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mariewest

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Wedding Season is here... how are you LIW holding up? It''s only May and wedding season''s got another four good months ahead of it.

I already warned my SO that I may be less than patient with all the high school/college friends getting married this summer (including an ex-bf.) We are also attending three weddings of a couple of his buddies and his brother (vowal renewal.) Anytime I bring up weddings or marriage he always tells me to calm down and wait. I''m getting kinda annoyed with his avoiding attitude and I don''t know if I am reading too much into it or not enough. I will soon be quitting my job and moving six hours away to be with him, and I''m getting kinda nervous without any sort of tangable committment (ie: proposal.) Well, thanks for listening.
 
SO and I are going to 2 weddings this summer. Luckily we are in the process of picking out a ring :)

Do you have a new job? Also have you had a discussion about this with him?
 
FF and I are attending our 3rd wedding this month on Saturday.

We have at least two more this year (August and October)...and possibly a couple more depending on when his two engaged cousins decide to get married to their SOs.

I'm holding up pretty well...for the most part, lol.
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most of my friends are either youg, crazy and NOT monogamous, or older like me (35) and either already married or getting divorced. eek, maybe I shouldn''t have posted this here ;)

But anyway, I have no weddings to go to this year ;)
 
We''ve got seven! I had almost as many last year but it was harder then for some reason. Now I am less jealous! haha I just love weddings :)
 
Not only is it wedding season, it''s also engagement season! So aside from the already 2 weddings coming up in the fall; for which I will also be attending the bridal showers and bachelorette parties this summer; now we''ve also got engagement parties! My BF''s boss, who also happens to be a friend of mine, got engaged just this weekend at the boathouse in Central Park, NYC. And the party will be sometime this summer, most likely August. But this now makes me the only one in our group of friends without the sparkly! I was hoping to go to all these events with something on my left hand, but now I have a sinking feeling it''s not going to happen that way.

I truly am very happy for all my friends, but if the BF didn''t intend for our engagment to happen soon, he shouldn''t have taken me to see the jeweler back in early March!
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(i know it usually takes a bit of time, but can you blame a girl for being impatient?)
 
Just one wedding!

I''m looking forward to it.

Mariewest, if you''re uncomfortable about moving to be with him without a proposal, I completely understand. If it were me, I''m not sure if I''d make the move. Especially since you don''t sound comfortable about it, I''d have a talk with him.

I''ve been with my SO for 3 and 1/2 years, and I''m completely wild about him, but I feel like I''d be marginalizing myself if I agreed to do something I wasn''t ok with, and I''d probably be seriously antsy for a proposal after the move, and feel upset if I didn''t get one soon. That''s just how I think that I''d handle it.

Obviously, if its working for your relationship, then you should definitely move to be closer to him. If you are really as nervous as you say you are, then I think its important to have a talk with him.
 
I''ve been with my SO for 3 years and 4 months. When SO left to go to school we signed the lease for the apartment together and I had been looking for jobs and had a couple of interviews, but no ofters. That is why I decided to just take the opportunity and go back to school. I am excited about it, and it''s not that I''m uncomfortable moving without a proposal, it''s just that we''ve been talking about it for a while then I kinda had thought it would have happened by now, and I''m just nervous about it not happening by the end of next year when we would be done with school and be moving again. This will be the third wedding of his older siblings and I just would like to attend it as his DF instead of just his girlfriend.
 
I absolutely love weddings. I had 2 last year, but none this year
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I''m bummed!

It definitely is hard to keep my mind off of it, too. Looking at weddingbee, stylemepretty, pricescope, and theknot really doesn''t help either
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Not an LIW, nor ever really considered myself one, but I do remember certain years being busier than others for weddings! In my mid-twenties it seemed there was a flurry of weddings amongst my peers. I was in some serious relationships at these times (including a common-law one) but was not feeling LIW-itis from the weddings going on around me.

It has slowed down a lot the last few years, with maybe 0-1 a year. There was a chunk of divorces and separations (sorry to be a downer!) - some from that former flurry. A few having more kids and so on.

This year there has been a "boost" with a lot more weddings than I have seen in years. DH and I were married January 2, then my parents (mother and stepfather) announced their engagement a couple weeks later and got married a couple weeks after that after 24 years together (I attended via Skype!), an uncle announced his engagement, we are going to a wedding in July for a cousin of DH (the couple have three children together already) and so on. My half-sister is getting married in August (I have not seen an invite yet..but if I am I won't be attending). The last three are the only "big weddings" though, the others have been or are all going to be small and intimate affairs. I am wondering if my brother and his partner are finally to going to set a date (they have been engaged for three or four years) given the mood lately! A couple of my ex's (funnily enough...who when I was dating them had some commitment fears...ha ha) have recently gotten engaged too (but not getting married this year).

