy, here we come!
On happier news, we''re thinking about a fall wedding and want to book the venues 1½ years in advance to make sure we have our date since I''m in a very touristic and popular area, so we''ll be visiting venues this fall to book before spring! I''m so excited and really looking forward to it!
Has everyone seen my new ring pics in SMTR?
It was like a slap in the face for J, poor boy, to see that his own parents aren''t even willing to lift a finger to be there at their son''s engagement dinner that they asked my mother to plan! We just decided to cancel the whole thing. My mom told me she and dad are planning a surprise for us with our side of the family; if his parents want something, they''ll have to plan it themselves. And then there was some jealousy fuss about them not being present on the 15th when my parents gave a toast at dinner and when we went to church on the 16th and had the ring blessed. The thing is, we hadn''t planned any of those things and didn''t know they were going to happen, they were away on vacation and wouldn''t have drove the hour to be there anyway... So
When the fighting died down yesterday, he made sure his parents knew that those who will cause trouble will not be present at the wedding. And that is final.
Fancy - We''re Catholics (J was actually the one to help me find my way back to God) and that''s what we believe to. All we need at our wedding in each other and God. If things go icky... Italy, here we come!
On happier news, we''re thinking about a fall wedding and want to book the venues 1½ years in advance to make sure we have our date since I''m in a very touristic and popular area, so we''ll be visiting venues this fall to book before spring! I''m so excited and really looking forward to it!
Has everyone seen my new ring pics in SMTR?
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