To me it sounds like you are not that happy with the current "uncertainty" of things, and I am not sure you feel resolved by the "calm down and wait" thing (I would not be happy with that response myself!). If he really is AVOIDING things like discussing your future together I would be a bit concerned. I do believe commitment exists independently of marriage (and proposals) as it can be there without marriage, or not there with it. DH and I both moved provinces and moved in together without an engagement or marriage in the works yet - we just knew we wanted to be together and were committed to each other. The engagement and marriage came after. My parents certainly have gone through all life has to throw their way with teamwork, tears, laughter and all that for 24 years before they even tied the know. But I do think that if someone is avoiding the talk of marriage of weddings.....rather than perhaps expressing they are not in the same place as you or that they are and so on...there is some concern there.

You can't really base when you are going to be engaged, married by certain deadlines (i.e. when you are done school) and so on...and hope he does it then as that is when YOU would like to be engaged...it's more by something you each have to be ready for together. Irrespective of what else is going on at the time. So, I guess what I am asking is have you sat down together and really TALKED about your lives together? Not with deadlines in mind...but with an open discussion on where you each see yourselves in the future, individually and as a couple? Do you know whether he wants to marry you or not? Does he want to be married at all? What does marriage MEAN for each of you? What will change? What won't change? And so on....
 
I totally know where you''re coming from with the moving thing, mw. Bf and I are long distance right now and he''s trying to get me to move to him (where I was living before I moved back home) and I told him I wasn''t moving without some bling. I definitely can see where you''re coming from, but I''d have a hard time. A gf of mine, who said she''d never move in with someone w/o being engaged, moved in with her bf (of 5 or so years) almost a year ago and is still waiting. That part would be really hard!

Wedding season is definitely upon us.. I think we have 7 weddings this year!! Don''t get me wrong, I LOVE weddings, but with us in different spots and our family and friends scattered around the country, it adds up!
 
I''ve attended a wedding a year for the past two years, among my crowd, and this year is the same. This year my BF might not be able to make it to the wedding with me which will be a bit lonely, but my mom will be there (family wedding). I enjoy weddings and love seeing how all the different couples personalize their celebrations.
 
I''ve been to one wedding already and I''ve got one more to attend this year. I love weddings so they aren''t that hard for me especially since at the last one my boyfriend talked a lot about our future wedding (no proposal yet though). The hardest thing is seeing all of my friends get engaged. I only have one set of friends left that are in a relationship that aren''t engaged yet and I''m helping him find a ring for her for the proposal in the next few months (that part is a little hard). Me and my BF have been dating longer than any of our friends including the ones married with children.

I''m really hopeful that a proposal will come this year so I''m just trying to stay patient. **DUST** to everyone during this wedding and engagement season!
 
I was in a wedding, and went to another. I have at least one more to attend. Weddings suck for me right now. They didn''t necessarily at the time.... but right now they do.
 
Between now and our wedding (Sept. 18th), we''ve been invited to four weddings. We''re only going to be able to make it to 1 though
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We have been invited to three weddings this summer, so far. We attended one for his brother, will not be attending the one in July, and we will be MOH and best man in the wedding in our best friends wedding in August. We also attended the weddings of about 3 of his really good friends last summer, so yes, it''s getting to me. But, we have had a couple of very reassuring chats about it. It''s a little frustrating having been together longer than all of the couples who are getting or have gotten married recently.
 
I had a ton of weddings last year but it has been relatively slow this year with only one invite. Unfortunately the wedding this summer is a bit odd. It''s one of my best friends from home but due to their VERY fast relationship/engagement I will be meeting her husband at the wedding... which rubs me the wrong way a bit. I don''t feel like I can properly celebrate their union when I don''t know "them"... this wouldn''t bother me so much if it was like coworker or neighbor or something but this was one of my best friends for many years.

I think things will start to speed up again very quickly though as I have 3 cousins who are all on the cusp of engagement and a couple other friends I could see getting engaged soon too.

Hopefully my engagement will get thrown into that mix too... I can definitely relate to those of you talking about moving in together and engagements. I moved across the country away from all my family and friends a year ago to move in with SO. I don''t regret it AT ALL, but I feel like a proposal would kind of show his appreciation for what I did. For the past year he''s been finishing school and I was totally cool with him waiting to propose till he was done but now that he''s finished I''ve gotten very antsy very quickly and he still hasn''t brought it up... needless to say I''ve got a raging case of LIWitis at the moment. I don''t even really want to get engaged right this moment, I just want to TALK about it realistically (ETA:We talk about being married all the time, it''s not a commitment issue at all, we just haven''t really talked about engagement specifics like what we can afford for a ring and what we want for a ring, all material stuff).

So I can see your concerns about moving in together. However with my SO, I know that if I said "I want to be engaged by next week" he''d buy a ring and propose no questions asked, I''m just trying to balance my wants with not pressuring him. I agree with others suggesting having a nice but serious conversation with him about engagement.
 
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